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Have you ever done it on a 1st date?

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  • #122
    Kal El
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 613 ✭✭✭Kal El


    Poor Uncle Tom wrote: »
    Rules?

    Really :confused:
    Youve never heard of the three date rule


  • #123
    Winterlong
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭Winterlong


    Kal El wrote: »
    Really :confused:
    Youve never heard of the three date rule

    I thought the 3 date rule was for burping?


  • #124
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 11,642 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Im pretty sure the 3 date thing was introduced to Ireland from America via Friends.

    In fact before Friends did Irish people even call them dates? Was it not called 'meeting'?


  • #125
    Ferrari3600
    Closed Accounts Posts: 617 ✭✭✭Ferrari3600


    FortySeven wrote: »
    Friends with benefits. Being friends and having a ride just for fun. Rarely ends well.

    Ah yes. Bit slow on the uptake there.


  • #126
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Im pretty sure the 3 date thing was introduced to Ireland from America via Friends.

    In fact before Friends did Irish people even call them dates? Was it not called 'meeting'?

    No I think "meeting" is the new thing! Back in my day it was called "courting"!


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  • #127
    Winterlong
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭Winterlong


    pilly wrote: »
    No I think "meeting" is the new thing! Back in my day it was called "courting"!

    Meeting is the new Shifting according to my teenage niece.
    Didn't courting became dating sometime in the early 70s. Is there a new dating? Hard to keep up.


  • #128
    Burial.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,131 ✭✭✭Burial.


    I'd never go on a second date with the girl unless there's riding on the first date.


  • #129
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 25,909 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I wouldn't see it as a necessity but I would have a bit of an issue with someone having a "rule" about not doing it.


  • #130
    Ferrari3600
    Closed Accounts Posts: 617 ✭✭✭Ferrari3600


    Winterlong wrote: »
    Meeting is the new Shifting according to my teenage niece.
    Didn't courting became dating sometime in the early 70s. Is there a new dating? Hard to keep up.

    A former boss of mine took up the Americanism 'seeing'. In spite of him not being American nor ever having set foot in the US apart from the occasional holiday ('vacation'.) Used to ask his staff (all at least a decade younger than him), 'Are you seeing anyone these days?'

    He really was a tiresome person at times. Gave me my first proper job, so I guess I shouldn't be too harsh on the dude.


  • #131
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 11,642 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    pilly wrote: »
    No I think "meeting" is the new thing! Back in my day it was called "courting"!

    People were 'meeting' in rural galway back in the 80s.


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  • #132
    Kal El
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 613 ✭✭✭Kal El


    Winterlong wrote: »
    Meeting is the new Shifting according to my teenage niece.
    Didn't courting became dating sometime in the early 70s. Is there a new dating? Hard to keep up.

    Its sad Im 30 and literally have no idea what most people are talking about these days. I didnt know we had moved to meeting


  • #133
    Kal El
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 613 ✭✭✭Kal El


    Ferrari3600 wrote: »
    A former boss of mine took up the Americanism 'seeing'. In spite of him not being American nor ever having set foot in the US apart from the occasional holiday ('vacation'.) Used to ask his staff (all at least a decade younger than him), 'Are you seeing anyone these days?'

    He really was a tiresome person at times. Gave me my first proper job, so I guess I shouldn't be too harsh on the dude.

    Is that a American thing. I would hear that all the time for years


  • #134
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 11,642 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Kal El wrote: »
    Is that a American thing. I would hear that all the time for years

    Yeah seeing sounds fairly common to me.


  • #135
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Kal El wrote: »
    Its sad Im 30 and literally have no idea what most people are talking about these days. I didnt know we had moved to meeting

    I'm only 47 and the only reason I know anything is because I've grown kids. They keep me up to date! I thought it was fine to be saying I was "meeting" a male colleague all the time when I was just going for lunch. :D


  • #136
    posturingpat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,726 ✭✭✭posturingpat


    I fell into a tent at a festival one time and got with the woman in the tent having barely uttered 2 words to each other :D She was definite wife material :pac:


  • #137
    Rekop dog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭Rekop dog


    Burial. wrote: »
    I'd never go on a second date with the girl unless there's riding on the first date.

    That's ridiculous. Not many attractive women these days let out in first few dates, they've an abundance of choice and too much risks out there. You're basically ruling out most people worth having. The chase is fun too.


  • #138
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Rekop dog wrote: »
    That's ridiculous. Not many attractive women these days let out in first few dates, they've an abundance of choice and too much risks out there. You're basically ruling out most people worth having. The chase is fun too.

    I think that might have been a joke without the smiley face!


  • #139
    Walter H Price
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,839 ✭✭✭Walter H Price


    Burial. wrote: »
    I'd never go on a second date with the girl unless there's riding on the first date.

    when i was a college i would have fully agreed with that, if by the end of the second date she wasn't putting out i lost interest a bit to be honest. If it was put out there at any stage that it was totally off the table for whatever reason then id of checked out strait away.

    Havn't been on a date for 5 years now though, my friends with benefits thing turned serious and that was the end of that at the end of College


  • #140
    Burial.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,131 ✭✭✭Burial.


    Rekop dog wrote: »
    That's ridiculous. Not many attractive women these days let out in first few dates, they've an abundance of choice and too much risks out there. You're basically ruling out most people worth having. The chase is fun too.

    I really beg to differ. Plenty attractive women put out on the first date. Women have the same sexual needs and desires as men. It may seem that women are more conservative towards sex but it really isn't true in the same way all men aren't just looking for the ride. If the woman doesn't want to put out fine by me, but I'm not going to wait around for her to decide what she wants.


