What do you associate with the word 'Introvert'?

Frank101 · 18-08-2016 10:08PM #1

I'd consider myself an introvert - yet I hate to use the word. I mean what's it associated with. Is there a fear that an introvert will keep all their bitterness wrapped up, and then one day open fire in your school. Or is there a sort of assumption that you're more inclined to have aspergers?

18-08-2016 10:10PM

I've never heard of anything like that being associated with being an introvert.

A lunatic, maybe, but not an introvert - the opening fire bit, not the Aspergers.

uch · 18-08-2016 10:13PM

When I hear Introvert I think of Underpants wedged up yer hole

buried · 18-08-2016 10:14PM

Just another word and label that's used to divide people

ArtSmart · 18-08-2016 10:15PM

icecream

alchemist33 · 18-08-2016 10:16PM

Leave me alone, FFS!

Frank101 · 18-08-2016 10:20PM

uch wrote: »

When I hear Introvert I think of Underpants wedged up yer hole

Why?

ArtSmart · 18-08-2016 10:26PM

Frank101 wrote: »

Why?

you sure you're no confusing 'introvert' with the word 'humourless'?

anyway, we're all of the intro/extro scale. it means nothing.

Introspective, maybe, but not introverted.

main thing is bugger to what others think or say. unless you're married to them (and even then...)

uch · 18-08-2016 10:28PM

Frank101 wrote: »

Why?

Just reminds me of that wedgied up yer hole feeling

gavindublin · 18-08-2016 10:28PM

Nipples

18-08-2016 10:30PM

An upside down crucifix.

ArtSmart · 18-08-2016 10:30PM

uch wrote: »

Just reminds me of that wedgied up yer hole feeling

Ugh, uch.

18-08-2016 10:32PM

It reminds me of AH users because of the last big thread on it where it seemed everyone was an introvert.. make of that what you will

Welruc · 18-08-2016 10:35PM

Placebo "Scared of girls"

Day Lewin · 18-08-2016 10:36PM

Person who likes their own company.

Robsweezie · 18-08-2016 10:36PM

focused a lot on their own inner world, thoughts and feelings, embrace alone time, drained by too much stimulation from socialising and unnecessary small talk.

think more than they say, think before they speak. would rather communicate by text, email or writing then make a phone call, unless important.

Frank101 · 18-08-2016 10:39PM

deuceswild wrote: »

Placebo "Scared of girls"

Oh yes, that too.

2forjoy · 18-08-2016 10:39PM

to me its the person with the glass half empty

tomwaterford · 18-08-2016 10:42PM

Robsweezie wrote: »

focused a lot on their own inner world, thoughts and feelings, embrace alone time, drained by too much stimulation from socialising and unnecessary small talk.

think more than they say, think before they speak. would rather communicate by text, email or writing then make a phone call, unless important.

TBF.....it's perhaps the most over used word....on the history of the Internet

That describes about 90% of people I know/am related to......people that just keep themselves to themselves and get on with their lives

VonLuck · 18-08-2016 10:42PM

For me it's someone that avoids human interaction and tends to not be very friendly.

ArtSmart · 18-08-2016 10:43PM

Robsweezie wrote: »

focused a lot on their own inner world, thoughts and feelings, embrace alone time, drained by too much stimulation from socialising and unnecessary small talk.

think more than they say, think before they speak. would rather communicate by text, email or writing then make a phone call, unless important.

Whoa, ceck out the big brain on Rob.

"Dass right mtherfukker, dass right."

But yeah, aint no thang.

long as you get enough food/sex/ drink etc, it's all good.

cantdecide · 18-08-2016 10:48PM

This topic gets me on my soapbox all the time.

It's easy to juxtapose extreme cases of introversion against some ideal, outgoing standard but the reality is there are much more people that just have a level of introspection. People with introverted tendencies are treated suspiciously. People make lazy assumptions about introverts. Society lazily punishes introverted traits and rewards the outgoing. People with introverted tendencies are told to change because they're defective.

I think it's bloody unfair and I genuinely believe that individuals should take time and examine what assumptions and prejudices they hold against those with introverted tendencies.

trixychic · 18-08-2016 10:53PM

My dad is an introvert. Quite a big one. Where as I'm the exact opposite. For me it just associates things like... a bit shy maybe. Or at least favouring not to put themselves out there too much.

