How come Tinder is so difficult?

mzungu · 05-12-2016 05:37PM

Zillah wrote: »

Not really.

Obviously you have to have genetic potential, but a lot of people will never know what their potential is.

Who is the chap in the picture?

Stealthfins · 05-12-2016 05:51PM

It's not you mate it's them,brats expecting Adonis.....and a body like Michael Angelo to boot.

You're fcked if you don't drive a heap of **** like an Audi or BMW....

You have to be able to bring them shopping to Brown Thomas spend everything you have on their puss...and they won't let you out without wearing Aventus creed,or something similar.

Then you'll feel all comfortable and at one with yourself,youll start to eat more and then you're not as hot as Jack in Accounts.

Jack is a creep but she doesn't see it that way,hes a hero because he bought his girlfriend a pair of those heels with red velvet underneath
and agentprovecteur lingerie....

There's a Christmas party coming up,Jack in accounts is going to be there and hell be ripped,wearing Gucci brogue shoes,nice Italian chinos,and a Paul Smith fitted shirt,he'll also have a dishy smile "glint" ****

It's the era of sex love and attention addiction.

I'm a Lucky bastrd because I'm like a cross between Richard Gere and George Clooney.
I'm a so called salt n pepper silver fox at 41 5"11 and toned.

My son is nearly 17 I'm successful,have a nice house, and never was married or intend to.

But if all came to all I'd much prefer a nice attractive country or towny woman than one of those glamour puss from Tinder

They'll end up fckn you over anyway, POF is full of them.....

I've no intention of settling down

Because I'm worth it ðŸ˜

eviltwin · 05-12-2016 05:58PM

Zillah wrote: »

Not really.

Obviously you have to have genetic potential, but a lot of people will never know what their potential is.

I think he looked better in the before photo

Zillah · 05-12-2016 06:07PM

eviltwin wrote: »

I think he looked better in the before photo

I have heard this from a few people, which I just find mind blowing but whatever (I'll concede his colour is a bit weird; probably make up for the shoot or fake tan or something). Regardless, it serves as an example of how it's too easy to just claim you'll never have a jawline and cheekbones for genetic reasons.

The_Captain · 05-12-2016 06:31PM

Chris Pratt is a terrible example since he's still hot in his ugly stage.

He went from hot to ridiculously good looking

Rakish Paddy · 05-12-2016 06:51PM

Lads, I don't know what you're doing wrong at all.

I spent a few very fun months a couple of years ago using Tinder and I was knee-deep in clunge the entire time, to the point where I couldn't believe I'd been missing out on the whole online thing for so long.

I reckon I'm fairly average looking, average height, average build, average income, and never had any shortage of women contact me which subsequently turned into meeting in person. A few of those that I met were the type that probably owned cats, but most of them were great.

I ended up giving up on it because I was knackered having so many flings on the go at any one time and getting late-night booty calls etc.

Pat Mustard · 05-12-2016 07:03PM

Rakish Paddy wrote: »

was knee-deep in clunge the entire time

Is that you Jay Cartwright?

Rakish Paddy · 05-12-2016 07:06PM

Pat Mustard wrote: »

Is that you Jay Cartwright?

Errr... Mr. Gilbert???... :eek:

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 05-12-2016 07:13PM

The_Captain wrote: »

Chris Pratt is a terrible example since he's still hot in his ugly stage.

He went from hot to ridiculously good looking

That's a really bad photo of him on the left too

mzungu · 05-12-2016 07:15PM

The_Captain wrote: »

Chris Pratt is a terrible example since he's still hot in his ugly stage.

He went from hot to ridiculously good looking

Ah, so that's who it is.

santana75 · 05-12-2016 07:38PM

BabyE wrote: »

Anyone have success off it, why do standards seem to be through the roof nowadays. You got to have the good facial looks, the immaculate hair, amazing body, height, charisma and all the trappings of high status and wealth and then maybe, just maybe you might snag yourself a ticket using the rebound card.
What is it? Are we seeing a breathing out of the average male? Is a men only as good as his worse attribute to a women? So you might have a ripped well maintained body but by god if you are below 6 foot or that face isn't as symmetrical as it ought to be then you may as well sign out of the dating game.

