Friends Wedding Abroad

c6ysaphjvqw41k · 06-02-2018 03:34PM #1

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irelandrover · 06-02-2018 03:38PM

Can you fly to Ibiza from somewhere else or fly out of Ibiza on the Sunday to an actual holiday destination ye want to go?

So take 2 weeks holidays at that time but only spend 2 days in Ibiza.

georgina toadbum · 06-02-2018 03:39PM

I've no advice how to make it cheaper but if you can't afford it, you can't afford it. And if going to this wedding will mean you use up your holiday leave and aren't able to go on one with your husband then personally I wouldn't go.

These are the risks people who arrange to have their wedding abroad face. Not everyone has the annual leave or the money to spend 4 nights away in a different country.

ec18 · 06-02-2018 03:40PM

don't go?

c6ysaphjvqw41k · 06-02-2018 03:44PM

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GingerLily · 06-02-2018 03:44PM

You don't have to go, so don't.

If she's a real friend she wouldn't want to put you out so much just to attend, and if she's that selfish to be annoyed by it - then why would you want to be there for her anyway?

SusanC10 · 06-02-2018 03:48PM

We wouldn't sacrifice our annual family holiday to go to a wedding abroad. I would also find it odd to be at a wedding without my Husband. Unless maybe I knew a lot of other people there.

We have been to a good few Weddings abroad but we have also missed 2 good friends Weddings as it just didn't suit for us to go.

You also don't sound like you really want to go.
Maybe just politely decline.

c6ysaphjvqw41k · 06-02-2018 03:50PM

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irelandrover · 06-02-2018 03:51PM

Where do you want to go on holiday. For instance there is a flight from Ibiza to Madrid on the sunday morning for €28.
Just have your husband meet you there.

Dublin -> Ibiza -> Madrid -> Dublin is available for €236.

SusanC10 · 06-02-2018 03:52PM

Kevin Gigantic Machine wrote: »

I will know pretty much everyone at the wedding. A lot of the girls going are not bringing their partners to either save money or because they wont know anyone.

Could you look at flying through the UK ? May work out cheaper ? And you wouldn't have to stay for 4 nights then.

Triceratops Ballet · 06-02-2018 03:53PM

If you really want to go to the wedding, Ibiza is actually a lovely place with plenty to do, outside of the bars, clubs and beaches. You could spend your two days there and then there's ferries to the other islands, or even to Barcelona, you could also fly out of IBZ to somewhere more suited to your tastes.

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Sunny Dayz · 06-02-2018 03:59PM

I'd imagine there's a lot to do in Ibiza apart from eating and drinking. Can't you get a connecting flight on the Sunday or Monday and spend a few days where you would like to go?

Is it worth missing out on your friend's wedding over it though? I've had to decline a wedding invite abroad from a relative in the past. But I know if it was immediate family or a close friend, I wouldn't dream of missing it.

We have a wedding this summer mid week and away elsewhere in Ireland. We are forgoing our annual holiday and making a week of it where this wedding is located. Sure I'd love to go abroad for a bit a sun, but I'm really looking forward to this wedding, and getting loads of time to catch up with people.

whoopsadoodles · 06-02-2018 04:00PM

As above. There's loads to see and do in Ibiza. Maybe look into it a bit more before writing it off as a terrible holiday. It's a beautiful Island and you never need to go anywhere near the club scene.

lazygal · 06-02-2018 04:01PM

It is cheeky to have a mindset that people will use your chosen wedding date and venue as their holiday.
Only you can decide what the best course of action is. Will you resent spending so much time and money because your friend decided to have a wedding abroad?
For us we have two children and our family holiday is the only holiday we're taking this year. I wouldn't change that even if a close friend was getting married and I would hope they'd understand why. Having a wedding abroad is taking the risk that a lot of people won't make it for many reasons.

c6ysaphjvqw41k · 06-02-2018 04:01PM

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SusanC10 · 06-02-2018 04:06PM

Kevin Gigantic Machine wrote: »

Thanks for the suggestions guys, I'll look into some of them. Maybe I could just leave on the Sun using a connecting flight, or even meet my husband somewhere, sounds like that might work depending on flights!

Regarding a wedding gift, what would you guys give if you were to attend, and also if you were not to attend?

Honestly, if I was going to go I would ask my Husband to come with me for 2 days and then either go elsewhere together on Ibiza or get a connecting flight elsewhere.

If she is a v good friend I would actually give the same gift regardless of whether I went or not.

lazygal · 06-02-2018 04:06PM

If I spent money to attend a wedding abroad I'd probably give a small gift like a frame or vase.
If I wasn't able to go and it was a close friend I would give the normal gift I would give. Which is usually €150/€200 cash in a card.