My dad wouldn't be wrapped up in himself. But he only has a small (albeit very close) circle of friends. For his 50th he prefered a dinner with family then a party. Big parties with lots of ppl are just hell for him. It's almost too much effort for him and can be a bit tiring.

On the other hand I've lots of friends but very few id trust. I love parties. The More ppl the better. And I can rhyme of my life stories in a matter of minutes.

I find he's quite happy just keeping to himself. He doesn't dislike social interaction. He's just not as bothered with it as I am.

I wouldn't associate things like autism or selfishness with introvert though. Introverts are just happy and comfortable being alone (different to lonely).

SEPT 23 1989 · 18-08-2016 10:55PM

Give me an introvert over an extrovert anyday

posturingpat · 18-08-2016 11:03PM

Keep themselves to themselves and don't feel it necessary to make smalltalk all the time and keep people updated with every facet of their life.

Id be slightly introvert in that I keep my private life private and generally don't like chit chat/gossip etc unless it's about football golf or horseracing/show jumping and only in my latest job have I realised how introvert I am(at least in relation to my colleagues).
I've got given out to twice in the past few weeks, not scolded like a child but genuinely given out to as if I owed them something (and should keep them updated on every little thing in my life) for not informing my colleagues of my father's 60th and also for not telling them I went for a drink with a woman they know.

Come to think of it maybe I'm not introvert and they're just nosey parkers.

18-08-2016 11:06PM

Introversion isn't the same as shyness. People who are introverted love their own company above all else. Peace and solitude are what they want, not large crowds or big parties. I don't believe that's because they can't handle lots of people and the like, they simply would rather a quieter vibe.

Of course as with most things relating to human behaviour Introversion is a spectrum. I can
be very introverted. Half the time I long to be in the middle of nowhere, just my books and me. Loud noises and shouting bother me. Big concerts and events don't hold any interest for me.

Yet I really really like people and am very good in social situations. I have no fear or anxiety about putting myself out there. Joining a group where I won't know a soul doesn't phase me one bit. I'm am very very far from being shy.

I just happen to love my own company and doing things by myself.

Frank101 · 18-08-2016 11:12PM

posturingpat wrote: »

Keep themselves to themselves and don't feel it necessary to make smalltalk all the time and keep people updated with every facet of their life.

Id be slightly introvert in that I keep my private life private and generally don't like chit chat/gossip etc unless it's about football golf or horseracing/show jumping and only in my latest job have I realised how introvert I am(at least in relation to my colleagues).
I've got given out to twice in the past few weeks, not scolded like a child but genuinely given out to as if I owed them something (and should keep them updated on every little thing in my life) for not informing my colleagues of my father's 60th and also for not telling them I went for a drink with a woman they know.

Come to think of it maybe I'm not introvert and they're just nosey parkers.

That's interesting - because in many ways I'm trying to be more extroverted. But I'm also trying to gossip less. It seems you're describing women, more so than extroverts.

I also try to be confident, as opposed to arrogant... and not brag about things. Maybe there was a good reason why that woman went out with you.

Having a conversation with someone who gossips a lot in your direction will feel weak the moment that you don't give them gossip back. With those sorts, I just be extroverted, but keep the conversation about them

PeterTheNinth · 18-08-2016 11:14PM

An introvert to me is somebody who would rather be on their own than in the company of others. Now would ye all mind f**king off and leaving the thread please.

18-08-2016 11:15PM

Frank101 wrote: »

That's interesting - because in many ways I'm trying to be more extroverted. But I'm also trying to gossip less. It seems you're describing women, more so than extroverts.

I also try to be confident, as opposed to arrogant... and not brag about things. Maybe there was a good reason why that woman went out with you.

Having a conversation with someone who gossips a lot in your direction will feel weak the moment that you don't give them gossip back. With those sorts, I just be extroverted, but keep the conversation about them

Individuality is far more nuanced than trying to be more extroverted or more introverted. There isn't a set of guidelines you can follow.

Robsweezie · 22-08-2016 01:47AM

this threads gone quiet.....:)

#confessionsofanintrovert is trending on twitter coincidentally

22-08-2016 01:52AM

I know very few people who consider themselves extrovert. Everybody feels shy. I feel shy sometimes, and I'm one of the very few I know who does consider themselves extrovert. I still prefer my own company to other people's, it's just madness not to.

What do you associate with the word 'Introvert'?

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