Are you happy?

yourdeadwright · 16-04-2018 11:27AM

I'm Happy ,
Last few years iv realised all I have to do is have a positive outlook and then i'm happy, I don't care what anyone else is doing or has or what holidays or car's they bought anymore like I would have in my 20's
Now I focus on the little things that make ME happy and I'm happier than iv ever been ,
Having a wonder 4month baby daughter I wake up to every day is the icing on the cake,

FutureGuy · 16-04-2018 11:30AM

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suicide_circus · 16-04-2018 11:32AM

Reasonably. Consider myself more fortunate than happy really.

marcbrophy · 16-04-2018 12:03PM

Nope, I haven't been happy in pretty much forever

Mutant z · 16-04-2018 12:04PM

My life hasnt panned out as i expected at all.

yourdeadwright · 16-04-2018 12:34PM

Hapax Legomenon wrote: »

Incredibles II wrote: »

What's making you unhappy?

I used to be happy enough, but my mother died six years ago and happiness has just eluded me since then. Not necessarily dramatically unhappy; just not happy and that, I suspect, is unlikely to change.

Sorry to hear that,
But if you not happy you should try looking at it from a different perspective,
Again I'm not preaching to you but for instance ,
Every person in this world will suffer grief and loss its apart of life for every single person on this planet,
Yet you are one of a select few or maybe just the only one that got to call that women mother, See it as a blessing and something that adds to your life not a loss,

o1s1n · 16-04-2018 12:42PM

Wanderer78 wrote: »

oh dont worry, they got a recommendation of noam chomsky from me, they ll be doing well trying to convert me:)

Next time ask them to show you the archeological proof that Jerusalem was destroyed in 607 and not 587 BCE. (Hint, there is none)

Not sure how familiar you are with their teachings but basically if their date is wrong (it is) all of their other teachings fall flat on their face.

Sadly they've really dulled down the biblical study side of their religion over the last 10-15 years in favour of cult like love bombing and emotion manipulation instead. So half of them probably be won't even know what you're talking about.

not yet · 16-04-2018 12:45PM

Happiness is for fools..

sbsquarepants · 16-04-2018 01:29PM

Short answer - yes. Life has never been better for me. It's not perfect, but neither can it be - it's good enough, and that's good enough.

Focussing on what you have, rather than what you don't is the key to happiness imho! You should never let what you don't have, ruin what you do.

diomed · 16-04-2018 02:12PM

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Had an interesting conversation with a jehovah witness during the week about happiness, worth a few minutes of your time

Ooh, a change of strategy.
Previously they asked "are you lost?"

ChikiChiki · 16-04-2018 02:17PM

No, but im working hard on it. Actually told my boss today about the reasons why and he shed tears with me. Empathy can be hard to find in the corporate world.

Graces7 · 16-04-2018 02:45PM

Will be happier when the gale eases... SO LOUD!

16-04-2018 04:59PM

Happy Birthday Bambi. You closed your account but if you're reading just remember that not one single person has it all figured out and many just float through life full of uncertainties and what ifs. Even though we've never met and I know nothing about you I kind of envied your London lifestyle. I imagined it to be glamourous and filled with opportunity. We know what goes on behind closed doors, what fight others are engaged in.

Happy. I don't know about that word. It means the same to me as love, intangible and hard to articulate. There are moments where I feel ok but there's too much other stuff inside to allow me to be actually happy. If I lose a stone in weight will I be happy? If I had more money? If I wasn't tormented by anxiety regarding the future? If all of my ducks were in a row and the stars aligned and life became exactly what I wanted? For now though I'll make do with feeling grand. My favourite saying, It will all be grand

eviltwin · 16-04-2018 05:01PM

I'm content. Things could be a bit better but they could be a lot worse.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 16-04-2018 05:06PM

I’m very content, happy I guess.

quickbeam · 16-04-2018 09:23PM

On balance, no I guess I'm not.

I fill my life with things that I enjoy and that makes things easier for sure. But it doesn't take away from the fundamental stuff: no family, no close friends, no relationships, no love, and a career path I'm far from happy with. I'm middle aged and more or less completely alone. I don't even have an 'in case of emergency' contact.

Some days I feel it more than others. Today was just somewhere in the middle.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 16-04-2018 09:25PM

Very happy and content.

Lucyfur · 16-04-2018 09:28PM

Yes. Feel very fortunate to have all I have.

NickNickleby · 16-04-2018 09:52PM

Reading some of the posts here, tells me that whatever - I should be damn well grateful, so I am.