GingerLily · 06-02-2018 04:07PM

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If she's a good friend I think if you don't attend you should give the normal gift you would have given to her if she had gotten married in Ireland and you had attended.

If she isn't a close friend then no gift is really required.

If you go I think you could get away with buying a gift nearer the 50e mark, as you had to spend so much to attend.

duffman13 · 06-02-2018 04:08PM

Kevin Gigantic Machine wrote: »

Thanks for the suggestions guys, I'll look into some of them. Maybe I could just leave on the Sun using a connecting flight, or even meet my husband somewhere, sounds like that might work depending on flights!

Regarding a wedding gift, what would you guys give if you were to attend, and also if you were not to attend?

I wouldn't be going mad on a gift for a destination wedding like that. If your in the wedding party and are traveling I'd give max 200 as a couple. If i wasn't going id give the same tbh

PhoenixParker · 06-02-2018 04:10PM

I'd look into the ferries off the island.

Fly In, do the wedding then hop on a ferry to the East coast of Spain (or similar) and drive somewhere you want to go. Then find a cheap flight home.

I'd look into Ibiza a little more before dismissing it completely. Away from the craziness it's apparently an amazing upmarket holiday destination.

woodchuck · 06-02-2018 04:20PM

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I'd probably give 50euro (max) in a card either way.

If you attend, you'll already have spent a huge amount on flights and accommodation to be there. Therefore a small present is enough. 50euro should "cover your plate", especially if you're there alone.

If you're not attending, there's obviously no need to "cover your plate". However if she's a good friend, 50euro is still a nice gesture.

whoopsadoodles · 06-02-2018 04:24PM

If I didn't go to a very close friend's wedding the gift would remain the same as if I did.

However, if my close friend got married abroad and I did attend, I would probably give a slightly reduced gift.

If I got married abroad, I would be very clear about the fact I did not want any gifts at all but that doesn't seem to be the case for a lot of folk unfortunately.

skywayavenue · 06-02-2018 04:39PM

I got married in Ibiza in June last year.
Ryanair flew 5 times a week from Dublin - if that's an option? They initially only released 3 days a week but I think it was March or April and they released the next few days.

I am biased - but it really is a beautiful island. There is a lot more to do than eat and drink, although the food is delicious!

Hitman3000 · 06-02-2018 04:39PM

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Maybe listen to your husband and decline the invite to your friend politely. Bung 200 in a card sorted.

marvin80 · 06-02-2018 04:52PM

GingerLily wrote: »

You don't have to go, so don't.

If she's a real friend she wouldn't want to put you out so much just to attend, and if she's that selfish to be annoyed by it - then why would you want to be there for her anyway?

When it comes to weddings I find the wedding party are only interested in looking after themselves.
For example, I know a couple that got married in Cyprus - their family had a villa there so they used that as their base for the wedding.
There was only one flight a week so it meant spending a week on holiday there.
Some friends declined and they fell out over this - ridiculous.

GingerLily · 06-02-2018 04:52PM

woodchuck wrote: »

I'd probably give 50euro (max) in a card either way.

If you attend, you'll already have spent a huge amount on flights and accommodation to be there. Therefore a small present is enough. 50euro should "cover your plate", especially if you're there alone.

If you're not attending, there's obviously no need to "cover your plate". However if she's a good friend, 50euro is still a nice gesture.

I don't agree, I think 50quid from a close friend is a bit cheap unless they're under financial stress. For a close friend give the amount you would give her regardless, this isn't cover your plate territory!

ec18 · 06-02-2018 05:00PM

GingerLily wrote: »

I don't agree, I think 50quid from a close friend is a bit cheap unless they're under financial stress. For a close friend give the amount you would give her regardless, this isn't cover your plate territory!

Wouldn't agree at all. The wedding will already have cost the quests the best part of 1000 any gifts after attending the wedding should be a token in nature unless the OP is loaded :P

georgina toadbum · 06-02-2018 05:02PM

GingerLily wrote: »

I don't agree, I think 50quid from a close friend is a bit cheap unless they're under financial stress. For a close friend give the amount you would give her regardless, this isn't cover your plate territory!

Even if the wedding is abroad?

woodchuck · 06-02-2018 05:08PM

GingerLily wrote: »

I don't agree, I think 50quid from a close friend is a bit cheap unless they're under financial stress. For a close friend give the amount you would give her regardless, this isn't cover your plate territory!

She doesn't sound like such a good friend though if she's expecting people to use up all their annual leave to attend the wedding!

GingerLily · 06-02-2018 05:17PM

georgina toadbum wrote: »

GingerLily wrote: »

I don't agree, I think 50quid from a close friend is a bit cheap unless they're under financial stress. For a close friend give the amount you would give her regardless, this isn't cover your plate territory!

Even if the wedding is abroad?

If the OP does NOT attend the wedding I mean

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