Affair / Sexual chemistry

erica74 · 03-03-2018 03:24PM

beefburrito wrote: »

Lol I don't watch porn.....

:pac:

El_Duderino 09 · 03-03-2018 03:24PM

beefburrito wrote: »

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It's a kind of movement or group where men decide to have no intimate relationships with women. Or something.

It's about men who don't have any kind of physical relationships with women,besides being a platonic friend.

We just stay single, simple as....

I would say that most men who actually decide to be bachelors or celibate, don’t go on about it so you’d never hear about them. MGTOW are careful to make a big song and dance about it.

Sure the poster was talking about being MGTOW, then said they were on a date last night with some bint.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:26PM

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

I would say that most men who actually decide to be bachelors or celibate, don’t go on about it so you’d never hear about them. MGTOW are careful to make a big song and dance about it.

Sure the poster was talking about being MGTOW, then said they were on a date last night with some bint.

What's a bint ?

erica74 · 03-03-2018 03:27PM

MGTOW - Men Going Their Own Way.

bilbot79 · 03-03-2018 03:27PM

I saw a documentary once that suggested men are natural polygamists and women are serial monogamists. Basically when she is with someone long enough and has kids etc she has an inclination to share genetics with someone else.

El_Duderino 09 · 03-03-2018 03:31PM

beefburrito wrote: »

What's a bint ?

A woman.

The woman you were on a date with but didn’t like.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:32PM

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

A woman.

The woman you were on a date with but didn’t like.

Is that derogatory term ?

03-03-2018 03:33PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Wtf is mgtow
This is boards not a filter on a porn site

Men who insist they don't want anything to do with women then spend all their time obsessing over women.

wakka12 wrote: »

Cheating is relatively common but I don't believe the majority of people cheat on their longterm spouses. Based on my own social circles Id have estimated about 1 in 5 people cheat on their gf/bf/partner.
Out of my gay friends though it seems like about 30-50% cheat on each other :pac:

Most stats put it at 20-60%.
Boards seems to be extremely anti cheating, just that its mentioned so much on here as being a very bad thing, in real life it seems to be more normalised and accepted.

It's really sad reading a post like this. I hope it will never be normalised or accepted.

El_Duderino 09 · 03-03-2018 03:38PM

beefburrito wrote: »

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

A woman.

The woman you were on a date with but didn’t like.

Is that derogatory term ?

A mildly derogatory term. Like referring to a woman as a ‘wan’. Not a swear word but not a complement.

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 03:40PM

beefburrito wrote: »

Not really, more like independent men who loved women too much and ended up living in something like a shed.

Nice try though, for someone who advocates having a raunchy affair I wouldn't be placing my bets on you being a person of a faithful persuasion.

But sure if you're happy with your conclusions, my hats off to you....

I read reddit mgtow regularly. Absolutely hilarious reading and if you identify with them then I'd have a serious talk with yourself.

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 03:42PM

For anyone still now sure have a look at the top posts.
https://www.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/

Dripping with misogyny.

twowheelsonly · 03-03-2018 03:42PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

So it got intense over the last while and we went for it. I'm lost for words. I now understand earth shattering. Whilst I will never regret the experience part of me feels guilty of it being some thing my husband doesn't know. Ironically sex with husband has improved. I don't love this man I love my husband. Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Now the breaks have to go on cause it can't continue with this man and he knows that too. 2 people in my life I only ever had sex with. I regret the influence and hold over me my parents and the Catholic Church had on me for my life. I will tell my children to enjoy sex responsibly so they don't live with regrets when they settle down.

Fair play for posting OP. Don't be too harsh on yourself and take what half the self proclaimed marriage counsellors on here say with a pinch of salt. Life is for living, no point in going to your deathbed with a bag full of regrets. You're human, and humans do things like this all the time.
The only thing I would do is at some stage steer a conversation with your husband around to affairs / swinging / extramarital sex at some stage, maybe while there's something relevant on TV. He might surprise you !!! Your 'itch' has been scratched but that's never a guarantee that the itch has gone away. If you are pretty sure then let sleeping dogs lie and get on with the rest of your life, no harm done.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:44PM

TheAnalyst_ wrote: »

I read reddit mgtow regularly. Absolutely hilarious reading and if you identify with them then I'd have a serious talk with yourself.

