turn offs in dating

cock_adodel_do

1 smoking.2 exxess make up.
is this just me does this turn most guys off from women.?


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irlirishkev

I also find both smoking, and/or too much makeup a big turnoff.. I'm sure most girls would find both a bit of a turnoff on guys too

ironically, i don't find it a turnoff if i'm with a girl who smokes h*sh.. can't figure that one out..

cock_adodel_do

well hash i dont smoke.
but im sure it smells simalar to the breath of a smoker all the same.

tman

cock_adodel_do wrote:

well hash i dont smoke.
but im sure it smells simalar to the breath of a smoker all the same.

aye. but i'd usually be smoking with her. so it wouldn't bother me

cant stand kissing a smoker usually though

Karl Hungus

Smoking is a gigantic turn-off.

tSubh Dearg

personally I find excessive sniffing a real turn off...just blow your fukin nose!!! :mad:

Also I find the use of excess hair products a turn off too, who wants to touch sticky icky hair! ugh

Scarinae

Bad personal hygiene, ugghhh!!
It's important to me that guys smell nice

azezil

Really turns me off when my date trys to stab me (true story)

Headbutting old women however is a definite plus!

Kernel

azezil wrote:

Really turns me off when my date trys to stab me (true story)

Stab you with the meat bayonet, or for real? Do tell?

Karl Hungus

tSubh Dearg wrote:

personally I find excessive sniffing a real turn off...just blow your fukin nose!!! :mad:

If a person had any kind of hayfever, or sinus problems, blowing their nose just doesn't help at all. I used to have pretty bad hayfever when I was younger, and it was extremely uncomfortable, not to mention utterly embarrassing, and there was nothing I could do untill I just grew out of it. So have some sympathy, and don't be so damned ignorant, as it's usually a medical condition.

BEAT

a guy who deosnt wear deodorant is a turn off, big time...even when they dont think they need it...trust us, you do!
kissing a smoker, yuk
kissing a drunk, yuk

like my guy to smell nice, but dont over do it...some guys take showers in cologne and when you hug them you walk away smelling like them! ughhh
a little dab will do ya

Sarky

Also, stay away from Lynx. I am reliably informed by several lady friends that it is a highly efficient woman-repellant.

Kevin_rc_ie

but lynx is cool as are lynxs.

tman

someone should seriously make an aftershave/deodorant called "Cougar"
i'd buy it

Nasty_Girl

People who try to blow bubbles with CHEWING gum it wrecks my head, it's not cool. Arg.

DublinWriter

cock_adodel_do wrote:

1 smoking.2 exxess make up.
is this just me does this turn most guys off from women.?

3. Bad oral hygiene
4. Complete and obvious lack of previous ornadonthal care
5. GRANNY TIGHTS!
6. Getting drunk very quickly
7. Talking about previous boyfriends
8. Talking about previous boyfriends and crying
9. Total lack of nail care
10. And at the end of the night? Mismatching undies.

But you know what? Us Irish lads aren't as fussy as our English/European counter parts once sufficiently gargled and/or desperate. We usually go by the ALIADALAINF rule (Anything Legal In A Dress As Long As It's Not Family).

DEmeant0r

tman wrote:

someone should seriously make an aftershave/deodorant called "Cougar"
i'd buy it

Or "Atari Jaguar". Every Boards user would buy this. It'd sell like mad

Sarky

Pity there's such a jump between "buying" and "Using regularly"...

][cEMAN**

azezil wrote:

Really turns me off when my date trys to stab me (true story)

When your date burns tries to burn your beard (yeah fair enough it was quite long at the time). That's a bit of a turn off. And so is the smell tbh

Nasty_Girl

DublinWriter wrote:

10. And at the end of the night? Mismatching undies.

So do you match your underpants with your socks then!

tSubh Dearg

Karl Hungus - I'm talking about guys with colds in the winter, who SAY "I have bit of a cold" and proceed to sniff and snuffle all night long without once blowing their nose....the noise of that sniffing, would drive you up the wall.

