Public displays of affection

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 21-06-2016 08:15PM #1

How comfortable are you with PDAs? I'm very uncomfortable with people wearing the face off each other in public. I was sitting down having pancakes for my breakfast one Saturday morning when these two sat next to me and started kissing each other while waiting for their food. There's not much that would get between me and a pancake but that was enough to put me right off.

People on the bus, clinging onto each other and mauling each other like one was going to escape if they let them go, oh please. Could not be dealing.

I'm currently on the train, listening to what sounds like the beginning of a porno behind me.

Myself, I like holding hands when I'm out and about, maybe a quick hug as were walking down the empty aisle in dunnes, sneaky leg rub in the cinema, kiss on the forehead/cheek if I'm feeling particularly daring, but that's about the height of it.

So, are you someone who puts other people off pancakes or do you save all that for when you're by yourself??

smash · 21-06-2016 08:16PM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

How comfortable are you with PDAs? I'm very uncomfortable with people wearing the face off each other in public. I was sitting down having pancakes for my breakfast one Saturday morning when these two sat next to me and started kissing each other while waiting for their food. There's not much that would get between me and a pancake but that was enough to put me right off.

People on the bus, clinging onto each other and mauling each other like one was going to escape if they let them go, oh please. Could not be dealing.

I'm currently on the train, listening to what sounds like the beginning of a porno behind me.

Myself, I like holding hands when I'm out and about, maybe a quick hug as were walking down the empty aisle in dunnes, sneaky leg rub in the cinema, kiss on the forehead/cheek if I'm feeling particularly daring, but that's about the height of it.

So, are you someone who puts other people off pancakes or do you save all that for when you're by yourself??

Start playing 70's cheesy porno music at them!

cantdecide · 21-06-2016 08:17PM

Sometimes it's nice to be reminded that there's love in the world

/returns to muttering into half empty glass

21-06-2016 08:25PM

I don't like it at all.

I was sitting in the train station this morning nursing my hangover and a bottle of lucozade when behold! Two lovers waiting for the other to depart.

They were standing in the middle being all kissy. I was filled with bitter thoughts such as "I bet that's the last they'll see of each other".

Winterlong · 21-06-2016 08:29PM

My lowest moment in life came many years ago.
Standing at the old taxi rank on college green. Busy queue, everyone pushing and shoving and desperately holding on to their spot. 3am. Pissing rain in december. And the couple in front of me necking away....her head practically on my shoulder.

ToddyDoody · 21-06-2016 08:30PM

I have no problem if it's genuine, but a lot of things like this seem to be "for show"

lazybones32 · 21-06-2016 08:32PM

A display of affection is fine but monging the face off someone could hardly be described as affectionate. Public displays of horniness are uncomfortable to witness but not as bad to be a part of.

21-06-2016 08:35PM

Yeah... I was in a cool bar in an amazing city enjoying some parmesan truffle fries... On the other end of the bar, a tipsy middle aged couple started wearing the face off each other.

I could see their tongues.

Barf-o-rama.

The fries were left unfinished.

Bastards!

I hold my OH's hand in public. Sometimes a kiss on the cheek when we're parting company but that's it. Anything else is exhibitionism.

Spanish Eyes · 21-06-2016 08:37PM

No No NO.

It's a private and real thing.

PDAs are not. IMV. Ever.

And embarrassing to witness too. YUK.

The Young Wan · 21-06-2016 08:39PM

Lexie I'd be like you. Holding hands is fine, but to be honest that's about as far as I go. Call me bitter, twisted, and single, but you don't need to be attached to your OH's mouth 24/7.

Story Bud? · 21-06-2016 08:41PM

lazybones32 wrote: »

monging the face of someone.

I lol'd

Olishi4 · 21-06-2016 08:42PM

Ah yea, that sounds a bit full on but holding hands or someone putting their arm around someone is grand.

When my husband and I first started seeing each other, he lived in a different county and he was waiting with me for my train.

We were sitting on a bench holding hands when a group of lads got off the train, a bit drunk and all started singing the chorus of "it must be love"

Speedwell · 21-06-2016 08:44PM

Eh, I don't give a crap. They aren't picking my pocket or taking my job. So long as they don't expect me to join in, I'm fine.

wilhelm roentgen · 21-06-2016 08:47PM

Start masturbating next to them, that usually stops that kind of filth.