Lol I'm a hybrid MGTOW but I appreciate your concern for my well being.

If I was worried about another boardsie I'd be having a serious talk with myself too lol

Is that you Dad

Experience_day · 03-03-2018 03:49PM

What a train wreck of a thread. Hopefully the OP is trolling as well as they are illiterate.

I'm firmly of the opinion that people have their own agency; entirely and that they should utilise it when single and when they're not committed.

Part of committing to a marriage/serious relationship is that you're using your own agency to confirm this is the path you want to go down and commit to. Breaking that is basically saying you hold nothing sacrosanct.

And the moral cowardice of not being honest about infidelity. Urgh.

Could imagine a lot of people, men and women alike being disillusioned that people can make a commitment/promise and then just lul nope out when it suits.

Grateful Dread · 03-03-2018 03:51PM

TheAnalyst_ wrote: »

Bitter losers who hate women and fetishise spending time in sheds for some reason.

2/10. Poor Analysis.

Cheerful Spring · 03-03-2018 04:01PM

The fact the people on this thread knows more about her sex life than her husband says it all ready. Now let her husband do the same thing and see how she feels?

SilverPenney · 03-03-2018 04:08PM

Cheerful Spring wrote: »

The fact the people on this thread knows more about her sex life than her husband says it all ready. Now let her husband do the same thing and see how she feels?

The same people in here cheering her on would be slating the husband and calling on her to kick him out (and rightly so).

Cheerful Spring · 03-03-2018 04:12PM

SilverPenney wrote: »

The same people in here cheering her on would be slating the husband and calling on her to kick him out (and rightly so).

Sorry but the OP is full of it, I love my husband bull****, but I like to have sex with another man though. Leave your husband as you clearly don't fancy him anymore.

Cheerful Spring · 03-03-2018 04:22PM

twowheelsonly wrote: »

Fair play for posting OP. Don't be too harsh on yourself and take what half the self proclaimed marriage counsellors on here say with a pinch of salt. Life is for living, no point in going to your deathbed with .

She's a coward (not to sound harsh but this my feeling on it) while he's at home she off shagging someone else and has no regrets about it, what the ****. She not even considering her husband feelings. It more brave to tell her husband she wanted to be with someone else and let him decide if he wanted this marriage to work or not!

professore · 03-03-2018 04:24PM

TheAnalyst_ wrote: »

Bitter losers who hate women and fetishise spending time in sheds for some reason.

That mgtow crowd and the men's sheds are totally unrelated. The former seem to be younger bitter men who got burnt by women and the latter are for older isolated men who are looking for male companionship without going to the pub.

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 04:29PM

professore wrote: »

That mgtow crowd and the men's sheds are totally unrelated. The former seem to be younger bitter men who got burnt by women and the latter are for older isolated men who are looking for male companionship without going to the pub.

**** me are some of you brain damaged? Where did I post anything about the mens sheds initiative?

professore · 03-03-2018 04:29PM

Would say to the OP it's only fair if the husband gets a go at another woman (or man). It's quite possible another woman would do it for him in the way that you don't. I know for sure that certain women have a very different effect on me than others so am sure the same is true of him.

A lot of women (and men) assume that because their spouse isn't passionate and sexy with them that they aren't passionate or sexy full stop. A big mistake.

You did a very bad thing OP, but if it's a once off I would bury it and say nothing. Nothing but pain to be gained by coming clean.

facehugger99 · 03-03-2018 04:33PM

There’s a strange puritanical revival going on at present, particularly among the young .

At lot of the posts on this thread are indicative of it.

Real life is a more nuanced affair and puritanical mindsets are ill equipped to deal with this reality.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 03-03-2018 04:50PM

pilly wrote: »

Couldn't agree more, there was a thread once about do you still fancy your partner, I think it might be still going. But I've never read such a bunch of lies in all my life.

The fear people have of admitting that they are as bored as fcuk with their lives is unreal.

I agree the place can be ridiculously high horsey about cheating, but there's also a cohort who seem convinced that because their relationships are or have been sh1t, everyone else's must be too.

I struggled hugely with monogamy when I was younger. I'm glad I wasn't with my current partner in my late teens or early twenties.

