Whats the quickest you have falling in love with someone?

AMKC · 22-04-2018 11:47PM #1

Just asking this as I meet someone new during the weekend and we spent a nice few hours together. This person gets me the way no one before really has. They do not care what the world thinks or anyone else thinks. They are a very cool and open minded person but the spark of love was not there at least not yet maybe never. I am just hoping for now we can be good friends.
I have never really been in love so can not say what it is like. My longest ever relationship was only three months and that's a long time ago now. I want to fall in love as it would be nice to have someone I could really trust and love to share life with and talk to about anything.
I do not think I could fall in love with someone in an hour like on ''First Dates Ireland'' so fair play to the few who have. That must be very special. I think it would take a lot longer well for m e anyway. I have had the crushes that never were from when I was in school way back in the day and after that too. Maybe I should have tried harderthen but I was not a very social person either not a club disco person.

cantdecide · 23-04-2018 12:08AM

It often takes time lots of time, IME. I don't believe in the 'chemistry' and 'spark' business. This is the flaw of online dating.

0byme75341jo28 · 23-04-2018 12:09AM

Won't it be great when this all ends in tears.

cantdecide · 23-04-2018 12:11AM

Brysen Tasty Mandrake wrote: »

Won't it be great when this all ends in tears.

I hope not. I think the OP's in the lurvvvvvve

Eircom_Sucks · 23-04-2018 12:11AM

cantdecide wrote: »

It often takes time lots of time, IME. I don't believe in the 'chemistry' and 'spark' business. This is the flaw of online dating.

Exactly

People use this too much

For example , my last 2 long relationships i didn’t initially fancy my partner at very start , but the more i met them and had dates the more i fell for them , we split for diff reasons etc

But nowadays people all about looks first off it seems , destined to fail that way i think

Jimmy Dags · 23-04-2018 12:14AM

Android phone users are a turn off.

ligerdub · 23-04-2018 12:21AM

This person seems to be plural too......no mean feat.

AMKC · 23-04-2018 12:42AM

cantdecide wrote: »

I hope not. I think the OP's in the lurvvvvvve

Afraid not. They deserve someone better than me anyway. That's why I said just being friends would be cool.

Oops! · 23-04-2018 12:44AM

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Exactly

People use this too much

For example , my last 2 long relationships i didn’t initially fancy my partner at very start , but the more i met them and had dates the more i fell for them , we split for diff reasons etc

But nowadays people all about looks first off it seems , destined to fail that way i think

Very true... In my last relationship of a good few years she was definatly way more into it than i was at the begining, a good looking woman but i just really did'nt have much interest in a relationship with her. We used to meet casually for about the first 3 months, maby for a pre planned drink or just randomly.... Then after that we became very close, best friends and i found myself completely in love with her... We had some very happy years together but then things run their course and it finished...

The word love is bounced around waaay too easily......

Don'tforce it or think about it too much OP.... If it's going to happen it will naturally...

Kitty6277 · 23-04-2018 12:47AM

Eircom_Sucks wrote: »

Exactly

People use this too much

For example , my last 2 long relationships i didn’t initially fancy my partner at very start , but the more i met them and had dates the more i fell for them , we split for diff reasons etc

But nowadays people all about looks first off it seems , destined to fail that way i think

I have to admit I was the same when I met my OH, but the more I got to know him, the more the attraction grew. I'm not sure the whole "love at first sight" thing is real, it's not in my experience so far

Purple Mountain · 23-04-2018 12:50AM

AMKC wrote: »

Afraid not. They deserve someone better than me anyway. That's why I said just being friends would be cool.

Why the defeatist attitude?

Stonedpilot · 23-04-2018 07:22AM

Seems like the OP is seeing this eejit through rose tinted glasses.

Dont care what anyone thinks LOL.

Everyone cares, some to a lesser degree than others, but trust me everyone cares.

like this phrase

"I dont give a shyte what anyone thinks of me" = words of someone who obsesses what others think of em!.

Part of being human.

facehugger99 · 23-04-2018 07:26AM

Lust only takes a couple of seconds.

Love - probably a few months.

