wht gives you anxiety?

StripedBoxers · 02-07-2016 01:52AM

I have anxiety, it affects me generally and socially, mostly socially. I hate big groups, parties, nights outs, nightclubs etc.

If I ah a euro for the amount of times people have told me "I don't look anxious" on nights out, I would be rich.

Do you expect me to sit in a corner shaking and crying?!!! Out in public I hide it as much as I can, nothing worse than appearing anxious and have people gawping at you wondering wtf is up with you

At times I cry because of how much it has held me back and continues to hold me back.

I would take general anxiety any day but social anxiety is a real b!tch. Its horrible.

Anxiety of any type of horrible but general is the worst, I think anyway.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 02-07-2016 07:24AM

5starpool wrote: »

You sound as if you are barely functional at all. You should seriously consider getting some professional help by the sounds of it.

I function fine. Just don't like surprises. I'm rarely in situations where there's a full on protest going on that I don't know about. Thanks for your concern though!

Beta Ray Bill · 02-07-2016 07:34AM

I used to get anxious when I knew I was in trouble for something I did.

I've now gotten so good at weaseling out of trouble that I rarely get anxious now.
I just get annoyed and start planning to deal with the situation

Emmadilema123 · 02-07-2016 07:43AM

I used to think I had really bad anxiety. It turns out was just the job I was in. No issues since I left it. (Call centre)

MRnotlob606 · 02-07-2016 07:52AM

When its your first time going out with some. Like me a naive 21 year old right now.

Wanderer78 · 02-07-2016 08:03AM

LexieOnRale wrote:

I function fine. Just don't like surprises. I'm rarely in situations where there's a full on protest going on that I don't know about. Thanks for your concern though!

Highly recommend engagement in full on protests possibly even a riot or two. That'll get yea going!

Emmadilema123 wrote:

I used to think I had really bad anxiety. It turns out was just the job I was in. No issues since I left it. (Call centre)

Fair play for leaving, dreadful places. More to life

Emmadilema123 · 02-07-2016 08:14AM

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Highly recommend engagement in full on protests possibly even a riot or two. That'll get yea going!

Fair play for leaving, dreadful places. More to life

There is no amount of money that would make me go back to it.

Wanderer78 · 02-07-2016 08:21AM

Emmadilema123 wrote:

There is no amount of money that would make me go back to it.

Your well being is priceless

mickstupp · 02-07-2016 08:37AM

Public transport, too much traffic, sometimes just being awake.

Public speaking, on the other hand, love it.

kmacs1988 · 02-07-2016 08:43AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

People making me paranoid.

When someone texts me "can you keep a secret?", or "okay so I have something to tell you." I can't bear it. The wait between the anticipation message and the disclosure is too much. I'll be so stressed out thinking about literally every single bad thing they could be about to tell me.

Recently I got a message from a guard I'm good friends with "L, ring me as soon as you get this. Or text me and I'll ring you back". I rang 5 times. I was shivering I was so frightened. There was no ans and each time there was no answer I was working myself into an even worse state. Was my brother killed in an accident? He'd have to be sure why else would he be wanting to ring me. Maybe he was arrested, or maybe the house burned down, or maybe my OH was knocked down. Lord my nerves. And when I finally got talking to him, he was telling me something and I was still shaking like a leaf even though I knew what he needed to tell me I couldn't get over the shock.

Unexpected noise too. A shrill scream, the toaster, the doorbell. Anything I'm not expecting.

And raised voices. I get so nervous and stressed out when there's loud noises, or shouting. I can't even explain why. It's completely unfounded and irrational. But protests, those bands with the drums, chanting, those Hare Krishna people, someone shouting at me. Cannot cope. That would make me cry if I couldn't get away from it.

Lol I think your my double !

kmacs1988 · 02-07-2016 08:53AM

eviltwin wrote: »

Public speaking. I've avoided jobs, courses etc where it's expected.

Try having a stutter! You don't know how easy you have it

Estrellita · 02-07-2016 09:00AM

StripedBoxers wrote: »

At times I cry because of how much it has held me back and continues to hold me back.

Im sorry to hear this has effected you so badly. Have you talked to a doctor or counsellor about it?

I sometimes feel like 'facing the fear' isn't always the answer though. I'm not diagnosed as having a social anxiety, and I haven't talked to anyone about how I react to being in public. But I have accepted I'm different, and there's no crime in being different. Im no hermit, but I would rather not be in a crowded space of any kind.

Im (fingers crossed ) going to be moving to a more rural location soon, and I couldn't be happier. I'm going with it rather than against it so to speak.

