Is it bad to be an attention seeker?

nigel_wilson · 24-09-2017 05:00PM #1

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

Now I'll give it to her that maybe I might try and give off too much info, but certainly If you ask me about what I enjoy, I'll tell you. And besides, even if it is attention seeking, what's wrong about that?

barneygumble99 · 24-09-2017 05:03PM

nigel_wilson wrote: »

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

Now I'll give it to her that maybe I might try and give off too much info, but certainly If you ask me about what I enjoy, I'll tell you. And besides, even if it is attention seeking, what's wrong about that?

Going back to the original question, what behaviours do you consider attention seeking and what's the worst you've experienced?

Starting a thread about attention seeking on boards

cml387 · 24-09-2017 05:07PM

And.. Nigel????

_Kaiser_ · 24-09-2017 05:19PM

Liking 80s music makes you look cooler now?

FINALLY... it's taken 42 years but I'm cool!!!!!

(Oh and I've been told I speak "poshly" too... are we related?)

me_irl · 24-09-2017 05:21PM

cml387 wrote: »

And.. Nigel????

Probably another attention seeking music reference...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s29RKnB7l7o

Are Am Eye · 24-09-2017 05:22PM

Do you like Phil Collins? I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I've heard in rock. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.

OldMrBrennan83 · 24-09-2017 05:25PM

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alchemist33 · 24-09-2017 05:25PM

cml387 wrote: »

And.. Nigel????

Apparently Nigels are becoming extinct in their natural habitat, England. No Nigels were named last year.

kfallon · 24-09-2017 05:28PM

nigel_wilson wrote: »

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

That was 'the laugh of your life'? Forgive me if I don't buy your autobiography in the future!

mikemac2 · 24-09-2017 05:31PM

I liked their early material before they went mainstream
They abandoned their roots and sold out to commercialism
My favorite band? Oh you would never have heard of them *sneer*

Do you say these phrases OP? There is always one

Ten of Swords · 24-09-2017 05:32PM

nigel_wilson wrote: »

This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly"

FFS, she sounds like a keeper

So did you score or not?

5rtytry56 · 24-09-2017 05:38PM

alchemist33 wrote: »

Apparently Nigels are becoming extinct in their natural habitat, England. No Nigels were named last year.

To add more detail for sake of the OP in this quest:
There was this TV series set in the early 1980's,
"The secret diaries of Adrian Mole" This was continued to "Adrian Mole the cappucino years" around the year 1997.
Now, Adrian Mole's arch rival was called Nigel, - he succeeded where poor Adrian could not by marrying Adrian's sweetheart Pandora.
This DEVASTATED Adrian.

On a separate point OP I put all attention seekers on boards onmy Ignore List.

_Kaiser_ · 24-09-2017 05:40PM

5rtytry56 wrote: »

To add more detail for sake of the OP in this quest:
There was this TV series set in the early 1980's,
"The secret diaries of Adrian Mole" This was continued to "Adrian Mole the cappucino years" around the year 1997.
Now, Adrian Mole's arch rival was called Nigel, - he succeeded where poor Adrian could not by marrying Adrian's sweetheart Pandora.
This DEVASTATED Adrian.

On a separate point OP I put all attention seekers on boards onmy Ignore List.

I remember having to read that shyte in school back in the day... awful stuff!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1 · 24-09-2017 05:57PM

The symptoms you describe aren't those of an attention seeker but more like those of someone being a pain in the ass.

Widdershins · 24-09-2017 06:01PM

I would only class extreme behaviours like naked Facebook selfies as attention seeking and I think they're a cry for help. You probably weren't aware that you ''speak posh''? I've had that one, too, and I was surprised.

RE Music, well a lot of people like 80's music. You like what you like. So?

24-09-2017 06:05PM

kfallon wrote: »

That was 'the laugh of your life'? Forgive me if I don't buy your autobiography in the future!

I think the adjective for that put down is "withering"!

5rtytry56 · 24-09-2017 06:10PM

About the same really as feeding an online troll anywhere OP.

Loon E. Tick · 24-09-2017 06:13PM

I would think she probably meant to say pretentious. Attention seeking is more the domain of trolls and their ilk. It's compensatory behaviour for feeling ignored or invalidated at some stage in the past and they spend their lives trying to rectify that where it becomes almost hardwired into their brain.

5rtytry56 · 24-09-2017 06:15PM

Yeah, Pretentious or I believe even more aptly 'Wannabe'

mzungu · 24-09-2017 06:20PM

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Liking 80s music makes you look cooler now?

FINALLY... it's taken 42 years but I'm cool!!!!!

80s music was always cool. The big problem was that Western culture got a bit too uppity (must have been the buzz of winning the Cold War) and decided that the 80s were to be derided. This only happened in the West, everywhere else in the world did not have that same snooty attitude towards it. Finally, after two decades of being treated as a leper, the 80s have come back from exile and are now beginning to reassert themselves in their natural home at the forefront of Western culture.

Nabber · 24-09-2017 06:29PM

Depends OP...

I reckon your posh accent is fake and secretly love Ed Sheeran

nigel_wilson · 24-09-2017 06:33PM

Ten of Swords wrote: »

FFS, she sounds like a keeper

So did you score or not?

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

wakka12 · 24-09-2017 06:38PM

Well depends what type of people you get along with. But I find attention seekers absolutely insufferable

Jawgap · 24-09-2017 06:39PM

nigel_wilson wrote: »

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

Listens to 80s music......too pretty in a feminine way.......

......feckin' New Romantics - yiz were never cool!!!! 😀😀😀

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_pe7CDvp5M

Tell me how · 24-09-2017 06:46PM

She didn't finish up with "F*** off back to Poland" did she OP?

Hannibal_Smith · 24-09-2017 06:47PM

Laugh of your life ey?

Widdershins · 24-09-2017 07:17PM

nigel_wilson wrote: »

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

Was there anything else wrong with you?

ToddyDoody · 24-09-2017 07:21PM

I like attention too but I never know what to do with it.

Your Face · 24-09-2017 08:29PM

Ponce.

pablo128 · 24-09-2017 10:45PM

mzungu wrote: »

80s music was always cool. The big problem was that Western culture got a bit too uppity (must have been the buzz of winning the Cold War) and decided that the 80s were to be derided. This only happened in the West, everywhere else in the world did not have that same snooty attitude towards it. Finally, after two decades of being treated as a leper, the 80s have come back from exile and are now beginning to reassert themselves in their natural home at the forefront of Western culture.

Ah go way. 80s music was sh1te then and its still sh1te now.

With the sole exception of Guns n Roses.

Aglomerado · 25-09-2017 01:05PM

I was on the Luas yesterday and a guy talking about young children exclaimed loudly that they were "A Tabula Rasa".

Oh, how clever you are.

Is it bad to be an attention seeker?

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