Boost yor confidence!!!

xx

Originally posted by The Corinthian
Ouch! That’s bitter. Had you considered that it may be down to you not being either charming, fun or just plain butt-ugly?

Last time I posted something on Personal Issues that said someone else might be ugly, I got hoofed off it for a while. Hmmmm. Anyway, you must know of me - I am definitely not charming, definitely not fun, and definitely butt-ugly. But the question is - if I did have a flash car, lotsa cash etc., but was still ugly/uncharming etc., would the girls like me??

annabegins

I still believe in the tale that there's a soul mate out there for everyone.

It's jsut a case of realising that the person is your soul mate before you ditch them for something stupid like you didn't like his hair or something.

In the meantime, the most important rule is: Not to let anyone treat you in a way that makes you sad.

aliesneo

Originally posted by annabegins
I still believe in the tale that there's a soul mate out there for everyone.

It's jsut a case of realising that the person is your soul mate before you ditch them for something stupid like you didn't like his hair or something.


HAVE U BEEN SUCKING BACK ON GRANDPA'S OLD COUGH MEDICINE?

Gordon

Originally posted by aliesneo
HAVE U BEEN SUCKING BACK ON GRANDPA'S OLD COUGH MEDICINE?

Is your caps lock stuck?

Sangre

Get confident Stupid!

Dr_Teeth

I love the way girls talk about 'soul mates'. How the hell are they going to find theirs if they are content to sit around waiting to be chatted up?

That would seem to be to be a great way of limiting the amount of prospective partners out there..

I think they just like big egos but are afraid to admit it.

Teeth.

aliesneo

no Gordon

my caps are not stuck.

patch

Ummm........I was just looking for any articles similar to the one I saw in a magazine!!! :rolleyes: Honestly, you have to believe me I......... (me gets dragged away protesting):D

I hear if you don't wash for a week or two, your natural scent will work wonders for your pulling power.

Wolf

Your natural scent!!!! Yeah, right. Thats actually very funny in itself.

yellum

Act confident and you can be confident. I'm annoyingly confident at times. Theres no reason not to be confident. If some girl rejects you, move on, theres another 2 billion of them out there.

I think when you relax and don't try too hard you'll make progress. When you try too hard you become nervous and it shows. Think like you are not single or not interested in this girl and the more natural you will come through. Thats when you are confident.

Chatting up girls is always fun though. If it was an olympic sport I'd finally win a medal.

DeVore

*holds one hand on bible and the other in the air*


I'm fuking useless at chatting up women. The ones I like I cant even possibly approach, the ones I havent thought of in that way I wouldnt spot the "warning signals" from if they flashed neon.

But I'll say this, if someone is waiting for me to make a move and isnt willing to at least come half way, they would be waiting for an awfully long time.
I personally wouldnt be interested in someone who sat there and demurely waited for the bloke to make the move and start a conversation. That immediately tells me we arent going to be compatible because I've dated ladies who basically wanted someone to lead their lives for them. Uhhuh sister.

Womens lib did a damned fine job on people my age and now we are not only NOT intimidated by strong females but many men my age and younger EXPECT women to be half the relationship.
Life partners rather then elbow accessories.
Sure there are some exceptions to that (lots in fact) but more and more men are sick of always taking the lead. Let the women lead for a while if they think its oh so much fun


DeV.

Typedef

Life partners rather then elbow accessories.

And on that note... I'd like to invite our female members to be my live in slave.

Seriously though, it's not that I don't spot the signs from women, it's just I think a little too much LSD in the 60s has left me a little petrafied of rejection, except for when I have dutch courage or friends literally slapping me around the face and saying.

"Go.... ask the girl out... muppet" or words to that effect.

Still.... if I could just move my arm.....

Kell

Originally posted by DeVore
[Bmore and more men are sick of always taking the lead.
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Here here. I have become so lethargic over the years in terms of making the first move. TBH, I cant be arsed any more so if they are even half interested they will have to make the first move. I think it says about them that they know what they want and how to get it.

Last time I chatted up someone (2 at the same time) they stormed off. I was getting really good vibes from both of them so I figured "hey why not ask them both back to mine?". At least I got away without a slap.

amp

Originally posted by DeVore
*holds one hand on bible and the other in the air*


I'm fuking useless at chatting up women. The ones I like I cant even possibly approach, the ones I havent thought of in that way I wouldnt spot the "warning signals" from if they flashed neon.

But I'll say this, if someone is waiting for me to make a move and isnt willing to at least come half way, they would be waiting for an awfully long time.
I personally wouldnt be interested in someone who sat there and demurely waited for the bloke to make the move and start a conversation. That immediately tells me we arent going to be compatible because I've dated ladies who basically wanted someone to lead their lives for them. Uhhuh sister.

