Housemate problems

The Raptor

We got a new housemate in before the Christmas. She was a cheapskate thief at first, like would take things without buying any for herself. Taking my things away solved that problem and she managed to buy her own box of tea instead of being cheap and expecting someone else to. She's still cheap though but I must thank her boyfriend some day for his Netflix.

The biggest issue is she keeps moving my things. I defrost a few slices of bread on the table and she throws it into the fruit basket.

I have a stove top kettle that she keeps moving. We have 4 hobs on the cooker and they're never all in use, mostly the ones at the front, so I leave the kettle on the back. She keeps moving the kettle to the counter top. It's not in her way. Fcuk, I'd be happy if she used all 4 rings on the cooker if she wants but she doesn't. She just moves it.

This evening she moved it closer to the sink and left it by the sink. I'm not sure what she wanted me to do with it, wash it maybe?

Last week she moved the kettle to the table. She was being a right bitch about last week's mood and I moved it back onto the empty cooker and only for her to move it onto the counter top as soon as I was out the door.

So I'm getting quite fed up with her and her passive aggressiveness.

What do I do with an idiot like this?

Cupcake_Crisis

Give her a smack of the kettle

endacl

The Raptor wrote: »

So I'm getting quite fed up with her and her passive aggressiveness.

What do I do with an idiot like this?

Stop being passive aggressive? Tell her she's pissing you off, and how.

That'd be step 1. Come back to us when you've done that. We'll give you step 2 then.

The Raptor

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

Give her a smack of the kettle

It's going to be hot the next time she moves it.

Barry Badrinath

Have sex with her and she will move out.

Cupcake_Crisis

The Raptor wrote: »

It's going to be hot the next time she moves it.

Find a way to electrify it so that the next time she picks it up she gets a very tiny, but very real, electric shock.

Spend weeks gradually increasing the intensity until eventually you just kill the bitch and blame it on a faulty kettle.

Danonino.

Life's too short to be worrying about kettles being moved.

Put it in the centre of the kitchen floor.


Wait for her to crack up about it and say you thought it was a game, that she needs to chill out it's only a kettle.

The Raptor

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

Find a way to electrify it so that the next time she picks it up she gets a very tiny, but very real, electric shock.

Ohh, yeah, that's good. I might just give her a whack of the wooden spoon as well.

longshanks

Ye deserve each other.

Cupcake_Crisis

The Raptor wrote: »

Ohh, yeah, that's good. I might just give her a whack of the wooden spoon as well.

And tell her she's been a very naughty girl!

JupiterKid

Thank God I'm not in my 20s any more and don't have to worry about housemates.:)

BsBox

The Raptor wrote: »

We have 4 hobs on the cooker and they're never all in use, mostly the ones at the front, so I leave the kettle on the back. She keeps moving the kettle to the counter top. It's not in her way.

Not really defending the kettle krook, but this would annoy me so much. If I'm cooking on the front two hobs with frying pans and pots, I don't want a kettle a few cm away where they'll be hitting off it and more than likely getting food and crap all over it.

RabbleRouser2k

JupiterKid wrote: »

Thank God I'm not in my 20s any more and don't have to worry about housemates.:)

Funny-I know too many in far beyond their twenties still renting-getting a house is FAR too expensive atm.

The Raptor

BsBox wrote: »

Not really defending the kettle krook, but this would annoy me so much. If I'm cooking on the front two hobs with frying pans and pots, I don't want a kettle a few cm away where they'll be hitting off it and more than likely getting food and crap all over it.

That's a reasonable enough explanation.

But to move it to the kitchen table. And she wasn't using the cooker when I moved it back and she took it off again.

Then this evening rather than move it to the kitchen counter, she moved it and left it beside the sink.

She wasn't like this when she first moved in. She's more settled and thinks she can move things around.

And what about moving my defrosting food to the fruit basket?

This is basically housesharing. Everyone has problems and everyone bitches.

Canis Lupus

A stove top kettle? Are we back in the early 1900s or what?

The Raptor

Canis Lupus wrote: »

A stove top kettle? Are we back in the early 1900s or what?

