Affair / Sexual chemistry

misstearheus · 24-12-2017 01:05AM

So did ye have sex yet or what's the story?!

professore · 26-12-2017 11:00PM

Shemale wrote: »

professore wrote: »

Amazed at all these sisters that want sex with their sisters husbands

Why because it's inconceivable that two people with nearly identical genetics could be attracted to the same person in the same way a person could fancy sisters / brothers?

A friend of mine has an uncle(dads brother) and an aunt(mothers sister) who are married

That's not what I'm amazed at. I'm amazed that people **** their brother/sister's spouse. That's one of the lowest ****ty things you can do IMO.

Clair4 · 27-12-2017 10:02PM

misstearheus wrote: »

So did ye have sex yet or what's the story?!

Was wondering 2

Hibernia Gardens · 28-12-2017 01:37PM

Id go for it. Guilt is all in your mind. That chemistry only comes a few times in my opinion.

AwareWolf · 31-12-2017 03:11AM

Really? Guilt may be in our heads..... Maybe chemistry is too...... But things moving quickly.......

BorneTobyWilde · 31-12-2017 03:18AM

SO what happened

31-12-2017 07:08AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

Really? Guilt may be in our heads..... Maybe chemistry is too...... But things moving quickly.......

Oooooo, it's all a little exciting, that contribution sounded a little breathless as you answered a point made someone who has had 7 posts which, if you looked at them, seem to consist of smart remarks.

You're not putting a lot of analysis into this, I'd say people in Mills and Boon novels would be more circumspect and cautious. They wouldn't pick up on a point made by a 7 post contributor to announce how things were developing at an exciting pace.

31-12-2017 07:10AM

BorneTobyWilde wrote: »

SO what happened

Well nothing happened yet. Because it it did, the OP would be on here with the giddiness of it all before putting the clothes back on.

Sebastian Dangerfield · 31-12-2017 08:34AM

OP, husband may give you "permission" -strange as it sounds to me - but theres no telling how he would react after the event. He may resent you forever.

How do you feel about his passive attitude to you being with someone else?

Avatar MIA · 31-12-2017 08:41AM

Has the OP mentioned yet how much of a chore it is having sex with their husband, and that the new guy is above average? :rolleyes:

Sebastian Dangerfield · 31-12-2017 08:48AM

Avatar MIA wrote: »

Has the OP mentioned yet how much of a chore it is having sex with their husband, and that the new guy is above average? :rolleyes:

It takes 2 to tango. If a tandem bike feels like its going uphill when on the flat, its probably 2 sh1t cyclists not just 1.
(Tries to think of better metaphor for ****e sex but fails. Im tired)

AwareWolf · 31-12-2017 09:58AM

Hibernia Gardens wrote: »

Id go for it. Guilt is all in your mind. That chemistry only comes a few times in my opinion.

The chemistry only comes a few times you say. I have never experienced this. Never. I've come to this stage in my life.... And never experienced it. In some ways I can't understand it. Never ever thought I would be the one saying this. How or why does this happen? The smart ass comments I'm ignoring on this thread.

Sue Pa Key Pa · 31-12-2017 10:17AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I already mentioned the possibility of it. And said I wouldn't go there if it meant the end of marriage and he said it wouldn't. He's amazing really. Will love him til the day I die. Fact. As I say that's not the issue......

You eased your husband's conscience by telling him this stuff. He's probably being riding your bridesmaid since your wedding reception. Work away OP

erica74 · 31-12-2017 10:36AM

Good chemistry doesn't mean good sex. When I was younger and single, I met a guy through a friend of mine. Everytime we saw each other we were very flirtatious, a shitload of chemistry, our personalities just sparked off each other and we were just sort of drawn to each other. This went on for a couple of months until eventually we shared our first kiss and that was like magic. However, a week later we slept together and it was SHITE, we just didn't really click together in that way. I remember telling my best friend at the time and the disbelief was hilarious because everyone observed the chemistry between us. Sometimes the idea of something is better than the actual act.