Malayalam · 23-04-2018 07:39AM

I think when one is young one falls in love very very quickly. We don't know hardly anything about the world and yet we are also very open. Innocent, romantic, prone to magical thinking. I fell completely, madly in love with my husband, because of his lopsided smile and fabulous thighs (denim cut off shorts were the thing) the first minute I saw him in the distance on a bus, and we are still happily together after 30 years. I am glad we met when young. If anything happened, I could not imagine falling in love again, now, as an older person. I have seen too much of the complexity, contradictions and sorrow of humans and this human life. It would certainly take a lot of time to ''fall in love'', as a result.

Appledreams15 · 23-04-2018 07:50AM

It's true.
I think we are more open when we are young
And more closed when we were older.
I was really in love once, but maybe it did not have anything to do with him, I just was expecting the best, and able to be in love.

Now I am older, it is hard to be that open again. I think we are all like this

Stonedpilot · 23-04-2018 07:58AM

Appledreams15 wrote: »

It's true.
I think we are more open when we are young
And more closed when we were older.
I was really in love once, but maybe it did not have anything to do with him, I just was expecting the best, and able to be in love.

Now I am older, it is hard to be that open again. I think we are all like this

I disagree. People get more desperate the older they are. Become more open and willing to give people a go.

Goes both ways.

23-04-2018 09:25AM

Love at first sight for me. Wonderful thunderbolt of attraction, three incredible days/nights, and then, she went back to her husband. Ahh well...

Love is an individual thingy. People love to tell you what love is... (and what love isn't) but it's only their own experience. There's no set rule set for what love is or how it happens.

garbo speaks · 23-04-2018 09:45AM

I often wonder what it would feel like to be in love.

AMKC · 23-04-2018 06:05PM

Purple Mountain wrote: »

Why the defeatist attitude?

Not defeatist. We did have a lot of things in common but also a big age gap but that does not bother me as they are very mature, clever, and looks great. Also a lot we could learn from each other. I am hoping to hear back from them but it has been two days now. I texted and also messaged online. They have not replied back yet but did say they had a busy week ahead so I will give it a week and then move on if there is no word.

Stonedpilot wrote: »

I disagree. People get more desperate the older they are. Become more open and willing to give people a go.

I think it depends on the person. Some might get more desperate, more open and willing and others less.

Goes both ways.

garbo speaks wrote: »

I often wonder what it would feel like to be in love.

Good to see I am not the only one.

JohnnyFlash · 23-04-2018 06:06PM

After 3 pints.

Your Face · 23-04-2018 06:09PM

I also had a nice weekend OP.

garbo speaks · 23-04-2018 07:08PM

The lonliness can be crushing, wondering why love and intimacy are such foreign things to me.

Wibbs · 23-04-2018 07:28PM

facehugger99 wrote: »

Lust only takes a couple of seconds.

Love - probably a few months.

This. At least that's how it's gone for me. I've never grown in lust with someone, it's either there at the start or not. The love part takes a while. Infatuation comes along more quickly though.

Pac1Man · 23-04-2018 08:49PM

Wibbs wrote: »

This. At least that's how it's gone for me. I've never grown in lust with someone, it's either there at the start or not. The love part takes a while. Infatuation comes along more quickly though.

Wibbs that's the shortest post you've ever written. You ok hun? :pac:

Lorelli! · 24-04-2018 06:46AM

It takes time to get to know someone imo. I agree it's hard to define but I think love is a compatibility/friendship, building of trust and positive sexual tension.

Anything too intense or over the top at the beginning usually has no real substance behind it. Not that that can't develop but a lot of times intensity can be mistaken for intimacy.

Hector Savage · 24-04-2018 09:59AM

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

After 3 pints.

Ah good man Johnny !!

Wibbs · 24-04-2018 10:38AM

Pac1Man wrote: »

Wibbs that's the shortest post you've ever written. You ok hun? :pac:

Yep.

andekwarhola · 24-04-2018 10:39AM

One yoke.

stimpson · 24-04-2018 10:50AM

I knew my missus was the one for me immediately. I remember sitting down and looking across the table at her big smile and that was it. It did take me six months to convince her, but it was totally worth it as we’re still together and happy after 14 years.

razorblunt · 24-04-2018 11:16AM

When you know, you know, you know!

Definitely a few months but you definitely know its building to something.
My wife said she almost knew straight away, but looking back I think it was due her liking me / having a crush for a month or two first.
I was the non chalant "oh I haven't thought about this" aka I thought she was way out of my league and wouldn't stand a chance!
She's a silly woman that one!

Pherekydes · 24-04-2018 11:51AM

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Whats the quickest you have falling in love with someone?

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