Handling your Daughter's idiot boyfriend correctly

Schwanz · 04-08-2017 12:29AM #1

I'm sure lots have been in this situation where their son/daughter have been going out with that other half we just don't like because we know they are not good enough & all that jazz.....

Just wondering how to tell her without coming off that a**ehole Daddy

nelly17 · 04-08-2017 12:33AM

I don't know but its something I'll no doubt encounter for both my girls in a few years. But I do know this when I was a teenager if someone said I could'nt do something I damn well done it.

Jim Bob Scratcher · 04-08-2017 12:47AM

Praise her boyfriend to the last, use reverse psychology

Are Am Eye · 04-08-2017 12:51AM

http://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/uncle-buck.jpg

Schwanz · 04-08-2017 12:52AM

Are Am Eye wrote: »

http://static.tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pub/images/uncle-buck.jpg

Lmao made me chuckle

andekwarhola · 04-08-2017 12:56AM

Extend over the top approval, cultivate their friendship and praise them effusively to your kid.

They'll be dumped immediately.

stimpson · 04-08-2017 12:57AM

Make a pass at him. Be grand.

nelly17 · 04-08-2017 01:00AM

Well played

Wexfordboy89 · 04-08-2017 01:01AM

stimpson wrote: »

Make a pass at him. Be grand.

do your best mr T voice and say "looking mighty fine in those tight jeans"

Lol gotta love eddie murphy back in the day

jebus28 · 04-08-2017 01:02AM

Is your daughter ok with you handling him?

04-08-2017 01:04AM

Out of curiosity, why is he not good enough?

I have popcorn in the cupboard, so please make this good...

Wexfordboy89 · 04-08-2017 01:05AM

jebus28 wrote: »

Is your daughter ok with you handling him?

do you not mean fondling him?

Are Am Eye · 04-08-2017 01:07AM

https://i.ytimg.com/vi/7dIiV4AKzOM/hqdefault.jpg

rekluse · 04-08-2017 01:44AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4pIJtt48g4

leggo · 04-08-2017 02:02AM

Not my daughter, but I was in a similar situation with my teen sister bringing her first boyfriend home. I'd always wondered how I'd be. Turns out that I'm really passive aggressive with jokes that aren't really jokes, while also quite enjoying winding my sister up by pulling him aside and 'jokingly' telling him to walk back like I'd just threatened to murder his family if he ever hurt my sister. Like I said, passive aggressiveness.

Carry · 04-08-2017 02:07AM

When I was 17 I brought home a boyfriend no dad would approve of: long-haired hippie, mostly stoned, a few years older than me, no job, just playing the guitar, and French

. I thought he was gorgeous (being 17).

My dad welcomed him with open arms and a seemingly open mind ("of course he can sleep in your bedroom"), a fridge full of beers and his usual cunning banter.

The two of them were in the living room getting drunker and drunker, having a laugh, while I was getting more and more frustrated. When all the beers were empty, mostly consumed by my boyfriend, I finally dragged himself to my bedroom where he fell on my bed and was out the moment his head hit the pillow.

My dad was a clever man. He didn't make a fuss, he just beat the man with man's weapon: drink.

I lost respect for my lovely Frenchman for being conned by my dad getting into that male drinking bonding thing and forgetting all about me. ME! The lovely 17yo! He was history after that.

My dad smirked.

Gatling · 04-08-2017 02:08AM

Get yourself a firearm's licence ,buy a 12 guage shotgun and any time he's around take it out and stare at him with a grin.

He will leg it and tell every other blokes he knows your bat**** crazy and your daughter becomes a social pariah ,

Problems solved for a few years

Are Am Eye · 04-08-2017 02:09AM

So you're not the chief finance officer john?
What's that?

PandaPoo · 04-08-2017 02:12AM

As a girl who spent her teenage years with the biggest waste of space ever, I'll give you some advice. (I ended up having his baby and guess how well that worked out)

You can praise him or hate him and it won't make a difference. If she likes him she'll be with him. Either lock her in her room like rapunzel or murder him.

Oh and get her on contraception asap. As in the implant in her arm, nothing flimsy like condoms (obviously for stds use them too) or the pill she'll forget to take. If the relationship ends, which is probably will in its own time with no drama between you and her, at least she can forget him and move on and not have a life changing gift from it.

04-08-2017 02:23AM

Schwanz wrote: »

I'm sure lots have been in this situation where their son/daughter have been going out with that other half we just don't like because we know they are not good enough & all that jazz.....

Just wondering how to tell her without coming off that a**ehole Daddy

Explain to him why they call you Schwanz

Malayalam · 04-08-2017 07:30AM

Say nothing. To her anyway. She will squint her eyes as soon as you hint at anything being wrong with him and a small germ of contempt for you will grow in her. She will go above and beyond her natural inclinations to make the relationship last to prove you're a predjudiced git. Give no indications of your disapproval at all and in the course of time she will either move on from him, or settle for him, and in the latter case it would be especially good if you and her were still friends.

