Is it bad to be an attention seeker?

nigel_wilson

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

Now I'll give it to her that maybe I might try and give off too much info, but certainly If you ask me about what I enjoy, I'll tell you. And besides, even if it is attention seeking, what's wrong about that?

barneygumble99

nigel_wilson wrote: »

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

Now I'll give it to her that maybe I might try and give off too much info, but certainly If you ask me about what I enjoy, I'll tell you. And besides, even if it is attention seeking, what's wrong about that?

Going back to the original question, what behaviours do you consider attention seeking and what's the worst you've experienced?

Starting a thread about attention seeking on boards

cml387

And.. Nigel????

_Kaiser_

Liking 80s music makes you look cooler now?

FINALLY... it's taken 42 years but I'm cool!!!!!

(Oh and I've been told I speak "poshly" too... are we related?)

me_irl

cml387 wrote: »

And.. Nigel????

Probably another attention seeking music reference...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s29RKnB7l7o

Are Am Eye

Do you like Phil Collins? I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I've heard in rock. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.

OldMrBrennan83

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alchemist33

cml387 wrote: »

And.. Nigel????

Apparently Nigels are becoming extinct in their natural habitat, England. No Nigels were named last year.

kfallon

nigel_wilson wrote: »

I just had the laugh of my life yesterday, This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly" as well as listen to popular 80s music to make myself look cooler. Apparently, I try and sound too smart when talking about my favorite musicians.

That was 'the laugh of your life'? Forgive me if I don't buy your autobiography in the future!

mikemac2

• I liked their early material before they went mainstream
• They abandoned their roots and sold out to commercialism
• My favorite band? Oh you would never have heard of them *sneer*

Do you say these phrases OP? There is always one

Ten of Swords

nigel_wilson wrote: »

This girl and I were having a few beers and she revealed to me that she thinks I'm a bit of an attention seeker because I speak "poshly"

FFS, she sounds like a keeper

So did you score or not?

5rtytry56

alchemist33 wrote: »

Apparently Nigels are becoming extinct in their natural habitat, England. No Nigels were named last year.

To add more detail for sake of the OP in this quest:
There was this TV series set in the early 1980's,
"The secret diaries of Adrian Mole" This was continued to "Adrian Mole the cappucino years" around the year 1997.
Now, Adrian Mole's arch rival was called Nigel, - he succeeded where poor Adrian could not by marrying Adrian's sweetheart Pandora.
This DEVASTATED Adrian.

On a separate point OP I put all attention seekers on boards onmy Ignore List.

_Kaiser_

5rtytry56 wrote: »

To add more detail for sake of the OP in this quest:
There was this TV series set in the early 1980's,
"The secret diaries of Adrian Mole" This was continued to "Adrian Mole the cappucino years" around the year 1997.
Now, Adrian Mole's arch rival was called Nigel, - he succeeded where poor Adrian could not by marrying Adrian's sweetheart Pandora.
This DEVASTATED Adrian.

On a separate point OP I put all attention seekers on boards onmy Ignore List.

I remember having to read that shyte in school back in the day... awful stuff!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

The symptoms you describe aren't those of an attention seeker but more like those of someone being a pain in the ass.

Widdershins

I would only class extreme behaviours like naked Facebook selfies as attention seeking and I think they're a cry for help. You probably weren't aware that you ''speak posh''? I've had that one, too, and I was surprised.

RE Music, well a lot of people like 80's music. You like what you like. So?

kfallon

kfallon wrote: »

That was 'the laugh of your life'? Forgive me if I don't buy your autobiography in the future!

I think the adjective for that put down is "withering"!

5rtytry56

About the same really as feeding an online troll anywhere OP.

Loon E. Tick

I would think she probably meant to say pretentious. Attention seeking is more the domain of trolls and their ilk. It's compensatory behaviour for feeling ignored or invalidated at some stage in the past and they spend their lives trying to rectify that where it becomes almost hardwired into their brain.

5rtytry56

Yeah, Pretentious or I believe even more aptly 'Wannabe'

mzungu

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Liking 80s music makes you look cooler now?

FINALLY... it's taken 42 years but I'm cool!!!!!

80s music was always cool. The big problem was that Western culture got a bit too uppity (must have been the buzz of winning the Cold War) and decided that the 80s were to be derided. This only happened in the West, everywhere else in the world did not have that same snooty attitude towards it. Finally, after two decades of being treated as a leper, the 80s have come back from exile and are now beginning to reassert themselves in their natural home at the forefront of Western culture.

Nabber

Depends OP...

I reckon your posh accent is fake and secretly love Ed Sheeran

nigel_wilson

Ten of Swords wrote: »

FFS, she sounds like a keeper

So did you score or not?

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

wakka12

Well depends what type of people you get along with. But I find attention seekers absolutely insufferable

Jawgap

nigel_wilson wrote: »

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

Listens to 80s music......too pretty in a feminine way.......

