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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,353 ✭✭✭✭Galwayguy35


    Glenster wrote: »
    I don't particularly want everyone to get medals.

    Though I wouldn't be protesting with placards if they did.

    I don't have a problem with men being paid more if they're better, just not because they're men.

    Would it not occur to you that men often do well paying jobs that would be a bit more dangerous, for example working in a mine or on an oil rig or fishing off the coast of Alaska.

    Nobody is stopping women going for these jobs if they want more money.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    Would it not occur to you that men often do well paying jobs that would be a bit more dangerous, for example working in a mine or on an oil rig or fishing off the coast of Alaska.

    Nobody is stopping women going for these jobs if they want more money.

    I don't know about jobs on a rig or in Alaska.

    I live in Dublin.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    Electrodes pain fantasy notwithstanding, were in agreement about this. FORCING boys to be feminine would be harmful. And nobody's talking about forcing anyone to do anything, except yourself. I'm talking about ensuring boys are free and have choices and you respond by saying 'forcing boys to behave... Electrical trodes and a lot of pain'.

    If it's bad when feminists are wrong, it must be worse for some people when they're right. Hence needing to change the topic from giving boys choices to forcing boys to do something and pretending that's the topic under discussion.

    but you cant do away with "stereotypical male roles" as you seem to indicate you want to achieve. The choice already exists hence my question of what needs to change now? what will annoy feminists is that male behaviour will tend towards typical types and some of them will revolve around what is considered typical male behaviour.




    I've never used that phrase in my life. Never heard it said in real life either. I don't​ have a clue what it means. Again, you're the one talking about it, not me.


    google seems to think its common enough
    feminism toxic masculinity

    About 344,000 results (0.68 seconds)

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    Glenster wrote: »
    I don't know about jobs on a rig or in Alaska.

    I live in Dublin.

    take jobs like fixing high tension cables or working on mobile masts, I don't think Ive ever seen a woman up on them. Are they barred from the profession? I assume its much better paid than working in a crèche and doing a childcare "degree". is it the patriarchy and internalised mysoggyknees?

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,681 ✭✭✭bodice ripper


    silverharp wrote:
    take jobs like fixing high tension cables or working on mobile masts, I don't think Ive ever seen a woman up on them. Are they barred from the profession? I assume its much better paid than working in a crèche and doing a childcare "degree". is it the patriarchy and internalised mysoggyknees?

    I can't imagine what makes you think women would be hired for these jobs. I tried to get work laboring and the was no chance. FAS wouldn't let me do a forklift course. Couldn't get work as a binman either. I would have preferred to work at any of these over minimum wage retail.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,705 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    silverharp wrote: »
    Its obvious that some men have a more feminine nature and there is nothing wrong with that but if I was to suspect a feminist agenda it would be take out men are very masculine in their approach to things when that's their nature too, telling men not to be masculine would be like trying to teach a cat to perform tricks that a dog would normally do, you might achieve it but only with the attachment of electrodes and a lot of pain. :pac:
    If feminists were neutral there wouldn't be phrases like "toxic masculinity" . and when it comes to it "toxic masculinity" is what builds roads and cities and is that which rolls out the next technological wonder. the choice is there to be a hipster Barista no shame.

    From what I can gather, "Toxic masculinity" doesn't mean all male behaviour or any behaviour that isn't "feminine" as you seem to be suggesting. It refers to the attitude that men should be sexually and physically aggressive, dominant and unemotional. That if they aren't those things then they are less manly and have a more "feminine nature" as you say. Those stereotypes are harmful to both men and women. Why do you think a man who doesn't display stereotypical male behaviour must be feminine?


  • Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Glenster wrote: »


    I don't know anything about where you work.
    I know where I work 75% of the partners are men, and 100% of the receptionists and cleaners are women. And there are all sorts of reasons you can use to explain that away. And I'm saying just because you can explain it doesn't mean its not an issue.

    I don't think I have my fingers in my ears just because I refuse to turn around and say "Issue dropped" just because someone says that one of the main reasons women are paid less is because more men are in managerial roles.


