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Belfast rape trial discussion thread II

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    #1112
    kerplun k
    Registered Users Posts: 2,393 ✭✭✭kerplun k


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    That's not true. Paddy Jackson said in his latest statement that he did not want to leave.

    The IRFU and UR didn’t care whether he wanted to stay or not, they got rid him anyway. He didn’t have a choice.


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    #1113
    Fr Tod Umptious
    Registered Users Posts: 15,104 ✭✭✭✭Fr Tod Umptious


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    Paddy Jackson:
    " I recognise that my behaviour has fallen far short of the values expected of me as an intentional player, a role model for the game of rugby and as a son and a brother. I am truly sorry. "

    And that's exactly what got you sacked Paddy


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    #1114
    Appledreams15
    Registered Users Posts: 379 ✭✭Appledreams15


    kerplun k wrote: »
    The IRFU and UR didn’t care whether he wanted to stay or not, they got rid him anyway. He didn’t have a choice.

    Yeah Im just replying to someone who said p Jackson wanted to leave.

    Great decision by Ulster rugby!


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    #1115
    blanch152
    Registered Users Posts: 27,347 ✭✭✭✭blanch152


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    Why would a consensual threesome get anyone sacked. What you do consensually is your own business.

    It was the lads overall behaviour, leaving the girl crying and bleeding and the messages. Of course they look bad.

    CG only sent a message which is why he was suspended.



    In the eyes of the law, it was consensual.


    facehugger99 wrote: »
    Would it be within the remit of World Rugby Governing Body to step in and prevent other clubs offering them contracts, does anyone know?

    They have brought the game in general into disrepute.

    Would send a very strong message.


    What message would it send? The mob rules over the legal system?


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    #1116
    NAGDEFI
    Closed Accounts Posts: 755 ✭✭✭NAGDEFI


    In the old days we used hear a lot about sin and redemption. Even Johnny Cash sang a song about redemption.

    Why couldn't these men be given a shot at redemption in Ireland? Was there no way they could have been suspended for 1 year and allowed do some charitable work during that period and return to play for the province they were born in and play for their country?

    We're all guilty of wrong doing in some form or other. But it's a bleak world when you can never redeem yourself... At least good old fashioned Christian values allowed you to atone for sins.

    What is this world... One strike and your out?

    I argued all along here that i didn't like those whatsapp messages, i wanted standards and example, but surely punishment has to be appropriate for any wrong doing.

    The finality of it all has hit me this evening..a 24 and 26 year old can NEVER play for their province or country. They were found not guilty of rape and didn't kill anyone.

    I feel a backdated suspension from 1st March 2018 to 1st March 2019 would have been more than adequate punishment.

    I feel a bit fcuked up with people playing God this evening with these lifelong bans. These fellas don't want to play for Exeter or Bordeaux. I'm a Laois man and in GAA you may aswell make me play with Sligo (no disrespect just naming a county). I'd have zero passion to play with them.

    You look at as*holes like Don King, who murdered and all the stuff he's got away with re. embezzlement etc. What he gets away with.

    Killing flies with canon balls.


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    #1117
    goz83
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭goz83


    Calina wrote: »
    I am sympathetic but the risk a man runs of being falsely accused of rape is significantly lower than the risk a woman runs of being raped. Quite simply it is a relatively lower risk by magnitudes. And women do not get much help in the courts for rape cased because in a he said she said the benefit of the doubt tends to flow to the innocent unless proven guilty defendent. And rape victims lived are often utterly destroyed and they get no closure and that is magnitudes more likely to happen than a false rape accusation is.

    Falsely accused men don’t want sympathy. They want justice. When it is proven that someone has made a false accusation, they should get thrown into prison the same way convicted rapists are thrown into prison. Both are scum.
    Calina wrote: »
    Research has suggested that only about 30% of rapes ever get reported. And that of rapes reported, maybe 9% may turn out to be false.

    Not all rape reports result in a prosecution case and of those very few result in a conviction very often because it winds up as two people's words.

    I was not commenting on the Belfast case at all but to be frank it seems to me some men think they run a serious risk of being accused of rape. That risk is still far less than the risk women run of being raped.

    There is conflicting research everywhere, but lets take thise figures for now and round them off. For every 10 alleged rapes, 1 of them will be proven to be false. That’s a lot of false allegations. There aren’t many jail cells with false accusers in them, are there? Usually nothing happens even when it is proven that the accuser is lying, or blatantly admits it.
    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    Isnt that only if convicted though?

