wht gives you anxiety?

Robsweezie

waiting rooms. cant stand them. just want to turn up and be seen. wishful thinking I know.

DontThankMe

Brexit

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

People making me paranoid.

When someone texts me "can you keep a secret?", or "okay so I have something to tell you." I can't bear it. The wait between the anticipation message and the disclosure is too much. I'll be so stressed out thinking about literally every single bad thing they could be about to tell me.

Recently I got a message from a guard I'm good friends with "L, ring me as soon as you get this. Or text me and I'll ring you back". I rang 5 times. I was shivering I was so frightened. There was no ans and each time there was no answer I was working myself into an even worse state. Was my brother killed in an accident? He'd have to be sure why else would he be wanting to ring me. Maybe he was arrested, or maybe the house burned down, or maybe my OH was knocked down. Lord my nerves. And when I finally got talking to him, he was telling me something and I was still shaking like a leaf even though I knew what he needed to tell me I couldn't get over the shock.


Unexpected noise too. A shrill scream, the toaster, the doorbell. Anything I'm not expecting.

And raised voices. I get so nervous and stressed out when there's loud noises, or shouting. I can't even explain why. It's completely unfounded and irrational. But protests, those bands with the drums, chanting, those Hare Krishna people, someone shouting at me. Cannot cope. That would make me cry if I couldn't get away from it.

suicide_circus

Absolutely everything.

wakka12

LexieOnRale wrote: »

People making me paranoid.

When someone texts me "can you keep a secret?", or "okay so I have something to tell you." I can't bear it. The wait between the anticipation message and the disclosure is too much. I'll be so stressed out thinking about literally every single bad thing they could be about to tell me.

Recently I got a message from a guard I'm good friends with "L, ring me as soon as you get this. Or text me and I'll ring you back". I rang 5 times. I was shivering I was so frightened. There was no ans and each time there was no answer I was working myself into an even worse state. Was my brother killed in an accident? He'd have to be sure why else would he be wanting to ring me. Maybe he was arrested, or maybe the house burned down, or maybe my OH was knocked down. Lord my nerves. And when I finally got talking to him, he was telling me something and I was still shaking like a leaf even though I knew what he needed to tell me I couldn't get over the shock.


Unexpected noise too. A shrill scream, the toaster, the doorbell. Anything I'm not expecting.

And raised voices. I get so nervous and stressed out when there's loud noises, or shouting. I can't even explain why. It's completely unfounded and irrational. But protests, those bands with the drums, chanting, those Hare Krishna people, someone shouting at me. Cannot cope. That would make me cry if I couldn't get away from it.

All that and you don't even tell us what the guard said !!

eviltwin

Public speaking. I've avoided jobs, courses etc where it's expected.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

It wasn't even anything exciting, he was just telling me a bit of gossip about someone I hate being in a bit of trouble.

s4uv3

When someone I love is ill/upset and I can do fcuk all to help them.

Hazydays123

Doctors appointments. I'll literally drag myself half dying to the GP surgery, hand over 60 quid then spend my 10 minute appointment totally minimizing my symptoms and basically trying to convince us both that I'm totally fine because I'm so afraid to hear otherwise.

Turtyturd

Speed cameras, even when I know I am under the limit.

gifted

Spotting a car parking space in the next row and you stuck behind an ould git of a driver :mad:

Eramen

Having to travel through all-white, all-Irish neighborhoods.

Temptamperu

I get severe anxiety attacks at bedtime. Its horrible.

I make myself anxious overthinking, something I wish I didn't do.

Estrellita

I hate saying this, but being in public. I hit a wall when there are a lot of people around me. I favour quiet and calm over hustle and bustle. What bothers me in equal proportions is people invading personal space, and rudeness or impoliteness. I find lack of manners very hard to bear, and it's becoming more and more rare I find. Its with a combination of these things that start to close in my walls.

Ruu

Waiting in line, for a flight, bus, shop because there is always someone breathing down your neck. Personal space please (and some basic hygiene on your part, thank you).

Bongalongherb

Running out of beer

893bet

eviltwin wrote: »

Public speaking. I've avoided jobs, courses etc where it's expected.

The most common fear.

If you can master it you can literally do anything.

ArtSmart

893bet wrote: »

The most common fear.

If you can master it you can literally do anything.

I've mastered it. Yet, I still can't fly as good as I'd like to.


Gee, compared to some of the responses, I don't suffer any anxiety. But I feel I should.

Estrellita

Ruu wrote: »

Waiting in line in a shop because there is always someone breathing down your neck.