A Battered Mars Bar · 04-08-2017 08:00AM

Talk about a bully. Leave the poor lad alone. He's probably a decent mush and in today's dog eat dog world. That's all you really need.

Wheeliebin30 · 04-08-2017 08:07AM

Knowing how fellas talk and act about women nowadays, I don't envy you!

At least try to get her not to send any pics.

Every fella shows them to his friends and the girls are just laughed at.

Pretty sad to be honest. It's a minefield for any parent.

FTA69 · 04-08-2017 08:37AM

leggo wrote: »

Not my daughter, but I was in a similar situation with my teen sister bringing her first boyfriend home. I'd always wondered how I'd be. Turns out that I'm really passive aggressive with jokes that aren't really jokes, while also quite enjoying winding my sister up by pulling him aside and 'jokingly' telling him to walk back like I'd just threatened to murder his family if he ever hurt my sister. Like I said, passive aggressiveness.

Jesus that's embarrassing carry-on from a grown man. Passive aggression is ridiculous behaviour at the best of times, he must have thought you were a total oddball and your sister was probably mortified; especially going on about murdering his family and the like. If he'd have lamped you one you'd have deserved it.

leggo · 04-08-2017 08:53AM

FTA69 wrote: »

Jesus that's embarrassing carry-on from a grown man. Passive aggression is ridiculous behaviour at the best of times, he must have thought you were a total oddball and your sister was probably mortified; especially going on about murdering his family and the like. If he'd have lamped you one you'd have deserved it.

I'm exaggerating because it's AH and not a serious conversation mate. It's a thread about a daughter's 'idiot boyfriend' see, the comic premise that we all rally around being that we're dumb, insecure men who are threatened by this 'idiot', who's actually just a young horny lad like we all were once, and the 'craic' of the thread plays on that. It'd be boring if we all said "I'm mature and understanding about it all." No fun would be had and nobody would be impressed. But go you for not reading the room and adding rationality into a deliberately dumb conversation, you seem like mad craic. We're all very impressed and will tell all of our friends how level-headed FTA69 is in the pub tonight.

In truth, I wound my sister up a bit and did the thing were I told him to go back like I'd threatened him, but he thought it was gas and played along. He's actually a really nice guy and my priority is keeping my sister grounded while trying to encourage my Mam to get her on birth control because I'd be a bit more wide to how teenagers are (a much more personal and less interesting answer that I don't really want to get into on boards).

But telling random adults they deserve to be 'lamped' online in a serious context is the epitome of maturity, so you showed me.

Sam Kade · 04-08-2017 09:02AM

Carry wrote: »

When I was 17 I brought home a boyfriend no dad would approve of: long-haired hippie, mostly stoned, a few years older than me, no job, just playing the guitar, and French . I thought he was gorgeous (being 17).

My dad welcomed him with open arms and a seemingly open mind ("of course he can sleep in your bedroom"), a fridge full of beers and his usual cunning banter.

The two of them were in the living room getting drunker and drunker, having a laugh, while I was getting more and more frustrated. When all the beers were empty, mostly consumed by my boyfriend, I finally dragged himself to my bedroom where he fell on my bed and was out the moment his head hit the pillow.

My dad was a clever man. He didn't make a fuss, he just beat the man with man's weapon: drink.

I lost respect for my lovely Frenchman for being conned by my dad getting into that male drinking bonding thing and forgetting all about me. ME! The lovely 17yo! He was history after that.

My dad smirked.

What would your ould fella do if he drank him under the table?

sentient_6 · 04-08-2017 09:10AM

Trouble for any father is at once stage we were all the idiot boyfriends and the situation is full of hypocrisy if you take a hardline stance.

bazza1 · 04-08-2017 09:16AM

Any time he is in the house, be in the kitchen sharpening knives on a grindstone giving him your best Clint Eastwood squint!

everlast75 · 04-08-2017 09:17AM

Sam Kade wrote: »

What would your ould fella do if he drank him under the table?

I think he would have told his daughter that her boyfriend turned out to be gay...

evolving_doors · 04-08-2017 09:27AM

bazza1 wrote: »

Any time he is in the house, be in the kitchen sharpening knives on a grindstone giving him your best Clint Eastwood squint!

PucaMama · 04-08-2017 09:31AM

PandaPoo wrote: »

As a girl who spent her teenage years with the biggest waste of space ever, I'll give you some advice. (I ended up having his baby and guess how well that worked out)

You can praise him or hate him and it won't make a difference. If she likes him she'll be with him. Either lock her in her room like rapunzel or murder him.

Oh and get her on contraception asap. As in the implant in her arm, nothing flimsy like condoms (obviously for stds use them too) or the pill she'll forget to take. If the relationship ends, which is probably will in its own time with no drama between you and her, at least she can forget him and move on and not have a life changing gift from it.

Please don't stick a young teenage girl on the implant, it can have nasty side affects, she's still developing.

Handling your Daughter's idiot boyfriend correctly

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