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'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

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  • #92
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    Anyone who describes themselves as arty or creative. If I see that stuff on Tinder I don't go near it. Usually accompanied by black and white photos of themselves musing on a windswept beach. I just think get over yourself.


  • #93
    Glenster
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    topper75 wrote: »
    Hey man! A heavy day stacking sods and you'd also end up with a feminine laugh like us.

    I was thinking of that high pitched cork laugh.

    Ha Ha Ha Boy.


  • #94
    Gravelly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,092 ✭✭✭Gravelly


    BetsyEllen wrote: »
    Oh I have another one; ungroomed pubic hair.
    Guys need to trim too.
    I really don't think I could sleep with a guy that didn't keep it trim, it would be an instant turn off for me.
    Nothing worse than a bush, bleurgh

    Don't like having your nose tickled?


  • #95
    FaceTurnedAway
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 52 ✭✭FaceTurnedAway


    Anyone who describes themselves as having good people skills. In other words, you've no other skills and you're hired as a receptionist because you're hot. Just because you're an extrovert who's good looking, does not mean (for a second) that you've a good intuition into people.

    On 2nd thought, I'd tolerate it!


  • #96
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    Dr Crayfish wrote: »
    Anyone who describes themselves as arty or creative. If I see that stuff on Tinder I don't go near it. Usually accompanied by black and white photos of themselves musing on a windswept beach. I just think get over yourself.

    ''Right Brained''


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  • #97
    Teyla Emmagan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,638 ✭✭✭Teyla Emmagan


    Addressing me as "hun" or "huney". Drives me wild, and not in a good way.


  • #98
    Gravelly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,092 ✭✭✭Gravelly


    Teyla Emmagan wrote: »
    Addressing me as "hun" or "huney". Drives me wild, and not in a good way.

    You OK hun?


  • #99
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,310 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    Widdershins wrote: »
    They usually see no irony about it because they don't count their own vices as bad habits.
    Widdershins wrote: »
    lots of piercings on men (I have a few and I think they suit some women).
    LOL :pac:


  • #100
    Walter H Price
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,839 ✭✭✭Walter H Price


    Broke up with one girl because she was terrible in bed give it two or three try's, but just 0 chemistry at all, then ended it gently to be fair.

    Bailed on a date after the topic turned to religion and she made clear she was pretty into the Jesus stuff and had a purity ring , didn't feel a screed of guilt cutting and running there.

    Left another girl I'd been seeing for a few weeks ,after I went on one night out with her and her mates , she was lovely but they were a bunch of skangers and she was completely different around them after she did a line of coke, I said I was going the loo , bailed and ghosted her, not my scene.

    would have always been put off by smokers and I could never stay with someone who was a bit dim or lazy.


  • #101
    BetsyEllen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,360 ✭✭✭BetsyEllen


    jeanjolie wrote: »
    Hmm....do you mean like trashy jewelry or just any jewelry in general?

    Jewellery in general. I can't think of a single instance I've seen a necklace/earrings/bracelet on a man and not thought it looked awful!


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  • #102
    Teyla Emmagan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,638 ✭✭✭Teyla Emmagan


    Gravelly wrote:
    You OK hun?

    Eeeeeeee


  • #103
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    the_syco wrote: »
    LOL :pac:

    There's a difference between preference and scorn


  • #104
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 23,390 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    If you're gonna "check in" and tag me everytime we leave the house you can die....


  • #105
    Knex*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,475 ✭✭✭✭Knex*


    Ada Deep Tapir wrote: »
    There are certain bits of pop culture where if we didn't both like/hate it it might be a problem. Like I really would think less of someone who loved the Big Bang Theory or hated The Simpsons

    My friend's girlfriend puts Big Bang Theory on in our house all the time, and its slowly undoing a decade plus of friendship. A mind numbing, harrowing ordeal for anyone to have to endure, even as background noise.


  • #106
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,740 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    BetsyEllen wrote: »
    Jewellery in general. I can't think of a single instance I've seen a necklace/earrings/bracelet on a man and not thought it looked awful!

    What about all 8 fingers with these on?