Also, if you're in an open relationship with your husband (and that's what you appear to be alluding to) then, what's the problem? Go ride the other fella and see what it's like and sure then you can head home to your family with a clear head. That's if your husband is (as you say) okay with it.
I find it interesting that you described yourself as a "mum" in your second post on the thread, not a "woman" but, a "mum" - suggests to me that you've lost your identity and are bored with your role in the family

the beer revolu · 31-12-2017 10:45AM

It's really not uncommon for women with children to identify themselves as, first and foremost, mums.

myshirt · 31-12-2017 10:53AM

the beer revolu wrote: »

It's really not uncommon for women with children to identify themselves as first and foremost, mums.

She could be trying to set up one of those scenes of the lonely mum at home looking to get her washing machine serviced.

Donald Trump · 31-12-2017 11:33AM

Shemale wrote: »

Why because it's inconceivable that two people with nearly identical genetics could be attracted to the same person in the same way a person could fancy sisters / brothers?

A friend of mine has an uncle(dads brother) and an aunt(mothers sister) who are married

Sure that's half of Offaly.

The other half were rejected by their siblings for not being ugly enough

AwareWolf · 31-12-2017 03:33PM

erica74 wrote: »

Good chemistry doesn't mean good sex. When I was younger and single, I met a guy through a friend of mine. Everytime we saw each other we were very flirtatious, a shitload of chemistry, our personalities just sparked off each other and we were just sort of drawn to each other. This went on for a couple of months until eventually we shared our first kiss and that was like magic. However, a week later we slept together and it was SHITE, we just didn't really click together in that way. I remember telling my best friend at the time and the disbelief was hilarious because everyone observed the chemistry between us. Sometimes the idea of something is better than the actual act.

Also, if you're in an open relationship with your husband (and that's what you appear to be alluding to) then, what's the problem? Go ride the other fella and see what it's like and sure then you can head home to your family with a clear head. That's if your husband is (as you say) okay with it.
I find it interesting that you described yourself as a "mum" in your second post on the thread, not a "woman" but, a "mum" - suggests to me that you've lost your identity and are bored with your role in the family

Very true the idea may be better than the act.....and no I haven't lost my identity in fact if any thing I've found it! A sexual being. And the reason I didn't go ahead is I feel it is a big thing to do and wanted opinions on possible consequences I may not be seeing. Already a few have made good points...... One being that afterwards may be different than I expect. So hence my post, and I am grateful for your advice / opinion. Thanks. I've got lovely private messages from people who don't want to discuss this openly..... It's been very helpful.

Avatar MIA · 31-12-2017 04:09PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I've got lovely private messages from people who don't want to discuss this openly..... It's been very helpful.

From people advocating an affair, I bet they were positively effusive. :rolleyes:

the beer revolu · 31-12-2017 06:12PM

Avatar MIA wrote: »

From people advocating an affair, I bet they were positively effusive. :rolleyes:

More likely from people who had had experiences that they regretted afterwards.

Crunchienut · 31-12-2017 08:53PM

the beer revolu wrote: »

More likely from people who had had experiences that they regretted afterwards.

I doubt everyone regrets the experience

tomwaterford · 31-12-2017 10:24PM

Martina1991 wrote: »

Given the quantity and popularity of brothels and strip clubs world wide it seems a lot more people are unfaithful than people care to admit or realise

Cheating is way more common than the people of boards are willing to admit

Almost everyone I've ever worked with (both male and female) has cheated and alot of them it was an ongoing event

RDM_83 again · 01-01-2018 08:12PM

tomwaterford wrote: »

Cheating is way more common than the people of boards are willing to admit

Almost everyone I've ever worked with (both male and female) has cheated and alot of them it was an ongoing event

I really don't think that's true, it depends on the crowds your around, it probably is more common than some people would think but the idea that loads of people cheat is as wrong as the idea that nobody does.

Some workplaces do seem to have loads of people doing the dirt others are filled with happily attached people, your in a place with one type of culture it doesn't mean the other doesn't exist.

Dinarius · 01-01-2018 08:24PM

Is this research for a novel?

Never been less convinced by an OP’s subsequent posts.

D.

tomwaterford · 01-01-2018 10:02PM

RDM_83 again wrote: »

I really don't think that's true, it depends on the crowds your around, it probably is more common than some people would think but the idea that loads of people cheat is as wrong as the idea that nobody does.