    Yes, that’s correct. My mistake.
    sporina wrote: »
    yeah i have to say, regardless of what i think about the trial, I am happy with the decision made about their contracts.. they are no role models.. whether they are guilty or not, their messages about the girl/s were appalling - no respect - disgusting - i hope they realise that - they should be ashamed

    Not Guilty. What were the messages Paddy Jackson sent? Can you quote them and then honestly say he deserved to be sacked for the single message he sent?
    NAGDEFI wrote: »
    Just reading through earlier comments now. Ah no. No, no, no. The punishment has to stop somewhere, these young men can't be hounded to the ends of the earth.

    Some wouldn’t be happy until these lads were hanging from a rope. Anonymous bullies is all most of them are.
    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    That's not true. Paddy Jackson said in his latest statement that he did not want to leave.

    And now you are believing what Paddy Jackson says? Well, that’s certainly a change. Believe him when it suits you eh?


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    #1118
    irishproduce
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    pjohnson wrote: »
    Sure the IRFU had no issue with Gerbrandt Grobler. Drugs are fine but whatsapp messages are grounds for termination.

    I think all of us with a lick of common sense are well aware that little consideration is given to the slight of any party.
    What matters is what the mob think and the mob came out in force before Ulster's game the other night.
    Show business depends on punters wanting to take part in the show. Rugby at that level is show business.
    The audience won't participate if the actors have been rejected by them.

    However, there is more available to the lads than an Irish audience.


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    #1119
    irishproduce
    Registered Users Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭irishproduce


    goz83 wrote: »
    It doesnt matter if the woman said yes, yes and yes, I want you to fcuk me every 10 seconds. It doesn't even matter if there was no sex at all. What matters is what she says the next day. Guilty or not...the mans life is ruined while the woman enjoys anonymity.

    Well she's not really anonymous anymore. Most of us know her name at this stage. Anyone I said it to knew the name before I could say anything


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    #1120
    Appledreams15
    Registered Users Posts: 379 ✭✭Appledreams15


    goz83 wrote: »
    Falsely accused men don’t want sympathy. They want justice. When it is proven that someone has made a false accusation, they should get thrown into prison the same way convicted rapists are thrown into prison. Both are scum.



    There is conflicting research everywhere, but lets take thise figures for now and round them off. For every 10 alleged rapes, 1 of them will be proven to be false. That’s a lot of false allegations. There aren’t many jail cells with false accusers in them, are there? Usually nothing happens even when it is proven that the accuser is lying, or blatantly admits it.



    Yes, that’s correct. My mistake.



    Not Guilty. What were the messages Paddy Jackson sent? Can you quote them and then honestly say he deserved to be sacked for the single message he sent?



    Some wouldn’t be happy until these lads were hanging from a rope. Anonymous bullies is all most of them are.



    And now you are believing what Paddy Jackson says? Well, that’s certainly a change. Believe him when it suits you eh?
    What a strange argument. When he is talking about his own feelings, why wouldnt I believe him. Bizarre argument.


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    #1121
    goz83
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭goz83


    irishproduce wrote: »
    Well she's not really anonymous anymore. Most of us know her name at this stage. Anyone I said it to knew the name before I could say anything

    I was talking in general...not the belfast case. And i don’t know the complainants name in that case.
    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    What a strange argument. When he is talking about his own feelings, why wouldnt I believe him. Bizarre argument.

    What is strange about it? You didn’t believe anything else the defendants said. It was his “feeling” and belief that the sex was consensual. You didn’t believe that either.


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    #1122
    almostover
    Registered Users Posts: 1,985 ✭✭✭almostover


    irishproduce wrote: »
    I think all of us with a lick of common sense are well aware that little consideration is given to the slight of any party.
    What matters is what the mob think and the mob came out in force before Ulster's game the other night.
    Show business depends on punters wanting to take part in the show. Rugby at that level is show business.
    The audience won't participate if the actors have been rejected by them.

    However, there is more available to the lads than an Irish audience.

    It all smacks of hypocrisy when the airport in Belfast is named after Northern Ireland's most famous womaniser, George Best. We've gone from idolising the likes of Best who openly bragged about their sexual conquests to hounding young men out of their own country for having a threesome and sending disrespectful texts. Progress? Or have things gone too far?


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    #1123
    irishproduce
    Registered Users Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭irishproduce


    NAGDEFI wrote: »
    In the old days we used hear a lot about sin and redemption. Even Johnny Cash sang a song about redemption.

    Why couldn't these men be given a shot at redemption in Ireland? Was there no way they could have been suspended for 1 year and allowed do some charitable work during that period and return to play for the province they were born in and play for their country?

    We're all guilty of wrong doing in some form or other. But it's a bleak world when you can never redeem yourself... At least good old fashioned Christian values allowed you to atone for sins.

