I realy need help!!!!

Beruthiel

Originally posted by [-UK-]Wolf
Here, goes Iv wanted to do this for years. Thanks everyone and Ill let you know how it went soon tho tbh im not that hopefull but lets see.

oh god
it's like a soap opera
the tension is too much
will she?
won't she?
you had better come back and let us know, or I'll not sleep tonight!!

Kell

Originally posted by Beruthiel
oh god
it's like a soap opera

Dont belittle the boys dilemma. Sheez.
(Shocked, stunned and not a little amazed noises)

Tazz T

OK I'm taking a book:


Evens - they chat about it a bit but don't come to any immediate conclusion and decide to meet up for a drink one night to discuss the matter futher (at which point they drink too much, end up in bed and live happily ever after with 2 children in 3-bed semi in Clontarf).
2-1 - she says 'Yes, I'll love you forever.'
7/2 - he chickens out and doesn't tell her.
5-1 - she says 'No, I want to stay friends.'
And the rank outsider - 1000-1 - she says that she loves him too, but has a terrible secret - that she is in fact a alien from the planet Varg and will only be with him if he goes to live on Varg with her.

Oh, and 5-2, she goes to the wrong pub/cafe by mistake, he thinks he's been stood up and they never talk to each other again.

Wolf

Well I went to the hotel next door and told her how I felt (sober). Her reaction was mixed. She brought up how im a bit of a player, she brought up how something like this destroyed an other realy good friendship. She said how right now she needs lots of good friends that she can rely on and trust.

I asked her if I was chasing a lost cause?. She said that right now it wouldnt matter who it was. That all her life she has relied on guys how she has gone stright from one boy friend to the next and that right now she has been single for a while and thats she is happy. To me if she was with someone else and truly happy then I love her so much that then id be happy for her. So if she is happy then thats is all that matters.

At least now its out of the way and we can go on been friends. I get the feeling thats maybe just maybe someday I might end up with her but now realy isnt the right time.

Well time to go chasing all those other girls that are after me

Maybe in time things will change. Time is a great leveler.

Thanks all for your interest and support. I am truly proud to be part of this community.

The main thing is if I was to walk out to night and be knocked down and killed I would die without regret. It a bit of a blow in a way. But I can also get on with things now. But I also know that this isnt the end of it all. If it was id know. Well if anything changes ill let you know

Beruthiel

fair play to ya [-UK-]Wolf for taking what she said so well.
tbh - she sounds like she a bit mixed up and confused at the moment so you are better off leaving it, she seems to want to stand on her own for a while.
If you have no problems just being mates, then go for it, at least you have that, but be sure you are happy with just that and not torturing yourself unnecessarily
good luck

Wolf

Like I said I am a dissapointed. However, I still like her and I dont think this is totaly the end of it all. It might be years before it comes up again but at least iv made my feelings know. Now i can live with myself

Also as iv said the most important thing to me is her happyness and she told me she is happier now than she has ever been so thats the most important thing of all

Tazz T

Fair play to you for doing it. Takes balls. You know what the craic is and you can get on with things.

Never know. She might change her mind about things after she has had time to think about it.

Kell

Pity it didnt work out man. I would pass on thinking about her too much for a while to get her out of the system. It's really nasty to be around someone you're in love with if the feeling isnt returned in the same way.

Go out and get yourself laid.

clipper

hey[-UK-] Wolf, I've just found the thread and I was taken by your story. firstly, e =bad, drowning sorrows=bad and getting laid for the sake of it when ur a bit messed up=bad. but...what you did sure can't have been easy, and i hope you feel some relief and pride about how you handled it. alls i can say is that i was in a similar situation with one of my best friends about 4 years ago (though his feelings probably weren't quite as deep as yours!) and although i had to be nudged a little to take the plunge with him, i'm still his mot, and a very lucky gal to have him.
don't give up hope and at least try to enjoy your friendship with her.

hedgetrimmer

Kudos to your good self Wolf! A shame it didn't work out, but sure as you say yourself, you now have resolution on the issue with an open thread to see where things go. She sounds like she needs good friends like you are her - as beruthiel said, she's confused and out of herslef, it seems.

So for you, look after yourself and your own happiness, and be there for her, is my advice my friend. And who knows, in strengtheneing the bond of frienship, other things might happen, but for now, let her be IMO