Falling in love with another man

JupiterKid · 16-12-2017 03:41AM #1

There’s a guy doing the same yoga classes as me. We seem to have a lot in common and he’s well fit. We have gone for a coffee afterwards and talked a lot. I haven’t been in a long term relationship in years. Haven’t even had nookie in almost a year. I was eyeing him up today and he did likewise with me.

I think I’m falling for him but I don’t know if this is reciprocated. I fear rejection.

What should I do?

:o

SuperSean11 · 16-12-2017 03:44AM

Does having coffee after a yoga class not defeat the purpose?

JupiterKid · 16-12-2017 03:46AM

SuperSean11 wrote: »

Does having coffee after a yoga class not defeat the purpose?

Well, I wasn’t even sure he was gay until last week. Not all gay guys jump straight into the sack, believe it or not. I drink decaf coffee btw.

misstearheus · 16-12-2017 03:48AM

It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Ask him out for an alcoholic Coffee, and then for another type of a "Coffee" lol lol

:cool:

Summer wind · 16-12-2017 04:02AM

If you want him go get him. Life's too short for regrets.

JenovaProject · 16-12-2017 04:08AM

Go for it!
If its rejection youre only in the same place you started.

AllForIt · 16-12-2017 04:20AM

I think if your afraid to make a move then you have no choice but to stick with the current situation where in time you will either get the right signals or you won't.

JupiterKid · 16-12-2017 04:41AM

Thanks for the advice.

I will be bolder next week and be more direct with him. If it ends up in us having sex (or “making love”) then that will be great. But I will take things carefully. I don’t want to drive him away.

Canis Lupus · 16-12-2017 05:07AM

I think you whip your mickey out and challenge him to a duel although to be fair I'm not sure how gay people flirt so I could be wrong.

To be fair, if he has gone for coffee a few times then the obvious next step is a meal. If he says no then leave it at that. If yes drop into the shops for condoms, lube and leather bondage wear.

Mod-Banned

DivingDuck · 16-12-2017 05:54AM

Tell him you posted this thread in After Hours.

Your bravery will impress him so much that he'll be yours forever.

sabat · 16-12-2017 06:04AM

That moment when you realise a poster is a mental fantasist...

JupiterKid wrote: »

Well, my partner and I are planning on staying at a naturist resort in Spain in the spring of next year. It will be a mixed resort with many couples but not a gay exclusive resort as they seem to have gone downhill lately and some appear to have become very seedy and cruisey which is NOT what we are looking for. But that's what some people are into and yes, I have gone to such resorts in the past and have no shame about it.

Just being able to swim and sunbathe naked will mean great freedom and it is adjacent to a naturist beach. People of all kinds will be enjoying the sun au naturel. I understand that this is certainly not for everyone but IMO everyone should try it.

Last year I stayed at a naturist resort and met a lot of really friendly, interesting people. Lots of Germans, Scandinavians and not as many Irish and English. One guest was a senior English police officer who holidays in nude resorts with his wife and was so decent and friendly. Not sure he tells his colleagues back home where he holidays but I'd say in 2017 most wouldn't bat an eyelid.

You do get pervy single men at some of these beaches but the hotels tend to try to exclude them. Proper order. We are there to enjoy taking in the sun and swimming in complete freedom, not to be ogled at.

Looking forward already to the holiday!

https://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057582212/17

sabat · 16-12-2017 06:09AM

And here's your op for posterity in case you decide to edit it...

JupiterKid wrote: »

There’s a guy doing the same yoga classes as me. We seem to have a lot in common and he’s well fit. We have gone for a coffee afterwards and talked a lot. I haven’t been in a long term relationship in years. Haven’t even had nookie in almost a year. I was eyeing him up today and he did likewise with me.

I think I’m falling for him but I don’t know if this is reciprocated. I fear rejection.

What should I do? :o

judeboy101 · 16-12-2017 06:41AM

JupiterKid wrote: »

Well, I wasn’t even sure he was gay until last week. Not all gay guys jump straight into the sack, believe it or not. I drink decaf coffee btw.

Does drinking decaf coffee not defeat the purpose of drinking coffee?

DivingDuck · 16-12-2017 07:02AM

sabat wrote: »

That moment when you realise a poster is a mental fantasist...

Maybe they broke up? Maybe he's thinking of cheating on his boyfriend? Maybe they're in an open relationship?

I don't know the poster or his situation, but there are multiple possibilities to explain this beyond "this guy is unequivocally making crap up".

Canis Lupus · 16-12-2017 07:47AM

DivingDuck wrote: »

Maybe they broke up? Maybe he's thinking of cheating on his boyfriend? Maybe they're in an open relationship?

I don't know the poster or his situation, but there are multiple possibilities to explain this beyond "this guy is unequivocally making crap up".

Weird relationship to not classify it as a long term relationship or having sex for a year but referring to the person as his partner and planning on going overseas to a naturist resort.

I dunno, it's a crazy world we live in and for shame Jupiter. Now I can't trust anything you say. Are you even gay? Are you even a man?

DEFTLEFTHAND · 16-12-2017 08:10AM

Be sure that he is a homosxual before making a move.

I've seen a gay friend of mine getting this type of thing very wrong before. It wasn't nice.

