'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

ILikeBoats · 17-05-2017 03:15PM

Malari · 17-05-2017 03:16PM

animaal wrote: »

I would be somewhat between both camps here. Wearing shorts with woolly white socks up to your knees is not a good look. On the other hand, a man wearing socks that are so low as to be invisible makes it look like he's trying too hard at looking good/coordinated.
I try to strike a balance. These are the types of socks I wear with shorts. Equally repulsive to everybody
Overall, there are too many contradictory opinions on what footwear is acceptable in hot weather. Maybe it's just as well we rarely see the sun in this country!

Controversial opinion: I like them :pac: Unless you are wearing them with sandals, in which case the deal is well and truly broken :cool:

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:17PM

There's a whole range of people nowadays following a very sanitised/commercial form of country music (Nathan carter etc), I hope they all get caught up in a silage harvester and die and they are deal breakers.

17-05-2017 03:18PM

BetsyEllen wrote: »

It's a slow day at work and I've no plans this evening, this is the most excitement I'm getting today

Me too, probably.

Later I might chat about duvets, just to shake things up a bit :P

Malari · 17-05-2017 03:20PM

Candie wrote: »

The only socks acceptable with shorts are trainer liners. Any sock you can see is a no-no.

That said, we're getting into some very shallow dealbreakers when we're talking about socks with this level of detail.

Clearly you don't know any road cyclists :pac:

Parchment · 17-05-2017 03:20PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

There's a whole range of people nowadays following a very sanitised/commercial form of country music (Nathan carter etc), I hope they all get caught up in a silage harvester and die and they are deal breakers.

POTD

ILikeBoats · 17-05-2017 03:20PM

So...

1) Flip flops are preferable
2) If you're going to gym or on long walk/activity and it's shorts weather, invisible ankle socks as per pic above are fair game with a pair of runners
3) Any other sock type with shorts are a no no.

animaal · 17-05-2017 03:20PM

BetsyEllen wrote: »

But they'd be poking out the top? They're awful!! :P

Sorry, I'm firmly in the 'invisible' ankle socks camp here...I don't see how something you can't physically see can be a dealbreaker

No, if we're talking about dealbreakers, I don't think a woman wearing hidden socks is a dealbreaker. As a man, I just think it's possible for men to look like they're trying too hard to look good. And invisible socks would fall into that category.

I also don't think having an inch of visible white sock coming out the top of a runner looks "hideous"; if somebody thinks there's only one shape of sock that's acceptable with runners without being a dealbreaker, it would leave a very small pool of potential partners!

Boom_Bap · 17-05-2017 03:22PM

Candie wrote: »

The only socks acceptable with shorts are trainer liners. Any sock you can see is a no-no.

That said, we're getting into some very shallow dealbreakers when we're talking about socks with this level of detail.

Socks are becoming an increasingly more fashionable accessory now. There are a huge range of socks now available compared to black/grey/white of yesteryear.

I tend to look at some 'sneakerheads' collections from time to time and it's very common to match socks to sneakers.
In the U S of A now the sock business is becoming huge because of the sponsoships that younger athlethes are getting and the colourways of shoes they are wearing.

A deal breaker for me is if she wears my socks.

Fun Fact - I had to read that a few times and correct a couple of places where I wrote sock with a 'c' at the start.

andekwarhola · 17-05-2017 03:23PM

It's probably time to remove the inverted commas from shallow in the title.

Widdershins · 17-05-2017 03:24PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

There's a whole range of people nowadays following a very sanitised/commercial form of country music (Nathan carter etc), I hope they all get caught up in a silage harvester and die and they are deal breakers.

I thought country music was widely frowned on already. It almost all sounds the same to me but I do like a couple of Steve Earle and Brantley Gilbert songs.

I don't know what the problem with showing a little bit of sock is. Are socks taboo now? We know most people wear them..

BetsyEllen · 17-05-2017 03:26PM

animaal wrote: »

No, if we're talking about dealbreakers, I don't think a woman wearing hidden socks is a dealbreaker. As a man, I just think it's possible for men to look like they're trying too hard to look good. And invisible socks would fall into that category.

I also don't think having an inch of visible white sock coming out the top of a runner looks "hideous"; if somebody thinks there's only one shape of sock that's acceptable with runners without being a dealbreaker, it would leave a very small pool of potential partners!

Well luckily in Ireland it's not really going to matter.
I rarely see a guy wearing runners and shorts over here so it's unlikely to cause an issue.

If I'm at the stage where I'm going on holiday with someone then I'm probably pretty into them and well past the early days of little things putting me off.
So finding out then that they prefer to wear those truly awful socks wouldn't be a deal breaker by then...and I'd most likely be comfortable enough with them that I could say listen I love you - but your socks are disgusting.

PARlance · 17-05-2017 03:27PM

anna080 wrote: »

A smoker
Dirty finger nails
Crooked teeth
Likes annoying redneck music
Into GAA
Can't spell properly

Anna080: "Now John, you're doing great, 5/5 so far. I'm interested, there may be a future for us. One final question, could you please spell properly for me?"

