Are you not a proper man if...

dd972 · 01-10-2016 06:36PM #1

Are you not a proper man if you don't have a wife and kids by your 40's, or even have had a couple of long-term relationships or one kid behind you?

Jinonatron · 01-10-2016 06:43PM

It would be highly unusual for a man in his forties to never have had a serious relationship I would say. Especially considering how easy women are if they are still single in the thirties. The clock ticks and makes them much more aggressive when attracting men and generally their standards will drop so even men who wouldn't get a look in before would be considered by Women approaching the time where she can no longer get pregnant

harry Bailey esq · 01-10-2016 06:43PM

dd972 wrote: »

Are you not a proper man if you....?

Have a vagina?

Felix Jones is God · 01-10-2016 06:47PM

Is this your big coming out announcement OP?

RobertKK · 01-10-2016 06:49PM

There is no such thing as a proper man, we are all individuals and not all individuals will conform to whatever stereotype someone has of what makes a person whatever.

I never look at a man and think 'oh he is a proper man, that guy over there is not a proper man'.

Alf Stewart. · 01-10-2016 06:50PM

Jinonatron wrote: »

It would be highly unusual for a man in his forties to never have had a serious relationship I would say. Especially considering how easy women are if they are still single in the thirties. The clock ticks and makes them much more aggressive when attracting men and generally their standards will drop so even men who wouldn't get a look in before would be considered by Women approaching the time where she can no longer get pregnant

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aMBU90L7M48

01-10-2016 06:51PM

dd972 wrote: »

Are you not a proper man if you don't have a wife and kids by your 40's, or even have had a couple of long-term relationships or one kid behind you?

Plenty of men in their 40s with kids they never see, ex partners and kids they don't support....... are they proper?

Plenty of openly gay lads out there who are proper men too.

01-10-2016 06:51PM

We used to just call them bachelors

Raging_Ninja · 01-10-2016 06:52PM

So long as you're happy what does it matter what others think? The that is the real mark of a "proper man".

Dr Crayfish · 01-10-2016 06:53PM

Jinonatron wrote: »

It would be highly unusual for a man in his forties to never have had a serious relationship I would say. Especially considering how easy women are if they are still single in the thirties. The clock ticks and makes them much more aggressive when attracting men and generally their standards will drop so even men who wouldn't get a look in before would be considered by Women approaching the time where she can no longer get pregnant

Do you live in the real world buddy? I've never met any of these crazed women in their 30s and pretty much every female I know these days is in their 30s.

RE the OP. Perhaps years ago people would have looked down upon people who haven't got kids or a wife. I'm not too far off 40 and I have plenty of friends, mostly male but a few female, who are single with no babies etc.
It's fine now, the society has changed. If you are single in your 40s embrace it and do what you wouldn't be able to do if you were tied down.

jester77 · 01-10-2016 06:54PM

OP, have a yorkie

Winterlong · 01-10-2016 06:57PM

riffmongous wrote: »

We used to just call them bachelors

'Confirmed bachelor' was what they were called round our way!

GeneralVanilla · 01-10-2016 07:01PM

... if you havent left a two flusher.

Bonzo Delaney · 01-10-2016 07:05PM

GeneralVanilla wrote: »

... if you havent left a two flusher.

Thread

The_Valeyard · 01-10-2016 07:06PM

..... You beat a woman.

Speedwell · 01-10-2016 07:37PM

I met my husband when he was 44, and he'd never been married or fathered children before, and his mother tells me he really never had a proper long-term relationship before me, either. Well, we've been married four years now, and he certainly seems like a proper man to me, especially when compared to the two worthless bellends I cluelessly married before him. No experience sometimes > bad experience

Bonzo Delaney · 01-10-2016 07:50PM

You didn't jump for joy realising that Raiders of the lost ark was on straight after the all Ireland foot ball final

ligerdub · 01-10-2016 07:51PM

Expect this one to be hijacked by the Irish times brigade.

Mister Vain · 01-10-2016 07:52PM

You're not a proper man until you've footed turf in the bog and slapped some midges.

SEPT 23 1989 · 01-10-2016 07:53PM

Haven't cried uncontrollably in public

slapper999 · 01-10-2016 07:57PM

Your not a proper man if you have to start a thread to make yourself feel like a proper man.

evolving_doors · 01-10-2016 07:57PM

Lots those ' proper men' you describe are a'holes aswell op. It's what's inside that counts...

Although.. Hitler wasnt married (in the long term commitment sense!) and he didn't have kids... So maybe decide which you wanna be..

Hitler?
Joseph Fritzel?

Clock is ticking.

ThinkProgress · 01-10-2016 07:58PM

I'm nowhere near my 40's... but I have zero intentions of ever getting married or starting a family.

Does that make me a less "proper" man?

Should I bite the bullet and conform, so as to save face and not emasculate myself? :P

Junkyard Tom · 01-10-2016 08:00PM

You're not a proper man if... you don't have a collection of sticks in the shed for stirring paint.

The King of Moo · 01-10-2016 08:00PM

You're a proper man if you can do that loud whistle where you put your fingers in your mouth.

tomwaterford · 01-10-2016 08:02PM

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

You're not a proper man if... you don't have a collection of sticks in the shed for stirring paint.

I've welding rods for that job

:smug:

ligerdub · 01-10-2016 08:03PM

Gebgbegb wrote: »

Lots those ' proper men' you describe are a'holes aswell op. It's what's inside that counts...

Although.. Hitler wasnt married (in the long term commitment sense!) and he didn't have kids... So maybe decide which you wanna be..

Hitler?
Joseph Fritzel?

Clock is ticking.

Didn't Hitler marry Eva as a final gesture to her before they both departed life?

SEPT 23 1989 · 01-10-2016 08:04PM

ligerdub wrote: »

Didn't Hitler marry Eva as a final gesture to her before they both departed life?

departed Berlin

slapper999 · 01-10-2016 08:10PM

Your not a proper man if you piss sitting down.

Olishi4 · 01-10-2016 08:11PM

The King of Moo wrote: »

You're a proper man if you can do that loud whistle where you put your fingers in your mouth.

Wait...I can do that! Does that mean, I'm not a proper woman?

evolving_doors · 01-10-2016 08:12PM

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I'm nowhere near my 40's... but I have zero intentions of ever getting married or starting a family.

Does that make me a less "proper" man?

Should I bite the bullet and conform, so as to save face and not emasculate myself? :P

No its too late. Sorry!

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