Simple solution man. Get away from online dating and approach a girl for real. Guarantee you that you will have infinitely more success that way. We were never meant to skip the approaching part, when you do something very important is removed from the equation. Leave the interweb alone, approach women in real life and all of a sudden your attitude will change from thinking you have to be perfect to, it was all a lie, I was grand to begin with.

ongarboy · 05-12-2016 07:52PM

I have to dispute some of the entrenched opinions being spouted around here that seemed to be filled with resentment and bitterness. Some guys here seem to resent that girls have the upper hand in online dating but can any one of those guys say that if they were average looking yet had loads of women giving them attention, that they also wouldn't be selecting the cream of the crop and swiping left to any girl that wasn't 9/10 or more? I think it's hypocritical to condemn women for doing this when in fact men would do the exact same?

I also have to dispute this notion that women only go for successful, alpha male rugby types. I have many good looking female friends, relatives and sisters and I've seen the attention they always got from guys whenever they were on nights out but I can't single out anyone of them that ended up or married this south side, fee paying school educated rugby player type that no one apart from this forum (and possibly the Sunday Independent) seems to put on a pedestal of male ideal. Any of the guys my friends hooked up with may in some cases be considered handsome or in decent jobs but it was their personalities that was their main selling point. Incidentally, none of them met their OHs through online dating so what does that say?

mzungu · 05-12-2016 08:11PM

ongarboy wrote: »

I have to dispute some of the entrenched opinions being spouted around here that seemed to be filled with resentment and bitterness. Some guys here seem to resent that girls have the upper hand in online dating but can any one of those guys say that if they were average looking yet had loads of women giving them attention, that they also wouldn't be selecting the cream of the crop and swiping left to any girl that wasn't 9/10 or more? I think it's hypocritical to condemn women for doing this when in fact men would do the exact same?

I also have to dispute this notion that women only go for successful, alpha male rugby types. I have many good looking female friends, relatives and sisters and I've seen the attention they always got from guys whenever they were on nights out but I can't single out anyone of them that ended up or married this south side, fee paying school educated rugby player type that no one apart from this forum (and possibly the Sunday Independent) seems to put on a pedestal of male ideal. Any of the guys my friends hooked up with may in some cases be considered handsome or in decent jobs but it was their personalities that was their main selling point. Incidentally, none of them met their OHs through online dating so what does that say?

Aye, there does seem to be a recurring theme in the thread of women only going for the 5% super hunks out there while the remaining 95% are consigned to live the single life. If this were true, there would be next to nobody hooking up, ever. Problem is that Tinder is being used as a metric to judge all relationships, and that is a hiding to nothing.

Alpha_zero · 05-12-2016 08:27PM

mzungu wrote: »

Aye, there does seem to be a recurring theme in the thread of women only going for the 5% super hunks out there while the remaining 95% are consigned to live the single life. If this were true, there would be next to nobody hooking up, ever. Problem is that Tinder is being used as a metric to judge all relationships, and that is a hiding to nothing.

Tinder has nothing to do with dating, it is a hook up app people looking for casual sex.

Surreptitious · 05-12-2016 08:32PM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Tinder has nothing to do with dating, it is a hook up app people looking for casual sex.

It's a meet you there in ten minutes job. Pure hook ups.

Alpha_zero · 05-12-2016 08:43PM

Surreptitious wrote: »

It's a meet you there in ten minutes job. Pure hook ups.

Exactly and if you meet someone and get past a few drinks then you are getting laid

siblers · 05-12-2016 09:25PM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Tinder has nothing to do with dating, it is a hook up app people looking for casual sex.

Load of nonsense

Dr Crayfish · 05-12-2016 09:45PM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Tinder has nothing to do with dating, it is a hook up app people looking for casual sex.

I've never used it but I'm pretty sure this is absolute nonsense. There was never anywhere, in any time, where there were loads of girls looking to simply hook up for casual sex. Unless you were paying for it.
Before anyone says Coppers etc. If that was the case why aren't the guys moaning about Tinder and jaw lines in here in Coppers every week picking up chicks?

Alpha_zero · 05-12-2016 09:54PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

I've never used it but I'm pretty sure this is absolute nonsense. There was never anywhere, in any time, where there were loads of girls looking to simply hook up for casual sex. Unless you were paying for it.
Before anyone says Coppers etc. If that was the case why aren't the guys moaning about Tinder and jaw lines in here in Coppers every week picking up chicks?

