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#MeToo has caught on, good thing or bad thing ?

  • 20-10-2017 01:27PM
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    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 233 ✭✭Hooks Golf Handicap


    One side of the argument is that it empowers the victim to come forward, the ground swell of public opinion seems to be behind them.

    The other side is the undermining the accused right to a fair defense.

    What says Boards ?, a good thing or a bad thing.

    How do you feel about #MeToo 345 votes

    #MeToo is a good thing
    0% 0 votes
    #MeToo is a dangerous thing
    41% 142 votes
    What's #MeToo & can I join
    58% 203 votes


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Comments

  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,875 ✭✭✭A Little Pony


    Another pointless social media nonsense which will be forgotten about in a few days time. Pretty much like #prayfor rubbish.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,234 ✭✭✭Dr. Kenneth Noisewater


    Some fella looked at my arse in Dunnes on Wednesday.

    #MeToo


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,029 ✭✭✭um7y1h83ge06nx


    It will get to a stage soon where people will feel there is something wrong with them if they haven't been raped or sexually assaulted.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 233 ✭✭Hooks Golf Handicap


    Another pointless social media nonsense which will be forgotten about in a few days time. Pretty much like #prayfor rubbish.

    I still have FB "friends" that have the opaque French Flag in their profile pic.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,568 ✭✭✭BillyBobBS


    Some fella looked at my arse in Dunnes on Wednesday.

    #MeToo

    I was admiring your jeans.

    #dontlockmeup


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,460 ✭✭✭Barry Badrinath


    A girl eye fcuked me once #MeToo.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,969 ✭✭✭Assetbacked


    #prayformetoo


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,400 ✭✭✭me_irl


    X6asGEa.jpg


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    It seems a bit hollow to me. It's like the latest social media challenge but instead of getting a bucket of water over your head it's "hey everyone, let's all say we've been assaulted and let everyone speculate in the comments as to who it could be". I've seen people name people in the comments and this just seems so wrong to me.

    To clarify: I think it's always a good idea to speak up about abuse and if people find comfort in the strength in numbers then I'm fine with that. But there are ways of doing these things- and trial by social media kangaroo court is not a fair way- IMO.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,300 ✭✭✭✭razorblunt


    Extremely hollow for me, how can any of the claims be verified? There's band wagon jumping here too.
    The acts that did occur are inexcusable but I think this trivialises those incidents.

    It's like the actual claims against Weinstein, they were obviously numerous and solid enough for the story to break and have the effect that its had but then you have the likes of Brunker jumping on that and trying to grab attention, this #metoo feels similar in a way.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,021 ✭✭✭Donal55


    Rod Stewards bird this morning.
    #HeresAnotherOne


  • Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Would be nice if the OP told us what the significance of #MeToo is. Are we meant to guess? Just click an option at random maybe? Tell us what we're meant to get outraged at please.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,735 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    Neknominations
    Ice Bucket Challenge
    No Make Up Selfie
    #PrayFor
    #MeToo

    Are these all the modern day chain letters??

    To thine own self be true



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,667 ✭✭✭Hector Bellend


    #haveawank


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,021 ✭✭✭Donal55


    #U2


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,452 ✭✭✭✭The_Valeyard


    #prayformojo


  • Posts: 11,195 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    It's neither a good nor a bad thing, it's a fairly cheap and ambiguous expression of a very vague sentiment.

    Hashtags eh


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,452 ✭✭✭✭The_Valeyard


    It's neither a good nor a bad thing, it's a fairly cheap and ambiguous expression of a very vague sentiment.

    Hashtags eh

    #Eh


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,786 ✭✭✭wakka12


    ugh social media is the absolute worst


  • Posts: 26,920 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    If it gives people a way to talk about their sexual abuse - who might not have been able to before (for whatever reason), then surely it's a good thing?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 446 ✭✭__..__


    It will get to a stage soon where people will feel there is something wrong with them if they haven't been raped or sexually assaulted.

    I think we are at that stage.
    One of the girls at work said today that she likes getting wolf whistles. Well I couldn't believe the attack on her by the other women . It was savage. Poor girl will never say that again I can tell you.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,827 ✭✭✭AnneFrank


    ah yes the bullying that now exists if you do not have the general, online opinion of the snowflake mass's.
    Never was this more apparent than the gay marriage referendum,
    god help you if you didn't agree, forget the fact there was a democratic vote,
    no, you were scum of the earth and labelled a homophobe if you disagreed.
    and now all men are rapists/bullys/racists ect
    #it'salesbianwomansworld


  • Posts: 26,920 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    AnneFrank wrote: »
    ah yes the bullying that now exists if you do not have the general, online opinion of the snowflake mass's.
    Never was this more apparent than the gay marriage referendum,
    god help you if you didn't agree, forget the fact there was a democratic vote,
    no, you were scum of the earth and labelled a homophobe if you disagreed.
    and now all men are rapists/bullys/racists ect
    #it'salesbianwomansworld

    What in the name of f*ck are you even on about?

    It just feels like there's an alt-right soundboard and you're pressing buttons trying to make full sentences.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,875 ✭✭✭A Little Pony


    __..__ wrote: »
    It will get to a stage soon where people will feel there is something wrong with them if they haven't been raped or sexually assaulted.

