Cheating on a hen weekend :(

spud82 · 01-08-2016 08:58PM #1

Hey guys

We were on a hen weekend for the bank holiday in Galway for and one of my friends cheated on her boyfriend. I saw her kiss someone else, and it really annoyed me as her boyfriend is a good friend of mine too.

She said it was a drunken kiss and meant nothing,and she doesn't remember it and begged me not to tell. Obviously I won't.

I just feel so bad for him. Worst is as it was away from home and noone else saw bar me that knows them, means she'll get away with it. Why do people cheat on these hen weekends?? I just don't get it

Surreptitious · 01-08-2016 09:00PM

Dying for the ride after pink cocktails and inflatable penises.

The_Valeyard · 01-08-2016 09:02PM

Maybe best in the relationships forum.

I wouldnt get involved OP, just leave it be.

But yeah, its not cool, people do very silly things when extremely drunk (not that its an excuse or anything)

Allinall · 01-08-2016 09:02PM

spud82 wrote: »

Hey guys

We were on a hen weekend for the bank holiday in Galway for and one of my friends cheated on her boyfriend. I saw her kiss someone else, and it really annoyed me as her boyfriend is a good friend of mine too.

She said it was a drunken kiss and meant nothing,and she doesn't remember it and begged me not to tell. Obviously I won't.

I just feel so bad for him. Worst is as it was away from home and noone else saw bar me that knows them, means she'll get away with it. Why do people cheat on these hen weekends?? I just don't get it

I wouldn't call kissing cheating, even with tongues.

Gigiddy would be bad form though

spud82 · 01-08-2016 09:02PM

Mods can this be moved?

failinis · 01-08-2016 09:04PM

Yeah I think this would be better in relationships fourm - but personally one drunken kiss is not enough to tell someone else about unless its the partner who done the kissing to tell them.

Birneybau · 01-08-2016 09:04PM

Sh1tty and all but only a snog.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 01-08-2016 09:04PM

If it's a one-off, leave it. If there's a pattern developing, talk to the girl involved. Don't talk to the boyfriend unless there's a serious chance of the relationship being ****ed up.

drunkmonkey · 01-08-2016 09:05PM

Forget it happened, what goes on tour!!!

Not cool but nothing you can do about it without causing trouble.

Richard Hillman · 01-08-2016 09:05PM

Small country. Anybody know anyone that had a hen party in Galway over the weekend?

spud82 · 01-08-2016 09:07PM

Richard Hillman wrote: »

Small country. Anybody know anyone that had a hen party in Galway over the weekend?

It was Gail Platt and Audrey shifted someone don't tell Ken

Keane2baMused · 01-08-2016 09:07PM

It's not your relationship to get involved in I'm afraid. Fair chance the lad wouldn't thank you for telling him. The messenger often gets the blame.

Fr_Dougal · 01-08-2016 09:08PM

It happens on stags too.

Worst place I've seen for it is the workplace. People think they're invisible at Xmas parties!

mdwexford · 01-08-2016 09:10PM

Dirty bitch, it's 100% cheating.

And you better believe she remembers.

spud82 · 01-08-2016 09:11PM

Ya I won't tell as it's not my place and I don't want to be the messenger, I guess mistakes happen and she did seem remourseful. ill let her off this time but don't like people cheating as I've had it done to me and it broke my heart

Thoie · 01-08-2016 09:13PM

You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss, a sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by.

drunkmonkey · 01-08-2016 09:13PM

spud82 wrote: »

ill let her off this time but don't like people cheating as I've had it done to me and it broke my heart

That's cause you found out, don't go breaking anyone else's heart.

Ken. · 01-08-2016 09:13PM

spud82 wrote: »

Mods can this be moved?

Where. It can't be moved to personal or relationship issues as its too general for them forums.

andekwarhola · 01-08-2016 09:14PM

spud82 wrote: »

I guess mistakes happen and she did seem remourseful. ill let her off this time

Perhaps give her detention and leave it at that.

mdwexford · 01-08-2016 09:15PM

Mr.S wrote: »

Ah here, it's a kiss.

Are you in a relationship?

How would you feel in his position if you found out.

Also if she did this I imagine she could easily ride someone as well.

spud82 · 01-08-2016 09:17PM

ken wrote: »

Where. It can't be moved to personal or relationship issues as its too general for them forums.

Wherever is most appropriate guys whatever you think is best.

Ken. · 01-08-2016 09:18PM

Mod-Moved to humanities. Please read the local charter before posting.

Burial. · 01-08-2016 09:18PM

Mr.S wrote: »

Ah here, it's a kiss.

Ah here, it's still cheating.

Letree · 01-08-2016 09:24PM

Kissing is cheating imo. I have ended relationships in the past over it. Ive never done it on anyone so won't tolerate it either.

liam7831 · 01-08-2016 09:32PM

Bet she had one of those penis shaped straws in her glass drives the women wild they do

Pawwed Rig · 01-08-2016 09:33PM

Mr.S wrote: »

I am.

And I have been in said position, didn't phase me! I can fully relate and understand the stupid **** you get up to in drunken states

Are you saying that you are happy for your girlfriend to get rat arsed and play tongue tennis with any passing horn dog?

OP of course it is cheating and the girl has put you in a very difficult situation. Who are you closer to him or her? That should give you the answer.

cantdecide · 01-08-2016 09:37PM

I was in a bad relationship in the recent past. It all started with her admitting she kissed another guy at a college friend's wedding that I was unable to attend with her. I forgave her at the time and forgot about it. After another year and a half of all kinds of other events in the relationship, I began to think back and wish I had dumped her then. I know now it was a sign of the lack of respect she had for me.

Augme · 01-08-2016 09:37PM

I'd find it hard to believe this is the one and only time she has done it. People cheat for a reason unless that reason is fixed then most people cheat continuously. I'd have a very hard time staying good friends with this person, it will be difficult to have any respect for her anymore.

Hazydays123 · 01-08-2016 09:38PM

Oh the humanities!!!

Hazydays123 · 01-08-2016 09:48PM

People aren't perfect. Sometimes they make mistakes. Sometimes people die because of other people's mistakes. Nobody died as a result of this incident. So it's probably not worth you getting in their business.

If the relationship is worthwhile then she probably feels awful and will tell him in her own time.
If the relationship isn't worthwhile then it will fizzle out by itself.

I'm never a big fan of getting between two people in an intimate relationship. You don't ever truly understand their dynamic. You could tell on her indiscretions to him but they might decide to stay together anyway. Then you'll be on the receiving end of some severe frostiness from both of them.

mdwexford · 01-08-2016 09:53PM

Mr.S wrote: »

I am.

And I have been in said position, didn't phase me! I can fully relate and understand the stupid **** you get up to in drunken states

To each their own though, I wouldn't call a random drunken kiss cheating, but obviously others do. That said, if its a regular thing, that's a whole 'nudder story!

Really, wow it would crush me and I don't know if I'd ever have full trust back in her. It would be a massive betrayal.

I get very drunk often but I would never even consider kissing someone else.

Cheating on a hen weekend :(

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