Guys Thoughts

Le Rack

When it comes to flirting and the like what do guys like/see/consider/whatever in girls? I can't really fully explain what I'm asking but hopefully you get the idea!

I dunno I kida noticed in myself that I end up flirting with anything with three legs and a nice smile ya know, but then never have the balls to do anything further than the initial smiley/eye contacty stuff, sometimes I will and am on the most part fairly successful.

So basically where do things stand with flirty-ness from both sides....?

Aliasy

flirting - eh basically ya gotta not come on too strong. talk about general stuff, have a laugh and drop the ould han......i mean hint here and there that your mildy interested. you've nothing to loose

Beruthiel

Le Rack wrote:

am on the most part fairly successful.

if that is so, then how is this a PI for you?

Dave

Eye contact, and being a bit touchy feely doesn't go amiss. And gets the message across well enough. How far you want to take it after then, is up to you.

I don't see how this is a personal issue though. Probably better off in AH.

Le Rack

I'm not sure tbh, prolly mostly the fact that the success only comes after working up the balls to do anymore than smile, make initial passing contact, and the whole eye contact thing, and the working up of the balls take ages for me for some reason, usually I'm grand to chat to some randomer but I think cuz I like the guy it kinda makes me feel, "no, no, not doing it, no, he'll say no, and I'll once again humiliate myself"

Beruthiel

not a PI then....

Le Rack

kinda is... oh well...

Helllooo AH

scojones

Just be yourself. Smile and be confident and chatty. That's all that's needed. Make eye contact.

ferdi

its the same for guys, once we work up the scrote to do more than smile, your away on a hack. so basically its our fear of rejection which is stopping us humping like dogs.

Le Rack

That's what I try and am grand with it all up to the chatty... that's where I'm like "No, no, no"

Le Rack

Ferdi you really have a way with words, but then I like it!

Mr.Nice Guy

It doesn't take much for a guy to think a girl is interested. Just smile at us and we'll be convinced that you want to sleep with us.:)

ferdi

Le Rack wrote:

Ferdi you really have a way with words, but then I like it!

you do?! wanna get a cup of coffee some time?

Sparky

i find myself flirting without noticing at times, most parts questions just out of interest. Worked 3 times anyways

Laguna

I've never been able to pick up on flirting in my life So people have told me in hindsight that the girl I was just talking to was interested in me or whatver (I don't believe them anyway though). It's technically not out and out flirting but smiling and humour is always nice to see in a girl I admire. I'm the same as yourself le rack, even if I fancy someone and inadvertently flirt with a girl I usually make my excuses after a while and do a runner as I feel they think I'm a gimp or not interested in me flirting with them.

Anyway, you're a girl, you're not the one who's supposed to do the chasing anyhow!

Shrimp

Dont come on too strong, act like as if your kinda going out in the sense that you dont have to be totally touchy feely in order to show you like him, compliment them, etc.. etc... but then again, only do what you are actually thinking.. eg. dont say his tops nice if it's not etc..

Le Rack

ferdi wrote:

you do?! wanna get a cup of coffee some time?

sure why not!

Yeah I think I said this already but I just flirt! I see a cute guy and I'm like "Helloo!" My friends called me a bítch in heat last week!

Laguna, men are getting lazy, they leave the chasing to the girls, unless they're are very confident but sometimes that just arrogance and no one wants that!

ferdi

ehh, oh ****....i hate coffee...

ah well lets take this to PM and get down to business.

dundalk cailin

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

It doesn't take much for a guy to think a girl is interested. Just smile at us and we'll be convinced that you want to sleep with us.:)

thats great to hear, so any guy we smile at thinks he's in with a chance??

ferdi

dundalk cailin wrote:

thats great to hear, so any guy we smile at thinks he's in with a chance??

sort of - for most guys a smile from a girl can be taken two ways:

lust or pitty.




its usually pitty.

scojones

dundalk cailin wrote:

thats great to hear, so any guy we smile at thinks he's in with a chance??

