Why are heavy people not taken seriously?

I think i subconsciously look down on overweight people because I view them as having no personal discipline and therefore no self worth.

Iam talking grossly overweight now not just a typical Irish man or woman.

However I am probably a product of my environment having grown up in the selfie era with facebook etc.

Also a gym rat with no social media accounts so I guess I am an oddity

Judging people by their weight or looks really says a lot more about the people doing the judging. It says you have no other way to compare yourself to that person in which you come out on top.

Being overweight doesn't necessarily mean someone lacks discipline in other areas of their life. Indeed, gaining weight often goes hand in hand with building a successful career.

Being overweight is and always has been a sign of success. How often do we ever see the skinny people as world leaders, or having real power?

In my experience the educated and successful people don't judge people on their weight. It's low level thinking.

This generation is so strange. All done up to the last and constantly looking down on everyone. Not just fat people. If you're not up to their standard in any way they will look down on you. Mostly women but men too.

I saw on twitter the difference between a 14 yr old girl in the 90s and one now and it just makes the point of how much pressure you're under now to be 'perfect'

I used to care what people thought about me massively and it ruined me. But when you realise it doesn't matter what people think especially those you'll never see again, and don't give a **** about them, you'll feel awesome.

Be whoever you want to be. Don't be someone other people want you to be

Richard Hillman wrote: »

Because they lack discipline.

Deleted User wrote: »

That is the perception. It's such a ridiculous myth, don't you agree?

How is it a myth?

Horusire wrote: »

I think the opposite. Can you give an example of someone with real power who's grossly overweight?

Trump? Not obese
Merkel? Fat not obese
Buffet? Old so doesn't really count
Gates? Average
Zuckerberg? Average
Juncker? Thin

subjective but id class both trump and merkel as obese

??

Assad, Putin, Obama, Blair, Thatcher, Cameron, a lot of very powerful politicians are actually as thin as toothpicks, if not just simply slim... Not to mention Gandhi...

seenitall wrote: »

Not to mention Gandhi...

They say Gandhi was so thin that when he was shot, he fell to the ground like an autumn leaf.

It like an intelligent person who smokes.


I recommend the C-Food diet.




















See food and eat it :pac:

...I'll get me coat...

A part of the answer is not to buy a multipack of Chocolate/biccies/crisps in the first place.

Sitting on your sofa, watching TV, you cannot eat what you don't have. Buy apples and dried chickpeas instead.

As a fat woman it astounds me how it is anyone else's business. The amount of times I have been told "you would be so beautiful if you lost weight" is unreal.

In Sri Lanka, India and Nepal I was seen as a goddess and haven't had to fight off male attention like this since I was a stunner of a teenager. In Malaysia an almost equally as fat guy was assisting me with my baggage at a bus station and then just asks "why you so fat". I was shocked but have been called names for years now so it didn't really bother me. In Bali walking back to my hotel last night and a taxi driver drove by and as they do here, shouted out the window "taxi". He followed this up with "I love fat girls". Totally creeped me out if am honest.

My weight issues stem from a few angles. As a child/teen if I put on ounce of weight my super skinny mum would go crazy at me. Make me feel like ****. I used to be an amateur model and was so confident but her badgering destroyed that. One fashion show that she was organising was happening when I was 18 and I thought I would be asked to model as usual. I called home from college in Dublin to see did I need to come home for fittings and was told "you are too fat. Your cousin who is over for 3 weeks from America is doing it instead". I was still a size 8-10 then.

My dad is an athlete and I was forced to run as a kid. I was never good enough to uphold his famous name so hated it. Another girl with the same surname as me was a great runner. He used to tell people she was his daughter. The only exercise I loved was gymnastics and dance. My mum took the joy out of that by telling me I looked so fat on stage compared to the others. So I quit.

I married young and had my first son. Was back in a size 12 jeans by his Christening 6 weeks after he was born. Then my marriage went to **** and I put on weight. I was a size 16-18 when I had my 2nd son. My husband was abusive verbally, mentally and physically. In a supermarket I lifted a packet of his favourite buns, ones I didn't like and said should we get these, meaning for his lunch. In front of busy people he looked me up and down and said "do you not think you are fat enough without buying buns?"

I dumped him. Found a great boyfriend and started to lose weight. Then my fella dumped me and my youngest son was so upset that this guy he adored was no longer part of our lives that I decided I wouldn't have any more boyfriends. I couldn't risk the hurt for me or my sons. Then I really put on the weight. Self esteem issues and a desire to not be attractive to men so they couldn't hurt me drove me to abandon restraint.

Now it's hard to lose it but as am travelling in Asia I am walking on average 5km a day and thanks to my allergies am struggling to find food I can eat that isn't salad so I have lost about 2 stone but it is not easy. Being here though, despite the odd rogue comment I find I am more accepted and am dreading returning home where a woman on George's street felt it was her duty to point at me and scream "look at this monster. Fat bitch".

TL/DR

Sometimes there are psychological reasons for someone's weight. You don't have the right to comment. If you judge - go f**k yourself.

grahambo wrote: »

Really?

How so?
I though it would be more along the lines of letting them know what I think of them?

Wait a sec, are you a shamer that wants me to stop farting!? :P

If you're going through any amount of effort to let them know what you think of them, then you care.

People take other people at face people. I find it surprising in 2017 that it's necessary to explain this. How you present yourself in terms of appearance and attitude is how you are perceived.

As a result of this particular aspect of human nature, fat people are perceived as lazy, less competent and generally much less approachable than their more physically appealing counterparts. This is generally why overweight people aren't taken as seriously - They represent something which people desperately wish to avoid becoming and what every magazine, celebrity and piece of health related media so often criticize. It probably isn't fair, or even entirely sensible, that we place such a heavy emphasis on a person's appearance but it's always been like that and always will be.

People don't have to be physically perfect in every respect but we really should strive to improve ourselves and become the best version of ourselves within our own unique circumstances.