Housemate problems

Boom_Bap · 16-03-2017 01:20PM

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

If they've stolen my food there'll be loads of room in the freezer.

Don't want dead bodies staring at me from the bath when I'm trying to pee :rolleyes:

That's what shower curtains on the bath are for.

And loads of these

The One Doctor · 16-03-2017 02:46PM

House sharing always turns any passive-aggressive traits up about ten notches. We (myself, my fiance and our 2 year old daughter) live with my fiance's parents. I have a habit of having a bath last thing at night now and then. It took the MIL a year to finally tell me that when I have a bath at night there's no hot water for her shower the next morning.

How the feck was I to know they didn't have a power shower in their ensuite?

Perhaps some of the bad feeling stems from my failure to cover up the fact that I don't like them. Must work on improving that.

Actually, screw that. The father lectured me about accountability, careers and family, forgetting that he'd openly admitted that he regrets all the time he spent away from his young children (he's a workaholic). He complained that I acted like I didn't trust them around my daughter.

About 3 months afterwards he held my then 16 month old daughter upside down and shook her. He thought that was entertaining for her, and to be fair, it was.

Afterwards I took him aside and explained about Shaken Baby Syndrome. I'll never trust him with her after that.

When we took my daughter off formula she developed a bad rash. The MIL immediately ranted about lactose intolerance and how could we do that to a baby? It turned that she hadn't a clue what the symptoms of lactose intolerance were. My daughter actually had mild eczema.

The only thing worse that someone who thinks that they know everything is someone who believes that they know everything.

whoopsadoodles · 16-03-2017 03:06PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

House sharing always turns any passive-aggressive traits up about ten notches. We (myself, my fiance and our 2 year old daughter) live with my fiance's parents. I have a habit of having a bath last thing at night now and then. It took the MIL a year to finally tell me that when I have a bath at night there's no hot water for her shower the next morning.

How the feck was I to know they didn't have a power shower in their ensuite?

Perhaps some of the bad feeling stems from my failure to cover up the fact that I don't like them. Must work on improving that.

Actually, screw that. The father lectured me about accountability, careers and family, forgetting that he'd openly admitted that he regrets all the time he spent away from his young children (he's a workaholic). He complained that I acted like I didn't trust them around my daughter.

About 3 months afterwards he held my then 16 month old daughter upside down and shook her. He thought that was entertaining for her, and to be fair, it was.

Afterwards I took him aside and explained about Shaken Baby Syndrome. I'll never trust him with her after that.

When we took my daughter off formula she developed a bad rash. The MIL immediately ranted about lactose intolerance and how could we do that to a baby? It turned that she hadn't a clue what the symptoms of lactose intolerance were. My daughter actually had mild eczema.

The only thing worse that someone who thinks that they know everything is someone who believes that they know everything.

You like them enough to live with them though!

The One Doctor · 16-03-2017 03:33PM

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

You like them enough to live with them though!

I like not paying rent and saving towards a mortgage.

James 007 · 16-03-2017 03:40PM

OP I would get an old chain and bolt it to the wall, allow enough flexibility to stretch from the cooker ring to the sink, also get a chain for the lid in case it moves too.

Wildcard7 · 16-03-2017 03:51PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

You like them enough to live with them though!

I like not paying rent and saving towards a mortgage.

Then you're not house sharing. You're living under someone elses roof.

Neyite · 16-03-2017 04:09PM

She's probably like me and always turning on the wrong ring.

It sounds to me like she doesn't want to accidentally burn the arse out of your beloved kettle for fear of tipping you over the edge.

J Mysterio · 16-03-2017 04:31PM

This is the best thread in ages!

whoopsadoodles · 16-03-2017 04:34PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

I like not paying rent and saving towards a mortgage.

Maybe his accountability/careers/family thing was a bit of passive aggressive "get the fcuk out of my house and pay your own way"?

inforfun · 16-03-2017 04:49PM

Buy more kettles
Leave them all over the place.

16-03-2017 05:15PM

Toots wrote: »

Put her hand in hot water while she's asleep every night so she wets the bed. Then start singing "pissy pants, pissy pants" very softly every time you're in the room with her. Complain loudly about a smell of piss whenever she's within earshot. When she eventually breaks down and confronts you, crying and wailing "Why are you doing this to me??" pick up the kettle, give her a pointed look, place the kettle on the stove, another pointed look, leave room. Problem solved.

Jeez. There was me thinking that you are such a nice sweet natured person! ooohhhh, you are awful.........but I like you!

MilesMorales1 · 16-03-2017 05:17PM

Put the kettle in her bed.

Jodotman · 16-03-2017 05:29PM

Remember Phoobee in friends when she was put in charge in cups?

