Should men consider taking the wife's name after tying the knot?

suicide_circus · 02-11-2017 05:46PM

Ipso wrote: »

Surnames started in Ireland very early (with the UiNiall dynasty I think), but they were mainly used for the elite.
I got into DNA testing and population genetics a while back and it looks like surname adoption was a bit fluid to say the least.
Have a look at www.familytreedna.com , they have surname projects. Go to a few Irish surnames and you'll see they are made of various lineages.
Be it people adopting names for various reasons, being forced to adopt surnames, cuckoldry, informal adoptions etc.
Take Walsh for example, it's something like the 5th most popular name in Ireland and the meaning is basically a Welsh person (implying the Cambro Normans and their cohort), but it's safe to say a large number of Welsh men didn't replace the Irish population.

Ah but my surname is not of these Isles

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 02-11-2017 05:57PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I shall endeavour to avoid going into my "end of the road" mode of discourse

But most of the time it is, imo.

And if it's over something as featherlight as this, then yes, yes it definitely is imo

People choosing whatever they want for themselves is nothing about point scoring, or whatever it is. Your opinion is very blinkered. Just because you see it as point scoring, doesn't make it so. Some will do it for this reason, but most will not.

Ipso · 02-11-2017 05:57PM

suicide_circus wrote: »

Ah but my surname is not of these Isles

Is it something like McAsia or O'Lithuania?

retro:electro · 02-11-2017 06:14PM

joe stodge wrote: »

WHIP CRACKING SOUND....

02-11-2017 06:15PM

Braylee Aggressive Nag wrote: »

People choosing whatever they want for themselves is nothing about point scoring, or whatever it is. Your opinion is very blinkered. Just because you see it as point scoring, doesn't make it so. Some will do it for this reason, but most will not.

Cool

suicide_circus · 02-11-2017 06:18PM

Ipso wrote: »

Is it something like McAsia or O'Lithuania?

No, proper foreign

retro:electro · 02-11-2017 06:22PM

I'm in a pickle because I don't like my surname but I don't like his surname either, and if I choose his surname then I'll have the same name as his sister. Hmm. Maybe I'll just get a new boyfriend. Yea, that one.

Ipso · 02-11-2017 06:44PM

Anyway isn't a woman's surname still just the name her mother took from her husband, it's a vicious circle of unconscious male oppression.

Donald Trump · 02-11-2017 06:44PM

anna080 wrote: »

I'm in a pickle because I don't like my surname but I don't like his surname either, and if I choose his surname then I'll have the same name as his sister. Hmm. Maybe I'll just get a new boyfriend. Yea, that one.

Bit presumptuous there m'lady.

cbyrd · 02-11-2017 06:56PM

How about a mashup of both surnames and make a completely new one.. I think it could solve so many double barrel disasters and keep everyone quiet.. (except the mil, they're never happy)

02-11-2017 07:08PM

Jack White of The White Stripes did this, White was Meg’s name.

FTA69 · 02-11-2017 07:13PM

You'd have to question the sort of fella who'd go out of his way to take his wife's name, pure statement-making and attention seeking if I've ever seen it.

If you believe a woman taking her husband's name name is archaic nonsense then fair enough, but sure the sensible thing would be to keep ye're own names?

eviltwin · 02-11-2017 07:46PM

Really couldn't care less what a couple chooses to do with names post marriage. Personal choice and no one's business.

Shenshen · 02-11-2017 09:26PM

I've got a few couples in my circle of friends who did opt for the woman's name. Usually because the man's name was either a bit embarrassing, or long or awkward to spell. But a lot have simply each kept their own name.

I chose to go with my husband's name, because it's a lot shorter and easier to spell than my original family name. I thought it was a good idea, not having to spend so much time spelling it to people and them still getting it wrong any more, but then I found out how much hassle it is to change your bank accounts, pass port, email address, logins, etc. And that's even before I tried to make them change it in my place of work... I still have 2 email addresses there, which both point to the same account.

irishman86 · 02-11-2017 09:34PM

Father Hernandez wrote: »

Met an American guy a few years ago who married another American lady with an Irish surname.