Yes.

Le Rack

oh god....
See that right there! I smile at every one! In particular guys I like!

Anywho... but ferdi there's nothing like a strong black coffee!

dundalk cailin

well i smile at guys too!! even if i dont fancy them! ah le rack, i think we'll just never understand guys minds...

Pigman II

Le Rack wrote:

I dunno I kida noticed in myself that I end up flirting with anything with three legs and a nice smile ya know, but then never have the balls to do anything further than the initial smiley/eye contacty stuff, sometimes I will and am on the most part fairly successful.

Eh, "hello" comes next. It's not that complicated

if 'I' say " 'right?" back whilst staring out into space it means 'I'm' not interested "If 'I' say "hell-oh!" (terry thomas style) it means buy 'me' a drink and you might get lucky tonight my dear. Either way 'I'm' not going to bite your head off and will treat your approach as a gift because it has made 'me' feel like an even bigger stud than 'I' already believe 'I' am.

fischerspooner

I find it difficult to flirt with girls in Dublin. I only seem to meet 2 type of girls here - girls who go to places like barcode, have horrible accents, and only seem to talk to metrosexually dressed scumbag boy racer types. They wont talk to me because I don't dress like them and I don't know anyone they know, which is essential for them, a reference of some kind. The other type are posh birds in places like hogans and rira. They're not quite as unfriendly as the other ones but I don't think I'm posh enough for them to be interested, or from the right area, I'm somewhere inbetween the skanky girls and the posh rira girls. The only girls that seem interested in me flirting with them are the foreign girls here, maybe because they wont judge you on where you're from etc. So I don't even bother trying with irish girls anymore!

dundalk cailin

i think im quite an approachable girl, if a guy comes up to me, ill be friendly and open, if i dont like him, ill not lead him on. i would sttrike up a conversation with a guy if he seemed friendly enough..i fear rejection!!

Piste

In my (limited) experience I find it easier to flirt with someone I dont like than with domeone I do. If I dont like them there's absolutely no fear of rejection so I dont feel the need to watch what I do/say. With a Guy I like I generally dont flirt in case I get badly shot down.

ferdi

ok in the spirit of this thread...

Le Rack, imagine this for a moment. Your you, I'm me. We are in tesco. Your selecting the biggest freshest baguette you can find and i'm choosing from a range of microwavable frozen fish dinners when suddenly our eyes meet across the aisle. You smile and quickly look away. I chuckle confidently and adjust my sizable basket.

We meet again at the check-out. a furtive glance. a missed heart beat. i mention that i can get 10% off my shopping bill with my new loyalty card. We end up doing the hoky poky back at yours till we run out of wet-wipes.

besty

Le Rack wrote:

oh god....
See that right there! I smile at every one! In particular guys I like!

Anywho... but ferdi there's nothing like a strong black coffee!

funny thing is, you're flirting right now!

dundalk cailin

but thats over the net, u can be more confident cos u dont know the person!

besty

dundalk cailin wrote:

but thats over the net, u can be more confident cos u dont know the person!

true dat.still, any type of flirting is great...most of my day consists of it

dundalk cailin

yea flirting is cool, just wish i could understand guys!!! then it'd be perfect *sigh*

combat_sombo

ferdi wrote:

sort of - for most guys a smile from a girl can be taken two ways:

lust or pitty.




its usually pitty.

roffle.

Keyzer

Le Rack wrote:

When it comes to flirting and the like what do guys like/see/consider/whatever in girls? I can't really fully explain what I'm asking but hopefully you get the idea!

I dunno I kida noticed in myself that I end up flirting with anything with three legs and a nice smile ya know, but then never have the balls to do anything further than the initial smiley/eye contacty stuff, sometimes I will and am on the most part fairly successful.

So basically where do things stand with flirty-ness from both sides....?

