Trying to Conceive 2016 onwards Chat Thread

apple26 wrote: »

I just Got a text message from the Clinic today to say bloods and hormones are normal. Should I phone the clinic and ask for a print out of the results to be sent to me or what's the best way to go about it ?

Yeah I asked for a print out of mine too, at least you can see the results for yourself.

Hi Ladies, trying to conceive for the last 2years. I was diagnosed with mild PCOS in January and was put on metformim for 3mths and still no joy. The OH went to get seen too and his quite is low, he has started taking vitamins. Doctor then recommended me to take Inoself......has anyone got any good results from this???

Hopeful2016 wrote: »

Was this a doctor in the mid-west by any chance?

Yes that's right Hopeful2016.....you having the same diagnosis??

Hopeful2016 wrote: »

I have also been told by a doctor in the mid-west to take Inoself but could find next to no information about it, other than from its own website, and I couldn't find anyone who had taken it. So I never took it myself as I felt I didn't know enough about it. I'm curious if any other doctors out there are recommending it or is it just this one guy.

I'm the exact same, i ordered it online and got my package during the week. Started taking it yesterday evening. I googled it and no reviews of it and was on social media and seen they have very little followers on their site. It seems to be very new to the market but wondering if it works though. I'm trying all possibilities thank you for your feedback hopeful2016

January16 wrote: »

I'm the exact same, i ordered it online and got my package during the week. Started taking it yesterday evening. I googled it and no reviews of it and was on social media and seen they have very little followers on their site. It seems to be very new to the market but wondering if it works though. I'm trying all possibilities thank you for your feedback hopeful2016

Best of luck with it keep us posted on how it's going.

Me and the little missus are done with IVF. We done a fresh cycle a few months back, it's didn't take even even though we got the best of all the options available. Been a hard few months but finally thought I'd drop by with my tale of woe.
Fingers crossed for all of ye!

red fraggle wrote:

No one knows I had one either as it was very early. Its getting hard seeing all my friends and people I know pregnant and having their babies as I would be due soon. Anyway I'm trying to be positive.

Hi red fraggle,
I don't normally post in this thread but your comment reminded me of my own experience. I've also experienced a miscarriage. It is truly devadtating and I don't think people understand it until they go through it. I was constantly thinking - I would have been X months now, i would have been due now... It's hard to stop those feelings and to stop the jelousy every time you see a baby bump.

I'm so sorry you are going through this and I know there is nothing I can say to really help. It's a really crappy thing! I can promise you that it does get easier eventually. I found talking to people helped. It also made me realise how many others have been through it. Is there anyone you can talk to about it? Whenever you feel ready.
Take care of yourself!

Meubles, sperm can live up to 5 days inside you. They recommend anyway that you have sex prior to ovulation so that the sperm is in situ waiting for the egg as the egg only lasts 12 hrs.

If you are testing using the OPK's a positive one gives you 48 hrs notice usually of actual ovulation. Ovulation pain can occur up to 5 days prior to egg release as the pain is caused by the follicle stretching prior to ovulation rather than egg releasing. So skipping one shag likely wont hinder your chances much.

I'm on monitored ovulation induction with scans and on medications that ensure I ovulate 30 hrs after injecting, so the above is what I've gleaned from all the scans, nurse chats, and my own body. To give you an example, on my successful cycle I had ovulation pains on the Sunday/ Monday, positive OPK on Tuesday, had the scan and saw mature follicles on the Wednesday took the trigger shot on Wednesday evening. Thursday and Friday night were the nights we needed to do the deed to time it perfectly. Many posters here have found that coming up to key time its usually best if you are vague with your OH and just keep it spontaneous from his POV as the pressure to perform can make things a lot more stressful for both of you.

Meubles wrote: »

Thank you Neyite, that is really reassuring! We got the 2 days before so I know we have a shot. Sometimes it just all gets a bit too much though doesn't it? This will be our 9th month (although the first 3 or 4 were trying to figure out timing really) finding it hard to push back that 1 year time frame where it is supposed to happen. OH was so upset this morning too but I just couldn't console him as I was also mad, I know if I could take a step back would see how dramatic I'm being! Emotions all over the place with this TTC journey!

