Have you ever had an unwanted sexual experience? Mod warning in op - updated 6/3/18

A few actually...

One was when a mate of mine, half trying to give misguided help after I'd broken up with a girl and half winding me up, got into my old MSN account and 'chatted up' a girl I was going down to work on a festival with under my name. She started texting me weird after that and I had no idea why, until we went down and she started feeding me drink while insisting she put my tent up (I was new to the camping lark and she said she was a pro). This drink included one mystery concoction with who knows what, but sure when at a festival you don't ask too many questions. Long story short, I woke up with her stripping me and messing around. I was half conscious so I kinda went along with it before coming to and leaving the tent. I called my mate and he broke down laughing on the phone and confessed all. Now, to be fair, I know it sounds awful on all parties but I saw it as a pretty funny prank at the time. He meant well and couldn't have predicted where it would go. I actually felt a bit bad for the girl after she got the cold shoulder for the weekend, but in fairness she'd half sexually assaulted me regardless of whether she thought I was interested to begin with!

Another was in an old job. The security manager noticed that one girl I just saw as friendly used to spot when I'd take my break, immediately take hers and follow me out to have a smoke, and gave me a heads up. So, not being interested, I started trying to gently drop hints to pre-empt any move that was going to be made and spare blushes. One landed too well and she flat out said, "Oh, I was going to ask you out..." I politely declined and she backed off, until a work night out. Another girl and I had always had a flirty thing going on, but I asked her out over text myself a few weeks before this night and she shocked me by turning me down (later I'd find out it was because she was dating a manager - it was a young workplace, everyone was riding). Drunk in the nightclub, she began dancing and coming onto me then asked if I wanted to leave. I was slow on the uptake and didn't realise what she was saying, so I said I was grand dancing away and she stormed off in a huff. Then the original girl came over to me and said she was having a party back at hers, the other girl was going too and asked if I'd be there. I foolishly went along to find it was just me, her, one of her mates from the job and a random lad. She began pouring drinks for me (I hadn't learned) until I stumbled off to the bathroom. She promptly followed me in, began kissing me, then sat me down on the toilet and undoing my pants, before her mother came down knocking on the door asking what was going on. I took the opportunity to pull my trousers back up and ran for it.

Another time, I was out with a group of mates and a 'mad' girl was there as one of the lads' girlfriend's friends. She was flirting with all of us but didn't get off with any of the lads. I wasn't interested tbh, she was a bit too wild for my taste. Anyway, later we all ended up at a party back at my friends' place. I remember being in a room with a few people and started slagging this girl off, messing like, it was all in good spirits. I went out to find somewhere to sleep for the night eventually, settling on my mate's kitchen floor with my coat for a blanket and jumper for a pillow. I wake up in the middle of the night like...do you know when you have drowsy sex with a girlfriend and you both just kinda fully wake in the middle? Like I felt a girl on top kissing me and stripping me off and kind of went with it, until I properly woke up and saw she was undoing my jeans. It was yer wan. I pushed her away a bit and was like, "What the **** are you doing?!" She just looked at me, giggled, and immediately went back to work trying to strip me. So I had to properly push her away (not roughly, just enough to be like, "No, stop touching my penis"). She giggled and ran off.

Oh and also an ex of mine was a sex sleeper. It's a real thing and really annoying in practise.

Ajsoprano wrote: »

Yeah but again it’s the difference between being a raging pervert and being an idiot thinking he was funny.

Yeah, but distress was brought about either way, and the victim was right to feel distressed if that's what happened. It might seem harsh but the idiot has to be treated the same as the perv by those in authority otherwise the perv will always claim ignorance.
It's different for those of us who know the idiot/perv we can always judge for ourselves the intended malice.

TomSweeney wrote: »

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I wonder about this story .... I reallllly do...

Why's that?

TomSweeney wrote: »

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

I wonder about this story .... I reallllly do...

I don't. It'd be very easy for boards to come out and dispute this story if it was untrue, in fact it makes them look so bad that they really need to if it's waffle. And given the poster's long-standing reputation on the board, she's going to be taken credibly (compared to if it was someone with single digit posts, say, thereby a possible rereg with an axe to grind).

They're in a rock and a hard place now. This is the kind of thing the media start to poke their noses into. Do they ignore it and damn themselves with silence? Do they lock the thread on trumped up charges and hope it goes away? (Therefore looking ridiculously guilty) Do other mods start kicking up and walking out now this is public or do they act as a wall for boards and risk individually disgracing themselves by standing by one of their own?

Fair play Whoops. You're dead right calling this out and have handled it perfectly so far. No legal liability for you, possibly maximum damage achieved.

I went through a period of being cock-grabbed years ago. Generally just laugh it off, but one really took a grip. Had to sit myself down for a few minutes. Any lads that took a blow knows the process of getting through a ball shot.

A bit of shallow breathing got through it.