'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

Banjoxed · 16-05-2017 03:58PM

A complete lack of bush and scouse eyebrows.

pilly · 16-05-2017 03:59PM

BetsyEllen wrote: »

A dressing gown with nothing underneath though! Especially with wet hair just out the shower...yes please!
Has to be the snuggly type of dressing gown though, not the harsh towel material.

Yep, that'll do nicely.

Barnum · 16-05-2017 04:00PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

Oh come on, bad manners aren't a shallow deal breaker, they're a massive deal breaker IMO!!

My bad he was I need to go to spec savers lol

pilly · 16-05-2017 04:00PM

Someone who has no idea what's happening in the world also a deal breaker for me.

Realt Dearg Sec · 16-05-2017 04:03PM

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Wearing a GAA jersey when it's not match day

I'm massively involved in the GAA and this would be a problem for me too. Makes me think I'm dealing with the kind of woman who spends her spare time shouting at traffic.

Gravelly · 16-05-2017 04:04PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

maybe it's a lesbian? it's very confusing

Or someone who lives dwarves?

Snow White perhaps?

05eaftqbrs9jlh · 16-05-2017 04:05PM

GingerLily wrote: »

When you don't actually like someone that much trivial things will annoy you about them, shallow or otherwise!

I find that if I'm having a bad day, the things my fella does which I usually criticise jokingly actually really cheer me up. Like how he's so meticulous or how he always looks up recipes for things I know he knows how to cook or his loud singing when he's doing things. I just have to glance and see what he's doing and he's so predictable that he's doing exactly what I expect. I love that!

And GingerLily you're right that it works the other way too. With people I didn't really like, the things that annoyed me about them were magnified as time went on. Like, it was fundamentally flawed that they had these quirks. The mind has a tendency to put a dramatic spin on these things.

I have a very sensitive olfactory system, so if they smell nasty or weird to me, I have to bow out (probably even including friendship). It's pretty shallow, but you can tell a lot about a person from their odor - about hygiene, their diet, how many cosmetics they use, what smells they like, how promiscuous they are... I'm actually a dog.

Gravelly · 16-05-2017 04:06PM

Barnum wrote: »

I'm sorry but no one should have to put up with childish demands when things don't go the way they wanted

Barnum wrote: »

Bring back etiquettes & elocution lessons

Eh........

pilly · 16-05-2017 04:06PM

Flibble wrote: »

I remember back in my online dating days a few years ago coming across the profile of a guy who had specified that he had no interest in dating women that had had a 'good' life.

He specifically wanted a woman from a war torn country, someone who had undergone tremendous adversity, as he felt that only then would they have accessed the deeper parts of their soul & be able to appreciate life fully.

I'll always remember that profile....What a twat.

In other words he wanted a woman who'd be grateful for what she got and put up and shut up. :P

kittensmittens · 16-05-2017 04:09PM

Also, not sure if this would be considered shallow, but meaness would be a dealbreaker for me.
I cant abide pennypinchers :mad:
I have no problem paying my way etc or taking turns but when people take out the calculator app on the phone??
No. Just no.

Gravelly · 16-05-2017 04:11PM

kittensmittens wrote: »

Also, not sure if this would be considered shallow, but meaness would be a dealbreaker for me.
I cant abide pennypinchers :mad:
I have no problem paying my way etc or taking turns but when people take out the calculator app on the phone??
No. Just no.

I think that would be a dealbreaker for most people, male or female. Who wants to spend the rest of their life with a miserable b@stard?

Walter H Price · 16-05-2017 04:14PM

team_actimel wrote: »

Fellas who don't drink..I know it's shallow but I want someone who I can go on a session with.

Another turn off is someone who isn't majorly into music and only listens to chart. :cool:

Don't think the dinking thing is shallow tbh , it'd be a major deal breaker for me too, but the opposite way around, I couldn't date anyone that wanted to be out on the lash or in clubs every week or a few times a month.

Its a lifestyle thing.

Barnum · 16-05-2017 04:15PM

Gravelly wrote: »

Eh........

Etiquettes for good manners & elocution so men can speak clearly & not muffled like the men I met Saturday night in the Dew drop

pgj2015 · 16-05-2017 04:17PM

Any woman who has this piercing, always a knacker from my experience.

https://www.google.ie/search?q=stud+in+womans+top+lip&rlz=1C1DSGQ_enIE519IE519&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiAybWz1_TTAhULLcAKHUXzDM8Q_AUICigB&biw=1366&bih=662#imgrc=7G400mIl8nRJ7M:

Realt Dearg Sec · 16-05-2017 04:18PM

People who pluralise etiquette. Wouldn't be a promising start for me.

