Do you LOVE going to weddings?

28-10-2016 06:08PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I do and I don't.

Three day events NO.

Wedding and overnight OK.

But the cost of it all... my God. Outfit, shoes, bag (and that's only for the girls lol).

You can't tell me you buy new outfit, shoes, and new bag for every single wedding. Or any more than one or two of them

r93kaey5p2izun · 28-10-2016 06:15PM

On the whole I absolutely HATE them! I wouldn't be the biggest fan of social events in general, but I find the typical wedding format painful to get through. I avoid as much as possible.

eviltwin · 28-10-2016 06:18PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

I'm firmly convinced that those who love weddings are of the Extovert variety, whereas those who find them boring or whatever are Introverts.

I confess to be of the latter variety. lol.

Take note... introverts are sociable, but cannot do the hail fella/gal well met for too long either!

I'm quite extroverted, I love social events and get togethers but I really dislike weddings. Not sure why.

Nekarsulm · 28-10-2016 06:19PM

Hate them.
A court summons would be preferable.
Meet more interesting people , and less expense.

lazybones32 · 28-10-2016 06:20PM

I've been to 1.25 weddings and 2 afters and that is more than enough. The day is such a bore to me that I think I should be given money for being invited.
I've turned down invites from friends - and not lost them as friends - and extended family but have to go to close family ones. Getting dressed up to go for dinner and a session is not for me. It's a long, boring, expensive day.

Spanish Eyes · 28-10-2016 06:22PM

bluewolf wrote: »

You can't tell me you buy new outfit, shoes, and new bag for every single wedding. Or any more than one or two of them

Ahem... A new outfit is so necessary if going to another wedding where everyone else was at the previous one aswell.

One must preserve some standards!

Be the talk of the town if I turned up in the same dress as before! Honestly, it is just not worth the pain.

So yes, a new outfit is required for each wedding where the same guests will be there. Can get away with shoes, bag and so on depending on the colour of the DRESS!

It is just so easy for men. A different colour tie and they are grand.

But then men are not b"tches when it comes to commentary about dresses.

OMG that's another negatory. Forgot that one! :eek:

eviltwin · 28-10-2016 06:26PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Ahem... A new outfit is so necessary if going to another wedding where everyone else was at the previous one aswell.

One must preserve some standards!

Be the talk of the town if I turned up in the same dress as before! Honestly, it is just not worth the pain.

So yes, a new outfit is required for each wedding where the same guests will be there. Can get away with shoes, bag and so on depending on the colour of the DRESS!

It is just so easy for men. A different colour tie and they are grand.

But then men are not b"tches when it comes to commentary about dresses.

OMG that's another negatory. Forgot that one! :eek:

You're just making a rod for your own back there. The people who matter won't mind and the ones who mind don't matter.

28-10-2016 06:26PM

Spanish Eyes wrote: »

Ahem... A new outfit is so necessary if going to another wedding where everyone else was at the previous one aswell.

One must preserve some standards!

Be the talk of the town if I turned up in the same dress as before! Honestly, it is just not worth the pain.

So yes, a new outfit is required for each wedding where the same guests will be there. Can get away with shoes, bag and so on depending on the colour of the DRESS!

Everyone's there to look at the bride, not at you
It really isn't

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-10-2016 06:26PM

bluewolf wrote: »

You can't tell me you buy new outfit, shoes, and new bag for every single wedding. Or any more than one or two of them

Tan (25-35 euro depending what tan) nails (30 for hands, 35 for feet) hair (35-50 depending on what you're getting done) makeup artist (30 at Inglot, 40 at mac)
Dress, bag, shoes. Maybe jewellery, not all the time. Say 200.
Money for the card.
Money for the bar.
Money to stay over.

Might as well be a summons

28-10-2016 06:27PM

That is purely your own choice. Nobody is asking you to do tan and nails for a wedding??
Like you do it if you want but it's not like it's a requirement

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-10-2016 06:29PM

That's true but I wouldn't go with no nails or no tan

bee06 · 28-10-2016 06:30PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Tan (25-35 euro depending what tan) nails (30 for hands, 35 for feet) hair (35-50 depending on what you're getting done) makeup artist (30 at Inglot, 40 at mac)
Dress, bag, shoes. Maybe jewellery, not all the time. Say 200.
Money for the card.
Money for the bar.
Money to stay over.

