Are you obsessed with where you grew up

23-06-2017 04:22PM #1

Grew up in a rural area near to Dublin it now has very strict planning controls plus is very sought after place to live. This has put it outside the reach of locals and it has been like this for the last say 20 to 30 years.

This has caused all sorts of mayhem people living in converted garages next to their parents, family fights over sites and so on and seems to be getting worse.

What it obsession about staying in the same area you grew up in especially if sheer logic dictates that its is unaffordable.

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LirW · 23-06-2017 04:35PM

What it obsession about staying in the same area you grew up in especially if sheer logic dictates that its is unaffordable.

I asked my man this a few times, I'm not Irish and I never got this. His mother had a hard time understanding that we can't afford Glasnevin because she wanted us to live around the corner.
Where I come from it's normal, that people rent for their entire lives and move every few years, also with kids without any problems. We also don't have this thing with the school around the corner. At the age of 7 I had to do a bus ride on my own into town where my school was, that was about 25 minutes and in secondary it's not uncommon that teenager have to commute to school an hour each way.

kunst nugget · 23-06-2017 04:38PM

The field is mine…

Tombo2001 · 23-06-2017 04:40PM

Not in anyway obsessed but I would be interested to know where everyone from my primary school class ended up - there is not a single one of them that I know, or even know of ..... in terms of where they are now. Which is quite bad considering I grew up in a fairly small town.

RhubarbCrumble · 23-06-2017 04:50PM

Personally I wouldn't care if I never saw the place again. I'm only about 30 minutes away but would love to be further.
A lot of people that I went to primary school with have built houses 'next to the home place'. Some of them have never left. We're only all in our thirties so I just can't understand it to be honest. While I haven't travelled as much as I'd have liked, I certainly have no desire to set up camp back in the place where I grew up and where everyone knows everyone elses business.

ArnoldJRimmer · 23-06-2017 04:56PM

My parents moved when they retired 15 years ago, and I've only once since been in the place I grew up in. I'm unlikely to go out of my way to visit it ever again as its a sh!thole and I don't know anyone there anymore.

Some people just love being surrounded by their friends and family. I know a guy that commutes two hours to and from Dublin every day as he insists in living in the small town he grew up in, and couldn't imagine having to live anywhere else. Each to their own

23-06-2017 04:58PM

kunst nugget wrote: »

The field is mine…

GO HOME YANK :mad:

_Kaiser_ · 23-06-2017 05:00PM

Grew up in Dublin and for 20 years or so I never thought I'd move out of the city limits.. but I did and found it a much nicer, friendlier and relaxed pace of life. Plus most of my mates settled down and moved all over the place in the "Good Times" anyway.

These days I am only in Dublin because that's where my job is but I'm working on that. I couldn't be arsed dealing with the ridiculous rent prices, the traffic/congestion, the cost of living/going out, and there's really nothing in Dublin that you can't find in any decently-sized town.

I don't get people who spend their days/weekends running back to their parents for coffee, dinner, do their washing etc.. to me these are people who've never really left home and grown up. I'm not saying you should never see your family, but when you have one of your own, time with them should be the priority IMO

LirW · 23-06-2017 05:15PM

I don't get people who spend their days/weekends running back to their parents for coffee, dinner, do their washing etc.. to me these are people who've never really left home and grown up. I'm not saying you should never see your family, but when you have one of your own, time with them should be the priority IMO

We're moving out later this year and I just said yesterday "seeing your parents once a week would be alright" and he said "Jaysus that's a LOT".
Was a relief.

23-06-2017 05:57PM

I'm not obsessed with my homeplace just because that's where I grew up. I want to live there because it's a beautiful part of the country, and yes, I like being close to my brothers and my oldest friends. I like the laid-back pace of life, and the community spirit.

I'm living in Dublin at the moment, for work, but I go home most weekends because i enjoy it. It isn't an obsession by any means.

Permabear · 23-06-2017 05:58PM

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super_furry · 23-06-2017 05:59PM

Not really, I mean I'd consider Dublin my home and wouldn't be too keen to leave (although Galway could tempt me). But as for the specific area I grew up in, it's enough to see it when I go to visit my folks.

hairyslug · 23-06-2017 05:59PM

I grew up in Blackrock in Co Dublin, I would never want to move back there again.

23-06-2017 06:18PM

Grew up in Kerry, love it. Holiday in West Cork. No interest in living anywhere else outside the SW.

Gunslinger92 · 23-06-2017 06:18PM

I grew up in Kerry and any time I go home for a weekend I'm usually bored ****less by the Saturday evening.
Had my mother and sister laughing at me the last time I was home for saying I don't want to settle down there... maybe when I'm retired but before then? Nah.