  • #141
    Kirby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,084 ✭✭✭✭Kirby


    Ferrari3600 wrote: »
    A former boss of mine took up the Americanism 'seeing'. In spite of him not being American nor ever having set foot in the US apart from the occasional holiday ('vacation'.) Used to ask his staff (all at least a decade younger than him), 'Are you seeing anyone these days?'

    He really was a tiresome person at times. Gave me my first proper job, so I guess I shouldn't be too harsh on the dude.

    The irony of you criticizing a guy for being too american and then end your post with the word "dude".


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  • #142
    osarusan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,955 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    Many many times.


    We are talking about crywanks, right?


  • #143
    Dr Crayfish
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,960 ✭✭✭Dr Crayfish


    Kal El wrote: »
    Its sad Im 30 and literally have no idea what most people are talking about these days

    You seem to have picked up that particular recent scourge of the English language though


  • #144
    Rekop dog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭Rekop dog


    Burial. wrote: »
    I really beg to differ. Plenty attractive women put out on the first date. Women have the same sexual needs and desires as men. It may seem that women are more conservative towards sex but it really isn't true in the same way all men aren't just looking for the ride. If the woman doesn't want to put out fine by me, but I'm not going to wait around for her to decide what she wants.

    Haha if you say so. We must have different tastes. If she's putting out with you on the first date she likely is with everyone else, so those types would naturally carry the largest threat of catching something off.


  • #145
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    Rekop dog wrote: »
    Haha if you say so. We must have different tastes. If she's putting out with you on the first date she likely is with everyone else, so those types would naturally carry the largest threat of catching something off.

    Not nessessarily true. I've had a couple of ONS, and would have little to no interest on anything more than just filling a need at that particular time. If i liked someone a bit more in that I wanted something more than a quick ride, I'd hold off


  • #146
    batistuta9
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,594 ✭✭✭batistuta9


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    Not nessessarily true. I've had a couple of ONS, and would have little to no interest on anything more than just filling a need at that particular time. If i liked someone a bit more in that I wanted something more than a quick ride, I'd hold off

    Why's that? It's common enough with women ime


  • #147
    Burial.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,131 ✭✭✭Burial.


    Rekop dog wrote: »
    Haha if you say so. We must have different tastes. If she's putting out with you on the first date she likely is with everyone else, so those types would naturally carry the largest threat of catching something off.

    I doubt it, if they were dirty women a date wouldn't even be necessary. A date takes time and effort, a quick f*ck is a case of a few messages on Tinder or a stroll into a club or bar. And I'm sad you think a woman who tries to fulfil her natural sexual needs is automatically seen as STD carrying and dirty.


  • #148
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    batistuta9 wrote: »
    Why's that? It's common enough with women ime


    I dunno, I lose interest in anything else if sex is all I wanted from him. If I like him, he'll have to make a bit of an effort. If there's not much going on upstairs but he's nice to look at, then that's it


  • #149
    Rekop dog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭Rekop dog


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    Not nessessarily true. I've had a couple of ONS, and would have little to no interest on anything more than just filling a need at that particular time. If i liked someone a bit more in that I wanted something more than a quick ride, I'd hold off

    Obviously not in every case, but you're definitely putting yourself at a far greater risk if you have a policy to only ever sleep with women who let out on the first date. That's undoubtedly true.


  • #150
    Burial.
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,131 ✭✭✭Burial.


    Rekop dog wrote: »
    Obviously not in every case, but you're definitely putting yourself at a far greater risk if you have a policy to only ever sleep with women who let out on the first date. That's undoubtedly true.

    Never said I only sleep with women who put out on the first date. I said there's no date 2 unless there's sex on date 1. Maybe you've a different system but I only ask a girl on a date if I actually like her and want to pursue her seriously. Whether she puts out on the first date is just part of the screening process. Some people like partners with money, a certain type of job, certain hobbies, I'm big into sexually liberated women. I've no time for beating around the bush. Guys who spend tonnes of time and money on dates are making a fool of themselves. Guys who talk to a woman to get the number to ask her out to go on several dates without pushing things are making a complete arse of things. I'm a sexual guy and naturally I'm attracted to women like that. I've been with plenty women I have never taken on a date, and it wasn't a case strangers falling into each others arms in the middle of the dance floor.


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  • #151
    Rekop dog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,584 ✭✭✭Rekop dog


    Burial. wrote: »
    Never said I only sleep with women who put out on the first date. I said there's no date 2 unless there's sex on date 1. Maybe you've a different system but I only ask a girl on a date if I actually like her and want to pursue her seriously. Whether she puts out on the first date is just part of the screening process. Some people like partners with money, a certain type of job, certain hobbies, I'm big into sexually liberated women. I've no time for beating around the bush. Guys who spend tonnes of time and money on dates are making a fool of themselves. Guys who talk to a woman to get the number to ask her out to go on several dates without pushing things are making a complete arse of things. I'm a sexual guy and naturally I'm attracted to women like that. I've been with plenty women I have never taken on a date, and it wasn't a case strangers falling into each others arms in the middle of the dance floor.

    You seem to be inferring that women who wait for a while don't have any sexual desires or arent liberated. It's absolutely not the case. Women can have a huge sexual appetite but also be sensible in picking who she wants it with and not jumping into bed with a stranger. All I'm saying is in mine and my friends experiences, women who are the most desirable nearly never let out early, but as I say we probably have different tastes.


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