You need to do this with the kettle. Buy 100 of these and leave them everywhere including the four rings, the oven, the microwave, the kitchen table, the bathtub and the toilet.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/WHISTLING-KETTLE-LITRE-STAINLESS-STEEL/dp/B003PI2ZU2/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1489681566&sr=8-8&keywords=hob+kettle

Also replace the wallpaper with 100's of these.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Kettle-Teapot-Glossy-Poster-Wellcoda/dp/B01DWLVMVY/ref=sr_1_50?ie=UTF8&qid=1489681696&sr=8-50-spons&keywords=kettle+poster&psc=1

She should move ou then as she'll realize your crazy.

On a more serious note:

How many times do you use the kettle a day? Probably raking up the electricity bill? Or you also the type of housemate that has the heat on constantly without consulting the other housemates and expect them to pay the same portion of the bill?

Teyla Emmagan · 16-03-2017 05:48PM

Bubbaclaus wrote:

Or you could put your damn stuff away while not being used.

Yeah, I would hate your defrosting bread and butter and kettle all over a shared kitchen. Keep your **** in the press OP.

Prime Irish Beef · 16-03-2017 09:22PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

House sharing always turns any passive-aggressive traits up about ten notches. We (myself, my fiance and our 2 year old daughter) live with my fiance's parents. I have a habit of having a bath last thing at night now and then. It took the MIL a year to finally tell me that when I have a bath at night there's no hot water for her shower the next morning.

How the feck was I to know they didn't have a power shower in their ensuite?

Perhaps some of the bad feeling stems from my failure to cover up the fact that I don't like them. Must work on improving that.

Actually, screw that. The father lectured me about accountability, careers and family, forgetting that he'd openly admitted that he regrets all the time he spent away from his young children (he's a workaholic). He complained that I acted like I didn't trust them around my daughter.

About 3 months afterwards he held my then 16 month old daughter upside down and shook her. He thought that was entertaining for her, and to be fair, it was.

Afterwards I took him aside and explained about Shaken Baby Syndrome. I'll never trust him with her after that.

When we took my daughter off formula she developed a bad rash. The MIL immediately ranted about lactose intolerance and how could we do that to a baby? It turned that she hadn't a clue what the symptoms of lactose intolerance were. My daughter actually had mild eczema.

The only thing worse that someone who thinks that they know everything is someone who believes that they know everything.

They're putting you up and saving yourself and your wife money. Jebus.

If it was that bad, you'd move out. But I'm guessing paying extortionate amounts of rent is worse, so I think you owe the parents in law a little bit of gratitude.

IvyTheTerrible · 16-03-2017 09:32PM

bluewolf wrote: »

Why are you so obsessed with your house mates and their habits and never ever saying a word to them?
Learn to communicate or find your own place

But what would they post incessantly about on boards then?

Vela · 16-03-2017 09:51PM

Just tell her to wise up. It's really much easier than this sh1te you're both at now.

wolfmoon87 · 16-03-2017 10:53PM

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

But what would they post incessantly about on boards then?

.....Garth Brooks

MilesMorales1 · 16-03-2017 10:57PM

IvyTheTerrible wrote: »

But what would they post incessantly about on boards then?

People on welfare, immigrants, Americans, the Brits, RTE, food. The list is endless!

AryaStark · 16-03-2017 11:18PM

The Raptor wrote: »

I know it's a kettle and I should get over it but it's irritating as ****. I wouldn't mind if she was using the ring but she's not. Someone else mentioned that maybe she doesn't want pans hitting off, but she's not just moving it aside, she's moving it completely away. Not only that but I put it back last week and she removed it again as soon as I was gone from the kitchen. It's nasty behaviour. It's not the moving of the kettle, my food gets moved as well. I was making toast last week and she moved my butter and she was using a different counter. The butter wasn't in her way. I think she's trying to tell me that my things doesn't matter.

You seem to be over thinking it. And I would not see it as Nasty behaviour .. bit over the top!

RabbleRouser2k · 17-03-2017 04:54AM

Prime Irish Beef wrote: »

They're putting you up and saving yourself and your wife money. Jebus.

If it was that bad, you'd move out. But I'm guessing paying extortionate amounts of rent is worse, so I think you owe the parents in law a little bit of gratitude.

The guy complaining about his in-laws just sounds like a very ungrateful individual. A bit miserable too.

The kid was having fun, made the granddad feel guilty-also shaken baby syndrome is a violent shaking where the head rocks back and forth and causes internal damage. From the desciption he gave, that's not shaken baby. Far from it.

The Raptor · 17-03-2017 01:02PM

What do people do with their electric kettles? Put it in their press?

If she's trying to tell me to put it away, she herself should be putting her things away. Instead she leaves a collection of dirty glasses, cups, bowls, pans on the draining board. Not half washed. For days on end and won't put them away so she herself is far from perfect.