I've never had any problem with the sniffing noise from hay fever suffers as it's a completely different sound (well it is to me) that's not half as offensive sounding as that sniffing gurgly noise that some guys make as they hock back a giant wad of snot and swallow it.

AlienGav

Kebabs!!

They're a sure fire way to be put off by a girl!

A drunk girl should never eat a kebab in public lol
Sapose it's the same for us boys too...

I'll shuurup now!

DublinWriter

Nasty_Girl wrote:

So do you match your underpants with your socks then!

Always. Black. Your point being?

irlirishkev

tSubh Dearg wrote:

...sniffing gurgly noise that some guys make as they hock back a giant wad of snot and swallow it.

UURRGGHHHH.. Ten out of Ten on gross descriptions there tSuph Dearg.. But I know what you mean.. You hear that a lot on public transport in the winter.. it's gross beyond all comprehension!

K.

dearg_doom

Demeant0r wrote:

Or "Atari Jaguar". Every Boards user would buy this. It'd sell like mad

'The smell of success'

Sleepy

Smoking doesn't bother me given that I'm a smoker myself.

My own list:

1. Too much make-up is a definite turn-off.
2. Fake tan. Ladies, there is no such thing as an acceptable/discreet amount.
3. Being overly-self consious.
4. Falsity.
5. Being late.
6. Using your mobile during a first/second date.
7. Bad teeth.
8. Non-matching/"laundry day" underwear.
9. Having nothing to say for herself.
10. Using the words "loike", "roysh" or "mare" without a trace of irony.
11. Trying to determine my financial worth.
12. Stupidity/Dizzyness
13. Complaining about uncomfortable shoes. If you want to wear insane heels that hurt your feet, that's your decision, don't expect sympathy for the fact.
14. Displaying a lack of manners, to me or anyone else we come across, particularly waiting staff.

No wonder I'm single!

cournioni

DublinWriter wrote:

cock_adodel_do wrote:

1 smoking.2 exxess make up.
is this just me does this turn most guys off from women.?

3. Bad oral hygiene
4. Complete and obvious lack of previous ornadonthal care
6. Getting drunk very quickly
7. Talking about previous boyfriends
8. Talking about previous boyfriends and crying
9. Total lack of nail care

Yup.

OLDYELLAR

bad personal hygiene is the worst!!!

Amz

These are some of the aesthetic things that would have put me off when I was dating.

• Bad personal hygiene.
• Yocky teeth.
• In the past I would have said smokers, but if they look after their oral hygiene they're not so bad.
• Too much hair gunk.
• When eating out and he can't seem to manage the art of getting ALL the food in his mouth and most of it ends up on his face.
• Dirty clothes

Dizzyblabla

1. Not shaven (if you have a beard, fine, make sure it's neat though)
2. TEETH! - a big thing, there is nothing worse than seeing your lunch in your teeth.
3. Talking about something that is obviously not interesting to the person you are out with i.e. football or how drunk you got the last night you were out.
4. Personal Hygiene. Maybe it's moe difficult for a guy to not smell like he hasn't showered in a week by the end of the night, but that's what anti-perspirants were invented for, Lynx is NOT an anti-perspirant, it's just a deodorant.. go for Sure or something like that..
4. Leering at other girls when you're out with a girl.
5. Talking more to a girls chest than you do to her.
6. Talking about ex-girlfriends and what bitches they were..
7. Ya, the sniffing thing drives me nuts too, but it's the snorting it back (see tSubh Dearg's description above) that makes me want to vomit..
8. Asking if you can kiss her... chances are, she wouldn't have gone on the date if she didn't want to kiss you, just find the right moment and lean forward, watch Hitch, do the 80-20 rule! just Do Not Ask, it totally spoils the moment.
9. Lateness - a pet hate of mine.


I'm sure there's a million more, but definately those ones anyway..

Sleepy

Who wears dirty clothes out on a date? :eek:

Dizzyblabla

Amz wrote:

[*]When eating out and he can't seem to manage the art of getting ALL the food in his mouth and most of it ends up on his face.

ya, what is it with guys and not being able to eat? Add that one to my list too!