Some workplaces do seem to have loads of people doing the dirt others are filled with happily attached people, your in a place with one type of culture it doesn't mean the other doesn't exist.

I've worked in many work places and hung out with many people from different areas.....I'd put people who cheat on a regular basis (5+ a year or ongoing affairs) at roughly 40% ...

and would struggle to name a handful of people what have never cheated that I know IRL

..that's not to say those who cheat are not happily attached...just sort of happens??

AwareWolf · 01-01-2018 10:05PM

So it turns out my husband thought I had already been with another guy, that I had asked after the event. This only came up after I was 12 days late with my last period....which never happens. He admitted it had crossed his mind. I hugged him and assured him it hadn't happened. A pang of sympathy and guilt with in me. He says he wasn't worried...it had just crossed his mind. Later that evening we had sex like never before, I initiated and had orgasims like never before. I can only assume me being open with him has lead to this and he was happy too. The other guy I must say became a distant memory after the way I felt that night. Now I just want more and more sex with husband. I'm back posting because there are idiots out there who are willing ready and able to condemn a woman in my position.....but not as quick to condemn men. It's men who have private messaged me.....in a similar position as me.....and feeling the same as me. As a society we need to wake up and realise we are sexual beings......we can feel like this and it doesn't make us bad people. I didn't cheat for those of you who keep using that word. I don't agree with cheating that's why I was up front with him. I don't know any other woman who could say that to her husband and that saddens me.

Avatar MIA · 01-01-2018 10:15PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

I don't know any other woman who could say that to her husband and that saddens me.

If the super sex was because of revelation it's not going to last.

AwareWolf wrote: »

I don't know any other woman who could say that to her husband and that saddens me.

What's saddening you, that more couples don't feel open enough to ask for open relationships? I would say open relationships are very much not the norm and would end most marriages.

ahusband · 03-01-2018 01:29AM

AwareWolf wrote: »

So it turns out my husband thought I had already been with another guy, that I had asked after the event. This only came up after I was 12 days late with my last period....which never happens. He admitted it had crossed his mind. I hugged him and assured him it hadn't happened. A pang of sympathy and guilt with in me. He says he wasn't worried...it had just crossed his mind. Later that evening we had sex like never before, I initiated and had orgasims like never before. I can only assume me being open with him has lead to this and he was happy too. The other guy I must say became a distant memory after the way I felt that night. Now I just want more and more sex with husband. I'm back posting because there are idiots out there who are willing ready and able to condemn a woman in my position.....but not as quick to condemn men. It's men who have private messaged me.....in a similar position as me.....and feeling the same as me. As a society we need to wake up and realise we are sexual beings......we can feel like this and it doesn't make us bad people. I didn't cheat for those of you who keep using that word. I don't agree with cheating that's why I was up front with him. I don't know any other woman who could say that to her husband and that saddens me.

I'm glad that things are working out for you, hopefully you were just stuck in a rut & you can get what you both need at home. To me the pang of guilt you felt even without sleeping with the other man speaks volumes, if you felt guilty without doing it I wonder how you'd feel if you had, really hope it works out for you.

wakka12 · 03-01-2018 01:39AM

tomwaterford wrote: »

Cheating is way more common than the people of boards are willing to admit

Almost everyone I've ever worked with (both male and female) has cheated and alot of them it was an ongoing event

Cheating is relatively common but I don't believe the majority of people cheat on their longterm spouses. Based on my own social circles Id have estimated about 1 in 5 people cheat on their gf/bf/partner.
Out of my gay friends though it seems like about 30-50% cheat on each other :pac:

Most stats put it at 20-60%.
Boards seems to be extremely anti cheating, just that its mentioned so much on here as being a very bad thing, in real life it seems to be more normalised and accepted.

thesultan · 03-01-2018 01:16PM

AwareWolf wrote: »

You're being sarcastic I take it, this has been going round and round in my head. I just wanted opinions .... It's the reason I've joined boards. There's no one I can talk to about this..... Because my good old Catholic ireland family would KILL me.

What's your sex life like with your husband?

Affair / Sexual chemistry

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