He took her name to sound 'Irish' and thought it was great how we were both great Irishmen when I met him for the first time.

Therefore, I am against this

Who ever told you Hernandez was a Irish surname was lying to you :pac:

Sam Quentin · 02-11-2017 09:42PM

May as well take her name, save all the embarrassment in a few years when your separated or divorced... She'll probably get the kids anyway!?

ToddyDoody · 02-11-2017 09:43PM

I don't think my parents would be too happy with me starting the trend of dropping my family name just because a few ppl in the UK have done it.

buried · 02-11-2017 09:52PM

Lose your name first.
Lose your gaff later.

02-11-2017 10:51PM

Alan Warriner, the darts player, became Alan Warriner-Little after his marriage.

Wouldn't see any particular issue one way or another. My wife didn't change her name, it was a non-issue.

corner of hells · 02-11-2017 11:51PM

Donald Trump wrote: »

kylith wrote: »

A friend of mine has a very unusual name, in fact were she to take her partner's name should she get married there would then be no-one with her surname in the country. In that case I think her husband should take her name, to ensure that the kids would have it too and save it from dying out.

I know her. but there is a reason why her name is dying out.

I heard Daniel Day Lewis might come out of retirement to do a film about her

"Mary, last of the Cuntfaces"

Fcuk you Trump , those Cuntfaces have been around a long time.

On a more serious note unless her maiden name was something like Messi , I wouldn't take her name .

PandaPoo · 03-11-2017 12:00AM

cbyrd wrote: »

How about a mashup of both surnames and make a completely new one.. I think it could solve so many double barrel disasters and keep everyone quiet.. (except the mil, they're never happy)

I liked that idea. The mash up of our surnames would be Staloney. Thought that was pretty cool.

I took my husband's surname, I wanted rid of mine asap as I had my birth mothers surname. It was a really nice name though, pity.

flaneur · 03-11-2017 12:03AM

Maybe just combine your names and go double barrel?

I'd be interested to know how gay couples do this as there's no gender bias on it.

jaxxx · 03-11-2017 12:03AM

I actually would without question. But that's because I hate my surname. Yes, I could legally change it but I wouldn't want to offend my parents. Well not offend but... you know what I mean. Taking her name when I marry is the perfect excuse reason!

Though I never actually want to get married so that could be slightly inhibiting towards the whole name change... thing.

03-11-2017 12:08AM

No

sbs2010 · 03-11-2017 12:23AM

In Iran the women don't change their names. The idea of changing names doesn't make sense to them - as in why would you change your name when you got married?

Children do take their father's name.

All makes perfect sense to me as one surname is enough for anyone.

Sam Quentin · 03-11-2017 01:58AM

I don't see why any man would do that!? Didn't we give them the vote, isn't that good enough..... Ohhhhh and we make small size shoes for them, so they can get closer to the kitchen sink

Oldtree · 03-11-2017 02:13AM

I wouldn't want to change my name and I don't see why women should either, I would get terribly confused. My wife did by choice, but continues to work under her maiden name.

It seems a shame to me if there are only daughters in a family that the name dies out.

A relation married an only German girl and their solution was that the children now have double barrel surnames. Which seems fair. Not sure how they sorted out which surname came first though.

Badly Drunk Boy · 03-11-2017 03:08AM

Ipso wrote: »

Let's go Viking and just throw a son or dotter at the end of the parents first name.

But they normally throw the son or dottir after the father's first name, eg Olaf Magnosson's kids would be Thor Olafsson and Helga Olafsdottir.

Lyle Lanley · 03-11-2017 03:32AM

kylith wrote: »

A friend of mine has a very unusual name, in fact were she to take her partner's name should she get married there would then be no-one with her surname in the country. In that case I think her husband should take her name, to ensure that the kids would have it too and save it from dying out.

Just give the kids her name. He doesn't need to change his..

03-11-2017 03:41AM

PandaPoo wrote: »

I liked that idea. The mash up of our surnames would be Staloney. Thought that was pretty cool.

Wait, is your bloke called Stalin?!

Should men consider taking the wife's name after tying the knot?

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