If I was in your position Id socialize in smaller groups, and through hobbies and interests. Also, you might be aware of meetup.com? I've never used it or joined or anything, but it looks like a good site. People from all walks of life, and lots of groups avoiding involving alcohol as the centre focus of their meets, which is a good thing I think. I've just Googled it and there seems to be groups focused around social anxiety, so it could be a useful resource for you. (I'm in no way affiliated btw!)

At least you want to be around others, I on the other hand do not :pac:

Richard Hillman · 02-07-2016 09:26AM

Being in a packed pub or club (when I was younger) and not having a seat.

I have no idea in what people see in packed pubs.

rodge68 · 02-07-2016 09:41AM

Losing my job in September after 16 years a (I enjoyed it and I got well paid)
I havent a clue what to next.I have had to deal with a marriage break up and the passing of my Dear Mother( I really miss her, not my ex)..what a terrible nights sleep I had last night, my mind was going faster than usual..I had a bowl of porridge at 5am to help me sleep !

Cerisepink · 02-07-2016 09:42AM

Standing in queues, rushing or being late, shopping, the anticipation of a social event, my own negative thinking.

Wanderer78 · 02-07-2016 11:54AM

Always options out there for you, planning is now the key. This could be the time to start something new and different. I'd imagine it's scary losing a job but think positively. Best of luck with it

CaraMay · 02-07-2016 01:35PM

My child's autism.

Speedwell · 02-07-2016 01:36PM

My husband's autism, and my own.

Lady is a tramp · 02-07-2016 01:41PM

Life!

Speedwell · 02-07-2016 01:42PM

Lady is a tramp wrote: »

Life!

Which is why the most popular drinking toast in Hebrew is "L'chaim"

TG1 · 02-07-2016 01:54PM

Everything, but mostly public transport, crowds and work.

Mister Vain · 02-07-2016 01:57PM

When I can't find the hole in the wall.

failinis · 02-07-2016 02:08PM

Almost everything.

Need to mentally "psyche" up to even ask for a bus ticket.
If I am going anywhere I need to know the exact time of buses/trains/flights, have a 2 back up plans and be early and am in constant stress the whole time. Speaking of flying, I have a pretty bad fear, but can still get on a plane.

Crowds of people are actually okay (as in cities and what not), in the short term, but I certainly prefer the quiet and will seek it out.
But being asked to hang out with people in a social setting? No. I just can't deal with it.
Moved to England for Uni, never been anywhere except Uni for classes, been invited to parties/pubs/coffee/events and some I did really mean to go to, but chickened. Can barely speak to anyone I don't know.
Starting to have odd hearing loss over the past 4 years, but its only in "noise" settings, so walking beside a road, in a cafe or whatever, and I literally can not decipher what a person beside me is saying. I have since stopped going out at all because whats the point if you are sitting there not even hearing the craic.

I do feel Uni has helped me in a minor way, before I would not be able to go in a cafe and ask for tea/whatever, I just done with out, but now I can sometimes do that. But the friends/social life is still suffering very much so. Baby steps.

As a previous poster said, I have really felt like **** about how much its holding me back and ruining my life.
it's not just a case of "Just go, you will have a ball."

Summer wind · 02-07-2016 02:31PM

Don't really like heights. The picture of all the men sitting on the iron girder about 100 stories up eating lunch almost gives me a heart attack anytime I see it. Insects also freak me out. Hate all their hairy legs that let them run so fast.

pragmatic1 · 02-07-2016 02:50PM

My own psyche. Oh and cannabis. I absolutely hate the stuff now. Like inhaling a panic attack.

Speedwell · 02-07-2016 02:53PM

This thread. Sorry. See you in other threads

El_Duderino 09 · 02-07-2016 03:25PM

Dancing.

Oh Jesus what's the story with dancing? I don't understand why other people want to dance, but I REALLY don't understand why anyone would pressure me to dance.

BeepBeep67 · 02-07-2016 03:34PM

Posters who leave vowels out of words, I mean do they do it unintentionally, deliberately, is it a test?
Where's my brown paper bag?

IvyTheTerrible · 02-07-2016 03:54PM

Ants in my house, crowds and noise, blood.

Penny Tration · 02-07-2016 03:56PM

Most things because I have diagnosed anxiety :pac:

Speaking to people I don't know is probably the worst one though. Started a college course last month and I was trying to mentally gear myself up for it for a few weeks, and even trying to think of excuses to drop out of it before I started

That said, once I started, I forced myself to speak, and I get along great with everyone. The reality is never usually as bad as the fear!

wht gives you anxiety?

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