Womens lib did a damned fine job on people my age and now we are not only NOT intimidated by strong females but many men my age and younger EXPECT women to be half the relationship.
Life partners rather then elbow accessories.
Sure there are some exceptions to that (lots in fact) but more and more men are sick of always taking the lead. Let the women lead for a while if they think its oh so much fun


DeV.

So you're not gay then?

/me flees out of PI like Speedy Gonzales on speed with his arse on fire.

patch

Now that I think of it, I don't think I've ever gone out of my way to chat a chick up!! I've always been lucky in that I'll wind up chatting through somebody else. I reckon I'd be damned good at it though...............:D :ninja:

Squall

Funny thing happened me a few weeks ago. Was in a club and kept on getting pushed into the same girl. Needless to say she got quite pissed off and eventually she started chucking a wobbly. I started appologising and stuff not even giving a ****e that she was absoloutely stunning and under normal circumstances (not being the most confident person) someone i would never have talked to. Well after i calmed her down and convinced her i wasnt doing it on purpose we got chatting and kinda hit it off. Im supposed to meet her this weekend for a few drinks.
Its done wonders for my confidence. Basically when you approach someone, try not to think about whether theyll like you or not. Its hard to do i know but alcohol does help.

(I in no way solicit bumping into a Girl/Guy as a way to initiate conversation as thats just plain lousy)

Wolf

Confidence breeds confidence. Once you have some it easier and easier to build it up.

If you give off the vibe that you couldnt give a shoite whether or not she is going to go with you I find the ladies will always be attracted to that.

Also dressing well is always a help. Not because the girl will be more attracted to you although that is part of it. The main reason for this is that if you look good you will feel good and this vibe plays off on ladies as well.

Caesar_Bojangle

If you give off the vibe that you couldnt give a shoite whether or not she is going to go with you I find the ladies will always be attracted to that.

Speaking of "the vibe". Last saturday night, two gay guys asked my outright would i like to go back to their respective flats. For the whole night i was wondering what i was doing to attract their attention.
I found out the morning after, my friend was going around telling every guy in the place that i was looking for casual, no strings attached sex with any guy willing. Some friend eh? Considering i’m not gay.

These guys certainly had confidence to ask me outright, i have to give them credit for that, but caesar aint going to visit the back door any time soon.

patch

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
Speaking of "the vibe". Last saturday night, two gay guys asked my outright would i like to go back to their respective flats. For the whole night i was wondering what i was doing to attract their attention.
I found out the morning after, my friend was going around telling every guy in the place that i was looking for casual, no strings attached sex with any guy willing. Some friend eh? Considering i’m not gay.

These guys certainly had confidence to ask me outright, i have to give them credit for that, but caesar aint going to visit the back door any time soon.

Jeepers!! -some friend........ I was under the impression that gay people had a 'gaydar' which informed them wether or not someone is gay..........

Caesar_Bojangle

So was i and thats what had me perplexed for the whole night. Maybe its my dale winton personality or even my george michael goatee, i guess i'll never know.

patch

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
So was i and thats what had me perplexed for the whole night. Maybe its my dale winton personality or even my george michael goatee, i guess i'll never know.

Ah well, at least if you ever change your mind!!!:D

ballooba

Originally posted by hussey
ha ha .. That happened to me last weekend
after I ordered my bulmers she was sitting at the bar with 2 of her friends and she said to me ...
She:"Is that what you normally drink"
Me:"Yep"
"S:"Hi My name is Vanessa .. who are you" puts out hand
M:"like Vanessa feltz" ..

and that was the end of that convo

That post just made my week.

patch

Originally posted by yellum
Act confident and you can be confident. I'm annoyingly confident at times. Theres no reason not to be confident. If some girl rejects you, move on, theres another 2 billion of them out there.

I think when you relax and don't try too hard you'll make progress. When you try too hard you become nervous and it shows. Think like you are not single or not interested in this girl and the more natural you will come through. Thats when you are confident.

Chatting up girls is always fun though. If it was an olympic sport I'd finally win a medal.

Heeeeeeyyyyyyyy........Just a second Yellum. Surely the fact that you're gay greatly simplifies the 'chatting up girls':D

I know whay you mean though, when your going out with someone, and especially if she's with you, your sure to get a few admiring glances!!

Feckin murphys law:rolleyes:

mirv

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
Speaking of "the vibe". Last saturday night, two gay guys asked my outright would i like to go back to their respective flats. For the whole night i was wondering what i was doing to attract their attention.
I found out the morning after, my friend was going around telling every guy in the place that i was looking for casual, no strings attached sex with any guy willing. Some friend eh? Considering i’m not gay.

These guys certainly had confidence to ask me outright, i have to give them credit for that, but caesar aint going to visit the back door any time soon.

Maybe they simply lacked the skills to chat you up properly? Except that you aren't a girl so you didn't slap them in the face, as any other would.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Leave women alone, a lot of them will initiate conversation and if too shy will make it obvious they want you to talk to them