I was in a queue with my better half today and he just said 'do you want to head out to the car love?'. He knew after a lap around a busy supermarket and the antics in the queue were starting to grate on me. I stayed, but I was trying to push myself a bit. I don't normally shop in peak hours I feel I can't think properly unless there are fewer people around me. Id like to be different, but I am what I am

RayM

I'm a very, very anxious person, mainly in social situations, but public speaking doesn't make me anxious at all. In fact, the larger the group, the easier I find it. I only discovered this in recent years. Parties, on the other hand, fill me with dread. I haven't been to one since... probably my sister's 18th. And she's nearly 32 now.

Sweetemotion

RayM wrote: »

I'm a very, very anxious person, mainly in social situations, but public speaking doesn't make me anxious at all. In fact, the larger the group, the easier I find it. I only discovered this in recent years. Parties, on the other hand, fill me with dread. I haven't been to one since... probably my sister's 18th. And she's nearly 32 now.

Very similar to Hitler. :eek:


Nicolas??? Please don't ban me....:o

RayM

Sweetemotion wrote: »

Very similar to Hitler. :eek:

Unlike old uncle Adolf, I have no intention of setting up any parties.

Sweetemotion

RayM wrote: »

Unlike old uncle Adolf, I have no intention of setting up any parties.

He had his agenda, you have yours.

RayM

Sweetemotion wrote: »

Nicolas??? Please don't ban me....:o

Surprised you've lasted this long, tb perfectly h with you.

Sweetemotion

RayM wrote: »

Surprised you've lasted this long, tb perfectly h with you.

Not everyone is as easily offended.

Lyaiera

Candie wrote: »

I make myself anxious overthinking, something I wish I didn't do.

My mother firmly believes, "thinking is bad for you." As I've grown older and had more experience with thinking I am increasingly seeing truth in her logic.

5starpool

LexieOnRale wrote: »

People making me paranoid.

When someone texts me "can you keep a secret?", or "okay so I have something to tell you." I can't bear it. The wait between the anticipation message and the disclosure is too much. I'll be so stressed out thinking about literally every single bad thing they could be about to tell me.

Recently I got a message from a guard I'm good friends with "L, ring me as soon as you get this. Or text me and I'll ring you back". I rang 5 times. I was shivering I was so frightened. There was no ans and each time there was no answer I was working myself into an even worse state. Was my brother killed in an accident? He'd have to be sure why else would he be wanting to ring me. Maybe he was arrested, or maybe the house burned down, or maybe my OH was knocked down. Lord my nerves. And when I finally got talking to him, he was telling me something and I was still shaking like a leaf even though I knew what he needed to tell me I couldn't get over the shock.


Unexpected noise too. A shrill scream, the toaster, the doorbell. Anything I'm not expecting.

And raised voices. I get so nervous and stressed out when there's loud noises, or shouting. I can't even explain why. It's completely unfounded and irrational. But protests, those bands with the drums, chanting, those Hare Krishna people, someone shouting at me. Cannot cope. That would make me cry if I couldn't get away from it.

You sound as if you are barely functional at all. You should seriously consider getting some professional help by the sounds of it.

RayM

Lyaiera wrote: »

My mother firmly believes, "thinking is bad for you." As I've grown older and had more experience with thinking I am increasingly seeing truth in her logic.

My granny used to say something similar. If someone was sitting quietly, minding their own business, she'd say "Are you thinking again? It doesn't do anyone any good..."

Lyaiera

RayM wrote: »

My granny used to say something similar. If someone was sitting quietly, minding their own business, she'd say "Are you thinking again? It doesn't do anyone any good..."

Aye. If anyone in my family announces they're thinking about something the typical response is, "Don't hurt yourself."

ardinn

Good thread - I suffer mildly with anxiety, have had some attacks, one which required an ambulance, Morto! Its all in my throat for me - I have a hiatial (?) hernia and find it hard to swallow sometimes, which brings on choking fears, which sets me off thinking I cant breath - If It gets in on me im done - I will literally freak!

StripedBoxers

I have anxiety, it affects me generally and socially, mostly socially. I hate big groups, parties, nights outs, nightclubs etc.

If I ah a euro for the amount of times people have told me "I don't look anxious" on nights out, I would be rich.

Do you expect me to sit in a corner shaking and crying?!!! Out in public I hide it as much as I can, nothing worse than appearing anxious and have people gawping at you wondering wtf is up with you

At times I cry because of how much it has held me back and continues to hold me back.

I would take general anxiety any day but social anxiety is a real b!tch. Its horrible.

Anxiety of any type of horrible but general is the worst, I think anyway.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

5starpool wrote: »

You sound as if you are barely functional at all. You should seriously consider getting some professional help by the sounds of it.

I function fine. Just don't like surprises. I'm rarely in situations where there's a full on protest going on that I don't know about. Thanks for your concern though!