    How about we look at statistics away from the office. Would you care to hazard a guess percentage or ratio wise of men to women that are sleeping rough on the streets? Or maybe a stat on young men vs young women when it comes to suicide? Or what about violent assaults?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,423 ✭✭✭✭Outlaw Pete


    BMMachine wrote: »
    What are the problems with feminism? There are none really, unless of course you are really paranoid and full of spite - then Im sure there are loads :)

    There are ton of problems with feminism and most of them have been discussed on the thread.... which I suspect you haven't read very much of. It is highly destructive to western society and has been for some time. It not only negatively impacts on men, but women and children also. All you have to do is look at what happens whenever a radical feminist gets themselves into positions of power, as without fail they will show their true colours and try and implement sexist and discriminatory legislation, like Harriet Harman tried to do here.

    Then you have the victimhood feminists who see almost everything a guy does as being evidence of patriarchal oppression. Like for example when Steve Martin dared tweet a tribute about Carrie Fisher.'s passing. In the end he had delete the tweet such was the level of madness accusing him of sexism.

    So there's two ends of the scale for you and in between is just a slew of similar self serving bile that has been served up to western society over the past forty odd years or more... and people are sick of it.
    BMMachine wrote: »
    Now off down to the rape crisis centre and tell the people there your views on feminism

    And what makes you think that any woman that would unfortunately find herself relying on such services would be on your side here? You think a woman that has just been raped would be on the side of those that would have the audacity to say that songs such as Baby It's Cold Outside are evidence of rape culture?
    optogirl wrote: »
    why is this sinister?

    It's sinister because I have read the kind of crap those people have had to say elsewhere online and children's minds shouldn't be poisoned with misandric propaganda, and that's precisely what it is. These people march and protest when anyone that is against feminism plans to give a speech (such as Warren Farrell) and while they have been successful on many occasions, the tide is turning and people are beginning to stand up to them. They are now turning their attention to children so that they can control how they think in this regard. Feminists do not have the monopoly on egalitarian thinking or the belief that gender stereotypes have negative consequences. We can educate our children just fine on these matters without adding misandric poison and feminist dogma to the primary curriculum thanks very much.
    We must stop indoctrinating boys in feminist ideology

    A school in Oxford has become the first to introduce “Good Lad” workshops, in which boys are singled out for sessions that teach them about “the scale of sexual harassment and violence aimed at female students” and how they must stand up for women's rights.

    The workshops are the latest in a mushrooming series of initiatives in which ideologically-driven activists are being invited into schools, driven by the belief that boys need to be re-educated to prevent them from becoming a threat to women.

    In November last year, The Times reported on a programme in London Schools in which two American women, one a former sex crime prosecutor, “re-programme teenage boys’ sexual manners so they are fit for a feminist world”.

    According to the report, they start the class by asserting that “misogyny is on the rise”, before going on to “describe real-life sex crimes that have happened to teenagers in this area with brutal accuracy”. The article concludes – approvingly -- that by the end of the session, the boys are “scarred for life”.

    In context of the chasm between boys’ and girls’ educational attainment and a rising male suicide rate that is now nearly four times that of women’s, why are schools deciding that when it comes to talking about gender, what boys need most is an extra dose of guilt and shame?

    Since when was it acceptable to impose ideology on school children?

    You’d never know it from the rhetoric, but a man – and particularly a young man -- is around twice as likely to be a victim of violent crime as a woman.

    And it’s not just drunken street violence either. A 2009 NSPCC report into domestic violence in teenage relationships, showed teenage boys suffer comparable rates of violence from their girlfriends as do teenage girls from their boyfriends.

    In the same year another report, this time by Childline, found that of the children who called to report sexual abuse, a total of 8,457 were girls (64pc) and 4,780 were boys (36pc). The charity also found boys were more likely to say they had been sexually abused by a woman (1,722 cases) than by a man (1,651).

    In March, the Government announced the introduction of new consent classes for children aged as young as 11. The plans were launched on International Women’s Day and the PSHE guidelines repeatedly state they are primarily part of the Government’s A Call to End Violence Against Women and Girls strategy.

