Uncomfortable truths about modern life?

Arghus · 23-05-2017 11:47PM

Amnesia is the heart of the information age.

_Whimsical_ · 23-05-2017 11:56PM

While it's very trendy to talk about preventing suicide and how important it is to talk to someone if you're burdened the truth is that most people aren't actually really interested in being there for someone. They just like talking about it, not listening or watching out for someone or quietly being extra kind if they see someone struggling. I think it's kind of borne out by the numbers of people in serious trouble who don't feel they have anyone.

Senna · 23-05-2017 11:58PM

People will screw you over if they think they will get an extra penny for themselves.

The media (really generalising) have lost all their ethics, pre 1980s, journalism was a respected profession, they gathered facts and reported stories that impacted people's lives. Now its just about who can sensationalise the story the most to get more likes on social media. Stories are miss reported everyday, there is no recourse or responsibility, people's lives have been ruined by the media getting it wrong.

Twitter and social media gives a voice to those that shouldn't be heard.

Airyfairy12 · 24-05-2017 12:00AM

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

While it's very trendy to talk about preventing suicide and how important it is to talk to someone if you're burdened the truth is that most people aren't actually really interested in being there for someone. They just like talking about it. I think it's kind of borne out by the numbers of people in serious trouble who don't feel they have anyone.

The same people that run darkness into light marathons, post statuses on facebook about mental health problems and autism awareness more often than not when face to face with someone who has autism or a mental illness they treat them like theyre sub human.

Capt'n Midnight · 24-05-2017 12:00AM

Candie wrote: »

Too many people think they're special and unique when in reality very, very, few of us are.

Always remember that you are absolutely unique.

Just like everyone else

Wheeliebin30 · 24-05-2017 12:01AM

Every good deed people do and think is a great thing is really all about making themselves feel good.

Especially when parents say I'm so proud of my kid.

What does that actually mean?

Look what I created and how brilliant they are. I created them so I must be fantastic.

Like people having kids just to bring meaning to their life. That's all it is.

We're all just selfish living creatures at the end of the day.

red ears · 24-05-2017 12:02AM

All this immigration may not work out as we hope.

MAJJ · 24-05-2017 12:05AM

Birneybau wrote: »

Manners have gone to fcuk and it drives me mad. Pricks just walking past when you hold a door open. I have actually started saying 'You're welcome'. I may appear mad, but rather mad and mannerly.

I have been saying that for years in that exact context.

Permabear · 24-05-2017 12:11AM

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SGSM · 24-05-2017 12:11AM

+1 on the not being there for people with mental health problems even though most post statuses on social media etc.
Im 23 and suffer from mental illnesses and the majority of people I've told about my problems, ya can just tell they couldn't care less. Never any messages to see how I'm doing or if I'd like to hang out. And a lot of that would mean a lot cos it can be very isolating at times. Apologies rant over.

J Mysterio · 24-05-2017 12:13AM

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

The Chinese are implanting tiny microscopic listening devices in all western children's finger tips via fidget spinners.

They're awful schnakey with the technology. The Chinese.

Ulysses Gaze · 24-05-2017 12:15AM

J Mysterio wrote: »

They're awful schnakey with the technology. The Chinese.

Feck off.

They're a great bunch of lads!

MeTheMan · 24-05-2017 12:18AM

We all hate what weddings have become.. The meaning is totally gone out of the day.. Average wedding costing 25k!! For ONE day..And the guests are expecting to cover that with a few 50's in the cards..

_Whimsical_ · 24-05-2017 12:21AM

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SGSM wrote: »

+1 on the not being there for people with mental health problems even though most post statuses on social media etc.
Im 23 and suffer from mental illnesses and the majority of people I've told about my problems, ya can just tell they couldn't care less. Never any messages to see how I'm doing or if I'd like to hang out. And a lot of that would mean a lot cos it can be very isolating at times. Apologies rant over.

I agree with all of this.
Not meaning to knock Darkness into Light, but imagine if everyone who took part committed instead to 12 hours out of even the year to be kind to someone they knew was struggling? The difference it would make to both the people receiving that kindness and also to the people learning to reach out, learning to identify when someone needs a couple of texts to say "how're you getting on" or a visit , it could be transformative for so many lifes.

