If you won't parent you child, this lady will parent you!

Smondie · 20-07-2016 01:27PM #1

This is great. This lady runs a cafe. She gives the parents 5 lenient minutes before steping in and disciplining the child for them.

Too many parents oblivious to the chaos thier little darlings cause. A lot of parents used to other people discliping thier children (at creche) seem to think it's not thier place to parent thier own children.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3698451/SARAH-VINE-s-wrong-strangers-telling-noisy-kids-Parents-barely-exercise-discipline-lives-let-children-s.html

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corner of hells · 20-07-2016 01:28PM

Smondie wrote: »

This is great. This lady runs a cafe. She gives the parents 5 lenient minutes before steping in and disciplining the child for them.

Too many parents oblivious to the chaos thier little darlings cause. A lot of parents used to other people discliping thier children (at creche) seem to think it's not thier place to parent thier own children.

dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3698451/SARAH-VINE-s-wrong-strangers-telling-noisy-kids-Parents-barely-exercise-discipline-lives-let-children-s.html

Where's the cafe and mine are teenagers ?

Smondie · 20-07-2016 01:31PM

corner of hells wrote: »

Where's the cafe and mine are teenagers ?

Surely they know at this stage how to behave themselves in a cafe?

If not, you have failed as a parent

jigglypuffstuff · 20-07-2016 01:34PM

"They can barely exercise discipline in their own lives, let alone that of their offspring"

Interesting comment

andekwarhola · 20-07-2016 01:36PM

Fairly ingenious method for indulging in S&M with random kids.

lollpop · 20-07-2016 01:38PM

Why doesn't she speak to the parents instead of addressing the kids directly? She has no idea what may or may not be going on, her first point of contact should be the parents.

corner of hells · 20-07-2016 01:39PM

Smondie wrote: »

Surely they know at this stage how to behave themselves in a cafe?

If not, you have failed as a parent

I was kinda hoping I could leave them there and go drinking.

ohnonotgmail · 20-07-2016 01:39PM

Smondie wrote: »

This is great. This lady runs a cafe. She gives the parents 5 lenient minutes before steping in and disciplining the child for them.

Too many parents oblivious to the chaos thier little darlings cause. A lot of parents used to other people discliping thier children (at creche) seem to think it's not thier place to parent thier own children.

dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3698451/SARAH-VINE-s-wrong-strangers-telling-noisy-kids-Parents-barely-exercise-discipline-lives-let-children-s.html

does she do spankings?

SteM · 20-07-2016 01:40PM

Why doesn't the café owner tell the parents to tell their children to be quiet? Maybe she knows it'll cause problems. Unfortunately in this day and age it's not the done thing to reprimand other people's little darlings.

20-07-2016 01:41PM

From the original FB post:

"We will give you five lenient minutes to ask the child to stop screaming and then we will ask the child ourselves."

For saying that, people are leaving negative reviews of the café which will harm her business.

What's the big deal? A lot of parents are happy to get some discreet back up when a situation gets out of control.

corner of hells · 20-07-2016 01:42PM

SteM wrote: »

Why doesn't the café owner tell the parents to tell their children to be quiet? Maybe she knows it'll cause problems. Unfortunately in this day and age it's not the done thing to reprimand other people's little darlings.

Can't do that , Boss, the could be gay Muslim traveller parents.Culture innit.

Smondie · 20-07-2016 01:43PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

Fairly ingenious method for indulging in S&M with random kids.

From the article:

The problem is that too many modern parents equate discipline with cruelty. They seem to think that giving a child clear boundaries is somehow mean.

Why should she talk to the parents first? She gives them 5 mins to sort it out. Unless the parents are blind and deaf, surely they can see for themselves what's going on. They just can't be bothered dealing with it.

SteM · 20-07-2016 01:51PM

Smondie wrote: »

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Why should she talk to the parents first?...

Her idea of too much noise might not be the same as the parents. She runs what looks like an ice cream stall and probably has to deal with kids all day so her 'noise threshold' may be lower than parents. Not everything is so black-and-white.

I think it's fair to talk to the parents first, if the parents agree that their kids are too noisy then they should discipline their child. If the parents disagree then they're free to go somewhere else.

andekwarhola · 20-07-2016 02:02PM

Smondie wrote: »

From the article:

The problem is that too many modern parents equate discipline with cruelty. They seem to think that giving a child clear boundaries is somehow mean.

Why should she talk to the parents first? She gives them 5 mins to sort it out. Unless the parents are blind and deaf, surely they can see for themselves what's going on. They just can't be bothered dealing with it.

