anal tips

LegacyUser

ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

county

you should go to the gay/lesbian/bisexual forum

qz

county wrote:

you should go to the gay/lesbian/bisexual forum

you should re-read the post as I think it's a woman

county

ass is ass!

Beruthiel

and a ban is a ban
B

Nevyn

It is a personal issue and can be addressed here if people wish to share.



http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html
http://sexuality.about.com/od/analsex/
http://minou.com/aboutsex/analsex.htm
http://www.onlinesexguides.com/b_index.html

LundiMardi

i think she means 'county'

meditraitor

dlfhgpe wrote:

ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

If your comfortable with it by all mean give it a try! You are on the right line with the lube and taking it slow, using condoms and not moving between the vagina and the anus, doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially but make sure your partner knows that he has to be really carefull and responsive to your input. You might even enjoy it.
As a guy I can tell you that most guys will want to try it with a partner, but after the initial thrill the novelty will wear off and it will be back to business as usual.

the_syco

dlfhgpe wrote:

what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

Look at the movie Road Trip. No, seriously... the nurse scene with Stiffler... 3 fingers...

The male prostate can be reached analy. It's a "ball" shaped thing behind where his penis is.


/edit

Its also sometimes called the "Male G-Spot"

More info: http://64.127.106.180/education/sexed/understanding_the_prostate.asp

LundiMardi

3 fingers:eek:

Talliesin

meditraitor wrote:

doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially but make sure your partner knows that he has to be really carefull and responsive to your input.

Face to face can make it easier to be responsive, easier to start penetration, less painful and more intimate. Not that that's the "right way" either.

It is worth considering using condoms, even if you don't normally, since it reduces the risk of infections from fecal matter.

Khannie

meditraitor wrote:

doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially

You sure? My understanding (i.e. no direct experience) is that this is the least comfortable position.

Saw a show on channel 4 which recommended the following: (yer one with the lisp who does loads of sex shows (can't remember her name))
anyway:

lots of lube (though not KY, as it's apparantly sticky)

1 finger for about a minute, then 2 for a minute, then 3, then off you go.

GL, HF.

meditraitor

Khannie wrote:

You sure? My understanding (i.e. no direct experience) is that this is the least comfortable position.

Saw a show on channel 4 which recommended the following: (yer one with the lisp who does loads of sex shows (can't remember her name))
anyway:

lots of lube (though not KY, as it's apparantly sticky)

1 finger for about a minute, then 2 for a minute, then 3, then off you go.

GL, HF.

This is were my experience differs, dont usually depend on C4 for tips on intimate experience, On top flat out is a bit to uncomfortable for the woman, maybe legs against shoulders. but from behind DS or face Down(woman) is what I thought most enjoyable for both parties when endulging, couldnt be arsed with it now though... novelty wore off

po0k

On her back, ankles touching her earlobes.
Firm, but gentle, lube of some sort.

Giblet

dlfhgpe wrote:

(he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

I take it you are on the pill?

Kevin_rc_ie

SyxPak wrote:

On her back, ankles touching her earlobes.
Firm, but gentle, lube of some sort.

sounds like an anal virgin to me tbh.

Mr. Presentable

Not an expert, but apparently the best position is receptor on her side, legs well apart, knees drawn forward. Think doctors surgery.

po0k

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

sounds like an anal virgin to me tbh.

:)

The ironing, she is delicious.

Sleepy

A few drinks to loosen you up both mentally and physically can help enormously.

Woman on top facing away from the guy can be a good position to try it in because it gives you full control of how deep he goes etc. Try to just get the head in at first and let your muscles get used to that much for a minute before going any further... clitoral stimulation at the same time will help too

Aside from that you seem to have the right ideas yourself.

Selik

I've always found good ol' doggy style to be the best for anal sex but maybe that's just me! Seriously though go slow and use loads and loads of lube and either use a comdom or have a shower before and after (just makes it nicer obviously... )

Have fun anyway all the girls I've ever done it with have enjoyed it and you're clearly keen on expanding your sexual horizons so best of luck...

P.S. Be sure to let us know how it goes!