AllForIt · 24-05-2017 12:22AM

Modern life? Well, that the pollution we absorb from cars etc is causing us serious health problems and is contribution to all kinds of health issues like dementia, Parkinsons, Alzheimer etc.

Processed food are attributable to a higher incident of cancers. As is chemicals that are sprayed on vegetables designed to preserve them.

Hydrogenated fat and high fructose corn syrup, which are designed to preserve the shelf life of food, is utterly detrimental to our health.

Social media is nothing of the kind, a virtual life that leads ppl to feel more isolated and more lonely than ever before. Who really likes to get a birthday wish on Facebook when no real effort has been made at all to mark the occasion.

Work; Technology has not facilitated a shorter working week, rather it has brought about a situation where workers are perpetually connected to their job through the use of computers. No down time at all.

Hector Bellend · 24-05-2017 12:30AM

My football team is in the championship.

I'm about to lose my job.

I'm likely to fail my finals and my next door neighbour wont have sex with me.

Life is not good at the moment

greencap · 24-05-2017 12:36AM

None of the things that really count in life, like the courage of a WW2 soldier, or the determination of Gandhi, or the tolerance of a peasant farmer, or the patience of a king, or the discipline of a samurai, or the endurance of a wilderness hunter - can be bought with a credit card, a pin number and some cherry points.

And thats what you spend most of your life doing. Just sticking a card in a slot , pressing some buttons and then maybe walking for a bus at very most.

So for those who went before us, when the sht hit the fan, they had already known hardship.
And so when disaster and death were staring them in the face the WW2 soldier charged right at it, Gandhi accepted it and stuck to his principles, the peasant farmers said to themselves that they had already known a life of suffering, the samurai stood firm to face it, the wilderness hunter pushed on.

But when it rolls round to this generation we'll all just end up whinging, asking who's in charge, and probably texting our ma's.

Basically - all of history had a gradual learning curve when it came to suffering. Their life was a luke warm bath which gradually got colder, so when the ice cubes came along they were no big difference.

But in modern time, we're basically in a nice warm bath, nice and comfy, so when the ice cubes get dropped in its going to be a 0-60 in 4 seconds learning curve.

Squall Leonhart · 24-05-2017 12:39AM

If you're quite overweight, its highly unlikely you'll ever get on top of it more than temporarily.

Prevention rather than cure. Teach your children about eating correctly while habits and ways of life are still forming.

Hector Bellend · 24-05-2017 12:40AM

Squall Leonhart wrote: »

If you're quite overweight, its highly unlikely you'll ever get on top of it more than temporarily.

Prevention rather than cure. Teach your children about eating correctly while habits and ways of life are still forming.

It can be done and has been done.

Not easy for sure but it is possible

Robsweezie · 24-05-2017 12:42AM

MeTheMan wrote:

We all hate what weddings have become.. The meaning is totally gone out of the day.. Average wedding costing 25k!! For ONE day..And the guests are expecting to cover that with a few 50's in the cards..

100% -This speaks to the wider issue of consumerism...Christmas is the presents, easter is the chocolate, communions is the money in the card, weddings the dresses and the excess.

Squall Leonhart · 24-05-2017 12:44AM

Hector Bellend wrote:

It can be done and has been done.

Not easy for sure but it is possible

Absolutely agreed. Some manage to do it, but the majority who try often have good weight loss initially and struggle to keep it off, eventually regaining. A minority of dieters permanently lose the weight they wanted to. I'm not talking the people here looking to lose 7-10lb, more the 30lb+ people. Alas, I speak from experience.

Yourself isit · 24-05-2017 12:45AM

AllForIt wrote: »

Modern life? Well, that the pollution we absorb from cars etc is causing us serious health problems and is contribution to all kinds of health issues like dementia, Parkinsons, Alzheimer etc.

Processed food are attributable to a higher incident of cancers. As is chemicals that are sprayed on vegetables designed to preserve them.

Hydrogenated fat and high fructose corn syrup, which are designed to preserve the shelf life of food, is utterly detrimental to our health.