    In 2001, novelist and feminist icon Doris Lessing made a shocking assessment of what she had seen while visiting a school classroom.

    She told the Edinburgh Book Festival, "I was in a class of nine- and 10-year-olds, girls and boys, and this young woman was telling these kids that the reason for wars was the innately violent nature of men.

    "You could see the little girls, fat with complacency and conceit while the little boys sat there crumpled, apologising for their existence, thinking this was going to be the pattern of their lives."

    Lessing expressed deep concern that what she had witnessed was just a glimpse of an increasingly pervasive culture of toxic feminism in schools that was weighing down boys with a collective sense of guilt and shame.

    She had every right to be worried. It seems there is now a drive to make shame and guilt a formal part of boys’ education.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    Jesus,

    The real question raised by this thread is why so many men seem to hate women.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,063 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    Glenster wrote: »
    Jesus,

    The real question raised by this thread is why so many men seem to hate women.

    Incredibly poor straw man attempt, yet surprisingly A-typical for today's uninformed entitled millennial "feminists"


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  • Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Glenster wrote: »
    Jesus,

    The real question raised by this thread is why so many men seem to hate women.

    So many men hate women, do they? Where is the evidence of that? You're lying for the sake of it now because you've nothing else. Another example of deluded modern day ''feminist'' thinking. Pathetic.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,291 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    VinLieger wrote: »
    Incredibly poor straw man attempt, yet surprisingly A-typical for today's uninformed entitled millennial "feminists"
    It's an all too common go for the emotive accusations tactic to throw people off and attempt to shut down discussion points the [insert politic here] doesn't like. It's transparent and transparently daft with it.
    Criticising lunatic feminists does not equal hatred of women.
    Of course it doesn't NL. Never mind that a fair few "lunatic feminists" are men. Maybe they "hate" men going by that logic? Not.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,047 ✭✭✭optogirl


    Omackeral wrote: »
    So many men hate women, do they? Where is the evidence of that? You're lying for the sake of it now because you've nothing else. Another example of deluded modern day ''feminist'' thinking. Pathetic.

    wow - you're like someone with sunburn getting a pat on the back. What are you so angry about?


  • Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    optogirl wrote: »
    wow - you're like someone with sunburn getting a pat on the back. What are you so angry about?

    How do you get anger out of any of that? I argue using logic and deal in facts, not emotion, unlike these 4th wave folks. I actually wouldn't dignify modern day fems with anger at all, it's more disbelief and pity than anything else.

    Ps I wish it was hot enough out to get sunburn!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    I can't imagine what makes you think women would be hired for these jobs. I tried to get work laboring and the was no chance. FAS wouldn't let me do a forklift course. Couldn't get work as a binman either. I would have preferred to work at any of these over minimum wage retail.

    That's really interesting. What was their reason for refusing to let you do the forklift course?

    Also, a lot of people come on here to say that women aren't interested in doing the dirty jobs. What are your opinions on a woman trying to get employment in these areas but not being given the chance?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,967 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    Glenster wrote: »
    Jesus,

    The real question raised by this thread is why so many men seem to hate women.
    Lazy. Very very lazy.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 945 ✭✭✭red ears


    Glenster wrote: »
    Jesus,

    The real question raised by this thread is why so many men seem to hate women.

    People have an innate sense of fairness, when they see the constant focus on feminist issues and the subtle and sometime not so subtle attacks on men and boys it raises their hackles. Its ridiculous to see criticism as hatred. Unless you believe feminism should just be allowed run riot and have all their proposals and grievances left unchallenged by anyone? Because the media and politicians are not questioning feminism at all. Social media seems to be the only place you will see any fight back at all. This adds to the frustration men and boys feel too.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,143 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    silverharp wrote:
    but you cant do away with "stereotypical male roles" as you seem to indicate you want to achieve. The choice already exists hence my question of what needs to change now? what will annoy feminists is that male behaviour will tend towards typical types and some of them will revolve around what is considered typical male behaviour.

    I'm not encouraging anyone to force children to do anything. You keep coming back to that as if it was part of my argument. Let children tell you about their interests and forget your male and female stereotypes. Boys will tend towards some interests and girls tend towards some interests. In the main children are interested in all kinds of things and parents can impose all kinds of limiting beliefs on children.