Might as well be a summons

I was at a wedding last week. Wore a dress I had already along with shoes, bag and jewellery I already had. Did my own make up, hair and nails (didn't bother with the feet because closed toe shoes). No tan because I hate it.

It's only expensive if you make it expensive.

Spanish Eyes · 28-10-2016 06:38PM

bluewolf wrote: »

Everyone's there to look at the bride, not at you
It really isn't

Are you joking me!

After seeing the Bride, all attention focuses on everyone else. Trust me.

But I am not so mad as to think everyone will be looking at me either, just a trend that goes on. And it does. It does.

Otherwise a boiler suit would be acceptable as an outfit.

That's life at weddings.

_Kaiser_ · 28-10-2016 06:38PM

After reading the last few posts once again I'm glad I'm a man

But on the topic itself, not a big fan. Most of my friends were already settled/married when I met them so only been to a few but as a rule it's expensive, long and boring - especially if you're there as the "other half" of the person who was really invited as you know no-one and have to sit it out for the duration.

Spanish Eyes · 28-10-2016 06:38PM

eviltwin wrote: »

You're just making a rod for your own back there. The people who matter won't mind and the ones who mind don't matter.

If only all the guests were like you!

questionmark? · 28-10-2016 06:39PM

Love them. It's not often you get all the family or all your friends together. Moaners will be moaners though and will complain the rest of us will have great craic.

DoozerT6 · 28-10-2016 06:39PM

The last wedding I was at did cost me a few quid, but admittedly my hair needed to be done (cut and coloured, styled) anyway, as I had deliberately left it a while so it would be newly done for the wedding. Ditto with the nails, I have no talent at all with painting or filing them from...well lack of interest really, so I paid to have that done too so my hands looked somewhat decent. My default setting is clumsily clipped nails, down to the quick. I didn't bother with a tan, my dress had sleeves so I just Sally Hansen'd my legs and wore a pair of shoes that I already had. I did have to buy a dress as I owned absolutely nothing suitable for a wedding, but it was a cheapy thing from Debenhams. Did my own makeup and thankfully live close enough to the wedding venue that the taxi fares there and back were very small. However all that, combined with the few quid in the card surely added up!

Electric Sheep · 28-10-2016 06:59PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Tan (25-35 euro depending what tan) nails (30 for hands, 35 for feet) hair (35-50 depending on what you're getting done) makeup artist (30 at Inglot, 40 at mac)
Dress, bag, shoes. Maybe jewellery, not all the time. Say 200.
Money for the card.
Money for the bar.
Money to stay over.

Might as well be a summons

Why would you get fake tan (looks so stupid anyway), manicure and pedicure and professional makeup for a wedding unless you are the bride or in the wedding party? I would consider that high maintenance for a bridesmaid, let alone a guest. Surely you are capable of doing your own makeup? Or is it some kind of competition?

28-10-2016 07:02PM

I hate them. Luckily nobody in my immediate circle are planning to get married and if they do it will be a very low key registry office affair. There absolutely is a strange competitiveness among certain women when it comes to the dress. Coast I believe is the uniform of choice so I can imagine the fear of turning up in the exact same outfit as Mary down the road.

In the unlikely event of my tying the knot it will be on top of a mountain just before a crazy ass party. Dress code - whatever the hell yee want.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-10-2016 07:03PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Why would you get fake tan (looks so stupid anyway), manicure and pedicure and professional makeup for a wedding unless you are the bride or in the wedding party? I would consider that high maintenance for a bridesmaid, let alone a guest. Surely you are capable of doing your own makeup? Or is it some kind of competition?

It's not a competition, but if I'm after spending X amount of money on a dress, I'll make an effort with the rest of me. I would get my face and hair done for a night out, it's something I tend to do if I'm going somewhere. i don't usually wear fake tan but I'm the colour of gone off ham so depending on what I'm wearing I'll need it done

Electric Sheep · 28-10-2016 07:07PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It's not a competition, but if I'm after spending X amount of money on a dress, I'll make an effort with the rest of me. I would get my face and hair done for a night out, it's something I tend to do if I'm going somewhere. i don't usually wear fake tan but I'm the colour of gone off ham so depending on what I'm wearing I'll need it done

If you get professional makeup and hair done every night out, then I guess the wedding isn't much more expensive for you than any other night out.