BetsyEllen · 16-05-2017 04:19PM

Walter H Price wrote: »

Don't think the dinking thing is shallow tbh , it'd be a major deal breaker for me too, but the opposite way around, I couldn't date anyone that wanted to be out on the lash or in clubs every week or a few times a month.

Its a lifestyle thing.

I don't think this is shallow either - most people enjoy a drink now and again so dating someone who is totally against it would mean a bit of a lifestyle change.
It wouldn't make me think less of a person, I just wouldn't really be bothered to date them.

I saw a guy on PoF the other day who sounded and looked great, apart from he had the drinking part filled out as 3+ times a week.
That put me off.

valoren · 16-05-2017 04:19PM

So if you say "Hun, I'm great fun me, blah de blah de blah" with while wearing a Mayo jersey under a stupid looking coat while holding a cigarette you aint getting any, any time soon.

Knex* · 16-05-2017 04:20PM

team_actimel wrote: »

Fellas who don't drink..I know it's shallow but I want someone who I can go on a session with.

Another turn off is someone who isn't majorly into music and only listens to chart. :cool:

Absolutely the same, only well, applicable to women instead of men. Need someone that you can go to a festival, gig or even just hit the dance floor with after a few drinks.

I know alcohol is not a necessity for this, but it would definitely detract a bit if an OH was one of those sobriety notioned folks.

Realt Dearg Sec · 16-05-2017 04:20PM

valoren wrote: »

So if you say "Hun, I'm great fun me, blah de blah de blah" with while wearing a Mayo jersey under a stupid looking coat while holding a cigarette you aint getting any, any time soon.

Enough shallow problems add up to one deep one.

Gravelly · 16-05-2017 04:20PM

Barnum wrote: »

Etiquettes for good manners & elocution so men can speak clearly & not muffled like the men I met Saturday night in the Dew drop

There's no s in etiquette, and the guys probably needed sobriety, not elocution.

I was actually pointing out the irony of objecting to childish demands, then making what some might consider to be childish demands.....

Donald Trump · 16-05-2017 04:21PM

kylith wrote: »

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Aye, when you actually like someone get older and more desperate the 'dealbreakers' don't matter. If someone had told me a year ago I'd be going out with a tone-deaf practically vegan who can't cook I'd have laughed at them.[/quote]

FYP

Gravelly · 16-05-2017 04:21PM

Realt Dearg Sec wrote: »

Enough shallow problems add up to one deep one.

Shure Mayo lads would be well used to not scoring anyway.

Shenshen · 16-05-2017 04:21PM

Chewed-off fingernails, that just makes my skin crawl. I know that it's usually not something the person has much control over, but I just can't stand to look at fingers like that.

Murrisk · 16-05-2017 04:23PM

Lux23 wrote: »

Anyone who likes to portray themselves as a nice guy, if you're nice you don't need to go around saying it.

Especially as the 'I'm a nice guy' guys often seem to think being nice is being a pushover. Don't they realise how ineffectual and unattractive that makes them seem? And then of course when women don't bite, they curse womankind for going after 'assholes' instead of 'nice guys' like them. Men who highlight their 'niceness' are often not that nice.

Truly nice fellas are also assertive and confident and don't think that their niceness qualifies them to have whatever poon they desire. None of us are entitled to what we want just because we are nice. People shouldn't want to be rewarded for being a decent human being.

16-05-2017 04:24PM

People for whom everything is a big deal.

draiochtanois · 16-05-2017 04:24PM

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rawn · 16-05-2017 04:25PM

I remember hitting it off really well with a guy before, really intelligent, funny, good looking etc. He got my number a few days later from a mutual friend and text me something along the lines of

"hey its XXX wu up2"

Completely turned me off him.

BetsyEllen · 16-05-2017 04:27PM

Shenshen wrote: »

Chewed-off fingernails, that just makes my skin crawl. I know that it's usually not something the person has much control over, but I just can't stand to look at fingers like that.

Agreed, but also long fingernails on a man *shudder*
A guy I know doesn't bite or trim his and they get pretty long, it makes my skin crawl.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 16-05-2017 04:27PM

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Wearing a GAA jersey when it's not match day

Wearing a GAA jersey anytime would be a no no in my book. I'd put it up there along with someone wearing rosary beads around their neck while not at mass or saying prayers.

Murrisk · 16-05-2017 04:29PM

Ada Deep Tapir wrote: »

There are certain bits of pop culture where if we didn't both like/hate it it might be a problem. Like I really would think less of someone who loved the Big Bang Theory or hated The Simpsons

I'd judge someone for disliking 1989-1997 Simpsons, the classic era.

However, if someone thought Season 10-present day Simpsons was actually good, that would also be a problem.

'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

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