Malayalam · 16-12-2017 08:17AM

Canis Lupus wrote: »

I dunno, it's a crazy world we live in and for shame Jupiter. Now I can't trust anything you say. Are you even gay? Are you even a man?

Is he even a kid? Or from Jupiter? :rolleyes:
I dunno, I thought the really weird thing was someone trawling back through another boardsies posts to try and make a liar out of them. I know which one I would prefer to have over to dinner. (Spoiler - and it ain't the trawler.)

Will I Am Not · 16-12-2017 08:25AM

sabat wrote: »

That moment when you realise a poster is a mental fantasist...

https://touch.boards.ie/thread/2057582212/17

Am I missing something? That post is from 2 years ago right?

gifted · 16-12-2017 08:26AM

Malayalam wrote: »

Is he even a kid? Or from Jupiter? :rolleyes:
I dunno, I thought the really weird thing was someone trawling back through another boardsies posts to try and make a liar out of them. I know which one I would prefer to have over to dinner. (Spoiler - and it ain't the trawler.)

Off you go there so ....ask him out??

16-12-2017 08:26AM

Malayalam wrote: »

Is he even a kid? Or from Jupiter? :rolleyes:
I dunno, I thought the really weird thing was someone trawling back through another boardsies posts to try and make a liar out of them. I know which one I would prefer to have over to dinner. (Spoiler - and it ain't the trawler.)

The "trawls" usually take a few seconds on the search facility here. It's not that weird, nor is it making a liar of anyone, it points to an apparent contradiction and asks someone to explain it.

Malayalam · 16-12-2017 08:28AM

The Fake Sheikh wrote: »

Am I missing something? That post is from 2 years ago right?

It isn't but what does it matter? Anecdotes are a mutable kind of thing, people could choose to reframe a more distant experience in the present or near past. What's the big deal? And even if people lie about silly things for amusement's sake, so what? Meh.

Malayalam · 16-12-2017 08:31AM

Deleted User wrote: »

The "trawls" usually take a few seconds on the search facility here. It's not that weird, nor is it making a liar of anyone, it points to an apparent contradiction and asks someone to explain it.

Uh? Two threads, one about enjoying nudity, one about asking a guy from a yoga class out, and someone has to explain ''apparent contradictions''. It's a fecking board on the internet, not a court of law.

Will I Am Not · 16-12-2017 08:35AM

Malayalam wrote: »

It isn't but what does it matter? Anecdotes are a mutable kind of thing, people could choose to reframe a more distant experience in the present or near past. What's the big deal? And even if people lie about silly things for amusement's sake, so what? Meh.

Oh right. I’m on the touch site and it says 2 years ago above the post.

I would often say ‘years ago’ when talking about something 1-2 years ago.

Malayalam · 16-12-2017 08:42AM

The Fake Sheikh wrote: »

Oh right. I’m on the touch site and it says 2 years ago above the post.

I would often say ‘years ago’ when talking about something 1-2 years ago.

Yep. My old writing mentor used to say we become writers (ie storytellers) the first time we tell a lie. Lie meaning all the variations including exaggeration, time dilation, changing characters, and so on and so forth. While I generally tell the truth about what I am prepared to share here (or else I don't share), I certainly don't feel bound by any charter or code of honour to be meticulously honest about every detail of every scintillating observation I make :rolleyes: on an anonymous internet board.

16-12-2017 08:44AM

Malayalam wrote: »

Uh? Two threads, one about enjoying nudity, one about asking a guy from a yoga class out, and someone has to explain ''apparent contradictions''. It's a fecking board on the internet, not a court of law.

The apparent contradiction is that one refers to not having a partner for a long time, and the other is from a few weeks back and refers to a partner in the present tense.

You are correct, it's not a Court of Law, it's only an internet board, and that applies to you questioning the relevance and motives of sabat's observation.

corner of hells · 16-12-2017 08:46AM

Can we not just have a thread about travellers, homelessness, unemployed for a change ?

vicwatson · 16-12-2017 08:49AM

JupiterKid wrote: »

There’s a guy doing the same yoga classes as me. We seem to have a lot in common and he’s well fit. We have gone for a coffee afterwards and talked a lot. I haven’t been in a long term relationship in years. Haven’t even had nookie in almost a year. I was eyeing him up today and he did likewise with me.

I think I’m falling for him but I don’t know if this is reciprocated. I fear rejection.

What should I do? :o

Lost interest at “well fit”:o

Malayalam · 16-12-2017 08:49AM

corner of hells wrote: »

Can we not just have a thread about travellers, homelessness, unemployed for a change ?

HandsomeBob · 16-12-2017 08:53AM

Sounds like you've the hard part done already.

All things considered, you haven't got a whole lot to lose by asking him. This is how it should be done.

corner of hells wrote: »

Can we not just have a thread about travellers, homelessness, unemployed for a change ?

You forgot religion and abortion ffs

Avatar MIA · 16-12-2017 08:53AM

The OP mentions "another" man, although no fumble for a year sounds... more like a hetro marriage

begbysback · 16-12-2017 08:54AM

vicwatson wrote: »

Lost interest at “well fit”:o

Well he is doing yoga

Falling in love with another man

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