Chong

Ok we have all this talk about anal, something which I haven't experienced but the question is , you know when the bloke dose the business dose his C**K come out covered in SH*T.

Sorry but I had to ask this.

Plastic Scouser

Sleepy wrote:

A few drinks to loosen you up both mentally and physically can help enormously

Actually, I have heard that you definitely shouldn't drink before trying something like this as you feel less pain when you've had a few and this could lead to you hurting yourself without realising it until the drink wears off. So, in this situation maybe find another way to make sure you're relaxed beforehand i.e. a nice warm bath.

Sleepy

Willem D wrote:

Ok we have all this talk about anal, something which I haven't experienced but the question is , you know when the bloke dose the business dose his C**K come out covered in SH*T.

Sorry but I had to ask this.

I wouldn't say exactly covered but there can be some "residue", yes.

Actually, I have heard that you definitely shouldn't drink before trying something like this as you feel less pain when you've had a few and this could lead to you hurting yourself without realising it until the drink wears off. So, in this situation maybe find another way to make sure you're relaxed beforehand i.e. a nice warm bath.

Never thought of that, but I know an ex of mine always thought it helped her enjoy it more. In fairness though, anal is something you need to do very gently so it's not something that should cause any damage... though from some of the porn I've seen I've often wondered how the girls don't end up in serious pain from the jackhammering they take...

Ania

dlfhgpe wrote:

ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

You shouldn't have anal sex until you are 100%ly sure that both of you are of an absolute health because you both can get enormous infections very easily through anal sex.
The second thing is that you must not let him put you under preassure:
Hardly any girl enjoys anal sex or finds it lustfull because most women experience it as rather painful and disgusting.
Personally, I refuse it, also because I cannot stop thinking of my **** being the exist of my daily **** and so do most ladies think.
If you, however, enjoy it, keep it up but don't forget to take care of a perfect hygiene and a perfect health.

Victor

the_syco wrote:

Look at the movie Road Trip. No, seriously... the nurse scene with Stiffler... 3 fingers...[/url]

"Road Trip" merely discusses the concept, not the procedure.

Sleepy wrote:

Never thought of that, but I know an ex of mine always thought it helped her enjoy it more. In fairness though, anal is something you need to do very gently so it's not something that should cause any damage...

Actually the lining of the rectum can be torn easily.

Sleepy

Oh, I know that Victor, that's why I said it's something you need to do very gently...

Talliesin

It's probably unwise to try anal sex unless anal stimulation is already part of your lovemaking that you both enjoy. Not just 2 minutes before you first try anal penetration, but for some time before hand. Really, unless you already find that to be erotic you're unlikely to be able to relax about it, and there's no way you're going to actually enjoy it.

Sleepy

Talliesin wrote:

It's probably unwise to try anal sex unless anal stimulation is already part of your lovemaking that you both enjoy. Not just 2 minutes before you first try anal penetration, but for some time before hand. Really, unless you already find that to be erotic you're unlikely to be able to relax about it, and there's no way you're going to actually enjoy it.

Good advice. It's something to build up to over a period of time. Get used to the idea with each other before going for your A levels.

Kingp35

Sleepy wrote:

Woman on top facing away from the guy can be a good position to try it in because it gives you full control of how deep he goes etc. Try to just get the head in at first and let your muscles get used to that much for a minute before going any further... clitoral stimulation at the same time will help too

I agree with sleepy here. Personally I think this is the best position and would def be the best for the first time. Its not the mst intimate of positions but lets face it I dont think its better intimacy your after here.

I would advise that your boyfriend wear a condom to be as clean as you possibly can. I think this is pretty important.

Yo have to take it slow. Dont go by a porno movie you once saw. It can be pretty painful for the girl involved so to be very gentle and take things slow. I think thats the best advice I can give you.

Anyway for me it was all just a novelty just like it is for most guys and the novelty wears off pretty quickly in my opinion. The good old fashioned way is far better.

Anyway be safe if you try and enjoy

Zulu

Ania wrote:

Hardly any girl enjoys anal sex or finds it lustfull because most women experience it as rather painful and disgusting.

