Boost yor confidence!!!

patch

I was flicking through men's health last night, where I noticed an article on boosting your confidence, it gave an exercise to try:

Next time you spot a chick you want to chat up, instead of starting a conversation with the mind set 'will she like me' , start of with 'will I like HER' . Apparently this confuses your brain into thinking you don't care if she belittles you!!!

Fasinating I thought, So I'm wondering.....any more of these gems?

xx

Ah, mens health, a tome of useless knowledge. I used to read it for about 2 years and thought it was the dogs wobblies, until you try any of the $hit in it.
Anyone who tries to chat up a girl without caring whether she belittles you needs his (or her) head checked. Y'see, Mens health didn't take into account the phenomenon of 'Irish Women' when they wrote that article. That stuff don't work with the irish biddies on the scene at the mo. Try this instead:

Next time you spot a chick you want to chat up, instead of starting a conversation with the mind set 'will she like me' , start of with 'will I have enough money and a cool enough car for her to even look at me' . Apparently this confuses your brain into thinking that you can get a snobby irish bird to like you if you don't have lotsa cash and a flash car!!!

Wolf

Ill post more of these as they come to me but I have loads of em.

This is one of the best and has help many of my friends.

Always remember that all your insecurites and worries are the same insecurites and worries as everybody else.

What this means is that all those things that we all worry about such as is my hair alright are people looking at me do I fit in etc also things like omg what I said was so stoopid. Well allways remember all the confident and beautiful people have these problems too.

Typedef

Originally posted by xx
Apparently this confuses your brain into thinking that you can get a snobby irish bird to like you if you don't have lotsa cash and a flash car!!!

Maybe this explains why my last three girlfriends have all been foriegn.

Gordon

If you are at a party and see a beautiful person - go over because maybe everyone else is too shy to go and speak to such a beautiful person.

Wolf

Yeah that must be why no one talks to me at parties thanks

Caesar_Bojangle

The worst is when a bird initiates the conversation (rare but it does happen, i assure you), as you are so dumbfounded as you were not expecting it, so you don’t know what to say.

Me: "So ehhh thats a glass your holding"

Her: "Thanks anyway, but i'm going to go over there now"

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

heh, i have perfected the art of not talking at parties

if anyone looks in my direction I just take a sip of my pint and sigh loudly

it works!

misswex

You guys really have a bad opinion of us Irish girls which I think is totally unjustified

Trebor

Originally posted by misswex
You guys really have a bad opinion of us Irish girls which I think is totally unjustified

not really, my sister is only going out with a guy who is studing to be an architect because she thinks he will be rich and she then won't have to work

patch

Originally posted by misswex
You guys really have a bad opinion of us Irish girls which I think is totally unjustified

whoops......that looks like a can of worms your holding there!!:D

Samara

Originally posted by Trebor
not really, my sister is only going out with a guy who is studing to be an architect because she thinks he will be rich and she then won't have to work

Not everyone has your sister's standards!! This waffle of female golddiggers is really getting boring!! So there are a few, granted, but there are also guys who do the very same thing!!

Either that or you guys are all so rich and of such high social standing you just attract that type of girl :rolleyes:

Trebor

Originally posted by Samara
Not everyone has your sister's standards!! This waffle of female golddiggers is really getting boring!! So there are a few, granted, but there are also guys who do the very same thing!!

Either that or you guys are all so rich and of such high social standing you just attract that type of girl :rolleyes:

sorry love, from the north side here, so i can say with inpunity that most of them want to get there hands on a guy with money, be it drug money, stolen money or money earned the hard way. thats why you see alot a scumbags with their flash cars the chicks think they have money

hussey

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
The worst is when a bird initiates the conversation (rare but it does happen, i assure you), as you are so dumbfounded as you were not expecting it, so you don’t know what to say.

Me: "So ehhh thats a glass your holding"

Her: "Thanks anyway, but i'm going to go over there now"

ha ha .. That happened to me last weekend
after I ordered my bulmers she was sitting at the bar with 2 of her friends and she said to me ...
She:"Is that what you normally drink"
Me:"Yep"
"S:"Hi My name is Vanessa .. who are you" puts out hand
M:"like Vanessa feltz" ..

and that was the end of that convo

Wolf

Personally I must agree with the ladies here. After all some males are attracted to money as well. My last few girlfriends have all been very well off.

But that not to say that its the money its just that I seem to end up been attracted to girls with it dont know why ?

Kell

Just to shed some light on the whole "Irish Chick" phenomenon. If all you Irish girls reading this think you are being hard done by, why is it then that 100% of non-Irish females that I know (and I know a lot) think that Irish women are a shower of wagons who's only purpose in life is to try and subjugate their male partners or males in general?