Tinder is a hook up app that is a fact, if you do meet a girl from it in person for drinks, odds are she is looking for a hook up just the same as you, hence the nature of the app.

eeguy · 05-12-2016 10:13PM

Alpha_zero wrote: »

Tinder is a hook up app that is a fact, if you do meet a girl from it in person for drinks, odds are she is looking for a hook up just the same as you, hence the nature of the app.

Surreptitious wrote: »

It's a meet you there in ten minutes job. Pure hook ups.

Are you speaking from actual experience?

That's not my experience at all. Tinder might have started out like that, but it's more of a dating app now.

The ol sex on a first date happens as often on Tinder as in real life, though I'd blame the drinks more than tinder

Dr Jakub · 05-12-2016 10:15PM

BabyE wrote: »

Nah man its the western world. Its the same everywhere!

Time save up and head to Asia!

Sonics2k · 05-12-2016 11:25PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

I've never used it but I'm pretty sure this is absolute nonsense. There was never anywhere, in any time, where there were loads of girls looking to simply hook up for casual sex. Unless you were paying for it.
Before anyone says Coppers etc. If that was the case why aren't the guys moaning about Tinder and jaw lines in here in Coppers every week picking up chicks?

You need to get out more, or at least go to other places.

Dr Crayfish · 05-12-2016 11:44PM

Sonics2k wrote: »

You need to get out more, or at least go to other places.

I'm not looking particularly looking for casual sex

Surreptitious · 05-12-2016 11:46PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

I'm not looking particularly looking for casual sex

Erra quit whinging. Women don't send messages then they're not good looking. Can't find sex, not looking for sex. Plenty of wans up for it if you walk the streets at 3 am scouring the joint.

Sonics2k · 05-12-2016 11:50PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

I'm not looking particularly looking for casual sex

Neither am I, I've been in a relationship these past 5 years, but you'd be mad to think there aren't plenty of places where you'll find a tonne of girls on nights out looking to hook up with someone.

Dr Crayfish · 05-12-2016 11:54PM

Sonics2k wrote: »

Neither am I, I've been in a relationship these past 5 years, but you'd be mad to think there aren't plenty of places where you'll find a tonne of girls on nights out looking to hook up with someone.

Of course you do, but my original post was opposing the view that Tinder is there for "hook ups", by which he meant meeting up purely for sex. I would have thought most people out trying to score are usually looking for a little more than that, perhaps I'm naiive.

Dr Crayfish · 05-12-2016 11:55PM

Surreptitious wrote: »

Erra quit whinging. Women don't send messages then they're not good looking. Can't find sex, not looking for sex. Plenty of wans up for it if you walk the streets at 3 am scouring the joint.

I'm not whinging!? I never said women don't send messages if they're not good looking, you had said previously that you don't get responses from men so I asked if you were good looking and that seemed to cause offence so I'm sorry about that.

Surreptitious · 05-12-2016 11:56PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

I'm not whinging!? I never said women don't send messages if they're not good looking, you had said previously that you don't get responses from men so I asked if you were good looking and that seemed to cause offence so I'm sorry about that.

Don't worry about it. Anyway I think men on here have the wrong idea of women based on personal experience plus they are plenty women looking for sex on nights out even married people cheating.

Sonics2k · 05-12-2016 11:58PM

Dr Crayfish wrote: »

Of course you do, but my original post was opposing the view that Tinder is there for "hook ups", by which he meant meeting up purely for sex. I would have thought most people out trying to score are usually looking for a little more than that, perhaps I'm naiive.

Afraid so Cray.
Honestly, I worked as a doorman for 3 years and saw hundreds of girls out looking to bring someone home for the night. I know girls now who actively use apps like Tinder looking to meet up with a guy and maybe get a FWB situation going because they don't want a relationship right now.

Tinder is a bit of a mixed bag, some want to hook up, some want to get a relationship.

I was only arguing with that one line "There was never anywhere, in any time, where there were loads of girls looking to simply hook up for casual sex." because it's just wrong.

Dr Crayfish · 06-12-2016 12:00AM

Sonics2k wrote: »

I was only arguing with that one line "There was never anywhere, in any time, where there were loads of girls looking to simply hook up for casual sex." because it's just wrong.

I know it's wrong, but it certainly wouldn't be the norm in places I go to at the age I am. Not just for me, also my better looking "square jaw rugby player" mates that certain people here seem obsessed with!

How come Tinder is so difficult?

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