Well, I disagree. I know quite a few girls who enjoy it and alot of people tend to find "taboos" lustfull.

TerrorFirmer

Guys, someone tell me how it works.

I've tried it with a girl once or twice, each time with a ton of lube, carefulness, pre-preparing, and gentleness. But its just wayyyyy too small.

How an earth does anyone acheive it is beyond me.

Please advise while on the subject! And don't advise using more lube, fingers, etc, because I've done all that with buckets of lube and the finger(s) etc and I guarantee no more could be done.

The last girl I was with wanted to try. I dont really have any interest in it with my current gf and neither does she so we won't be going down that road, but I'd still love to know.

Ania

Zulu wrote:

Well, I disagree. I know quite a few girls who enjoy it and alot of people tend to find "taboos" lustfull.

I wouldn't consider it as a taboo and I don't believe that there are lots of girls who enjoy it as you claim, simply because it is painful.
Ever had an endoscopy? It's the same, just that the hose is fatter when anal sex.
And as I think that nobody feels comfortable when having an endoscope for medical reasons, I don't think there are many women who enjoy anal sex and I don't know any woman who finds it lustful.
But of course, I do not doubt that there are some women who enjoy it.

Zulu

Ania wrote:

Ever had an endoscopy? It's the same, just that the hose is fatter when anal sex.
And as I think that nobody feels comfortable when having an endoscope for medical reasons, ....

an endoscopy!?! How is it the same? It's a medical procedure. Would you also argue that artificial insemination brings the same levels of arousal/sexual pleasure as intercourse with a loving partner, or a smear test??? Thats a ridiculous argument.

Blub2k4

Ania wrote:

Ever had an endoscopy? It's the same, just that the hose is fatter when anal sex.
And as I think that nobody feels comfortable when having an endoscope for medical reasons, I don't think there are many women who enjoy anal sex and I don't know any woman who finds it lustful.

I have had an endoscopy and I had so many happy drugs in me he could have stuffed a bleedin' lamppost into me and I wouldn't have noticed/minded, your point is not at all valid.

Ania

People I know who had an endoscopy didn't get any happy drugs.
Sorry for going off- topic.

Nevyn

The nerve endings for the anus and the rectum tie into the central nevrous system in the same places as those for the clit and the vagina.
So for some women they are closely linked to thier pleasure centres and for some they are not.

Sifo

Theres a drug (which is completely harmless) called poppers, you can buy this in any sex shop which help relax the muscles in the area you need... you basically take a few sniffs from the bottle and presto!

Zulu

Ania wrote:

People I know who had an endoscopy didn't get any happy drugs.
Sorry for going off- topic.

:rolleyes: ....so you never even had one yourself!
Ania - fair enough you don't like the idea of anal, but telling someone who asks for help that "hardly any girl enjoys" it, or that, "women experience it as disgusting" isn't helpful - it's opinionated and biased at best.

Chong

Sifo wrote:

Theres a drug (which is completely harmless) called poppers, you can buy this in any sex shop which help relax the muscles in the area you need... you basically take a few sniffs from the bottle and presto!

For some reason my mate's friends seem to think they can be used to get high, they sniff that stuff and go purple.

Sleepy

Apparently they do give you a short lived buzz Willem D

Ania

Zulu, But it is true.
I didn't say no woman enjoys it but it's a fact the the majority doesn't really like it.
Longer time ago I read in a magazine for women (I usually hate these magazines but I always have to read them- it's like a drug ) that less than 10% of women would ever try anal sex.
(I can't remember the numbers of how many women already tried it out.)
But if you can proove me that most women enjoy anal sex, I obviously will apology for being wrong.

Beruthiel

ok
the next person to go off topic gets banned

stick to the topic of this thread people
B

Talliesin

Sifo wrote:

Theres a drug (which is completely harmless) called poppers

Side-effects:
Mild transitory headache, dizziness and flushing of the face are common with the use of amyl nitrite. The following adverse reactions may occur in susceptible patients: syncope, involuntary passing of urine and feces, hypotension, pallor, cold sweat, tachycardia, restlessness, weakness, vomiting and nausea. Excessively high doses of amyl nitrite administered chronically may cause methemoglobinemia.

