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Dealing with this wave of "validate my feelings, don't offer advice" mindset being adopted by women.

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  • #92
    Flinty997
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,105 ✭✭✭✭Flinty997


    If people are "entitled" to use any word without any consideration of context or accuracy. Then I can say anything.

    Post edited by Flinty997 on


  • #93
    Flinty997
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 15,105 ✭✭✭✭Flinty997


    Not entirely sure how we leaped from bouldering to having kids.

    Post edited by Flinty997 on


  • #94
    Rocket_GD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,080 ✭✭✭Rocket_GD


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123464045#Comment_123464045

    Your original post was in regards to your partner complaining about you giving her bouldering technique advice. Instead of discussing it with her, you came onto a public forum with the title that included "validate my feelings, don't offer advice" mindset being adopted by women".

    Yet, you yourself (a man) posted on this forum to get your own views validated by others. If you can't see the hypocrisy in that, I can't help you.



  • #95
    Rubberchikken
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,264 ✭✭✭Rubberchikken


    ^^

    Thanks for writing what I was thinking but was unable to articulate.

    I despair of the world and a particular mindset in it. If all they're capable of rehashing is tripe from social media, I fear we are in trouble.

    These Women and men are beyond help.



  • #96
    sock.rocker*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 1,367 ✭✭✭sock.rocker*


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123465286#Comment_123465286

    I posted eight months ago in frustration. I had a feeling then that this was being caused by a friend, and since then, that has been resolved by them falling out themselves over my girlfriend disagreeing with her. I let things play out regarding the friend "instead of discussing it with her", because I didn't want to do anything to jeopardise their friendship based on my feeling. Now she is much happier and we have moved on socially and are back meeting other friends instead.

    She has stopped worrying about what other women think, and what their expectations are, and has done things like move some weights into her mum's home so she can continue working out there, even though her Asian family think it is horrible for a woman to do that. Unlike what you all think, I encourage her to be herself in every way, unlike society here which dictates everything about what a woman should be.

    If I only wanted validation, I would ask ChatGPT. I've been on this website since 2005, so I am simply used to posting on here. I don't just "post seeking validation" and you accusing me of that is just an insidious way to try and take me down for having the gall to defend myself against people accusing me of a myriad of things like being a misogynist.

    What actually happened here is this was a very short thread, less than 2 pages, when it blew up a couple of days ago. There was eight months between an opening post when I was annoyed, a follow up post when I was fine, and then another week or two when it all kicked off. You all just don't like that I responded to every nonsense comment and take that as part of my personality, as if that means I am argumentative or whatever in life. The completely irrelevant "mislabelling", where a poster attacked how my girlfriend speaks which led to me defending her, dragged it way off point and they ironically filled in the place of the friend; a feminist who punches down on women not behaving exactly as they want, instead of raising women up.

    Post edited by sock.rocker* on

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  • #97
    Ekerot
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    Is this **** thread still going on?



  • #98
    Daisy78
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    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/123464077#Comment_123464077

    OP you mention that your partners first language is not English, so maybe it’s a language/communication thing? That said if I heard another person reference household chores/hobbies as “house wifey” things i would cringe inwardly. I wouldn’t correct her or shame her for it but it would definitely stand out as being a bit odd.

    Baking, cleaning and other housekeeping activities are no longer the responsibility of the woman of the house and thank goodness for that. If it was a language thing fair enough, as long as both of you are pitching in. If you are talking about a trad wife situation then yes I think a lot of women would find that very difficult to relate to in this day and age. I’d struggle to find anything in common with someone like that to be honest. It sounds like her friend overstepped the mark in terms of sharing her views. It would have been better for her to move on from the friendship with your partner given their very different stance on this.



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