Affair / Sexual chemistry

Sebastian Dangerfield · 03-01-2018 01:27PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I didn't cheat for those of you who keep using that word. I don't agree with cheating that's why I was up front with him. I don't know any other woman who could say that to her husband and that saddens me.

Didnt you say you already kissed this person (apologies if Im wrong)? If I kissed someone else I would consider myself to have cheated on my wife.

Thats not me being prudish, just my view of the parameters of our marriage.

tomwaterford · 03-01-2018 01:30PM

wakka12 wrote: »

Most stats put it at 20-60%.
Boards seems to be extremely anti cheating, just that its mentioned so much on here as being a very bad thing, in real life it seems to be more normalised and accepted.

Stop....if your to believe everyone here...noone ever cheats except evil people's :pac:

Like I know lads,

what have cheated say one weekend and the shock and relisation of what they stood to lose,caused them to be propose by the following weekend

AwareWolf · 03-01-2018 09:17PM

Yes kissed, but that was when I told my husband. I consider cheating lying. And to the person who asked about my sex life with husband...well it does exist.....if that's what you mean. I've a question for you now though....since I've got my mind thinking alot and read all replies here i had a think about what I like about this other guy compared to my husband. I like his lust for me. I never had that with husband and ive had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that may be it's possible my husband is gay. I decided to sext him through out the day and tell him how much I wanted him and there was a bit of banter. I made it clear what i would do to him when he came home. He arrived home later that evening and said nothing. If i said that to this other guy he'd be over to me like a shot! Lads am I going mad here? Shouldn't he want me after talk like that? ðŸ˜”

Sebastian Dangerfield · 04-01-2018 07:41AM

You'd know that better than anyone but his passive attitude to the thought of you being with someone else, to me,suggests something is up. Absolving guilt for one reason or another seems most likely to me.

taytobreath · 04-01-2018 08:52AM

I read the first 4 pages and skipped the other 13, you guys need some relationship counselling on how to talk to each other on how you feel.

givyjoe · 04-01-2018 09:43AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Yes kissed, but that was when I told my husband. I consider cheating lying. And to the person who asked about my sex life with husband...well it does exist.....if that's what you mean. I've a question for you now though....since I've got my mind thinking alot and read all replies here i had a think about what I like about this other guy compared to my husband. I like his lust for me. I never had that with husband and ive had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that may be it's possible my husband is gay. I decided to sext him through out the day and tell him how much I wanted him and there was a bit of banter. I made it clear what i would do to him when he came home. He arrived home later that evening and said nothing. If i said that to this other guy he'd be over to me like a shot! Lads am I going mad here? Shouldn't he want me after talk like that? &#55357;&#56852;

Maybe he's just not keen on his wife who told him she was thinking of cheating. Maybe all that talk made him think about what you were saying/going to do with the other guy. Guys are human too, not just walking d!cks.

dr.fuzzenstein · 04-01-2018 10:36AM

wakka12 wrote: »

Cheating is relatively common but I don't believe the majority of people cheat on their longterm spouses. Based on my own social circles Id have estimated about 1 in 5 people cheat on their gf/bf/partner.
Out of my gay friends though it seems like about 30-50% cheat on each other :pac:

Most stats put it at 20-60%.
Boards seems to be extremely anti cheating, just that its mentioned so much on here as being a very bad thing, in real life it seems to be more normalised and accepted.

All perfect people here, 20 years happily married to the perfect partner, who have perfect sex and are perfectly happy in their perfect lives.
And they get turned on by letting people know who are normal, fallible human beings with urges, desires, doubts and to whom life isn't always easy, clear cut with all black and white choices, what horrible, vile disgusting, degenerate, ugly creatures they are for being that way and that they should be locked up in a cellar and be fed a bucket of fish heads once a week for the rest of their lives for daring to be flawed human beings.
Some people need the validation they get from judging others and looking down upon them and sneering.

Avatar MIA · 04-01-2018 11:14AM

dr.fuzzenstein wrote: »

All perfect people here, 20 years happily married to the perfect partner, who have perfect sex and are perfectly happy in their perfect lives.
And they get turned on by letting people know who are normal, fallible human beings with urges, desires, doubts and to whom life isn't always easy, clear cut with all black and white choices, what horrible, vile disgusting, degenerate, ugly creatures they are for being that way and that they should be locked up in a cellar and be fed a bucket of fish heads once a week for the rest of their lives for daring to be flawed human beings.
Some people need the validation they get from judging others and looking down upon them and sneering.