......feckin' New Romantics - yiz were never cool!!!! 😀😀😀

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_pe7CDvp5M

Tell me how

She didn't finish up with "F*** off back to Poland" did she OP?

Hannibal_Smith

Laugh of your life ey?

Widdershins

nigel_wilson wrote: »

No, unfortunately she think's I'm too pretty in a feminine way but she's not sexually attracted to me. She says that she's more attracted to masculine men.

Was there anything else wrong with you?

ToddyDoody

I like attention too but I never know what to do with it.

Your Face

Ponce.

pablo128

mzungu wrote: »

80s music was always cool. The big problem was that Western culture got a bit too uppity (must have been the buzz of winning the Cold War) and decided that the 80s were to be derided. This only happened in the West, everywhere else in the world did not have that same snooty attitude towards it. Finally, after two decades of being treated as a leper, the 80s have come back from exile and are now beginning to reassert themselves in their natural home at the forefront of Western culture.

Ah go way. 80s music was sh1te then and its still sh1te now.

With the sole exception of Guns n Roses.

Aglomerado

I was on the Luas yesterday and a guy talking about young children exclaimed loudly that they were "A Tabula Rasa".

Oh, how clever you are.

For Forks Sake

Have you ever spent a prolonged period of time discussing business cards?

Bandana boy

Are Am Eye wrote: »

Do you like Phil Collins? I've been a big Genesis fan ever since the release of their 1980 album, Duke. Before that, I really didn't understand any of their work. Too artsy, too intellectual. It was on Duke where Phil Collins' presence became more apparent. I think Invisible Touch was the group's undisputed masterpiece. It's an epic meditation on intangibility. At the same time, it deepens and enriches the meaning of the preceding three albums. Listen to the brilliant ensemble playing of Banks, Collins and Rutherford. You can practically hear every nuance of every instrument. Sabrina, remove your dress. In terms of lyrical craftsmanship, the sheer songwriting, this album hits a new peak of professionalism. Take the lyrics to Land of Confusion. In this song, Phil Collins addresses the problems of abusive political authority. In Too Deep is the most moving pop song of the 1980s, about monogamy and commitment. The song is extremely uplifting. Their lyrics are as positive and affirmative as anything I've heard in rock. Phil Collins' solo career seems to be more commercial and therefore more satisfying, in a narrower way. Especially songs like In the Air Tonight and Against All Odds. But I also think Phil Collins works best within the confines of the group, than as a solo artist, and I stress the word artist. This is Sussudio, a great, great song, a personal favorite.

Hey PAUL !

me_irl

Bandana boy wrote: »

Hey PAUL !

mzungu

mzungu wrote: »

80s music was always cool. The big problem was that Western culture got a bit too uppity (must have been the buzz of winning the Cold War) and decided that the 80s were to be derided. This only happened in the West, everywhere else in the world did not have that same snooty attitude towards it. Finally, after two decades of being treated as a leper, the 80s have come back from exile and are now beginning to reassert themselves in their natural home at the forefront of Western culture.

I disagree. 80s music has been popular since Wave 103 in Vice City reminded us how good it was and made it socially acceptable to say you like it! So it's been popular for 15 years and socially acceptable to admit you like it since about 2008 at least. :P

JupiterKid

80s music was a very mixed bag - some superb work by bands like The Eurythmics, The Smiths, the Cure, Talk Talk, Kate Bush, Cyndi Lauper, The Pretenders etc but some complete and utter crap like most of the Stock/Aitken/Waterman output. As for Genesis? Good from 1977 to about 1985 and then just pure bland.

Personally, musically I'm a 70s and 90s fan myself.

But back to attention-seeking. Maybe she was just jealous?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Aglomerado wrote: »

I was on the Luas yesterday and a guy talking about young children exclaimed loudly that they were "A Tabula Rasa".

Oh, how clever you are.

I was talking to a guy recently who thought my brother and I were twins. He got all flustered and defensive (I'm 6 years older, I was fcuking delighted like!) and said he knows a set of twins with our same names so that's how his mind must have been working. I made some stupid jokey comment about it being a little known fact that 90% of Mynames and Brosnames are actually twins.

Fcuker told me that was an 'ad hominem attack'. In fairness he was 19 or so, probably just learned it.

mzungu

Deleted User wrote: »

I disagree. 80s music has been popular since Wave 103 in Vice City reminded us how good it was and made it socially acceptable to say you like it! So it's been popular for 15 years and socially acceptable to admit you like it since about 2008 at least. :P

2008?? Maybe in more progressive societies :pac::pac: It was still very much a dirty secret in the 2008 I knew. That said, I will grant that stuff like Wave 103 in Vice City may very well have started the ball rolling towards acceptance....a cultural Trojan Horse, if you will. But mainstream acknowledgement was still a long way off.