    I thought opposing limiting beliefs was
    silverharp wrote:
    In fairness I wouldn't raise boys to be more like girls, I think its clear that not all boys are cut out to be "roaringly masculine" as in to be fighter pilots or firemen while playing rugby at the weekend in between building their own house from scratch. So I think the pressure to conform to the Marlboro man image isn't there so much now, so great job done! But at the same time they still need to be career oriented for example because frankly put women don't want men they have to support so I don't see any point in telling boys to abandon their roles completely because it will be the quickest way to have them exit the gene pool

    I thought opposing limiting gender stereotypes was one of the raison d'être of the men's rights movement.

    See how many limiting gender stereotypes you can spot in the post above. Hint : Masculine Jobs and sport. Feminine need for a provider, threatening male child with being unable to find a partner unless they conform to your gender roles.

    And this poster thinks gender stereotypes are in the past


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    I'm not encouraging anyone to force children to do anything. You keep coming back to that as if it was part of my argument. Let children tell you about their interests and forget your male and female stereotypes. Boys will tend towards some interests and girls tend towards some interests. In the main children are interested in all kinds of things and parents can impose all kinds of limiting beliefs on children.

    I thought opposing limiting beliefs was

    what kind of limiting beliefs? parents have to pass on values and ethics, would you expect a parent to not steer a kid into working hard in school and leave it to the kid? it would be a bad parent that wouldn't direct the child. A parent that insists that their kids become a particular profession might be said to have crossed a line and it may backfire.




    I thought opposing limiting gender stereotypes was one of the raison d'être of the men's rights movement.

    I would have assumed in terms of court related matters, ive not observed that its as broad brush as feminism. it would want to challenge that mothers are the default guardian when in a number of cases the father is probably the better parent. or court sentencing where female sentences are shorter than male sentencing or painting domestic abuse as a female only issue. they are objectively damaging stereotypes which have harsh legal consequences


    See how many limiting gender stereotypes you can spot in the post above. Hint : Masculine Jobs and sport. Feminine need for a provider, threatening male child with being unable to find a partner unless they conform to your gender roles.

    And this poster thinks gender stereotypes are in the past

    they aren't all constructs pulled out of thin air, they are constructs or observations based on biology and bell curve behaviour. I think most kids would see through being raised completely gender neutral because it wouldn't reflect reality

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,143 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    silverharp wrote:
    what kind of limiting beliefs? parents have to pass on values and ethics, would you expect a parent to not steer a kid into working hard in school and leave it to the kid? it would be a bad parent that wouldn't direct the child. A parent that insists that their kids become a particular profession might be said to have crossed a line and it may backfire.

    There's nothing gender specific or limiting about encouraging education. Limiting beliefs would be telling children that boys should play x and girls play y. Boys role is to provide further the family, girls role is to expect to be taken care of to borrow a few examples from your earlier post
    silverharp wrote:
    I would have assumed in terms of court related matters, ive not observed that its as broad brush as feminism. it would want to challenge that mothers are the default guardian when in a number of cases the father is probably the better parent. or court sentencing where female sentences are shorter than male sentencing or painting domestic abuse as a female only issue. they are objectively damaging stereotypes which have harsh legal consequences

    Those are grand issues to campaign on as far as I'm concerned.
    silverharp wrote:
    they aren't all constructs pulled out of thin air, they are constructs or observations based on biology and bell curve behaviour. I think most kids would see through being raised completely gender neutral because it wouldn't reflect reality

    They're descriptions of tendancies among children, not prescriptive templates for behaviour.

    Seeing them as desirable masculine or feminine traits is limiting to the boy who has an interest in things that fall outside of traditional masculinity. We're all about freeing boys from gender stereotypes in principle - unless someone actually tried to do anything about it, then they're just interfering feminists​ who (insert pajorative here).