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  • #107
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    jeanjolie wrote:
    3.) Height - I'm 5ft 5in and don't want a girl who is below too much. Nothing to do with femininity or masculinity rather its simply attraction. I tend to find shorter women (with a fair number of exceptions) do not portray a look of seriousness. Height is the main focus in a negative fashion.


    Hang on? Your 5ft 5 and you don't like short women? Your options must be very limited?


  • #108
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    pilly wrote: »
    Hang on? Your 5ft 5 and you don't like short women? Your options must be very limited?

    maybe it's a lesbian? it's very confusing


  • #109
    Flibble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 232 ✭✭Flibble


    I remember back in my online dating days a few years ago coming across the profile of a guy who had specified that he had no interest in dating women that had had a 'good' life.

    He specifically wanted a woman from a war torn country, someone who had undergone tremendous adversity, as he felt that only then would they have accessed the deeper parts of their soul & be able to appreciate life fully.

    I'll always remember that profile....What a twat.


  • #110
    Barnum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭Barnum


    jeanjolie wrote: »
    What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?

    Bad manners


  • #111
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    I once ended a relationship with a man because he wore slippers in the house. Don't ask me why, little bit irrational but I just couldn't see him as sexy after that.


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  • #112
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,439 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    Barnum wrote: »
    Bad manners


    Oh come on, bad manners aren't a shallow deal breaker, they're a massive deal breaker IMO!!


  • #113
    BetsyEllen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,360 ✭✭✭BetsyEllen


    pilly wrote: »
    I once ended a relationship with a man because he wore slippers in the house. Don't ask me why, little bit irrational but I just couldn't see him as sexy after that.

    It depends on the kind of slipper - if it's a granddad type one with no back that causes them to shuffle a bit when they walk then yes, that's a deal breaker.

    The type that almost look like a shoe I could just about accept.


  • #114
    Barnum
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭Barnum


    One eyed Jack wrote: »
    Oh come on, bad manners aren't a shallow deal breaker, they're a massive deal breaker IMO!!

    I'm sorry but no one should have to put up with childish demands when things don't go the way they wanted yes I'd consider bad manners a deal breaker
    Bring back etiquettes & elocution lessons


  • #115
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 23,390 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    pilly wrote: »
    I once ended a relationship with a man because he wore slippers in the house. Don't ask me why, little bit irrational but I just couldn't see him as sexy after that.

    that's gas, I once called over to collect something from a mate and he answered the door at 2pm in pj's, slippers and a dressing gown.....

    honestly can't look at him the same anymore.


  • #116
    team_actimel
    Closed Accounts Posts: 785 ✭✭✭team_actimel


    Fellas who don't drink..I know it's shallow but I want someone who I can go on a session with.

    Another turn off is someone who isn't majorly into music and only listens to chart. :cool:


  • #117
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    BetsyEllen wrote: »
    It depends on the kind of slipper - if it's a granddad type one with no back that causes them to shuffle a bit when they walk then yes, that's a deal breaker.

    The type that almost look like a shoe I could just about accept.

    No, just a complete turn off for me. Probably because I've never worn a pair of slippers in my life, I think the day I do is the day I sit down and think "I'm old".


  • #118
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Ash.J.Williams wrote: »
    that's gas, I once called over to collect something from a mate and he answered the door at 2pm in pj's, slippers and a dressing gown.....

    honestly can't look at him the same anymore.

    Ah stop, pj's and dressing gown as well! I couldn't cope. :D:D


  • #119
    Realt Dearg Sec
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,589 ✭✭✭✭Realt Dearg Sec


    Ash.J.Williams wrote: »
    Manufactured music fans

    As opposed to fans of music that grows naturally in the forest.


  • #120
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Barnum wrote: »
    I'm sorry but no one should have to put up with childish demands when things don't go the way they wanted yes I'd consider bad manners a deal breaker
    Bring back etiquettes & elocution lessons

    I think OneEyedJack was agreeing with you. :)


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  • #121
    BetsyEllen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,360 ✭✭✭BetsyEllen


    pilly wrote: »
    Ah stop, pj's and dressing gown as well! I couldn't cope. :D:D

    A dressing gown with nothing underneath though! Especially with wet hair just out the shower...yes please!
    Has to be the snuggly type of dressing gown though, not the harsh towel material.


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