Drug interactions:
Taking amyl nitrite after drinking alcohol may worsen side effects and may cause severe hypotension and cardiovascular collapse.

Blub2k4

Talliesin wrote:

Side-effects:
Mild transitory headache, dizziness and flushing of the face are common with the use of amyl nitrite. The following adverse reactions may occur in susceptible patients: syncope, involuntary passing of urine and feces, hypotension, pallor, cold sweat, tachycardia, restlessness, weakness, vomiting and nausea. Excessively high doses of amyl nitrite administered chronically may cause methemoglobinemia.

Drug interactions:
Taking amyl nitrite after drinking alcohol may worsen side effects and may cause severe hypotension and cardiovascular collapse.

Heart attacks are also quite common in people with cardiac problems, sorry B. but the statement about poppers being harmless is dangerous and HAS to be countered, sorry for off-topicness, but if you feel a ban is more important than setting bad information straight then fire away.

joejoem

Sleepy wrote:

Apparently they do give you a short lived buzz Willem D

And then a terrible headache. Its worth it for a laugh once on a night out in a pub. You dont get a bad headache unless you sniff the whole bottle. I dont think this is as effective as people think though. Sex toys would be your best bet, maybe not for the big night itself but playing around with toys should get her body used to it, there is one I can think of, I forget what its called but its like a dildo with balls on it that gets wider the further down you go. (almost like a pearl necklace that gets wider) you can start with the small ball at the front and gradually work more in until you have one in that is simialar in size to your partner.

simu

joejoem wrote:

Sex toys would be your best bet, maybe not for the big night itself but playing around with toys should get her body used to it, there is one I can think of, I forget what its called but its like a dildo with balls on it that gets wider the further down you go. (almost like a pearl necklace that gets wider) you can start with the small ball at the front and gradually work more in until you have one in that is simialar in size to your partner.

Anal beads I believe they're called.

joejoem

simu wrote:

Anal beads I believe they're called.

Thats them alright

Victor

Talliesin wrote:

Side-effects:
Mild transitory headache, dizziness and flushing of the face are common with the use of amyl nitrite. The following adverse reactions may occur in susceptible patients: syncope, involuntary passing of urine and feces, hypotension, pallor, cold sweat, tachycardia, restlessness, weakness, vomiting and nausea. Excessively high doses of amyl nitrite administered chronically may cause methemoglobinemia.

Drug interactions:
Taking amyl nitrite after drinking alcohol may worsen side effects and may cause severe hypotension and cardiovascular collapse.

Aparently now for sale in Blockbusters :rolleyes:

Tiffany

Talliesin wrote:

Side-effects:
Mild transitory headache, dizziness and flushing of the face are common with the use of amyl nitrite. The following adverse reactions may occur in susceptible patients: syncope, involuntary passing of urine and feces, hypotension, pallor, cold sweat, tachycardia, restlessness, weakness, vomiting and nausea. Excessively high doses of amyl nitrite administered chronically may cause methemoglobinemia.

Drug interactions:
Taking amyl nitrite after drinking alcohol may worsen side effects and may cause severe hypotension and cardiovascular collapse.

Not to mention regular use can burn holes in your nostrils.

kittenkiller

To the OP: Why on earth are you seeking advice on safe & comfortable anal sex on a message board that is nearly entirely made up of MEN?

Google round & find somewhere that have a WOMEN's guide to it.

Most straight men have absolutely no idea what they're talking about on the matter.

It's YOUR a$$ not their ex-girlfriends & they're only telling you what they've been told not what they themselves have experienced!

Please please be don't let this thread be your only reference on the practicalities of anal sex!!

If you're a registered member going unregd for this, pm me & i'll help you look around for somewhere more suitable to get your answers.
Tryhere

Nevyn

thaed wrote:

http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html
http://sexuality.about.com/od/analsex/
http://minou.com/aboutsex/analsex.htm
http://www.onlinesexguides.com/b_index.html

Kitten killer there are more persons of the female gender here then you think
and links have all ready been give, but any more you wish to include would be welcome.