Beta Ray Bill

I used to get anxious when I knew I was in trouble for something I did.

I've now gotten so good at weaseling out of trouble that I rarely get anxious now.
I just get annoyed and start planning to deal with the situation

Emmadilema123

I used to think I had really bad anxiety. It turns out was just the job I was in. No issues since I left it. (Call centre)

MRnotlob606

When its your first time going out with some. Like me a naive 21 year old right now.

Wanderer78

LexieOnRale wrote:

I function fine. Just don't like surprises. I'm rarely in situations where there's a full on protest going on that I don't know about. Thanks for your concern though!

Highly recommend engagement in full on protests possibly even a riot or two. That'll get yea going!

Emmadilema123 wrote:

I used to think I had really bad anxiety. It turns out was just the job I was in. No issues since I left it. (Call centre)

Fair play for leaving, dreadful places. More to life

Emmadilema123

Wanderer78 wrote: »

Highly recommend engagement in full on protests possibly even a riot or two. That'll get yea going!



Fair play for leaving, dreadful places. More to life

There is no amount of money that would make me go back to it.

Wanderer78

Emmadilema123 wrote:

There is no amount of money that would make me go back to it.

Your well being is priceless

mickstupp

Public transport, too much traffic, sometimes just being awake.

Public speaking, on the other hand, love it.

kmacs1988

LexieOnRale wrote: »

People making me paranoid.

When someone texts me "can you keep a secret?", or "okay so I have something to tell you." I can't bear it. The wait between the anticipation message and the disclosure is too much. I'll be so stressed out thinking about literally every single bad thing they could be about to tell me.

Recently I got a message from a guard I'm good friends with "L, ring me as soon as you get this. Or text me and I'll ring you back". I rang 5 times. I was shivering I was so frightened. There was no ans and each time there was no answer I was working myself into an even worse state. Was my brother killed in an accident? He'd have to be sure why else would he be wanting to ring me. Maybe he was arrested, or maybe the house burned down, or maybe my OH was knocked down. Lord my nerves. And when I finally got talking to him, he was telling me something and I was still shaking like a leaf even though I knew what he needed to tell me I couldn't get over the shock.


Unexpected noise too. A shrill scream, the toaster, the doorbell. Anything I'm not expecting.

And raised voices. I get so nervous and stressed out when there's loud noises, or shouting. I can't even explain why. It's completely unfounded and irrational. But protests, those bands with the drums, chanting, those Hare Krishna people, someone shouting at me. Cannot cope. That would make me cry if I couldn't get away from it.

Lol I think your my double !

kmacs1988

eviltwin wrote: »

Public speaking. I've avoided jobs, courses etc where it's expected.

Try having a stutter! You don't know how easy you have it

Estrellita

StripedBoxers wrote: »

At times I cry because of how much it has held me back and continues to hold me back.

Im sorry to hear this has effected you so badly. Have you talked to a doctor or counsellor about it?

I sometimes feel like 'facing the fear' isn't always the answer though. I'm not diagnosed as having a social anxiety, and I haven't talked to anyone about how I react to being in public. But I have accepted I'm different, and there's no crime in being different. Im no hermit, but I would rather not be in a crowded space of any kind.

Im (fingers crossed ) going to be moving to a more rural location soon, and I couldn't be happier. I'm going with it rather than against it so to speak.

If I was in your position Id socialize in smaller groups, and through hobbies and interests. Also, you might be aware of meetup.com? I've never used it or joined or anything, but it looks like a good site. People from all walks of life, and lots of groups avoiding involving alcohol as the centre focus of their meets, which is a good thing I think. I've just Googled it and there seems to be groups focused around social anxiety, so it could be a useful resource for you. (I'm in no way affiliated btw!)

At least you want to be around others, I on the other hand do not :pac:

Richard Hillman

Being in a packed pub or club (when I was younger) and not having a seat.

I have no idea in what people see in packed pubs.

rodge68

Losing my job in September after 16 years a (I enjoyed it and I got well paid)
I havent a clue what to next.I have had to deal with a marriage break up and the passing of my Dear Mother( I really miss her, not my ex)..what a terrible nights sleep I had last night, my mind was going faster than usual..I had a bowl of porridge at 5am to help me sleep !

Cerisepink

Standing in queues, rushing or being late, shopping, the anticipation of a social event, my own negative thinking.

Wanderer78

Always options out there for you, planning is now the key. This could be the time to start something new and different. I'd imagine it's scary losing a job but think positively. Best of luck with it

CaraMay

My child's autism.

Speedwell

My husband's autism, and my own.

Lady is a tramp

Life!

Speedwell

Lady is a tramp wrote: »

Life!

Which is why the most popular drinking toast in Hebrew is "L'chaim"