'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Tattoos, piercings (exception being earrings), crazy hair colours... not for me thanks.

More significant issues would be constant drama, vacuous, unable to express themselves, or any drug use. No deal.

Just out of curiosity (as someone with a face full of metal ) is it the actual look of piercings that you dislike, or is it that you associate them with a particular type of person, or both?

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

Those dreadful ear piercings that stretch holes in the lobes. They are utterly repulsive to me. Usually anyone with them has tattoos and other piercings, both of which are also deal-breakers to me.

I don't like the idea of the giant holes in the earlobes. And the plastic discs look grimy to me. I don't know why.

(I don't have to like all piercings, on everyone, before some tulip points out my staggering hypocrisy)

infogiver wrote: »

A colleague of mine was eventually "managed out" of the job because of her smoking.
A very capable pleasant punctual hard working woman, the managers addressed the problem of her personal hygiene in particular reference to her smoking, in every way they could but she couldn't find a way to deal with it and added to that quite a degree of denial, eventually she exhausted the grievance procedure and she was gone.

Oh dear. Sounds quite unusual and extreme.

_Kaiser_ wrote: »

Yep, I reckon so.. one/two earrings - grand (so long as not those big hoop things) but anything more than that (I had to google tragus piercing) just wouldn't do it for me.

I'm probably the guy for which there are rules like you talk about in your workplace. No tattoos, no piercings, normal short haircut (albeit greying at the sides these days), don't smoke, and have never tried - nor any interest in trying - anything stronger than the occasional/rare pint

Like I said, boring! But that's OK.. with middle-agedness comes contentment in who you are

I think there's too much emphasis on these things but there is a definite mentality among some of the alt people I know, I think they're a bit pretentious and shallow in their own strange way.


There's nothing at all wrong with being 'normal'. Most of us are normal, just different on the exterior, but to me normal just means well adjusted, it doesn't mean boring. The rest is just surface decoration and personal taste and not liking too much of that is just as valid as liking it over the top looking.

infogiver wrote: »

When your in customer service the customer is king.
Too many complaints, customers refusing to deal with her.
Very unpleasant to work beside as well.
She was spoken to by the Union as well.
Other employees have rights too.

I agree. I'd be mortified if I thought people could smell smoke from me except on very rare occassions-e.g if you happened to bump into me right after I'd smoked in the car, when I no doubt do have smoke clinging to me. There's no point in me pretending it could never happen. I don't ever feel like smoking when I'm working, though. Not even now that I'm working from home a lot.

I can't help thinking though that it sounds like the woman either smoked a hell of a lot during the working day (did she take 'fag breaks'?) and/or didn't wash hair and change clothes that often?


It's quite a serious addiction when even the threat of losing a job doesn't deter the person.

jeanjolie wrote: »

2.) People from South Dublin who sound like they're not speaking English. Met a hot 16yr old girl (when I was 17 so not perverted:D) who was 5ft 9 (5in taller than me) and very muscular. when she opened her mouth however......No, just no.

So you're into tall, muscular 16-year olds but not southside accents?

jeanjolie wrote: »

For dating:

1.) People from either rough areas (e.g North Dublin, Limerick) or people who grew up with very conservative 'tough love parents. Exceptions if the person does not sound (accent wise) for the former and is relatively liberal in their parenting style and personality for the latter (i.e no tough love unless absolutely necessary, reasonably open minded on things like gay marriage, abortion, suicide.)

2.) People from South Dublin who sound like they're not speaking English. Met a hot 16yr old girl (when I was 17 so not perverted:D) who was 5ft 9 (5in taller than me) and very muscular. when she opened her mouth however......No, just no.

You're a great man for the brackets.

Jean Jolie, I'm imagining the Amazon woman with the Limerick accent

Fashion is too casual for my taste, too.

That nose piercing that's like a bull ring. It's vile looking.

Also 95% of women simply do not suit tattoos most women look ridulous at best and like men at worst.

Women wearing jogging clothes when they're not jogging or working out. Since when did it become fashion?