Somebody else also mentioned that I'm probably inconsiderate and have the heating on knowing well that others are coughing up. It's actually the housemate that switches on the heating and leaves it on. It was a nice summery day last weekend and she switched it on for two hours. It would have been on for longer if I didn't switch it off. I asked her was she warm enough and could I switch it off and she was wearing a t shirt, throwing on a hoodie was out of the question.

I'm just having a bit of a rant about her, I know that it won't get me anywhere here. I do intend on saying it to her.

Prime Irish Beef · 17-03-2017 01:14PM

Honest ta jaysus. A kettle and the heating. Christ almighty.

I've been sharing with people since I was 17 and if something really bothers me I'll say it, but there's times I've held back and not said anything because I was being a pedantic prick.

You know what's funny? A lot of things, so lighten the **** up.

iwillhtfu · 17-03-2017 01:20PM

Toots wrote: »

Put her hand in hot water while she's asleep every night so she wets the bed. Then start singing "pissy pants, pissy pants" very softly every time you're in the room with her. Complain loudly about a smell of piss whenever she's within earshot. When she eventually breaks down and confronts you, crying and wailing "Why are you doing this to me??" pick up the kettle, give her a pointed look, place the kettle on the stove, another pointed look, leave room. Problem solved.

Jesus that's disturbing :eek:

fineso.mom · 17-03-2017 01:21PM

Prime Irish Beef wrote: »

Honest ta jaysus. A kettle and the heating. Christ almighty.

I've been sharing with people since I was 17 and if something really bothers me I'll say it, but there's times I've held back and not said anything because I was being a pedantic prick.

You know what's funny? A lot of things, so lighten the **** up.

If everyone was like that the world would be a better place. If only more people could recognise when they are being 'a pedantic prick' Fair dues.

James 007 · 17-03-2017 04:00PM

The Raptor wrote: »

What do people do with their electric kettles? Put it in their press?

If she's trying to tell me to put it away, she herself should be putting her things away. Instead she leaves a collection of dirty glasses, cups, bowls, pans on the draining board. Not half washed. For days on end and won't put them away so she herself is far from perfect.

Somebody else also mentioned that I'm probably inconsiderate and have the heating on knowing well that others are coughing up. It's actually the housemate that switches on the heating and leaves it on. It was a nice summery day last weekend and she switched it on for two hours. It would have been on for longer if I didn't switch it off. I asked her was she warm enough and could I switch it off and she was wearing a t shirt, throwing on a hoodie was out of the question.

I'm just having a bit of a rant about her, I know that it won't get me anywhere here. I do intend on saying it to her.

Normally any house I have lived in, anything that was shared like the toaster the kettle, the microwave are left out on the kitchen worktop. The kettle and toaster are usually plugged in to a socket that is the least used. I dont think anyone here would plug out a kettle to put into a press when its not in use, as usually its a shared piece of equipment. In fact most people just leave it plugged in.

Anything thats my like extra pans cups, graters, lunch boxes etc, I keep in my own press. There are only certain utensils that I share with others. Im more flexible in sharing if I see that other tenant is will to share additional utensils outside what a landlord would provide.

If the kettle is solely for your own use then you should just take it off the cooker when finished with and just put it into a press. Its not worth the hassle of arguing with a house mate over this as it will create tension between the both of you for the rest of your tenancy, you need to ask yourself this question, is it worth winning a battle for this, and no it does not make better tea.

As for cleaning the dishes, if they are shared I suggest you both discuss this and perhaps as a reminder for All, just put up one of these signs, see below, I cant find a typical type humorous sign.

Sometimes you have to be clever with the heating, just turn the temp gauge down a degree or adjust from within the boiler. I have always found that regardless of what you do, they will always have it back on in no time and if they are wearing t-shirts then there is a blatant disregard to not keeping bills to an acceptable level.

https://www.google.ie/search?q=please+clean+the+dishes+properly&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiUma2o4d3SAhVBFMAKHWoSAT0QsAQIGw&biw=1366&bih=662#imgdii=R9LB-uLpPdtYGM:&imgrc=_sqtmHOu-nrbhM:

andekwarhola · 17-03-2017 04:03PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

I like not paying rent and saving towards a mortgage.

And then trashing them behind their back to strangers even though they put you up in their home rent-free.

17-03-2017 06:05PM

The One Doctor wrote: »

I have a habit of having a bath last thing at night now and then. It took the MIL a year to finally tell me that when I have a bath at night there's no hot water for her shower the next morning.

How the feck was I to know they didn't have a power shower in their ensuite?

The rest of your post is in bad enough grace, but just on this - I've never taken a bath in someone else's house without making sure it won't leave them without hot water. No way would I assume they have other means.

You ask people if it would be inconvenient, that's how the feck you find out if they have a power shower or not.

You are a guest if you're not paying rent, it's not a houseshare. You are a bad guest.

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