17-05-2017 03:28PM

Oh I thought of one I heard from my neighbour.

She had been telling me she was head over heels for this guy for months on end and they finally got together, but on their third date he took her out for dinner and described what he was eating as 'tasty'.

She dumped him on the spot, apparently men who use the word 'tasty' are anything but.

I don't think anything could surpass that for shallowness!

MuffinTop86 · 17-05-2017 03:36PM

Shortness. I'm 5 ft 7 so not that tall, short men usually coupled with small feet freak me out.

Intelligence. I'd like if there was some, but not Rosemary McCabe types who you just know they're insufferable as soon as they utter a word.

Hair. Preferaly not balding, and definitely no gingers.

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:41PM

Widdershins wrote: »

I thought country music was widely frowned on already. It almost all sounds the same to me but I do like a couple of Steve Earle and Brantley Gilbert songs.

I don't know what the problem with showing a little bit of sock is. Are socks taboo now? We know most people wear them..

to be fair, all kinds of music have great musicians, country wouldn't be big in my life but off the top of my head I'd say wayland Jennings was great...but man that stuff going on in Ireland now....awful stuff

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:43PM

Candie wrote: »

Oh I thought of one I heard from my neighbour.

She had been telling me she was head over heels for this guy for months on end and they finally got together, but on their third date he took her out for dinner and described what he was eating as 'tasty'.

She dumped him on the spot, apparently men who use the word 'tasty' are anything but.

I don't think anything could surpass that for shallowness!

that's gas ....I hate "tasty" too

17-05-2017 03:45PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

that's gas ....I hate "tasty" too

Now you mention it, a good few people I've told that story too have the same aversion. Probably not to a dumping extent, but it doesn't seem uncommon!

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:45PM

PARlance wrote: »

Anna080: "Now John, you're doing great, 5/5 so far. I'm interested, there may be a future for us. One final question, could you please spell properly for me?"

P......R.........O........ I got this........P ...U......RLY

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:46PM

Candie wrote: »

Now you mention it, a good few people I've told that story too have the same aversion. Probably not to a dumping extent, but it doesn't seem uncommon!

some accents say it as "teeeeaaaaaaassssty" .....cnts

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 03:48PM

suppose I better give some real stories...

an ex kept pouring milk onto my empty cup and tea bag....."See ya""

BetsyEllen · 17-05-2017 03:49PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

suppose I better give some real stories...

an ex kept pouring milk onto my empty cup and tea bag....."See ya""

You mean they put the milk in before the hot water?

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 04:01PM

BetsyEllen wrote: »

You mean they put the milk in before the hot water?

Yes!!

So I get a cup....drop in the tea bag.....look away for a sec .....look back and I've got milk on my tea bag!

17-05-2017 04:03PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

suppose I better give some real stories...

an ex kept pouring milk onto my empty cup and tea bag....."See ya""

To be fair, that's not shallow. That's the kind of anti social behaviour that warrants a criminal conviction.

stuboy01 · 17-05-2017 04:04PM

like you know, like you know like like, you know like?

No I don't like

PARlance · 17-05-2017 04:04PM

If I'm being honest, I probably have a lot of "shallow" criteria. If I'm not being honest, I'll just say that I have/had a definite type.

stuboy01 · 17-05-2017 04:05PM

Utilize

please don't use utilize. shallow but it's a ridiculous word. would never have been with someone that used utilize, when they should have used use.

or maybe it's just because I'm now an old grumpy sh1t.

BetsyEllen · 17-05-2017 04:06PM

Ash.J.Williams wrote: »

Yes!!

So I get a cup....drop in the tea bag.....look away for a sec .....look back and I've got milk on my tea bag!

Hahaha I have images of her lurking in the shadows, pint of milk in hand, ready to pounce

My Mum makes tea like this. I don't really get why, it takes ages then for the tea to get strong - it's like the milk stops the teabag from brewing or something. You have to squeeze it for ages and it doubles the time it would normally take!

Jim Bob Scratcher · 17-05-2017 04:09PM

MuffinTop86 wrote: »

Shortness. I'm 5 ft 7 so not that tall, short men usually coupled with small feet freak me out.

Intelligence. I'd like if there was some, but not Rosemary McCabe types who you just know they're insufferable as soon as they utter a word.

Hair. Preferaly not balding, and definitely no gingers.

What's wrong with gingers ?

Ash.J.Williams · 17-05-2017 04:19PM

BetsyEllen wrote: »

Hahaha I have images of her lurking in the shadows, pint of milk in hand, ready to pounce

My Mum makes tea like this. I don't really get why, it takes ages then for the tea to get strong - it's like the milk stops the teabag from brewing or something. You have to squeeze it for ages and it doubles the time it would normally take!

that's it ...it would be akin to using the hot tap instead of the kettle!

'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

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