Men want what they can't have...
If a man knows he can have you at any moment, then its game over.
If he thinks he has a chance, then he'll pursue.... Less is more and all that ****e...

Flirting, well I suppose you have to click.
Back in my single days, If I spoke to a girl but we ran out of words after 5 minites then its see ya later....

Keyzer

dundalk cailin wrote:

yea flirting is cool, just wish i could understand guys!!! then it'd be perfect *sigh*

Understand guys?

give me an example....

Le Rack

besty wrote:

funny thing is, you're flirting right now!

I know! See that's me! Sometimes more subtle, depends but yeah!
In real life I'm really like that maybe just tone it down a notch maybe not even that! And when the ball really gets rolling it's really fun but it's getting there!

Ferdi, I don't do the hoky poky, and who said I even shop in tescos!

NoDayBut2Day

dundalk cailin wrote:

well i smile at guys too!! even if i dont fancy them! ..

I do that too... :eek: I mean, I smile at the guys I like too... but still... I guess we had better be more careful? Hehe...

Le Rack

NoDayBut2Day wrote:

I do that too... :eek: I mean, I smile at the guys I like too... but still... I guess we had better be more careful? Hehe...

yeah and if you avoid them or don't smile they think "bítch" or "nah too quite"

NoDayBut2Day

Le Rack wrote:

yeah and if you avoid them or don't smile they think "bítch" or "nah too quite"

Yeah, isn't it awful.. haha. And when they don't smile back, we think, "Oh just typical guys...."

Ragazza

If only I could find a guy worth flirting with!

Rb

Heres my( a guys) thoughts:

Hot girl makes eye contact and smiles at me - Most likely in there, may aswell go for it.
Ugly girl makes eye contact and smiles at me - What are YOU looking at?You f*cking wish.

Hot girl flirts with me - All systems go
Ugly girl attempts to flirt with me - Stop wasting my aswell as your own time, no matter how much I drink tonight you'll never become attractive.

simu

It's always good when someone lollers at you!

chrismon

alot of us guys(espically me) dont realise a girl is smiling at us, I dont no how many nights a friend has had to tell me "that girl has been smiling at you all night" I think you have to let the guy no for definate you are interested and not just smiling for the sake of it

dundalk cailin

Keyzer wrote:

Understand guys?

give me an example....

i dont know, thats the problem!! like how do i know that he fancies me, or is just being friendly / polite!!

NoDayBut2Day wrote:

I do that too... I mean, I smile at the guys I like too... but still... I guess we had better be more careful? Hehe...

yup looks that way!! its tough being a girl ...

Sparky

yeah us men just dont GET IT.
I have been told on occasions, that the girl over there has been smiling or looking at me for ages, and i wouldnt have a clue.

Mr.Nice Guy

Remember the good oul' days when we were younger and we showed someone we liked them by hitting them?

Ah, to be sixteen again...;)

Sparky

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

Remember the good oul' days when we were younger and we showed someone we liked them by hitting them?

Ah, to be sixteen again...;)

twas cheaper too

Rb

Sparky_S wrote:

twas cheaper too

And 'cause you were a minor, you couldn't be charged with assault

NoDayBut2Day

Sparky_S wrote:

yeah us men just dont GET IT.
I have been told on occasions, that the girl over there has been smiling or looking at me for ages, and i wouldnt have a clue.

Haha... and then of course the girl is thinking, "He's totally rejecting me..." and half the time, the guy doesn't even realize what he's doing! :rolleyes: It's kind of interesting to see how different the male and female brains work!

ando

Piste wrote:

In my (limited) experience I find it easier to flirt with someone I dont like than with someone I do.

bingo, same with me. The thing is I dont realise I do it either and end up leading the girl on that I have no interest in

pdunno

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

Remember the good oul' days when we were younger and we showed someone we liked them by hitting them?

Ah, to be sixteen again...;)

That's still the way I work!!

I thought 'no' meant 'yes', didn't wash with the gardai though. Thank heavens they have the internet in the 'joy