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'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

  • 16-05-2017 11:12AM
    #1
    jeanjolie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 484 ✭✭


    What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?


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  • #2
    Nervous Wreck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,115 ✭✭✭✭Nervous Wreck


    Once ended a thing because she had a stupid looking coat. /dope


  • #3
    the_pen_turner
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,794 ✭✭✭the_pen_turner


    Tattoos , too many piercings,
    Smoking.
    Excess drinking
    Too much makeup
    Face tan.


  • #4
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    jeanjolie wrote: »
    What deal-breakers do you have before you began any romantic relationship or even friendship that most people would consider shallow?

    Whats yours first?


  • #5
    The Backwards Man
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,299 ✭✭✭✭The Backwards Man


    Must be smart, but not too smart


  • #6
    gramar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,045 ✭✭✭✭gramar


    The use of the word 'dealbreaker'.


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  • #7
    Kylo Ren
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,366 ✭✭✭✭Kylo Ren


    When their pool is not deep enough.


  • #8
    jeanjolie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 484 ✭✭jeanjolie


    tomwaterford wrote: »
    Whats yours first?

    Have a few

    1.) Accent - can be the most pretty and/or sexy girl but if she has that thick Dublin accent or any other thick Irish accent.....

    2.) 'Traditional beliefs' - Can't really deal with people who believe in a 'tough love' mentality in parenting (even though don't want kids), discipline, advice. This also includes believing in traditional gender dynamics. Should at least be nurturing and open minded.

    3.) Height - I'm 5ft 5in and don't want a girl who is below too much. Nothing to do with femininity or masculinity rather its simply attraction. I tend to find shorter women (with a fair number of exceptions) do not portray a look of seriousness. Height is the main focus in a negative fashion.


  • #9
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    If she has a willy


  • #10
    jeanjolie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 484 ✭✭jeanjolie


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    If she has a willy

    don't you mean a feminine penis?


  • #11
    GingerLily
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,766 ✭✭✭GingerLily


    When you don't actually like someone that much trivial things will annoy you about them, shallow or otherwise!


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  • #12
    me_irl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,400 ✭✭✭me_irl


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    If she has a willy

    "Oi Bruce!" :pac:


  • #13
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 38,989 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


    This post has been deleted.


  • #14
    Zebra3
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,273 ✭✭✭✭Zebra3


    Smoking.

    Your clothes smell.

    Your breath smells.

    Your fingers are stained.

    And worst of all, you just constantly stink, but you're surrounded by it so much you don't even realise how disgusting you are.


  • #15
    beertons
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 23,458 ✭✭✭✭beertons


    Bigger ned kelly than me.


  • #16
    Ush1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,468 ✭✭✭✭Ush1


    Permabear wrote: »
    This post had been deleted.

    They are when you get to your age.


  • #17
    TerrorFirmer
    Closed Accounts Posts: 29,930 ✭✭✭✭TerrorFirmer


    None of the ones posted so far are really 'shallow' though apart from the guy who said someone's choice of coat was a deal-breaker!


  • #18
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    I smoke and my fingers are perfectly normal, as is the rest of me, probably because I don't smoke eighty woodbines a day, or in an enclosed space, and I'm a clean person, but a yellowed, growly old smoker would be off putting to me, too.
    People who don't just not smoke themselves but behave like smokers are something that crawled out of the sulphurous pits of hell. Very extreme judgement is off putting. They usually see no irony about it because they don't count their own vices as bad habits.

    I'm not keen on stretched ears, board shorts, caps on backwards,skinny jean, converse type shoes, lots of piercings on men (I have a few and I think they suit some women).

    Not trivial but I couldn't go out with a racist or someone with offensive attitudes to people with disabilities.


  • #19
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 2,732 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Bad breath
    smoking
    orange face


  • #20
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 23,267 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    Manufactured music fans that watch reality TV.....I won't even talk let alone embark on a relationship


  • #21
    draiochtanois
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,632 ✭✭✭draiochtanois


    This post has been deleted.


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  • #22
    riemann
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,063 ✭✭✭riemann


    jeanjolie wrote: »
    Have a few

    1.) Accent - can be the most pretty and/or sexy girl but if she has that thick Dublin accent or any other thick Irish accent.....

    2.) 'Traditional beliefs' - Can't really deal with people who believe in a 'tough love' mentality in parenting (even though don't want kids), discipline, advice. This also includes believing in traditional gender dynamics. Should at least be nurturing and open minded.

    3.) Height - I'm 5ft 5in and don't want a girl who is below too much. Nothing to do with femininity or masculinity rather its simply attraction. I tend to find shorter women (with a fair number of exceptions) do not portray a look of seriousness. Height is the main focus in a negative fashion.

    'Traditional Gender Dynamics' - I'd lead with that.

    At 5'5 you might want to be a bit more open minded


  • #23
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,740 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    Not being able to fill a dishwasher properly :pac:


    actually, Mrs. Bap is terrible at filling the dishwasher now that I come to think about it.


  • #24
    Cee-Jay-Cee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,234 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    Zebra3 wrote: »
    Smoking.

    Your clothes smell.

    Your breath smells.

    Your fingers are stained.

    And worst of all, you just constantly stink, but you're surrounded by it so much you don't even realise how disgusting you are.

    But you initially found them attractive before those issues started to bother you...


  • #25
    TimeToShine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,880 ✭✭✭TimeToShine


    Ush1 wrote: »
    They are when you get to your age.

    Yep. Can't expect a fat 45 year old to have the same prospects as a young fit 25 year old. Something's gotta give.


  • #26
    Tell me how
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,348 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    When describing a conversation that rambled on she used to use the phrase, "Blah de blah de blah" instead of "Blah blah blah". I remember thinking, this isn't going to work.


  • #27
    lazybones32
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,647 ✭✭✭lazybones32


    Once broke up with a girl because of her laugh - it sounded like a moan.

    I'd never go out with a woman with brown eyes. Personality counts for little if i don't like looking you in the eyes.


  • #28
    Boom_Bap
    Moderators, Music Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 25,740 Mod ✭✭✭✭Boom_Bap


    Using spaces instead of tabs.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsoOG6ZeyUI


  • #29
    Cee-Jay-Cee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,234 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    I will admit to the following shallow hal moments in my past:

    1) Her boobs were too small in fact they were almost non existant and she wore a padded bra. I didn't realise this for a few weeks and it was extremely off putting when we got intimate for the first time, I couldn't get over it and so there ended that.

    2) She had a really gravelly voice, I thought it was ok at first for a few months but it then started to really annoy me to the point where I simply couldn't stand it any longer and ended the relationship.

    3) She was very religious and was always going to mass. She also made it very clear from the start that she didn't believe in sex before marriage which I was actually ok with at the start. What got to me in the end was the religion and god bless this and god bless that and thank god for this and that and so on. I 'ghosted' on her.

    Edit: the above are 3 different girls.


  • #30
    me_irl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,400 ✭✭✭me_irl


    Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »
    I will admit to the following shallow hal moments in my past:

    1) Her boobs were too small in fact they were almost non existant and she wore a padded bra. I didn't realise this for a few weeks and it was extremely off putting when we got intimate for the first time, I couldn't get over it and so there ended that.

    2) She had a really gravelly voice, I thought it was ok at first for a few months but it then started to really annoy me to the point where I simply couldn't stand it any longer and ended the relationship.

    Was her name Lola?


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  • #31
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    me_irl wrote: »
    Was her name Lola?

    or Mike?


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