When I first began posting in TTC years ago a kind poster gave me the best advice. She said not to daydream about specific time frames. Like at first I would calculate if I got pregnant on X cycle the baby would be due on [insert meaningful date] or that if I got pregnant by X date that I'd have a newborn for Christmas, or my birthday or whatever. She said that she visualised day to day stuff that was not time-specific, like having a toddler and doing bedtime stories or baking with them, that sort of thing. It took a while but I learned to steer my thoughts like she suggested and it did help a lot.

It's easy to get immersed in the minutiae of TTC and let it get to you. I eased off on a lot of monitoring for a while - I had to, it was consuming me. If you can, just put it behind you both, maybe pick up a bottle of wine this evening or go to the movies and ban TTC chat for a night. You might both need it.

Meubles wrote: »

Incoming rant, having such a bad day! I ovulated yesterday but OH just wasn t in the mood we did manage 2 times before that but there is something so frustrating about missing the main event!! Trying to reassure myself that we still have a shot but generally just feeling crap today couldn t sleep I was so upset. I know it s not his fault he wants this as much as I do just the pressure gets to him I guess, I ovulated 3 days later than anticipated, you can never really assume you know what your body is going to do. Then I woke up to a message from my oldest friend to tell me she is pregnant, she was going through IVF for a few months so I am literally over the moon that they got their dream come true just the timing wasn t great to hear. Luckily we will be on holiday during next window so just need to try relax!

I hear ya! I get so caught up my oh had to get me to cop on. We are shift workers and the opposite shifts can put us out for a month but trying to dtd at 3am wen he's bk from work and I'm up 3 hours later isn't sustainable or healthy for either of us. It so hard not to get consumed by it! Just seems a new pregnancy announced it done insensitive comment about 'news'. Hopefully be good news for us all very soon!

dreamstar wrote: »

Hi red fraggle,
I don't normally post in this thread but your comment reminded me of my own experience. I've also experienced a miscarriage. It is truly devadtating and I don't think people understand it until they go through it. I was constantly thinking - I would have been X months now, i would have been due now... It's hard to stop those feelings and to stop the jelousy every time you see a baby bump.

I'm so sorry you are going through this and I know there is nothing I can say to really help. It's a really crappy thing! I can promise you that it does get easier eventually. I found talking to people helped. It also made me realise how many others have been through it. Is there anyone you can talk to about it? Whenever you feel ready.
Take care of yourself!

Thanks a mill for the reply. it just helps to know someone else felt the same. Even tho i know people do, hearing it makes a difference!! i dont know if i can talk to anyone. im not the type to let people know i am vulnerable! my husband and i are talking a bit more about it. Ya see we didnt really let it sink in until recently when I was discussin it with the gyne. Made it very real!!! and i realised how much it was affecting me. so i decided if i posted on here it might help towards healing!! Thanka again

Jen44 wrote: »

Hi guys i just got a faint Bfp! Was feeling a bit nauseated last night so I did a test this am and it was bfn! I wasn't too disheartened as its only 8/9 dpo but then today in work I felt crappy and a little dizzy so I tested again with a first response when I got home and it has the faintest of lines! I've two tests left but they aren't first response so I'm not sure if they will show up anything in the morning!

Omg how's the testing going ? Fingers crossed ! But a BFP exciting !

I'm just waiting for AF to arrive. One of the girls announced she is pregnant with her second child, I'm delighted for her but at the same time a little envious. Everyone was like it will be you next!i hope so.

red fraggle wrote: »

Thanks a mill for the reply. it just helps to know someone else felt the same. Even tho i know people do, hearing it makes a difference!! i dont know if i can talk to anyone. im not the type to let people know i am vulnerable! my husband and i are talking a bit more about it. Ya see we didnt really let it sink in until recently when I was discussin it with the gyne. Made it very real!!! and i realised how much it was affecting me. so i decided if i posted on here it might help towards healing!! Thanka again

I totally understand that! I am exactly the same and I sometimes find it hard to let people in and talk about feelings etc. Just you and your hubby look after each other. It is a very tough time that for me and my hubby made us really appreciate each other. And like I said it does get easier - I promise.
And if you need a rant or some support we are here! XxX

Hopeful, have you got your bloods done? I read somewhere (I think here) that the clear blue tests are super sensitive so if your hormones are a bit out of whack they can give you flashing smilies at any time in your cycle.