I'd love to offer words of wisdom to those of you suffering, but I'm hardly qualified. All I can say is that I hope you find happiness, and don't be afraid to accept it when it arrives. By which I mean, don't be concerned that it might be transient, or you're somehow undeserving. Everyone deserves happiness.

RiderOnTheStorm · 16-04-2018 10:11PM

This is not really a happiness story, but as someone previously pointed out, its all relative.

There was a test question given to students, to see if they considered themselves lucky or unlucky.

Question was:
Imagine you are queuing in the bank. A robber comes in to rob the place, and fires a shot in the air to show his seriousness. The shot ricochets and hits you on the arm.
Are you lucky or unlucky?

Those who consider themselves lucky, said that situation was lucky (that they didnt get hit anywhere worse!) And those that think themselves unlucky think situation was unlucky (they got shot after all).

So same situation, and 2 opposing views.... The same can be true for happiness. Its how you choose to look at it. Hard to see a happy outlook some times. Its not easy, and takes lots of practice (and talking to others), but it can be done.

Hope you keep trying OP. You will get there!

"When you are going through hell....keep going!" .... Michael Caine

Daisy78 · 16-04-2018 10:16PM

Right now, no. My health hasn't been great for the last while, nothing serious but a niggling complaint that has escalated in the last week. So sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. That said I heard of a very sad story about a person of my age who has been diagnosed with a terminal illness and is near the end. Hearing it kind of put the frighteners on me to be honest and, at the same time made me realise how eternally grateful I am for the second chance I get every day to try and live the life I want. As long as you have your health anything is possible. If I've learnt anything about happiness it is how futile it can be to rely on other people or even "life" to drop it into your lap. You need to try and engineer it to happen as best you can, even if on occasion it is just the small things.

Happy Birthday Bambi. You should never be sad on your birthday. Life might not be the way you want it to be right now but things can come good with time. Perhaps not by next year but maybe with the advent of birthdays to come.

Graces7 · 17-04-2018 11:47AM

No. But I know why, that not my fault, and that "this too will pass", and meanwhile I can care for my cats and dog, and the dwelling knot and share with all of you the small things I have to share.. Giving ...regardless of feelings

my typos get worse. even I had a problem with this..the dwelling, KNIT
lol

Graces7 · 17-04-2018 11:49AM

Daisy78 wrote: »

Right now, no. My health hasn't been great for the last while, nothing serious but a niggling complaint that has escalated in the last week. So sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. That said I heard of a very sad story about a person of my age who has been diagnosed with a terminal illness and is near the end. Hearing it kind of put the frighteners on me to be honest and, at the same time made me realise how eternally grateful I am for the second chance I get every day to try and live the life I want. As long as you have your health anything is possible. If I've learnt anything about happiness it is how futile it can be to rely on other people or even "life" to drop it into your lap. You need to try and engineer it to happen as best you can, even if on occasion it is just the small things.

Happy Birthday Bambi. You should ever be sad on your birthday. Life might not be the way you want it to be right now but things can come good with time. Perhaps not by next year but maybe with the advent of birthdays to come.

I always am. Sad I mean. On birthdays and often on big holidays,,,Many many folk are and thinking you SHOULD be happy on that day makes it worse

branie2 · 17-04-2018 11:52AM

Yes, I am

Mam of 4 · 17-04-2018 11:19PM

Sometimes the brightest smiles hide the saddest hearts..

Graces7 · 18-04-2018 07:06AM

Mutant z wrote: »

My life hasnt panned out as i expected at all.

No one;s does! really it does not.. adapting is life.

Graces7 · 18-04-2018 07:08AM

yourdeadwright wrote: »

Sorry to hear that,
But if you not happy you should try looking at it from a different perspective,
Again I'm not preaching to you but for instance ,
Every person in this world will suffer grief and loss its apart of life for every single person on this planet,
Yet you are one of a select few or maybe just the only one that got to call that women mother, See it as a blessing and something that adds to your life not a loss,

. ,

Ah that does not help and can add guilt to the mix. Takes time to grow through it all. Each at a different pace....

bilbot79 · 18-04-2018 07:32AM

If you woke up this morning and pulled up your own knickers, then it's a good day.

Mountainsandh · 18-04-2018 07:36AM

I'm very happy. There are things I could change in my life but overall it's good. Health gone a bit wonky the past year as I'm about to turn 45. It's young enough to start some of these problems, then again now I'm dealing with them rather than toiling through them unawares like the past 10 years. I've had some bad years.

Graces7 · 18-04-2018 01:10PM

Hmmmm,, considering the issues flying around and the poor stateof my health, I not doing tooooooooo badly happiness wise, and have only to walk out and gaze at the ocean in my backyard ....

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