Don't be so judgemental of Judgemental people.

thesultan · 04-01-2018 01:08PM

If your sextings your husband I'm fairly sure there isn't a man who would turn that down.

pickarooney · 04-01-2018 01:42PM

thesultan wrote: »

If your sextings your husband I'm fairly sure there isn't a man who would turn that down.

Unless she's really bad at it.

professore · 04-01-2018 08:44PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Yes kissed, but that was when I told my husband. I consider cheating lying. And to the person who asked about my sex life with husband...well it does exist.....if that's what you mean. I've a question for you now though....since I've got my mind thinking alot and read all replies here i had a think about what I like about this other guy compared to my husband. I like his lust for me. I never had that with husband and ive had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach that may be it's possible my husband is gay. I decided to sext him through out the day and tell him how much I wanted him and there was a bit of banter. I made it clear what i would do to him when he came home. He arrived home later that evening and said nothing. If i said that to this other guy he'd be over to me like a shot! Lads am I going mad here? Shouldn't he want me after talk like that? ðŸ˜”

Couple of things:

1. You basically kissed another man and wanted sex with him. That alone would make me lose interest in my wife sexually and check out. I'd be mad as hell and would kick you out, which would be the reaction I'd expect to see if he loved you. Looking is one thing but actually kissing him ... Nope.

2. If this other man was married to you for so long they might not react to your sexting either, he would be too busy sexting some other bored wife.

3. It's possible your husband is gay or cheating on you. It's also possible he's depressed, and this latest episode has made him worse. Does he tell you about women he would like to lick the makeup off and have his way with? Does he ever do that kind of thing with you?

Something is not right in your relationship.

pilly · 05-01-2018 11:23AM

dr.fuzzenstein wrote: »

All perfect people here, 20 years happily married to the perfect partner, who have perfect sex and are perfectly happy in their perfect lives.
And they get turned on by letting people know who are normal, fallible human beings with urges, desires, doubts and to whom life isn't always easy, clear cut with all black and white choices, what horrible, vile disgusting, degenerate, ugly creatures they are for being that way and that they should be locked up in a cellar and be fed a bucket of fish heads once a week for the rest of their lives for daring to be flawed human beings.
Some people need the validation they get from judging others and looking down upon them and sneering.

Couldn't agree more, there was a thread once about do you still fancy your partner, I think it might be still going. But I've never read such a bunch of lies in all my life.

The fear people have of admitting that they are as bored as fcuk with their lives is unreal.

AwareWolf · 03-03-2018 12:11PM

So it got intense over the last while and we went for it. I'm lost for words. I now understand earth shattering. Whilst I will never regret the experience part of me feels guilty of it being some thing my husband doesn't know. Ironically sex with husband has improved. I don't love this man I love my husband. Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Now the breaks have to go on cause it can't continue with this man and he knows that too. 2 people in my life I only ever had sex with. I regret the influence and hold over me my parents and the Catholic Church had on me for my life. I will tell my children to enjoy sex responsibly so they don't live with regrets when they settle down.

Avatar MIA · 03-03-2018 12:17PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

So it got intense over the last while and we went for it. I'm lost for words. I now understand earth shattering. Whilst I will never regret the experience part of me feels guilty of it being some thing my husband doesn't know. Ironically sex with husband has improved. I don't love this man I love my husband. Never thought I'd hear myself say that. Now the breaks have to go on cause it can't continue with this man and he knows that too. 2 people in my life I only ever had sex with. I regret the influence and hold over me my parents and the Catholic Church had on me for my life. I will tell my children to enjoy sex responsibly so they don't live with regrets when they settle down.

Chances are it will fizzle out now. For a guy the chase can be intoxicating, added intensity for the other half being in a married relationship. The former reason is no longer in place.

For you the itch has been scratched also.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 12:25PM

I've taken the red pill and gone MGTOW....the amount of times I've been in the position of potentially bedding a married or attached woman is ridiculous.

I've no interest and part of the reason I took the red pill is because of my exe unable to help her compulsive acting out with men.