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    There's nothing gender specific or limiting about encouraging education. Limiting beliefs would be telling children that boys should play x and girls play y. Boys role is to provide further the family, girls role is to expect to be taken care of to borrow a few examples from your earlier post

    picking sports is partly what's popular partly what sports the parents are into and obviously what the kid likes , parents are normally reasonable and throw lots of sports at kids and see what sticks. the main divider is team sports versus individual ones
    As for the provider bit, i never said girls should be taught to be taken care of but for boys whether you tell them or not they will figure out that higher income and status means its easier to find a partner. you wouldnt contradict the point that if you sampled a 100 male doctors and 100 males who work in comic shops don't have the same experience in the dating market?



    They're descriptions of tendancies among children, not prescriptive templates for behaviour.

    Seeing them as desirable masculine or feminine traits is limiting to the boy who has an interest in things that fall outside of traditional masculinity. We're all about freeing boys from gender stereotypes in principle - unless someone actually tried to do anything about it, then they're just interfering feminists​ who (insert pajorative here).

    what would be examples? there are different types of male "model" roles . take the army, its clear that it appeals to particular types of men whereas IT would suit a different type of male then there are loads of careers where there is no real gender divide

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 36,139 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    Hilarious. As a man who has just become a father and is entitled to 2 weeks paid paternity leave (introduced in Sept 2016), I'd rather be at work so won't be taking the government up on it. I also like the fact that instead of staying in the same room as the newborn and being woken up every 30 minutes I have the freedom to go into another bedroom and sleep through the night. How many mothers, who are apparently not "slaving", have this freedom?

    It could only be an unmarried, childless man who has not had to mind children who dismisses the work of child rearing. Work is a holiday compared to the tempermental torture of babies who are unable to communicate except by crying and who decide when you can sleep, when you can wake up and how much work you can do at home (usually absolutely none).

    The people who get most riled up about "feminism" consistently come across as not having a clue of the real world, as never having grown beyond their own little mé féiner interests to a position of being able to care for somebody else.

    The one, outstanding issue where men are discriminated against is regarding access to the children in the event of a break up. Other than that serious issue, the whole anti-feminist movement is perpetrated by a false sense of victimhood by the most emotionally undeveloped of males on the lookout for a scapegoat for their own failings.

    If you couldn't be arsed spending time with your newborn, you probably wouldn't give a hoot about access if and when your marriage breaks down. Why on earth would you have children if this is your attitude towards them?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,705 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    silverharp wrote: »






    I would have assumed in terms of court related matters, ive not observed that its as broad brush as feminism. it would want to challenge that mothers are the default guardian when in a number of cases the father is probably the better parent. or court sentencing where female sentences are shorter than male sentencing or painting domestic abuse as a female only issue. they are objectively damaging stereotypes which have harsh legal consequences

    The courts already judge each case based on its own circumstances and make the best decision for the children involved. The fact is that in the majority of families, the woman is still the default carer, even when both parents work full time. Particularly in Ireland it seems


    http://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/international-study-finds-irish-men-contribute-least-to-childcare-1.2560675

    So if men want this to change then more men need to step up and contribute equally to the care of their children. That would bring about more change than blaming women or feminism don't you think?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,143 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    silverharp wrote:
    picking sports is partly what's popular partly what sports the parents are into and obviously what the kid likes , parents are normally reasonable and throw lots of sports at kids and see what sticks. the main divider is team sports versus individual ones

    I'm sure it wouldn't shock you to find out that everyone isn't as enlightened as yourself. So you'd support the seminar that sparked this discussion? (Well you might if not for the knee-jerk responses to anything organised by feminists)
    silverharp wrote:
    As for the provider bit, i never said girls should be taught to be taken care of but for boys whether you tell them or not they will figure out that higher income and status means its easier to find a partner. you wouldnt contradict the point that if you sampled a 100 male doctors and 100 males who work in comic shops don't have the same experience in the dating market?

    You never said it's how they should be taught, you assumed it's the case that would encourage expect men to be providers.

    The point about jobs isn't gender specific. I would find a woman with a career more attractive than the same woman who plans to sit around scratching​ her metaphorical balls all day, as a career. That's an entire personality difference between those two otherwise identical people.