Amz

The odd time with a bit of sauce is ok, but every friggin' time is just plain idiotic. Most children master it by age 5!

Con9903

I don't mind once they don't sit there and not converse back, god I hate that. If I wanted that level of conversation I would've taken the dog for a walk

CathyMoran

These are some of the turnoffs:

• poor personal hygeine
• someone who is not funny
• someone who is not kind
• someone who is not intelligent
• someone is not close to their family
• someone who does not like animals
• a smoker
• a heavy drinker
• someone who is thoughtless
• someone who is cruel

ApeXaviour

tSubh Dearg wrote:

personally I find excessive sniffing a real turn off...just blow your fukin nose!!! :mad:

Have to say the opposite.. Blowing your nose is gross, major turn off. Just keep sniffing!! :cool:

Shrimp

Dizzyblabla wrote:

do the 80-20 rule!

Actually it was 90-10.. I think u were trying that rule out urself in the cinema and missed the ratio.. :P

Shrimp

I'd have to say my pet hates for a bird to do are:

To much make-up.
Not leaving much to the imagination, with what they are wearing.
Been ignorant, like saying something, but for all they know it might be offensive to me.
Dittzy-ness
Too easy, like you need a bit or a challange, that way you feel like u deserve what you got, and not just expect her to hope on you.(sexually that is) :P
They have to compliment you, like if you're worth complimenting, cos the chances are you are, as u spent time gettin ready for the date with her.
They have to have like there own opinions, and not be one of these birds who will just sit there and say things like.. "Sure why not", "Ok" and "If you say so" etc..
And most importantly, with out a doubt, they CAN'T BE BORING, if they are boring, I will never want to see them again. I like to have a laugh, and a boring person, is like the complete ruiner of good times.

Oh and for u ladies out there... Is it alright if the guy doesn't drink at all, but like she does? Cos I dont Drink(at all never have never will), Smoke, etc..

seamus

tSubh Dearg wrote:

Karl Hungus - I'm talking about guys with colds in the winter, who SAY "I have bit of a cold" and proceed to sniff and snuffle all night long without once blowing their nose....the noise of that sniffing, would drive you up the wall.

Generally when my nose gets to the point where I need to blow it (i.e. when I have a cold), I'll just need to blow it again, 2 minutes later. These leaves 3 options:

1. Carry a roll of toilet paper around with me all the time.
2. Get up every two minutes to go into the toilet and blow my nose.
3. Continue to sniff gently and politely until it becomes so unbearable that you have to go and blow your nose.

Clearly the only sane option is option 3, which can improve your longevity to around 30 minutes between trips to the toilet.

I surprise myself with my finnickyness. Basically if a woman doesn't look like she'd taste nice if I licked her, she's no go. This means neatish hair, neat (i.e. not torn/dirty) clothes, neutral or minty fresh breath, and a nice but not overpowering perfume.

kasintahan

Shrimp wrote:

Oh and for u ladies out there... Is it alright if the guy doesn't drink at all, but like she does? Cos I dont Drink(at all never have never will), Smoke, etc..

Why would you never even try drink?

Someone who doesn't know what they are like when they are pissed doesn't really know themselves
(IMHO of course, and this coming from someone who is off the booze for the last few months).

Sparky

Turnoffs for me include
Too-much make-up (jesus she probably used a weeks worth)
Texting during the date (i made sure my mobile was off)
Bitching (i try not to look at other women during the date, but out comes her comments about the other girls clothes, hair etc)

And on one instance having there friend secretly tag along to see was i "OK" (if i become suitable for you do i have to be suitable for your friend)
Although that only happened once.

Hugh Hefner

kasintahan wrote:

Why would you never even try drink?

Someone who doesn't know what they are like when they are pissed doesn't really know themselves
(IMHO of course, and this coming from someone who is off the booze for the last few months).

Surely inebriation isn't your most self-aware time. I'd like to know the answer to Shrimp's question too as I'm in the same situation.