From a relationship point of view, I have to say that I would tend to agree with my international lady friends opinions on this too.

Anyway, back on topic. I havent tried to chat up a girl in 5 years. They have come to me. Ignore them. They get curious about you. One thing leads to another...................you get the picture.

K-

The Corinthian

Originally posted by xx
Next time you spot a chick you want to chat up, instead of starting a conversation with the mind set 'will she like me' , start of with 'will I have enough money and a cool enough car for her to even look at me' . Apparently this confuses your brain into thinking that you can get a snobby irish bird to like you if you don't have lotsa cash and a flash car!!!

Ouch! That’s bitter. Had you considered that it may be down to you not being either charming, fun or just plain butt-ugly?

Originally posted by Typedef
Maybe this explains why my last three girlfriends have all been foriegn.

Actually, that English wasn’t their mother tongue explains it better...

mooman_00

a older bird came up talkin to me last weekend, i wasn't that interested and was a bit fukked at the time.....
we got chatting a small bit and eventually she asked my age joking that i must only be a young fella.......i said im twenty...
next she asked me what age i thought she was, this wasn't ment to be malicious or offensive and i wasn't really trying to blow her off but anyway i said "g i dunno you look about thirty".........
That was the last i saw of her....she promptly excused herself and left.....

The Corinthian

Originally posted by mooman_00
next she asked me what age i thought she was, this wasn't ment to be malicious or offensive and i wasn't really trying to blow her off but anyway i said "g i dunno you look about thirty".........
That was the last i saw of her....she promptly excused herself and left.....

I rest my case... :rolleyes:

Trebor

Originally posted by mooman_00
a older bird came up talkin to me last weekend, i wasn't that interested and was a bit fukked at the time.....
we got chatting a small bit and eventually she asked my age joking that i must only be a young fella.......i said im twenty...
next she asked me what age i thought she was, this wasn't ment to be malicious or offensive and i wasn't really trying to blow her off but anyway i said "g i dunno you look about thirty".........
That was the last i saw of her....she promptly excused herself and left.....

rofl
don't you know all old girls are only 21 and a bit...... the bit being there business

mooman_00

Originally posted by The Corinthian
I rest my case... :rolleyes:

hey in my defense on another night i would have been all up for it, it was just the state i was in that night that let to that happening....she was only about 26+ and rather attractive it was just i was banannas and put no thought into what i was saying....

Trojan

Hey guys,

If it's confidence boosting you want, why not use the tried and trusted method of Irish males for generations:

1. Spot an appropriate looking female (single, breathing, etc)
2. Get ready to approach her
3. Have a quick pint
4. Look over to make sure she's still single
5. Have another quick pint (or 2)
6. Tell your mates you're going over there
7. Have a quick pint for good luck (ah g'wan so, have 2)
8. Go up to the bar and get another pint for final approach
9. Confidently stroll up to her and ask her does she wansht a pint?
10. If all goes well: have a pint. If all doesn't go well: you guessed it: have a pint

Al.

smiles

Originally posted by Trojan
Hey guys,

If it's confidence boosting you want, why not use the tried and trusted method of Irish males for generations:

1. Spot an appropriate looking female (single, breathing, etc)
2. Get ready to approach her
3. Have a quick pint
4. Look over to make sure she's still single
5. Have another quick pint (or 2)
6. Tell your mates you're going over there
7. Have a quick pint for good luck (ah g'wan so, have 2)
8. Go up to the bar and get another pint for final approach
9. Confidently stroll up to her and ask her does she wansht a pint?
10. If all goes well: have a pint. If all doesn't go well: you guessed it: have a pint

Al.

That'd probably work provided you dont slur the words like Al does.... :P

<< Fio >>

Kell

And Failing Torjans methods, a swift smack in the head with an ash tray and then drag her by the hair back to the cave for some "unghaah munghaah".

John2002

Originally posted by Trojan
Hey guys,

If it's confidence boosting you want, why not use the tried and trusted method of Irish males for generations:

1. Spot an appropriate looking female (single, breathing, etc)
2. Get ready to approach her
3. Have a quick pint
4. Look over to make sure she's still single
5. Have another quick pint (or 2)
6. Tell your mates you're going over there
7. Have a quick pint for good luck (ah g'wan so, have 2)
8. Go up to the bar and get another pint for final approach
9. Confidently stroll up to her and ask her does she wansht a pint?
10. If all goes well: have a pint. If all doesn't go well: you guessed it: have a pint

Al.

That's what I do!! rofl!