    What is this world... One strike and your out?

    I argued all along here that i didn't like those whatsapp messages, i wanted standards and example, but surely punishment has to be appropriate for any wrong doing.

    The finality of it all has hit me this evening..a 24 and 26 year old can NEVER play for their province or country. They were found not guilty of rape and didn't kill anyone.

    I feel a backdated suspension from 1st March 2018 to 1st March 2019 would have been more than adequate punishment.

    I feel a bit fcuked up with people playing God this evening with these lifelong bans. These fellas don't want to play for Exeter or Bordeaux. I'm a Laois man and in GAA you may aswell make me play with Sligo (no disrespect just naming a county). I'd have zero passion to play with them.

    You look at as*holes like Don King, who murdered and all the stuff he's got away with re. embezzlement etc. What he gets away with.

    Killing flies with canon balls.

    Why do you say never play for Ireland again?
    I didn't read that, maybe I missed it - genuinely.

    I don't see how they can't come back after "atoning" someplace else for a year or two.


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    #1124
    NAGDEFI
    Closed Accounts Posts: 755 ✭✭✭NAGDEFI


    I've a funny feeling the 2019 WC could bring a strange Karma.

    Many on here will remember New Zealand's problems at out half in the 2011 WC. First Carter got injured, then Cruden, next Colin Slade i think and they had to call up Stephen Donald, 4th choice outhalf from holidays. He's a flaky player and looked out of shape, his jersey wouldn't cover his back! He hit a wobbily 3 pointer in the 8-7 defeat of France in the final but could have done anything.

    Roll on the 2019 WC. Johnny Sexton performs for 70min in a lot of games now. He'll be 34 in 2019 and it's easy to see him injured, leg injuries or HIA problems especially. If Joey Carberry and we'll say for arguments sake Ian Keatley get injured... We'd love to make the call to Jackson...

    That's why a year long or calendar year ban until 1st January 2019 would have been good from a rugby point of view.

    I do recognise that everything involved in this case has to be looked at far beyond rugby. But as stated previously i think the punishment was unnecessarily extreme.


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    #1125
    skearnsot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 499 ✭✭skearnsot


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I suppose once that was submitted as evidence it was fair game though.

    Jesus how many young fellas are in a what’s app group in the country texting messages like that?? Seriously!! Hope they won’t be sacked Monday


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    #1126
    NAGDEFI
    Closed Accounts Posts: 755 ✭✭✭NAGDEFI


    irishproduce wrote: »
    Why do you say never play for Ireland again?
    I didn't read that, maybe I missed it - genuinely.

    I don't see how they can't come back after "atoning" someplace else for a year or two.

    You haven't read that post properly. I said stay in Ireland serve a suspension of a year or until the end of the 2018 calendar year.

    The chance to redeem themselves where they were born and bred and want to play.

    Yes. Today's judgement means they can NEVER play here again, for Ulster or Ireland.


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    #1127
    Appledreams15
    Registered Users Posts: 379 ✭✭Appledreams15


    skearnsot wrote: »
    Jesus how many young fellas are in a what’s app group in the country texting messages like that?? Seriously!! Hope they won’t be sacked Monday

    Maybe they"ll cop on now


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    #1128
    Greysquirel09
    Registered Users Posts: 96 ✭✭Greysquirel09


    almostover wrote: »
    It all smacks of hypocrisy when the airport in Belfast is named after Northern Ireland's most famous womaniser, George Best. We've gone from idolising the likes of Best who openly bragged about their sexual conquests to hounding young men out of their own country for having a threesome and sending disrespectful texts. Progress? Or have things gone too far?

    He was also a wife beater. It's the new age snowflake mob they haven't a clue.


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    #1129
    Appledreams15
    Registered Users Posts: 379 ✭✭Appledreams15


    almostover wrote: »
    It all smacks of hypocrisy when the airport in Belfast is named after Northern Ireland's most famous womaniser, George Best. We've gone from idolising the likes of Best who openly bragged about their sexual conquests to hounding young men out of their own country for having a threesome and sending disrespectful texts. Progress? Or have things gone too far?

    A threesome that left her bleeding. If you really thought UR would continue to let them play, I'm surprised. There is alot of nationwide anger at them, the sponsors don't want them there. Good riddance


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    #1130
    Sleeper12
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    mariaalice wrote:
    Why does it need another discussion?


    1130 posts in two days.


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    #1131
    NAGDEFI
    Closed Accounts Posts: 755 ✭✭✭NAGDEFI


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    Maybe they"ll cop on now

    I argued on here a lot about how disgusting i found the messages. I wanted players to have standards. I want players who respected women.

    But do you think banning these lads from ever playing with their home province and country is too much punishment?