But I love him, find him very attractive, I've always been faithful, and I'm confident that he has been too. That's not pretending to have some perfect life or that we never annoy each other, it's really one very modest bare minimum for a good relationship.

KyussB · 03-03-2018 05:13PM

There's a right way to do it OP - with the full knowledge and consent of your partner - and there's the wrong way - the way you did it.

Well done OP, you've cheated on someone, and for the rest of your life you can never truthfully answer the question "Have you ever cheated on someone?" with a 'No'.

I mean for fúck sake your husband even gave you a path for doing this in an ethical way, and you still cheated on him in the end - ffs...

You know the guilt and regret you feel, which is causing you to not tell your husband? That's exactly what people in relationships are scared of - that not only will the cheating happen, but the breach of trust will be compounded by their partner never telling them...

That's a fundamental breach of trust there. Even after your partner gave you a path for having what you want, without breaching trust.

If you have any respect for your husband, you'll tell him - and you'll not wait ages before telling him, either - at some point things start to count as lies of omission.
Disclaimer though: I'm not actually advising you to tell him, because what happens from that point on, who the fúck knows - and with kids involved, I'd not want any responsibility for having advised someone to go from a fúcked situation, to a potential even more fúcked situation - I'm putting my view of what this means morally, and how I view it as reflecting on you.

Remember as well that reciprocity is important in relationships too - so there's a fair chance that at some point in the future, (despite what your husband said) you may have to deal with being asked for permission to stray, and you may have to make an effort to be ok with it.

up for anything · 03-03-2018 05:26PM

beefburrito wrote: »

I've taken the red pill and gone MGTOW....the amount of times I've been in the position of potentially bedding a married or attached woman is ridiculous.

I've no interest and part of the reason I took the red pill is because of my exe unable to help her compulsive acting out with men.

We're both quite fit,but I would never have an affair,she just loved men.

I didn't hate her or make things hard I just walked away from her,and now she can have all the cck she likes....

We were never married or had kids, thankfully...

We're still on talking terms,have the odd coffee.

I'm delighted I'm MGTOW she's happy she's able to act out...

Do him a favor and let your hubby go....

Once you start lusting other men, that's a seed that's hard to stop......

beefburrito wrote: »

It's about men who don't have any kind of physical relationships with women,besides being a platonic friend.

We just stay single, simple as....

I've heard a little of this. So do you have physical relationships with other men or genders?

I find your language a little old testamenty biblical... lusting... seed.

Anyhow, please tell me more.

professore · 03-03-2018 05:48PM

up for anything wrote: »

I've heard a little of this. So do you have physical relationships with other men or genders?

I find your language a little old testamenty biblical... lusting... seed.

Anyhow, please tell me more.

Back in my day there were only 2 genders. Lusting and seed are hardly biblical terms?

I wonder do all those who "struggle with monogamy" tell prospective spouses that upfront? Or at all? Somehow I doubt it.

Struggle with honesty would be a better term.

TiGeR KiNgS · 03-03-2018 05:51PM

professore wrote: »

Back in my day there were only 2 genders. Lusting and seed are hardly biblical terms?

I wonder do all those who "struggle with monogamy" tell prospective spouses that upfront? Or at all? Somehow I doubt it.

Struggle with honesty would be a better term.

There are 3 genders male, female and delusional.

up for anything · 03-03-2018 06:11PM

professore wrote: »

Back in my day there were only 2 genders. Lusting and seed are hardly biblical terms?

I wonder do all those who "struggle with monogamy" tell prospective spouses that upfront? Or at all? Somehow I doubt it.

Struggle with honesty would be a better term.

Back in your day? Are you not of this earth anymore? I struggled a little with genders but hey I decided I wasn't going to be a later version of those people who had to be dragged kicking and screaming into accepting unwed mothers and same sex relationships. Life is way too short for pigeonholing people into little boxes.

As for lusting and seed not being biblical terms - maybe not in the US Republican strongholds but in modern day Ireland.. hell, even in the Ireland I grew up in I didn't tell my friends that I was lusting after a particular lad and wanted his seed. The only place I saw those terms used on a regular basis was the bible.

The world is full of people who struggle with monogamy. If they say they don't they're either in the first year or so of a new relationship or they're lying.

pickarooney · 03-03-2018 06:15PM

Seems a bit odd to say that as a regular bible reader...

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