Trojan

Originally posted by smiles
That'd probably work provided you dont slur the words like Al does.... :P

<< Fio >>

That was /not/ a typo

Al.

NeoSlicerZ

Futurama : Amazon women in the mood. That says it all

DriftingRain

I am not an irish chicka so I can't speak of them. For Me I went to college earned my degree and have my own house, truck, and many things I WANT. I find working for my things makes me all the happier to get them. I mean gals don't get me wrong I like to recieve flowers and gifts from guys but I don't have to get them to be smitten with a guy. I would never pretend to likea guy just for money. And I love when guys come up and chat to me in bars. A guy with self-confience is such a turn on. Keep on chatting to the girls guys and you just may find ya a keeper. Good Luck!!

Caesar, He he he he he! That would have made my night. If I go up and chat to a guy I love to see the look of suprise:) Did you keep talking to her or did she find you silly for not responding?

smiles

Originally posted by Trojan
That was /not/ a typo

Al.

Thats the problem!

<< Fio >>

Sangre

Wear something unusual, that usually works.

The other night for a laugh I was wearing this really ugly/flashy tie. It sparks so many conversations I'm telling you

YoungNastyMan

I think girls should realize how god damn lucky they are, when it comes to initializing the first converstion, all they gotta do is sit there,and the bloke will yammer on till he gives up. Reverse the rolls and and its a completely different story.

My girlfriend told me if i hadn't persude her, we would of never got together. Not cause it took awhile for her to develope an interest in me. But quite literally she would just never approach some she liked. (It make no sense) But hey were together, so this system must be sucess.

xx

Originally posted by The Corinthian
Ouch! That’s bitter. Had you considered that it may be down to you not being either charming, fun or just plain butt-ugly?

Last time I posted something on Personal Issues that said someone else might be ugly, I got hoofed off it for a while. Hmmmm. Anyway, you must know of me - I am definitely not charming, definitely not fun, and definitely butt-ugly. But the question is - if I did have a flash car, lotsa cash etc., but was still ugly/uncharming etc., would the girls like me??

annabegins

I still believe in the tale that there's a soul mate out there for everyone.

It's jsut a case of realising that the person is your soul mate before you ditch them for something stupid like you didn't like his hair or something.

In the meantime, the most important rule is: Not to let anyone treat you in a way that makes you sad.

aliesneo

Originally posted by annabegins
I still believe in the tale that there's a soul mate out there for everyone.

It's jsut a case of realising that the person is your soul mate before you ditch them for something stupid like you didn't like his hair or something.


HAVE U BEEN SUCKING BACK ON GRANDPA'S OLD COUGH MEDICINE?

Gordon

Originally posted by aliesneo
HAVE U BEEN SUCKING BACK ON GRANDPA'S OLD COUGH MEDICINE?

Is your caps lock stuck?

Sangre

Get confident Stupid!

Dr_Teeth

I love the way girls talk about 'soul mates'. How the hell are they going to find theirs if they are content to sit around waiting to be chatted up?

That would seem to be to be a great way of limiting the amount of prospective partners out there..

I think they just like big egos but are afraid to admit it.

Teeth.

aliesneo

no Gordon

my caps are not stuck.

patch

Ummm........I was just looking for any articles similar to the one I saw in a magazine!!! :rolleyes: Honestly, you have to believe me I......... (me gets dragged away protesting):D

I hear if you don't wash for a week or two, your natural scent will work wonders for your pulling power.

Wolf

Your natural scent!!!! Yeah, right. Thats actually very funny in itself.

yellum

Act confident and you can be confident. I'm annoyingly confident at times. Theres no reason not to be confident. If some girl rejects you, move on, theres another 2 billion of them out there.

I think when you relax and don't try too hard you'll make progress. When you try too hard you become nervous and it shows. Think like you are not single or not interested in this girl and the more natural you will come through. Thats when you are confident.

Chatting up girls is always fun though. If it was an olympic sport I'd finally win a medal.

DeVore

*holds one hand on bible and the other in the air*


I'm fuking useless at chatting up women. The ones I like I cant even possibly approach, the ones I havent thought of in that way I wouldnt spot the "warning signals" from if they flashed neon.

But I'll say this, if someone is waiting for me to make a move and isnt willing to at least come half way, they would be waiting for an awfully long time.
I personally wouldnt be interested in someone who sat there and demurely waited for the bloke to make the move and start a conversation. That immediately tells me we arent going to be compatible because I've dated ladies who basically wanted someone to lead their lives for them. Uhhuh sister.

