Are the Irish too mollycoddled by their parents.

Hollister11 · 19-10-2016 06:31PM #1

Are we to babied, or mollycoddled by our parents into adulthood.

The majority tend to live with the parents until their 20's and even 30's paying 50/100 quid a week for everything to do done for us.

While my aunt works in the states and kids do be out on their own at 17/18 in college, working 3 jobs running a car, renting an apartment.

How come the Americans are so independent while we are mostly dependent,

nullzero · 19-10-2016 06:31PM

Yes

Dr Turk Turkelton · 19-10-2016 06:33PM

Ask a few Spanish parents about kids overstaying their welcome.

Shannon757 · 19-10-2016 06:33PM

I'm 16. My parents already expect me to have a part time job and pay my own way for things such as credit. I have a dislocated collarbone and torn shoulder joint with my arm in a sling and my father still tells me to go out and get the buckets of turf. We don't get mollycoddled around these parts anyway.

ArtSmart · 19-10-2016 06:36PM

Like most social phenomena in Ireland, it seems to fall into two extremes.

eviltwin · 19-10-2016 06:36PM

My 19 yr old still lives at home. I must be a terrible parent. I even made her dinner tonight

Harvey Normal · 19-10-2016 06:37PM

eviltwin wrote: »

My 19 yr old still lives at home. I must be a terrible parent. I even made her dinner tonight

19 isn't 35

Car99 · 19-10-2016 06:40PM

Much different societies. Most countries I've worked in , in Europe, are the same as ireland kids are suppored as long as the parents can.

zSparc · 19-10-2016 06:40PM

Hollister11 wrote: »

How come the Americans are so independent while we are mostly dependent,

I can only speak for myself, lived with my mother since I was 10, when 16 she was more out than in, I got my first jobs at 17 and I'm independent since. I bought a house, have a good job, driver's licence, kid - and I'm only in my 30's. I'd lived and worked in a number of countries over the years, never had a problem, I can be dropped in a middle of a sh*tstorm and will adapt and survive.

Not sure about the Irish in general, however it's true that some Irish adults act like they were hopeless children with no spine on their own. But I guess it's just like anywhere else. What I find most annoying is that in Ireland seems to be that weird "culture" of not saying things straight, but coming up with silly excuses instead of telling the story straight as it is. If you don't wanna go out ride bicycles because I am boring and no fun - tell me. Don't say you've hurt your neck or that your sister had a car accident. Those little lies always come up sooner or later leaving the person look childish and stupid.

suicide_circus · 19-10-2016 06:40PM

As the old saying goes;

"Twenty-one, you're no longer my son."

19-10-2016 06:43PM

Shannon757 wrote: »

I'm 16. My parents already expect me to have a part time job and pay my own way for things such as credit. I have a dislocated collarbone and torn shoulder joint with my arm in a sling and my father still tells me to go out and get the buckets of turf. We don't get mollycoddled around these parts anyway.

I'm sensing a Monty Python "You thought you had it tough" sketch here........

Nonbias · 19-10-2016 06:52PM

Yes a lot are especially the middle-class ones who call themselves feminists and cry and cry and cry everyday

but in reality their problem lies within and they know their lack off character shines through always
and they want what everybody see's in the stronger women and they know the real quality men even see it in these women

they feel so entitled to it without the struggle because of their high status job or looks
but fail and their hatred off men grows and grows

Hammer89 · 19-10-2016 06:56PM

Shannon757 wrote: »

I'm 16. My parents already expect me to have a part time job and pay my own way for things such as credit. I have a dislocated collarbone and torn shoulder joint with my arm in a sling and my father still tells me to go out and get the buckets of turf. We don't get mollycoddled around these parts anyway.

Must've been some ****.

darkpagandeath · 19-10-2016 06:58PM

Ask that lad shouting at the guy speaking for israel. Shouting "I have been on this campus for 10 years."

sondagefaux · 19-10-2016 06:58PM

eviltwin wrote: »

My 19 yr old still lives at home. I must be a terrible parent. I even made her dinner tonight

Cut one of her legs off with a chainsaw tomorrow. Just to balance things out like...

sondagefaux · 19-10-2016 06:58PM

eviltwin wrote: »

My 19 yr old still lives at home. I must be a terrible parent. I even made her dinner tonight

Cut one of her legs off with a chainsaw tomorrow. Just to balance things out like...

corner of hells · 19-10-2016 07:01PM

sondagefaux wrote: »

Cut one of her legs off with a chainsaw tomorrow. Just to balance things out like...

Is that both legs now or a double post ?

sondagefaux · 19-10-2016 07:04PM

corner of hells wrote: »

sondagefaux wrote: »

Cut one of her legs off with a chainsaw tomorrow. Just to balance things out like...