We're both quite fit,but I would never have an affair,she just loved men.

I didn't hate her or make things hard I just walked away from her,and now she can have all the cck she likes....

We were never married or had kids, thankfully...

We're still on talking terms,have the odd coffee.

I'm delighted I'm MGTOW she's happy she's able to act out...

Do him a favor and let your hubby go....

Once you start lusting other men, that's a seed that's hard to stop......

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 03-03-2018 02:03PM

Wtf is mgtow
This is boards not a filter on a porn site

03-03-2018 02:16PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Wtf is mgtow
This is boards not a filter on a porn site

It's a kind of movement or group where men decide to have no intimate relationships with women. Or something.

elstingeo · 03-03-2018 02:22PM

What do you do now OP? Will you tell your partner about this? We can all have urges which is normal but acting on them when married is unfaithful, selfish and unfair.

It is unfair to your husband, kids and family unit. Unless you two can talk about this privetly and work things out fair enough. Otherwise you have to look at the reality of the situation here.

From personal experience, a past partner of mine slept with someone else and I could never look her in the eyes again. It was then that I knew it was over and her respect for me ended when she played away. Maybe something isn’t right in your relationship, I am unsure I don’t personally know the ins and outs of it.

Maybe you two can become swingers or have an open relationship and do what you wish with whoever you want. But if that is not an option then maybe you two need to have an in depth conversation about why this has happened.

The other question would be, it’s happened. It is over. Will you be able to not do this again? Do you have some type of problem with self control?

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 02:23PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Wtf is mgtow
This is boards not a filter on a porn site

Sorry, who said anything about porn, not me YOU

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 02:26PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

It's a kind of movement or group where men decide to have no intimate relationships with women. Or something.

It's about men who don't have any kind of physical relationships with women,besides being a platonic friend.

We just stay single, simple as....

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 03-03-2018 02:28PM

beefburrito wrote: »

Sorry, who said anything about porn, not me YOU

Oh god get a grip and use your words

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 02:35PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Oh god get a grip and use your words

Excuse me,youre the one who mentioned Porn.....

How did you come up with a perverted conclusion ????

I'm just wondering what porn has to do with my post ????

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 03-03-2018 02:48PM

beefburrito wrote: »

Excuse me,youre the one who mentioned Porn.....

How did you come up with a perverted conclusion ????

I'm just wondering what porn has to do with my post ????

Well I wouldn’t know becaus you didn’t use your words instead posting some odd acronym you had to be asked to clarify. Had you used your words and explained what you were saying it wouldn’t appear like it was some bizarre fetish you’d find on a filter list on a porn site

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 02:52PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Wtf is mgtow
This is boards not a filter on a porn site

Bitter losers who hate women and fetishise spending time in sheds for some reason.

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 02:56PM

Fair play OP, life is for living.
You won't sit on your death bed wishing you had less of these experiences.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:01PM

Miller Pitiful Cilantro wrote: »

Well I wouldn’t know becaus you didn’t use your words instead posting some odd acronym you had to be asked to clarify. Had you used your words and explained what you were saying it wouldn’t appear like it was some bizarre fetish you’d find on a filter list on a porn site

Lol no worries.....well sure these things happen.
Lol I don't watch porn.....

JMNolan · 03-03-2018 03:02PM

TheAnalyst_ wrote: »

Bitter losers who hate women and fetishise spending time in sheds for some reason.

The mens sheds have been a life saver for my father after my mother passed, disappointing to see people like yourself mock it.

TheAnalyst_ · 03-03-2018 03:07PM

JMNolan wrote: »

The mens sheds have been a life saver for my father after my mother passed, disappointing to see people like yourself mock it.

Has your father sworn off women? You're the one conflating two separate things.

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:22PM

TheAnalyst_ wrote: »

Bitter losers who hate women and fetishise spending time in sheds for some reason.

Not really, more like independent men who loved women too much and ended up living in something like a shed.

Nice try though, for someone who advocates having a raunchy affair I wouldn't be placing my bets on you being a person of a faithful persuasion.

But sure if you're happy with your conclusions, my hats off to you....

beefburrito · 03-03-2018 03:23PM

JMNolan wrote: »

The mens sheds have been a life saver for my father after my mother passed, disappointing to see people like yourself mock it.

Exactly, you'll get all kinds in here....

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