RobbingBandit · 21-06-2016 08:47PM

As the Comicbook Guy once said, Inspired by the most logical race in the universe; the Vulcans, breeding will be permitted once every seven years. For many of you, this will mean much less breeding. But for me, much much more!!

padd b1975 · 21-06-2016 08:49PM

The calling card of the insecure.

21-06-2016 08:59PM

Showing affection for some one in public is fine, holding hands, hugging, a brief kiss etc. When you start getting into a prelude of sex, then you have overstepped a socially acceptable boundary.

smash · 21-06-2016 09:00PM

Loveinapril wrote: »

My fella is a nightmare though, he can't engage in any more than a closed mouth kiss in public or else he will get an erection!

Is he 14?

Speedwell · 21-06-2016 09:02PM

smash wrote: »

Is he 14?

Oh, young men are so cute like that. It's like when you scritch the end of a cat's back just above its tail, and it puts its tail straight up in the air.

(No, I restrict myself to one particular middle-aged dude these days, heh.)

strawdog · 21-06-2016 09:17PM

Don't like PDA's myself, unfortunately when you're in the early stages of 'courting', as i seem perennially to be, it tends to be the only option as you usually only see each other in public. I try and be somewhat discreet with where the gob lobbing happens, but still terribly uncomfortable and self conscious with constant opening of eyes to make sure no one is watching.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 21-06-2016 09:23PM

Haha this actually reminds me of meeting a guy a few years ago. We were sitting in his car on the backseat in Salthill. He was sitting upright but I was kind of lying into him, he had his arms around me rubbing my tummy and we had his hoodie thrown over me to keep me warm. It was just becoming dark, when this weirdo drove in, parked right next to us and was very blatant in trying to enjoy the show that wasn't even happening. He was having a great look in, trying to get a great view and not caring how obvious he was. Moment killed.

SEPT 23 1989 · 21-06-2016 09:26PM

Boyfriend probably arranged the whole thing

makingmecrazy · 21-06-2016 10:06PM

RobbingBandit wrote: »

As the Comicbook Guy once said, Inspired by the most logical race in the universe; the Vulcans, breeding will be permitted once every seven years. For many of you, this will mean much less breeding. But for me, much much more!!

Loneliness and cheeseburgers are a dangerous mix

pragmatic1 · 21-06-2016 10:36PM

Couldn't give a toss as long as it's not intrusive. But when it's right up in your face it really can be enraging.

BettePorter · 21-06-2016 10:37PM

Time and place for everything. I saw a couple the other day on a busy street ..... she was pushing the pram with one hand and holding his hand with other. I mean ffs, we get it, you're in love! But lets focus on the job at hand!

dinorebel · 21-06-2016 10:41PM

pragmatic1 wrote: »

Couldn't give a toss as long as it's not intrusive. But when it's right up in your face it really can be enraging.

Unless you're Dogging.

elfy4eva · 21-06-2016 10:50PM

I don't think most people mind the likes of holding hands or smooching.

But nobody wants to see some lad named Anto groping and wearing the face off some Chung wan down the back of the 17a.

FunLover18 · 21-06-2016 11:10PM

I just don't understand it.

I was in the cinema one time and the couple in front of me would just randomly lean in and have a quick snog before returning their attention to the film. Like why bother paying to see a film if you're going to miss half of it. I eventually moved because I found it too distracting. Similarly I don't get why couples go out on social occasions with friends and have to be in constant physical contact, I don't know maybe they think other people don't notice that they're constantly petting each other, maybe they think they're being subtle. People seem to define themselves by the fact they're in a relationship, very odd behaviour.

NikoTopps · 21-06-2016 11:13PM

My boyfriend told me that he loves the whole kissing and holding hands thing in public because it shows people "he's mine" and "I'm his" type thing. Sounds a bit silly but I think it's nice to be seen together and comfortable around each other.

Of course full on grinding is off limits in public though :pac:

21-06-2016 11:14PM

NikoTopps wrote: »

My boyfriend told me that he loves the whole kissing and holding hands thing in public because it shows people "he's mine" and "I'm his" type thing.

Ah insecurity veiled in affection.

NikoTopps · 21-06-2016 11:17PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Ah insecurity veiled in affection.

Perhaps being a same sex couple we are more prone to insecurity. Who knows? But I don't feel the need to have to limit my affection for him just because we're not at home.

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