Is that both legs now or a double post ?

One at a time...

BalcombeSt4 · 19-10-2016 07:07PM

Nonbias wrote: »

Yes a lot are especially the middle-class ones who call themselves feminists and cry and cry and cry everyday

but in reality their problem lies within and they know their lack off character shines through always
and they want what everybody see's in the stronger women and they know the real quality men even see it in these women

they feel so entitled to it without the struggle because of their high status job or looks
but fail and their hatred off men grows and grows

I think you posted this in the wrong thread.

corner of hells · 19-10-2016 07:18PM

BalcombeSt4 wrote: »

I think you posted this in the wrong thread.

I thought that myself , but didn't want to look dopey by saying anything.

Nonbias · 19-10-2016 07:29PM

It's probably in the wrong tread you're right
but anyway most women are great and probably stronger than men in many ways ''emotionally anyway''
If the normal ones would say sometime men would listen

that's all bye

Anita Blow · 19-10-2016 07:49PM

Could be due to the 20% deposit one needs for a house or the extortionate rents now demanded, and the rock-and-hard-place scenario both of those leave a 20-something year old in if they want to save for a house but can't afford to both save and rent.

Hollister11 · 19-10-2016 07:57PM

Anita Blow wrote: »

Could be due to the 20% deposit one needs for a house or the extortionate rents now demanded, and the rock-and-hard-place scenario both of those leave a 20-something year old in if they want to save for a house but can't afford to both save and rent.

This isn't a new thing. The rules of only been in place for 2 years.

arayess · 19-10-2016 07:57PM

Nonbias wrote: »

Yes a lot are especially the middle-class ones who call themselves feminists and cry and cry and cry everyday

but in reality their problem lies within and they know their lack off character shines through always
and they want what everybody see's in the stronger women and they know the real quality men even see it in these women

they feel so entitled to it without the struggle because of their high status job or looks
but fail and their hatred off men grows and grows

i like you

whoopsadoodles · 19-10-2016 08:01PM

My mammy went to penneys to get me tights today, and she made me a brack. My Dad brings my dog for a walk every day.

They would do pretty much anything at all in the world for me. At the drop of a hat.

However I started working and handing over money at 14 and moved out of home when I was still a teenager and have never beem financially dependant on them since then.

Think I've a good balance really

Clarebelly · 19-10-2016 08:05PM

Hollister11 wrote: »

While my aunt works in the states and kids do be out on their own at 17/18 in college, working 3 jobs running a car, renting an apartment.

Fair play to them for rushing head long into the capitalistic rat race.

ChikiChiki · 19-10-2016 08:05PM

Hollister11 wrote: »

Are we to babied, or mollycoddled by our parents into adulthood.

The majority tend to live with the parents until their 20's and even 30's paying 50/100 quid a week for everything to do done for us.

While my aunt works in the states and kids do be out on their own at 17/18 in college, working 3 jobs running a car, renting an apartment.

How come the Americans are so independent while we are mostly dependent,

I fcuking love Ireland I really do but this part has me begrudgingly emigrating at 29. There is nowhere of decent quality to rent for an affordable price that is not miles away from my work in the city centre. I've been one of many I know who have lived out and had to return home due to landlords increasing prices at an extortionate rate.

mfceiling · 19-10-2016 08:06PM

Shannon757 wrote: »

I'm 16. My parents already expect me to have a part time job and pay my own way for things such as credit. I have a dislocated collarbone and torn shoulder joint with my arm in a sling and my father still tells me to go out and get the buckets of turf. We don't get mollycoddled around these parts anyway.

Have you that turf in yet?

oik · 19-10-2016 08:08PM

I don't know about mollycoddled. Maybe. People live at home longer in Ireland because the rent is so high and they can't get a mortgage.

As for American's who move out young. You'd be surprised at how many of them get their rent paid for by their parents when they first move out, whereas the majority of Irish parents wouldn't consider paying their child's rent unless they were still in college.

I know American lads who's parents paid for them to move into apartments that cost more per month than they were earning at work.

Dr Crayfish · 19-10-2016 08:20PM

These threads always pan out the same - people who live at home are so pathetic - I left home when I was 14 and worked 23 hours a day etc etc.
I lived at home a few times throughout my adult life when I was between houses or moving abroad. I liked it! Now I own my own house so those days are over unfortunately.
More and more folks are going to have to stay at home for longer given the lack of housing in this country, I feel for that generation.

4ensic15 · 19-10-2016 08:31PM

I blame the parents! many don't see that they are doing anything wrong in prolonging their offspring's childhood.

Are the Irish too mollycoddled by their parents.

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