Gunslinger92 · 23-06-2017 06:19PM

Excellent timing of mine and Conor's posts there

RhubarbCrumble · 23-06-2017 06:53PM

Well I grew up just outside a little village in Limerick, live in the Limerick suburbs now, but would very happily relocate to Co Kerry

Dyr · 23-06-2017 07:38PM

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

These days I am only in Dublin because that's where my job is but I'm working on that. I couldn't be arsed dealing with the ridiculous rent prices, the traffic/congestion, the cost of living/going out, and there's really nothing in Dublin that you can't find in any decently-sized town.

None of my interests, activities and socializing would be available in any town in Ireland, or probably any city other than Dublin or Belfast

That's just the reality of living in small towns, probably fine if all you're interested in is a couple of pubs and restaurants

23-06-2017 08:01PM

Its probably more about growing up in a places that have become very expensive and desirably mostly attractive rural or coastal locations in commuting distance of Dublin and to a lesser extent other cities.

noaddedsugar · 23-06-2017 08:09PM

I grew up in a really rural place, I moved for college and never really went back. I probably go down about once a year to visit my parents but that is it. I have no desire to live there ever, bogs are not for me.

Rubberlegs · 23-06-2017 08:19PM

I sometimes think I must be weird because I have no real emotional ties to where I grew up. I lived in London till I was 8, a short while in one county when moving to Ireland and then lived till I was 21 in a quiet area in the neighbouring county. I never had a real sense of belonging anywhere as a result. I have lived in this town, 10km from where my parents lived, since 1995. It took a long time to feel it but I absolutely love it here and really can't see me ever living anywhere else. My mother's house has just gone up for sale and so far I feel absolutely nothing.

Academic · 23-06-2017 09:16PM

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

I'm not obsessed with my homeplace just because that's where I grew up. I want to live there because it's a beautiful part of the country, and yes, I like being close to my brothers and my oldest friends. I like the laid-back pace of life, and the community spirit.

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I think this is often the case: the attachment isn't so much to the place as to the people one has known longest in one's life.

SEPT 23 1989 · 23-06-2017 09:21PM

Breaking up family's and communitys was a disaster for this city

23-06-2017 09:22PM

To me it's just Home

pickarooney · 23-06-2017 09:50PM

LirW wrote: »

I asked my man this a few times, I'm not Irish and I never got this. His mother had a hard time understanding that we can't afford Glasnevin because she wanted us to live around the corner.
Where I come from it's normal, that people rent for their entire lives and move every few years, also with kids without any problems. We also don't have this thing with the school around the corner. At the age of 7 I had to do a bus ride on my own into town where my school was, that was about 25 minutes and in secondary it's not uncommon that teenager have to commute to school an hour each way.

Country Vs City comparison is not the same as Austria Vs Ireland.

LirW · 23-06-2017 09:54PM

Not saying that, I spent my first years living very rural, then in some pretty bad parts of a city.
It's more the fascination that I have with the Irish society and the way that they are rooted, it genuinely interests me because before I came here I never saw or thought about this. Was also talking about this a lot with my MIL and she feels that way the other way around.
I hope this puts it in some perspective.

whisky_galore · 24-06-2017 10:21AM

Grew up in a rural area but the local town holds no attraction for me over the city. Basically fcuk all to do there other than pub, GAA and activities for senior citizens.

Bambi985 · 24-06-2017 10:40AM

I haven't lived there for 14 years, though I'm very proud to be from the place as it's bloody gorgeous and charming and a pleasure to come home to.

Only a handful of friends/people I knew in my youth have stuck around and bought houses, had families, settled down etc. Couldn't say I envy them as it's a different and far slower way of life to what I've become accustomed, but nothing wrong with treasuring your hometown and deciding to stay put. Wouldn't have been for me but why not like. For one you'll get a lot more family support by proxy of living nearby and your kids can grow up with a closeness to your relatives that they may not have when you live elsewhere.

RobertKK · 24-06-2017 11:03AM

I love where I grew up, rural location that is close enough to Kilkenny city, it is designated an area of high amenity due to the exceptional scenery.
It has a good history, fields are named after the surnames of people who once owned the lands and who I assume maybe sold up and emigrated or married and had bigger farms.
So much wildlife and wild food like wild strawberries, raspberries, gooseberries, cherries, crab apples, frockens/bilberries/blueberries, hazelnuts, mushrooms, sloes and maybe I am forgetting some.
Great neighbours who would help you and it is a very peaceful and quite location.
It makes me happy where I live, and I expect to live here for my entire life, all going well.

notsoyoungwan · 24-06-2017 11:43AM

I left my home town at 17, nearly 21 years ago now. I go back regularly to see my parents but I have no emotional tie to the place itself, and once my folks are gone I doubt I'll go back at all. On the other hand there are areas of my home county which i absolutely adore and where I would love to live, I have notions that I might retire there in time.

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