Social media is nothing of the kind, a virtual life that leads ppl to feel more isolated and more lonely than ever before. Who really likes to get a birthday wish on Facebook when no real effort has been made at all to mark the occasion.

Work; Technology has not facilitated a shorter working week, rather it has brought about a situation where workers are perpetually connected to their job through the use of computers. No down time at all.

Mostly what's causing the increase in cancers and the others is people living longer.

Yourself isit · 24-05-2017 12:46AM

Robsweezie wrote: »

100% -This speaks to the wider issue of consumerism...Christmas is the presents, easter is the chocolate, communions is the money in the card, weddings the dresses and the excess.

Like since when are we complaining about?

greencap · 24-05-2017 12:52AM

Robsweezie wrote: »

100% -This speaks to the wider issue of consumerism...Christmas is the presents, easter is the chocolate, communions is the money in the card, weddings the dresses and the excess.

Business owns culture and politics and theres nothing we can do.

In the past there'd be a strike, or a march, or a boycott. And the people might win - because politicians were concerned about their reputation, and business leaders were often in place by chance, having been educated to age 12.

But industry is way too savvy now and its leaders are smarter than the general population. And we're too busy and individual, and they know it.

So industry has the individual completely by the balls like never before, and theres nothing we can do that they haven't already foreseen and typed up on some probability software that was designed by Nasa and MIT engineers.

Squall Leonhart · 24-05-2017 12:54AM

Uncomfortable truth: most romantic relationships fail. If you've just started seeing somebody, statistically, its unlikely you'll stay with that person for the rest of your and/or their life. Even if you do, most your romantic relationships have likely failed, it is improbable to be your first or second relationship.

Of course this doesn't mean for a minute that happiness eludes us!

Baron Kurtz · 24-05-2017 01:06AM

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

I agree with all of this.
Not meaning to knock Darkness into Light, but imagine if everyone who took part committed instead to 12 hours out of even the year to be kind to someone they knew was struggling? The difference it would make to both the people receiving that kindness and also to the people learning to reach out, learning to identify when someone needs a couple of texts to say "how're you getting on" or a visit , it could be transformative for so many lifes.

Steady on the word committed, here

But back to the subject, did you know that if you mix equal parts of gasoline and frozen orange juice concentrate you can make napalm?

AllForIt · 24-05-2017 01:15AM

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Steady on the word committed, here

But back to the subject, did you know that if you mix equal parts of gasoline and frozen orange juice concentrate you can make napalm?

Not really the day to promote home made explosives.

Baron Kurtz · 24-05-2017 01:21AM

AllForIt wrote: »

Not really the day to promote home made explosives.

Ooh, yeah. Sorry. Just a line in a film that popped into my head. Subliminal maybe.

AllForIt · 24-05-2017 01:43AM

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Ooh, yeah. Sorry. Just a line in a film that popped into my head. Subliminal maybe.

No worries. I was prolly being a bit over sensitive.

super_sweeney · 24-05-2017 01:50AM

Squall Leonhart wrote: »

Uncomfortable truth: most romantic relationships fail. If you've just started seeing somebody, statistically, its unlikely you'll stay with that person for the rest of your and/or their life. Even if you do, most your romantic relationships have likely failed, it is improbable to be your first or second relationship.

Of course this doesn't mean for a minute that happiness eludes us!

nice! The ever elusive Persuit of happiness.

as they say
"[font=arial, sans-serif]Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate[/font][font=arial, sans-serif]. Our deepest fear is that [/font][font=arial, sans-serif]we[/font][font=arial, sans-serif] are [/font][font=arial, sans-serif]powerful[/font][font=arial, sans-serif] beyond measure"[/font]
and at the same time fully agree with previous posted not sure who it was but peoples perceptions now a days of looking for the perfect partner is unrealistic people are not perfect and as they also mentioned perhaps we need to learn to be more forgiving and become less reliant on the likes of dating app's and go back to what worked for many generations that came and went before us.....take the chance and talk to people face to face and even if we are not interested it doesn't hurt to be polite sometimes.

edit... the Irony of posting that last comment on, an online forum

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