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  • 12-07-2005 12:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
    i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
    any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
    what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

    what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
    i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!


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    #2
    county
    Registered Users Posts: 6,800 ✭✭✭county


    you should go to the gay/lesbian/bisexual forum


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    qz
    Registered Users Posts: 8,753 ✭✭✭qz


    county wrote:
    you should go to the gay/lesbian/bisexual forum

    you should re-read the post as I think it's a woman ;)


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    #4
    county
    Registered Users Posts: 6,800 ✭✭✭county


    ass is ass!


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    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    and a ban is a ban
    B


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    #6
    Nevyn
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    It is a personal issue and can be addressed here if people wish to share.



    http://www.sexuality.org/authors/morin/analrule.html
    http://sexuality.about.com/od/analsex/
    http://minou.com/aboutsex/analsex.htm
    http://www.onlinesexguides.com/b_index.html


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    LundiMardi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,144 ✭✭✭LundiMardi


    i think she means 'county'


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    meditraitor
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,207 ✭✭✭meditraitor


    dlfhgpe wrote:
    ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
    i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
    any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
    what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

    what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
    i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

    If your comfortable with it by all mean give it a try! You are on the right line with the lube and taking it slow, using condoms and not moving between the vagina and the anus, doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially but make sure your partner knows that he has to be really carefull and responsive to your input. You might even enjoy it.
    As a guy I can tell you that most guys will want to try it with a partner, but after the initial thrill the novelty will wear off and it will be back to business as usual.


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    the_syco
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    dlfhgpe wrote:
    what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
    i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!
    Look at the movie Road Trip. No, seriously... the nurse scene with Stiffler... 3 fingers...

    The male prostate can be reached analy. It's a "ball" shaped thing behind where his penis is.


    /edit

    Its also sometimes called the "Male G-Spot"

    More info: http://64.127.106.180/education/sexed/understanding_the_prostate.asp


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    LundiMardi
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    3 fingers:eek:


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    Talliesin
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    meditraitor wrote:
    doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially but make sure your partner knows that he has to be really carefull and responsive to your input.
    Face to face can make it easier to be responsive, easier to start penetration, less painful and more intimate. Not that that's the "right way" either.

    It is worth considering using condoms, even if you don't normally, since it reduces the risk of infections from fecal matter.


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    Khannie
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    meditraitor wrote:
    doggy style is probably the best way to try it initially

    You sure? My understanding (i.e. no direct experience) is that this is the least comfortable position.

    Saw a show on channel 4 which recommended the following: (yer one with the lisp who does loads of sex shows (can't remember her name))
    anyway:

    lots of lube (though not KY, as it's apparantly sticky)

    1 finger for about a minute, then 2 for a minute, then 3, then off you go.

    GL, HF.


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    meditraitor
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    Khannie wrote:
    You sure? My understanding (i.e. no direct experience) is that this is the least comfortable position.

    Saw a show on channel 4 which recommended the following: (yer one with the lisp who does loads of sex shows (can't remember her name))
    anyway:

    lots of lube (though not KY, as it's apparantly sticky)

    1 finger for about a minute, then 2 for a minute, then 3, then off you go.

    GL, HF.

    This is were my experience differs, dont usually depend on C4 for tips on intimate experience, On top flat out is a bit to uncomfortable for the woman, maybe legs against shoulders. but from behind DS or face Down(woman) is what I thought most enjoyable for both parties when endulging, couldnt be arsed with it now though... :D novelty wore off


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    po0k
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    On her back, ankles touching her earlobes.
    Firm, but gentle, lube of some sort.


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    Giblet
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    dlfhgpe wrote:
    (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)
    I take it you are on the pill?


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    Kevin_rc_ie
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    SyxPak wrote:
    On her back, ankles touching her earlobes.
    Firm, but gentle, lube of some sort.

    sounds like an anal virgin to me tbh.


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    Mr. Presentable
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    Not an expert, but apparently the best position is receptor on her side, legs well apart, knees drawn forward. Think doctors surgery.


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    po0k
    Registered Users Posts: 15,815 ✭✭✭✭po0k


    Kevin_rc_ie wrote:
    sounds like an anal virgin to me tbh.
    :)

    The ironing, she is delicious.


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    Sleepy
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    A few drinks to loosen you up both mentally and physically can help enormously.

    Woman on top facing away from the guy can be a good position to try it in because it gives you full control of how deep he goes etc. Try to just get the head in at first and let your muscles get used to that much for a minute before going any further... clitoral stimulation at the same time will help too :)

    Aside from that you seem to have the right ideas yourself.


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    Selik
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    I've always found good ol' doggy style to be the best for anal sex but maybe that's just me! Seriously though go slow and use loads and loads of lube and either use a comdom or have a shower before and after (just makes it nicer obviously... :D)

    Have fun anyway all the girls I've ever done it with have enjoyed it and you're clearly keen on expanding your sexual horizons so best of luck...

    P.S. Be sure to let us know how it goes! ;)


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    #21
    Chong
    Registered Users Posts: 8,676 ✭✭✭Chong


    Ok we have all this talk about anal, something which I haven't experienced but the question is , you know when the bloke dose the business dose his C**K come out covered in SH*T.