    If we respect the judicial system and accept they were found not guilty of rape also?


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    #1132
    Sleeper12
    Registered Users Posts: 16,971 ✭✭✭✭Sleeper12


    goz83 wrote:
    There is conflicting research everywhere, but lets take thise figures for now and round them off. For every 10 alleged rapes, 1 of them will be proven to be false. That’s a lot of false allegations. There aren’t many jail cells with false accusers in them, are there? Usually nothing happens even when it is proven that the accuser is lying, or blatantly admits it.


    False accusers also harm genuine rape victims.


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    #1133
    goz83
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭goz83


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    Maybe they"ll cop on now

    Maybe you will. People are allowed to have mindless, graphic banter with their friends in person, by text or whatever. The way the world is going these days, I am hoping Musk builds that space ship pretty damn fast......and then blasts all those feminazis to Mars. :D


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    #1134
    goz83
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭goz83


    Sleeper12 wrote: »
    False accusers also harm genuine rape victims.

    They harm alot of people. The accused, both families, friends and not to mention the complete waste of police resources.


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    #1135
    goz83
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭goz83


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    A threesome that left her bleeding. If you really thought UR would continue to let them play, I'm surprised. There is alot of nationwide anger at them, the sponsors don't want them there. Good riddance

    Do you respect the verdict, or do you think they are rapists? Genuine question.


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    #1136
    skearnsot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 499 ✭✭skearnsot


    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    Maybe they"ll cop on now

    Yes it’s horrible going on - BUUUUUT it doesn’t mean they raped anyone either! How many women have groups with derogatory language regarding men I wonder!!


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    ziggy
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    #1139
    Gunmonkey
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    Appledreams15 wrote: »
    A threesome that left her bleeding. If you really thought UR would continue to let them play, I'm surprised. There is alot of nationwide anger at them, the sponsors don't want them there. Good riddance

    So...whats the situation with the Ulster team now...will it sit and wait for the investigation into the conversations to finish and not play? And I guess the Irish team too. Hope it gets resolved quickly.


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    #1140
    BBDBB
    Registered Users Posts: 26,899 ✭✭✭✭BBDBB


    This is exactly why the punishment of exile was the wrong way to go
    This is exactly why those demanding they never get a chance at redemption and must be sacked have over extended their reach. It was always about vengeance, rather than education.

    People dont cop on because punishment has happened to someone else
    Some of them dont even cop on when the punishment happens to themselves
    They cop on because they understand the consequences of their actions and realise its wrong to behave that way.
    Educate people and give them a choice if you want lasting and certain change in behaviour and culture.

    Paddy Jackson, Stuart Olding and Craig Gilroy should be on a tour of rugby clubs and schools & colleges alongside people from the protest groups, the rape support groups etc. They should be delivering presentations and holding question and answer sessions with young men and women about issues like consent, respect, communication. Not heading abroad, away from the pressure and with bulging wallets starting afresh.

    The cost of such a campaign should be borne by those sponsors so concerned about their core values being damaged. Values are only values when you actually live by them, put your money where your mouth is, otherwise they are just empty words.

    That way the important issues that are raised in this whole sorry business stay in the spotlight and dont now drift away from the front pages now that PJ & SO are going abroad.
    For example the way alleged rape victims are treated. The way evidence is gathered from them and cases are constructed.
    The genuine protection of peoples identity (alleged victim and alleged perpetrator)
    The way young people conduct themselves on issues of sex, consent, & respect.
    These are all important issues that have been raised and gone over in discussing this trial, what happens to them now that the two have been exiled? wheres the momentum going to come from?

    Benefits?
    The IRFU/Ulster get to demonstrate that rugby is prepared to do its part in improving the number of rapes that go unreported and the number that eventually result in conviction
    The sponsors get to demonstrate their core values aren't meaningless platitudes. Their reputations are enhanced.
    Youngsters get to address these mysogyny issues with people with a story to tell and some harshly learned lessons they have learned
    The alleged victim gets to see some lasting change as a result of her case going to trial and ultimately failing, cos so far she's getting nothing.
    And PJ & SO get the opportunity to claw back some of their lives by making genuine recompense for the damage they've done.


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    #1141
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    goz83 wrote: »
    People are allowed to have mindless, graphic banter with their friends in person, by text or whatever.

    They are. 100% agree with that. The amount of black cocks I've seen in my football whats'app group is needless! The language and sh*te talk I have with my own mates includes some very dark humour too that I'd uncomfortable with my family hearing. This idea that you shouldn't text things you wouln't want read aloud to strangers or at the workplace is a load of crap. People are allowed to say things if they're in private.


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