    Wealth has always been attractive. That's not gender specific.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    ceadaoin. wrote: »
    The courts already judge each case based on its own circumstances and make the best decision for the children involved. The fact is that in the majority of families, the woman is still the default carer, even when both parents work full time. Particularly in Ireland it seems


    http://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/international-study-finds-irish-men-contribute-least-to-childcare-1.2560675

    So if men want this to change then more men need to step up and contribute equally to the care of their children. That would bring about more change than blaming women or feminism don't you think?

    Im not blaming "women or feminism" , its about a court system which views the mother as the default parent short of her being a crack addict. I don't see how a couple arranged things when they were married as being the decider. it should look at things like who broke up the marriage or the character of the 2 parents. Lets say the mother had an affair and the father was the innocent party, to me that is strong evidence that the mother is an incompetent mother as she didn't care about putting the kids futures at risk. Or in your example if the kids are in full time childcare because of work then either parent is capable of being the lead parent.

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 434 ✭✭Lady Spangles



    After repeal the 8 is granted is that the end of feminism in Ireland as we all have equal rights?

    Feminism is about much more than abortion. It's not just about women in Ireland, or Europe. It's a global movement that includes ALL genders and not just cisgendered women. Believe it or not, it's about men too. Everyone is included.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,705 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    silverharp wrote: »
    Im not blaming "women or feminism" , its about a court system which views the mother as the default parent short of her being a crack addict. I don't see how a couple arranged things when they were married as being the decider. it should look at things like who broke up the marriage or the character of the 2 parents. Lets say the mother had an affair and the father was the innocent party, to me that is strong evidence that the mother is an incompetent mother as she didn't care about putting the kids futures at risk. Or in your example if the kids are in full time childcare because of work then either parent is capable of being the lead parent.

    Who had an affair etc is irrelevant when it comes to what is best for the children.
    removing them from the care of their primary carer on top of their family unit breaking down would be harmful to them. And even when children are in full time childcare it is most often the mother who does the majority of childcare - things like getting them ready for school, bedtime and bath time, preparing meals, taking time off when they are sick etc and would be considered the "lead" parent for that reason. The court decisions reflect reality.

    Did you read the link that found that 93% of unpaid childcare in Ireland is done by women? Lots of men seem to not be that bothered about looking after their kids until it comes to "getting one over" on their partner in court. That has nothing to do with feminism


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,291 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Feminism is about much more than abortion. It's not just about women in Ireland, or Europe. It's a global movement that includes ALL genders and not just cisgendered women. Believe it or not, it's about men too. Everyone is included.
    .. only if they follow the diktats of the movement.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 199 ✭✭Il Fascista


    Feminism is about much more than abortion.

    Yet you fail to point out the rest?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    I'm sure it wouldn't shock you to find out that everyone isn't as enlightened as yourself. So you'd support the seminar that sparked this discussion? (Well you might if not for the knee-jerk responses to anything organised by feminists)

    do they put them on? Im sure you can tell me counter examples but I don't see it as a huge issue. I know one family where all the kids "have" to do tennis but that's the boys and girls. with my own I chose sports being a
    mixture of individual and team and based on what I though they might be good at based on their physiques etc.
    I know my kids school get it wrong sometimes because for example they make the boys and girls play soccer together but they boys don't like it because the girls aren't into as much so muh equality means all the kids are frustrated and bored so ignore gender at your peril.



    You never said it's how they should be taught, you assumed it's the case that would encourage expect men to be providers.

    The point about jobs isn't gender specific. I would find a woman with a career more attractive than the same woman who plans to sit around scratching​ her metaphorical balls all day, as a career. That's an entire personality difference between those two otherwise identical people.

    Wealth has always been attractive. That's not gender specific.

    it is different and its not a choice between a career and no career. Women tend to want men that earn similar or more than they do, men don't care so much. if you had a high earning man his choice wouldn't depend on the woman being a high earner whereas if a woman is a high earner she will more often than not want the man to be in her ballpark at least. do you know many cases of a female doctors marrying a male nurse? whereas switch the sexes and it sound more plausible. you certainly wouldn't sell many romance novels based on the first example :D

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



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