    Sorry but I had to ask this. :(


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    Plastic Scouser
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    Sleepy wrote:
    A few drinks to loosen you up both mentally and physically can help enormously

    Actually, I have heard that you definitely shouldn't drink before trying something like this as you feel less pain when you've had a few and this could lead to you hurting yourself without realising it until the drink wears off. So, in this situation maybe find another way to make sure you're relaxed beforehand i.e. a nice warm bath.


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    #23
    Sleepy
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    Willem D wrote:
    Ok we have all this talk about anal, something which I haven't experienced but the question is , you know when the bloke dose the business dose his C**K come out covered in SH*T.

    Sorry but I had to ask this. :(
    I wouldn't say exactly covered but there can be some "residue", yes.
    Actually, I have heard that you definitely shouldn't drink before trying something like this as you feel less pain when you've had a few and this could lead to you hurting yourself without realising it until the drink wears off. So, in this situation maybe find another way to make sure you're relaxed beforehand i.e. a nice warm bath.
    Never thought of that, but I know an ex of mine always thought it helped her enjoy it more. In fairness though, anal is something you need to do very gently so it's not something that should cause any damage... though from some of the porn I've seen I've often wondered how the girls don't end up in serious pain from the jackhammering they take...


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    Ania
    Closed Accounts Posts: 92 ✭✭Ania


    dlfhgpe wrote:
    ok, my boyfriend asked me about anal sex a while back, and since i was curious myself, i agreed to try. just wondering does anyone have any advice?
    i know all the usual, plenty of lube, fingers first, take it slow etc.
    any recommendations on the easiest positions to try first?
    what about hygiene? i know moving from the anus to the vagina is a bad idea, but should we use condoms? (he was a virgin and i've been tested so we dont use them normally)

    what about prostate stimulation for him? keen to give it a go but im not sure how to find it. did some searches but didn't turn up much info on it, does anyone have any tips or know any good sites?
    i feel its only fair that if he gets to go in that way so do i!

    You shouldn't have anal sex until you are 100%ly sure that both of you are of an absolute health because you both can get enormous infections very easily through anal sex.
    The second thing is that you must not let him put you under preassure:
    Hardly any girl enjoys anal sex or finds it lustfull because most women experience it as rather painful and disgusting.
    Personally, I refuse it, also because I cannot stop thinking of my **** being the exist of my daily **** and so do most ladies think.
    If you, however, enjoy it, keep it up but don't forget to take care of a perfect hygiene and a perfect health.


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    Victor
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    the_syco wrote:
    Look at the movie Road Trip. No, seriously... the nurse scene with Stiffler... 3 fingers...[/url]
    "Road Trip" merely discusses the concept, not the procedure.
    Sleepy wrote:
    Never thought of that, but I know an ex of mine always thought it helped her enjoy it more. In fairness though, anal is something you need to do very gently so it's not something that should cause any damage...
    Actually the lining of the rectum can be torn easily.


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    Sleepy
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    Oh, I know that Victor, that's why I said it's something you need to do very gently...


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    #27
    Talliesin
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    It's probably unwise to try anal sex unless anal stimulation is already part of your lovemaking that you both enjoy. Not just 2 minutes before you first try anal penetration, but for some time before hand. Really, unless you already find that to be erotic you're unlikely to be able to relax about it, and there's no way you're going to actually enjoy it.


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    Sleepy
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    Talliesin wrote:
    It's probably unwise to try anal sex unless anal stimulation is already part of your lovemaking that you both enjoy. Not just 2 minutes before you first try anal penetration, but for some time before hand. Really, unless you already find that to be erotic you're unlikely to be able to relax about it, and there's no way you're going to actually enjoy it.
    Good advice. It's something to build up to over a period of time. Get used to the idea with each other before going for your A levels.


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    Kingp35
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    Sleepy wrote:
    Woman on top facing away from the guy can be a good position to try it in because it gives you full control of how deep he goes etc. Try to just get the head in at first and let your muscles get used to that much for a minute before going any further... clitoral stimulation at the same time will help too :)

    I agree with sleepy here. Personally I think this is the best position and would def be the best for the first time. Its not the mst intimate of positions but lets face it I dont think its better intimacy your after here.

    I would advise that your boyfriend wear a condom to be as clean as you possibly can. I think this is pretty important.

    Yo have to take it slow. Dont go by a porno movie you once saw. It can be pretty painful for the girl involved so to be very gentle and take things slow. I think thats the best advice I can give you.

    Anyway for me it was all just a novelty just like it is for most guys and the novelty wears off pretty quickly in my opinion. The good old fashioned way is far better.

    Anyway be safe if you try and enjoy ;)


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    Zulu
    Registered Users Posts: 10,965 ✭✭✭✭Zulu


    Ania wrote:
    Hardly any girl enjoys anal sex or finds it lustfull because most women experience it as rather painful and disgusting.
    Well, I disagree. I know quite a few girls who enjoy it and alot of people tend to find "taboos" lustfull.


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    TerrorFirmer
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    Guys, someone tell me how it works.

    I've tried it with a girl once or twice, each time with a ton of lube, carefulness, pre-preparing, and gentleness. But its just wayyyyy too small.

    How an earth does anyone acheive it is beyond me.

    Please advise while on the subject! And don't advise using more lube, fingers, etc, because I've done all that with buckets of lube and the finger(s) etc and I guarantee no more could be done.

    The last girl I was with wanted to try. I dont really have any interest in it with my current gf and neither does she so we won't be going down that road, but I'd still love to know.


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