It must be an Irish thing. Here in Boston, I have never heard of a wedding guest getting professional makeup - I don't even know any brides who did that. Mind you, heavy makeup and fake tans would get a bit of an eye roll here anyway, women tend to go for a more natural look.

Spanish Eyes · 28-10-2016 07:14PM

Basically weddings are manna from heaven for hair, nails, tan, handbags, dresses, jewellery and perfume suppliers. And that's just the gals!

The Bride doesn't matter to the guests after ten minutes. Yes she is lovely, but it can often be guest to guest watching and (silent) commentary, why else would there be a need for all the nails, hair, etc. on behalf of the guests?

It is ridiculously competitive. The Bride is just an ooh and aah for ten minutes. But the rest of the guests... OMG..

I do choose not to get too much involved in the faff. But some standards must be maintained just the same!

Easier to hang around home in me pyjamas! Oh I wish.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-10-2016 07:14PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

If you get professional makeup and hair done every night out, then I guess the wedding isn't much more expensive for you than any other night out.

It must be an Irish thing. Here in Boston, I have never heard of a wedding guest getting professional makeup - I don't even know any brides who did that. Mind you, heavy makeup and fake tans would get a bit of an eye roll here anyway, women tend to go for a more natural look.

Good for them. Coming on a message board to criticise how some people prepare for a wedding gets a few eye rolls too I'm sure.

Although to be honest I'm not surprised wedding prep is more lax in the states at the rate they marry and divorce each other at.

eviltwin · 28-10-2016 07:19PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

It's not a competition, but if I'm after spending X amount of money on a dress, I'll make an effort with the rest of me. I would get my face and hair done for a night out, it's something I tend to do if I'm going somewhere. i don't usually wear fake tan but I'm the colour of gone off ham so depending on what I'm wearing I'll need it done

Why do you feel you have to spend money on a dress. I tend to pick something I already have. The last time I bought something new it was a dress from New Look, cost about 25 quid. No one will know how much your outfit cost. Most importantly, no one will care.

Electric Sheep · 28-10-2016 07:20PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Good for them. Coming on a message board to criticise how some people prepare for a wedding gets a few eye rolls too I'm sure.

Although to be honest I'm not surprised wedding prep is more lax in the states at the rate they marry and divorce each other at.

More lax, and so much more enjoyable and less phony.

batistuta9 · 28-10-2016 07:23PM

eviltwin wrote: »

Why do you feel you have to spend money on a dress. I tend to pick something I already have. The last time I bought something new it was a dress from New Look, cost about 25 quid. No one will know how much your outfit cost. Most importantly, no one will care.

everyone knows cheap clothes. people talk

Electric Sheep · 28-10-2016 07:25PM

batistuta9 wrote: »

everyone knows cheap clothes. people talk

Do you really care for the opinions of the sort of people who spend their time at a wedding pricing other guests' clothes?

I can't imagine caring.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 28-10-2016 07:26PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

More lax, and so much more enjoyable and less phony.

I suppose most people have more than one wedding so it's understandable they wouldn't be as big a deal.

batistuta9 · 28-10-2016 07:28PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

Do you really care for the opinions of the sort of people who spend their time at a wedding pricing other guests' clothes?

I can't imagine caring.

not really but saying no one will care/notice/talk etc. is like saying all bullies are cowards

Spanish Eyes · 28-10-2016 07:29PM

Electric Sheep wrote: »

More lax, and so much more enjoyable and less phony.

Indeed.

I was at a wedding in the Hamptons in New York about five years ago. Now let me tell you I was peppering at the cost of it, what should I wear and so on. But I could afford it thankfully, so off I went.

To say that the contrast between the visitors (Irish) and the indigenous was marked is an understatement. Not many of the local guests dressed up much at all. So we stood out really.

TBH it was one of the best weddings I was ever at. Posh venue, cocktails, free booze, lovely dinner the works, but no la di da conventions if you get me. I was surprised really, but there we are.

Here. It is a totally different matter. And most people will agree that you have to get "dressed up" here for de Weddin!

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