Womens lib did a damned fine job on people my age and now we are not only NOT intimidated by strong females but many men my age and younger EXPECT women to be half the relationship.
Life partners rather then elbow accessories.
Sure there are some exceptions to that (lots in fact) but more and more men are sick of always taking the lead. Let the women lead for a while if they think its oh so much fun


DeV.

Typedef

Life partners rather then elbow accessories.

And on that note... I'd like to invite our female members to be my live in slave.

Seriously though, it's not that I don't spot the signs from women, it's just I think a little too much LSD in the 60s has left me a little petrafied of rejection, except for when I have dutch courage or friends literally slapping me around the face and saying.

"Go.... ask the girl out... muppet" or words to that effect.

Still.... if I could just move my arm.....

Kell

Originally posted by DeVore
[Bmore and more men are sick of always taking the lead.
[/B]

Here here. I have become so lethargic over the years in terms of making the first move. TBH, I cant be arsed any more so if they are even half interested they will have to make the first move. I think it says about them that they know what they want and how to get it.

Last time I chatted up someone (2 at the same time) they stormed off. I was getting really good vibes from both of them so I figured "hey why not ask them both back to mine?". At least I got away without a slap.

amp

Originally posted by DeVore
*holds one hand on bible and the other in the air*


I'm fuking useless at chatting up women. The ones I like I cant even possibly approach, the ones I havent thought of in that way I wouldnt spot the "warning signals" from if they flashed neon.

But I'll say this, if someone is waiting for me to make a move and isnt willing to at least come half way, they would be waiting for an awfully long time.
I personally wouldnt be interested in someone who sat there and demurely waited for the bloke to make the move and start a conversation. That immediately tells me we arent going to be compatible because I've dated ladies who basically wanted someone to lead their lives for them. Uhhuh sister.

Womens lib did a damned fine job on people my age and now we are not only NOT intimidated by strong females but many men my age and younger EXPECT women to be half the relationship.
Life partners rather then elbow accessories.
Sure there are some exceptions to that (lots in fact) but more and more men are sick of always taking the lead. Let the women lead for a while if they think its oh so much fun


DeV.

So you're not gay then?

/me flees out of PI like Speedy Gonzales on speed with his arse on fire.

patch

Now that I think of it, I don't think I've ever gone out of my way to chat a chick up!! I've always been lucky in that I'll wind up chatting through somebody else. I reckon I'd be damned good at it though...............:D :ninja:

Squall

Funny thing happened me a few weeks ago. Was in a club and kept on getting pushed into the same girl. Needless to say she got quite pissed off and eventually she started chucking a wobbly. I started appologising and stuff not even giving a ****e that she was absoloutely stunning and under normal circumstances (not being the most confident person) someone i would never have talked to. Well after i calmed her down and convinced her i wasnt doing it on purpose we got chatting and kinda hit it off. Im supposed to meet her this weekend for a few drinks.
Its done wonders for my confidence. Basically when you approach someone, try not to think about whether theyll like you or not. Its hard to do i know but alcohol does help.

(I in no way solicit bumping into a Girl/Guy as a way to initiate conversation as thats just plain lousy)

Wolf

Confidence breeds confidence. Once you have some it easier and easier to build it up.

If you give off the vibe that you couldnt give a shoite whether or not she is going to go with you I find the ladies will always be attracted to that.

Also dressing well is always a help. Not because the girl will be more attracted to you although that is part of it. The main reason for this is that if you look good you will feel good and this vibe plays off on ladies as well.

Caesar_Bojangle

If you give off the vibe that you couldnt give a shoite whether or not she is going to go with you I find the ladies will always be attracted to that.

Speaking of "the vibe". Last saturday night, two gay guys asked my outright would i like to go back to their respective flats. For the whole night i was wondering what i was doing to attract their attention.
I found out the morning after, my friend was going around telling every guy in the place that i was looking for casual, no strings attached sex with any guy willing. Some friend eh? Considering i’m not gay.

These guys certainly had confidence to ask me outright, i have to give them credit for that, but caesar aint going to visit the back door any time soon.

patch

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
Speaking of "the vibe". Last saturday night, two gay guys asked my outright would i like to go back to their respective flats. For the whole night i was wondering what i was doing to attract their attention.
I found out the morning after, my friend was going around telling every guy in the place that i was looking for casual, no strings attached sex with any guy willing. Some friend eh? Considering i’m not gay.

These guys certainly had confidence to ask me outright, i have to give them credit for that, but caesar aint going to visit the back door any time soon.

Jeepers!! -some friend........ I was under the impression that gay people had a 'gaydar' which informed them wether or not someone is gay..........

Caesar_Bojangle

So was i and thats what had me perplexed for the whole night. Maybe its my dale winton personality or even my george michael goatee, i guess i'll never know.