It makes better tea than an electric kettle.

JupiterKid

Canis Lupus wrote: »

A stove top kettle? Are we back in the early 1900s or what?

I had a cooker top kettle when I lived in the States 20 years ago. Electric kettles aren't all that common over there and they do make a nice whistling sound when boiled.

BsBox

The Raptor wrote: »

And what about moving my defrosting food to the fruit basket?

To be honest, I think you just need to find someone you know in real life and vent at them. House sharing can sometimes make you want to claw your eyes out, but unless you're going to actually talk to the person, it's something you have to deal with. They're not just going to stop doing what they're doing if you don't communicate with them.

In my case, trying to articulate these things face to face and on the spot can be difficult, which is why Whatsapp/Viber/Whatever groups are great for people living together. You can take time to send a carefully constructed message that gets the point across without causing offense/anger, and even if there is some of those feelings as a result, the other person won't see you immediately so those feelings will have died down by the time ye're face to face again.

As for the defrosted food... let it go.

Toots

Put her hand in hot water while she's asleep every night so she wets the bed. Then start singing "pissy pants, pissy pants" very softly every time you're in the room with her. Complain loudly about a smell of piss whenever she's within earshot. When she eventually breaks down and confronts you, crying and wailing "Why are you doing this to me??" pick up the kettle, give her a pointed look, place the kettle on the stove, another pointed look, leave room. Problem solved.

hank scorpio89

Take a s**te in the kettle and boil it trust me she wont go near it again.

Wanderer78

Pet lion, he 'll keep the house in check while your not around

The Raptor

hank scorpio89 wrote: »

Take a s**te in the kettle and boil it trust me she wont go near it again.

No

Canis Lupus

The Raptor wrote: »

It makes better tea than an electric kettle.

lol

The Raptor

Canis Lupus wrote: »

lol

Come over to mine and I'll show you.

DivingDuck

The Raptor wrote: »

Come over to mine and I'll show you.

It's a trap, he just wants another viable suspect for the murder of the housmate—!

topmanamillion

Remove the kettle from the kitchen for a few days.
Then after she thinks you`ve just given up and gotten rid of the kettle start taking pictures of it in various places and put the pictures up near the stove like your kettle is gone on holiday. Put the pictures up over the stove where she`ll see them.

Monday could be a Picture of it in the car with a seat belt around it.
Tuesday - a picture of it stocking up in the shop with supplies.
Wednesday - a picture of it with a load of other kettles at picnic benches
Thursday - a picture of it on a bike
Friday - a hike up a mountain
Saturday - a snapchat pic of it out for a meal with the caption "I don't want this to end #memories"
(The previous 6 days should also have been spent looking for your housemates vibrator)
Sunday - a picture of your kettle beside her vibrator - This one goes under her door with a note on the back "I`m back from my holiday and I'm not taking any more of your sh1t, I like to stay at the back of the stove when I`m not being used, you see me and this Vibrator have something in common, we keep getting used for a c*nts enjoyment"

Canis Lupus

The Raptor wrote: »

Come over to mine and I'll show you.

I'm not falling for that again.

I'll be honest, if I was in a flat share and someone insisted on using a stove top kettle instead of an electric one I'd probably keep making it disappear into the rubbish.

But then I don't have to flatshare.... except with my missus.... grrrrr

The Raptor

I know it's a kettle and I should get over it but it's irritating as ****. I wouldn't mind if she was using the ring but she's not. Someone else mentioned that maybe she doesn't want pans hitting off, but she's not just moving it aside, she's moving it completely away. Not only that but I put it back last week and she removed it again as soon as I was gone from the kitchen. It's nasty behaviour. It's not the moving of the kettle, my food gets moved as well. I was making toast last week and she moved my butter and she was using a different counter. The butter wasn't in her way. I think she's trying to tell me that my things doesn't matter.

andekwarhola

OCD vs OCD: the sequel.

Just get your own place and then you can face all the tins in the press southward.

Hooked

Weld the kettle to the stove top...

Then sit back and bask in your glorious victory.