    I think we are at that stage.
    One of the girls at work said today that she likes getting wolf whistles.  Well I couldn't believe the attack on her by the other women .  It was savage.  Poor girl will never say that again I can tell you.
    The other women are probably ugly.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,633 ✭✭✭flexcon


    AnneFrank wrote: »
    ah yes the bullying that now exists if you do not have the general, online opinion of the snowflake mass's.
    Never was this more apparent than the gay marriage referendum,
    god help you if you didn't agree, forget the fact there was a democratic vote,
    no, you were scum of the earth and labelled a homophobe if you disagreed.
    and now all men are rapists/bullys/racists ect
    #it'salesbianwomansworld



    honestly made perfect sense to me. I echo this in many ways.

    It's why the world was shocked when Trump came in, why nertherlands nearly voted in a Naxi party, why UK is leaving thanks to brexit.

    The masses are strangely not as mass consensus as they seem to think sometimes.

    Anyway, way off thread!

    I'm not sure how I feel about the #metoo. I saw two friends who said it on Facebook, one being kinda close. I asked them about it, and either didn't want to say anything more, or was unsure if to say anything. So it became an awkward moment when she made public with the #metoo but actually wouldnt talk about it in person.

    If it did any good for her, and genuinely got the courage to say #metoo because of the sudden power and surge of attention behind this - then that's all fine. Undecided what to think since when asked further - no further details are given ...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,030 ✭✭✭✭bucketybuck


    "#metoo"

    "Aw hun, wat happned u?"

    "Cant say, they no who dey are tho"

    "awww hugs luv, men are horrible but your strong aint u and dey".

    Basically a bunch of drama Ilamas on facebook are the last people you want associated with your crusade.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,249 ✭✭✭ Gary Dazzling Meadow


    __..__ wrote: »
    I think we are at that stage.
    One of the girls at work said today that she likes getting wolf whistles. Well I couldn't believe the attack on her by the other women . It was savage. Poor girl will never say that again I can tell you.

    People are going to trivialize it - is wolf whistling assault really? Will a fella asking a woman on a date now be harassement-assault?

    It’s going down a slippery slope by the 3rd wave feminists , sjws and social media bandwagoners trivializing real assault cases and not I was wolf whistled at


  • Posts: 11,195 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    If it gives people a way to talk about their sexual abuse - who might not have been able to before (for whatever reason), then surely it's a good thing?

    That's a huge if, though.

    And it's hardly a safe space nor a very constructive one bytimes.

    And I mean.....what's 'sexual harrassment' (not a question you'd be well advised to ask anywhere in public in these circumstances but it's kind of crucial to the debate)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,885 ✭✭✭DeanAustin


    flexcon wrote: »
    honestly made perfect sense to me. I echo this in many ways.

    It's why the world was shocked when Trump came in, why nertherlands nearly voted in a Naxi party, why UK is leaving thanks to brexit.

    The masses are strangely not as mass consensus as they seem to think sometimes.

    Anyway, way off thread!

    I'm not sure how I feel about the #metoo. I saw two friends who said it on Facebook, one being kinda close. I asked them about it, and either didn't want to say anything more, or was unsure if to say anything. So it became an awkward moment when she made public with the #metoo but actually wouldnt talk about it in person.

    If it did any good for her, and genuinely got the courage to say #metoo because of the sudden power and surge of attention behind this - then that's all fine. Undecided what to think since when asked further - no further details are given ...

    What’s the point though? If someone has a genuine complaint, then why not contact the Gardai?

    I guess the counter argument is that there may not be enough evidence or they don’t want to confront the person who assaulted them. In that case, maybe this helps your friend (or people like her) to talk about it which could be a good thing in terms of dealing with it. But your friend doesn’t want to do that either.

    However, beyond that it’s just exacerbating the feeling of being a victim (which I don’t think is a good thing in itself) or jumping on a bandwagon which lots of people will do to get some attention.

    Someone said it earlier, this is social media at its worst.

    Sexual assault is a heinous, disgusting crime. So is exploiting it to jump on a bandwagon in my view and this campaign encourages that sort of behaviour.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,633 ✭✭✭flexcon


    DeanAustin wrote: »
    What’s the point though? If someone has a genuine complaint, then why not contact the Gardai?

    I guess the counter argument is that there may not be enough evidence or they don’t want to confront the person who assaulted them. In that case, maybe this helps your friend (or people like her) to talk about it which could be a good thing in terms of dealing with it. But your friend doesn’t want to do that either.

    However, beyond that it’s just exacerbating the feeling of being a victim (which I don’t think is a good thing in itself) or jumping on a bandwagon which lots of people will do to get some attention.

    Someone said it earlier, this is social media at its worst.

    Sexual assault is a heinous, disgusting crime. So is exploiting it to jump on a bandwagon in my view and this campaign encourages that sort of behaviour.


    Well see this is where I am confused to how I view it now.

    I always put my head back in to say I cannot understand what they are thinking or feeling since I haven't experienced this myself.

    Interesting point though

    ".......... beyond that it’s just exacerbating the feeling of being a victim (which I don’t think is a good thing in itself) or jumping on a bandwagon which lots of people will do to get some attention...."

    Sheep mentality always comes into it, Kony 2012, Ice bucket challenge etc. Sometimes it does good, sometimes not.


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