Have you all seen that water safety ad. with what's-her-name where she's standing infront of a pool and it looks as though she has painted on her eyebrows. That took away any desire I had to get with her.

stagolee

gotta agree with the too much makeup thing, how do some girls think this looks attractive? bucket loads of make up and a cakeload of fake tan tends to make girls faces look like they're made of cheap plastic. and the orangey coulour you see some of these girls faces makes them look like an oompa loompa thats just been tangoed.
mostly i find the most attractive girls to me are the ones that go for a more natural look with no long painted nails, makeup or high heels or any of these other supposed beauty aids that a stunningly beautiful girl can just about get away with but will make most other girls look mingin.
in fact high heels are nearly as much of a turn off as the makeup, i know theyre meant to make a girl look taller but generally they give them an ungainly hunched over arse stuck out posture and make them sound like a heard of cattle in a quiet room. anyhow they dont make girls taller, my mind automaticaly deducts the extra bit of height just as it would if i met a short bloke standing on his tiptoes

ah its a lonley life for a picky git with terrible teeth whose been sniffleing all morning

Kingsize

Girls who talk about their mother & tell you the entire conversation/arguement they had earlier with her, enhancing the mothers part by doing a really bad squeaky "mum" voice.

i had a mate ( a pug ugly Fukker & under no delusions otherwise) who dumped a girl on the spot for just the above.

seamus

Hugh Hefner wrote:

Surely inebriation isn't your most self-aware time.

Oh you're perfectly self-aware. There comes a point where you begin to not remember anything at all, but at that point you don't want to remember. But long, long before that you'll have been drunk and done some things you'd have never previously thought of doing.

It's the next morning where you remember what you've done that the "Never really knew myself before" part kicks in.

Deadwing

seamus wrote:

Generally when my nose gets to the point where I need to blow it (i.e. when I have a cold), I'll just need to blow it again, 2 minutes later. These leaves 3 options:

1. Carry a roll of toilet paper around with me all the time.
2. Get up every two minutes to go into the toilet and blow my nose.
3. Continue to sniff gently and politely until it becomes so unbearable that you have to go and blow your nose.

You know they invented a portable version of toilet roll, only they took it off the roll, crazy as it sounds just bear with me, and then put the paper into a small package and called them 'tissues'. It totally eliminates the annoyance of carrying a roll of sh!tpaper with you everywhere you go!

super_furry

Girls that don't know when to stop bloody talking. I don't mean small talk to cover uncomfortable silences, but those that insist of regalling you with tales of how their friend 'got really drunk one time in Australia and lost their purse.' For two ****ing hours.

seamus

Deadwing wrote:

You know they invented a portable version of toilet roll, only they took it off the roll, crazy as it sounds just bear with me, and then put the paper into a small package and called them 'tissues'. It totally eliminates the annoyance of carrying a roll of sh!tpaper with you everywhere you go!

Tissues/toilet roll, I equally don't have space in my pockets to be carrying around a big wad of paper.

Static M.e.

This list sums it all up for me ! (As was posted before)

1. Too much make-up is a definite turn-off.
2. Fake tan. Ladies, there is no such thing as an acceptable/discreet amount.
3. Being overly-self consious.
4. Falsity.
5. Being late.
6. Using your mobile during a first/second date.
7. Bad teeth.
8. Non-matching/"laundry day" underwear.
9. Having nothing to say for herself.
10. Using the words "loike", "roysh" or "mare" without a trace of irony.
11. Trying to determine my financial worth.
12. Stupidity/Dizzyness
13. Complaining about uncomfortable shoes. If you want to wear insane heels that hurt your feet, that's your decision, don't expect sympathy for the fact.
14. Displaying a lack of manners, to me or anyone else we come across, particularly waiting staff.

Whats the Hitch 10 90 or 80 20 Rule ?? never heard of that

Amz

Static M.e. wrote:

8. Non-matching/"laundry day" underwear.

You should be grateful you get to see any underwear at all really.

ApeXaviour

Not really..

If we don't we'll soon be gone