WHIP IT!

Good god, this is painful...

Rachiee

This is a bit off the wall but why dont you just say

" hey whats up with moving the kettle all the time i could understand if it was in your way but i dont think it is.. Its really bugging me, if you need to move it out of the way could you put it back when your done"

To her face next time you see her

Cee-Jay-Cee

Why don't you say 'Please stop moving my kettle...,you fcuking lunatic crazy scumbag psycho bitch or I'll slice you from ear to ear with a sharpened spoon and hang you by the ankles from the ceiling.'' That usually works

beertons

Make her some laxative infused tea?

OhHiMark

Hang on, so you're complaining about your flatmate, and yet you're the kind of person who freezes your bread? I think I can see who's the crazy one here.

kylith

"Stop moving my stuff, thanks".

andekwarhola

On a serious note though, when you're annoyed so hair-splittingly by the strangers you live with, your subconscious is just trying to tell you that you're too old for accommodation sharing.

KeithTS

OP, talk to your house mate about her minor violation of your space or forget it.

Now, to discuss the more important topic:
I don't drink tea but I can't see how boiling water on a stove rather than a kettle makes it better.
Enlighten me please!

Bubbaclaus

Or you could put your damn stuff away while not being used.

Your Face

The OP is acting like an auld tart.

James 007

Why don't you just put the kettle into a press. Usually when I was in rented accommodation any clean pots, pans etc went into a press. Problem solved. Are you only living with this person or is there others living with you too.

whoopsadoodles

How the **** does a stove top kettle make better tea than an electric kettle?

It just boils water?

If you had said teapot v mug of tea then I'd have understood.

But two vessels for boiling water???

What?

Zaph

It was the bins with the last housemate, now it's the kettle with this one. Have you given any consideration to the fact that you may not be cut out for house-sharing and that you should get a place of your own?

Jodotman

Sorry to burst your bubble OP but you are completely in the wrong here.

Leave your kettle off hob, that would irritate the crap out of me every time I wanted to cook. Your making problems where there is no problem. Perhaps your housemate wants to use the back rings and doesn't want to put the empty kettle on it while hot. Maybe the housemate wants to use one of the bigger rings in the back and your kettle is in the way?

Were you counting your number of teabags?

How big is the table that the user had to move your bread off?

whoopsadoodles

Zaph wrote: »

It was the bins with the last housemate, now it's the kettle with this one. Have you given any consideration to the fact that you may not be cut out for house-sharing and that you should get a place of your own?

And hair in the shower - don't forget the hair in the shower.

Boom_Bap

Maybe stop hiding your tea bags and the kettle moving might stop.

Then burn the house down.

Bambi985

Why don't you pull the ultimate passive-aggressive-housemate move and leave a sticky note on the kettle with "Do not move me, thanks" written on it and see how she reacts.

Zaph wrote: »

It was the bins with the last housemate, now it's the kettle with this one. Have you given any consideration to the fact that you may not be cut out for house-sharing and that you should get a place of your own?

In fairness it's not as simple as moving into a place of your own especially if the OP lives in a city like Dublin or London where rents are just ridiculous and if you want to be able to save anything at all, housesharing is your only option.

jamesbere

Boom_Bap wrote: »

Maybe stop hiding your tea bags and the kettle moving might stop.

Then burn the house down.

Burning seems extreme, I think opening a portal to another dimension is the best bet, he can throw her through and be done with her.

Boom_Bap

jamesbere wrote: »

Burning seems extreme, I think opening a portal to another dimension is the best bet, he can throw her through and be done with her.

You need more equipment for that and it's a strain on the oul electricty meter. But I like how you are thinking.

Zaph

Bambi985 wrote: »

In fairness it's not as simple as moving into a place of your own especially if the OP lives in a city like Dublin or London where rents are just ridiculous and if you want to be able to save anything at all, housesharing is your only option.

I'm well aware of that, but there seems to be issues with every housemate that moves in and as a result we're subjected to constant posts and threads about whatever the particular issue may be this time round. I was simply offering the only foolproof solution to the problem.