It was a joke.

andekwarhola · 20-07-2016 02:06PM

I wouldn't let my kids run around messing in a cafe but in the hypothetical situation that any kids were doing that with no parental supervision, I don't think it's unreasonable for the owner to ask them (or the parents) to stop it.

That said, the very nature of broadcasting that they're a super nanny badass out to right parental wrongs just make me think they're looking for publicity and affirmation from the kind of numpties that can't tolerate children even breathing in public spaces.

uck51js9zml2yt · 20-07-2016 02:10PM

Smondie wrote: »

From the article:

The problem is that too many modern parents equate discipline with cruelty. They seem to think that giving a child clear boundaries is somehow mean.

Why should she talk to the parents first? She gives them 5 mins to sort it out. Unless the parents are blind and deaf, surely they can see for themselves what's going on. They just can't be bothered dealing with it.

My kids have boundaries. They are 6 foot high with no way of escape.

She's bang on !

Permabear · 20-07-2016 02:12PM

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Yellow pack crisps · 20-07-2016 02:14PM

If they ain't listing to the parents then they ain't gonna listen to some bint with a spatula!

Smondie · 20-07-2016 02:16PM

Permabear wrote: »

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It is her business, her customers, her livelihood.

SEPT 23 1989 · 20-07-2016 02:24PM

the Barman usually gives my kids more coke and crisps to quieten them down

Permabear · 20-07-2016 02:34PM

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20-07-2016 02:35PM

She needs to appreciate that disciplining kids is the business of the parents, and her opinion on how other people should do things is only her opinion.

If I had a kid and someone else took it upon themselves to 'discipline' them, I'd be having words adult to adult.

She can talk to the parents all she likes but to echo a sentiment immortalized in song by Pink Floyd, she should leave them kids alone.

suicide_circus · 20-07-2016 02:37PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lkKwyjsJGxk

Smondie · 20-07-2016 02:38PM

Candie wrote: »

She needs to appreciate that disciplining kids is the business of the parents, and her opinion on how other people should do things is only her opinion.

If I had a kid and someone else took it upon themselves to 'discipline' them, I'd be having words adult to adult.

She can talk to the parents all she likes but to echo a sentiment immortalized in song by Pink Floyd, she should leave them kids alone.

She said a few parents have thrown tantrums. The children didn't lick it off the ground, as they say

20-07-2016 02:41PM

Smondie wrote: »

She said a few parents have thrown tantrums. The children didn't lick it off the ground, as they say

Then she can ask them all to leave and never come back.

What she hasn't any right to do is, as a complete stranger and grown adult, decide she knows how to discipline a strangers child and intervene.

suicide_circus · 20-07-2016 02:44PM

Candie wrote: »

Then she can ask them all to leave and never come back.

What she hasn't any right to do is, as a complete stranger and grown adult, decide she knows how to discipline a strangers child and intervene.

Agreed, she just needs to tell these anti social yummy mummies and their frightful spawn to gtfo

Smondie · 20-07-2016 02:46PM

Candie wrote: »

Then she can ask them all to leave and never come back.

What she hasn't any right to do is, as a complete stranger and grown adult, decide she knows how to discipline a strangers child and intervene.

Of course she has this "right'.

If parents can't be bothered why should everyone else put up with thier lack of interest in parenting thier child?

20-07-2016 02:47PM

I can't stand these kid/parent hating threads. The last group of people AH finds it acceptable to be obnoxious about is kids and their parents.

20-07-2016 02:50PM

Smondie wrote: »

Of course she has this "right'.

If parents can't be bothered why should everyone else put up with thier lack of interest in parenting thier child?

Then ask them to leave and mind your own business. They're not her kids, disciplining them is not her business and it crosses a line. If she doesn't want them misbehaving in her cafe, she should tell them to go.

Ridiculous that everyone recognises that no one should put up with disruptive kids, but somehow thinks it's reasonable that a stranger intervenes and disciplines a strangers child.

Dolbert · 20-07-2016 02:50PM

Ugh these fcuking BREEDERS with their CROTCH SPAWN running around getting into my peripheral vision and ruining my latte I HATE THEM

20-07-2016 02:54PM

Dolbert wrote: »

Ugh these fcuking BREEDERS with their CROTCH SPAWN running around getting into my peripheral vision and ruining my latte I HATE THEM

WHY must the world revolve around them?

WHY can't it revolve around ME??

If you won't parent you child, this lady will parent you!

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