Sibling explosion

Clara B

That’s so awful! What a horrible thing to go through. It is lucky you and your wife are a team. My brother said that the family between your 4 walls is what’s important and I realize now he’s right.

Clara B

I would always doubt myself 100% and I would question it were it not for my daughter, who’s 16. She was in another room watching the smallies, but she heard almost everything.

She told me she had. I asked her if I’d shouted or been out of line at all and she said no. I barely spoke.

Shes True North for me. She doesn’t sugar coat. We have raised her to always be honest with us.

I would have doubted everything were it not for her.

Clara B

I now k ow it’s gaslighting. I would never have seen it were it not for what happened.

She has reached out. She has apologised as much as she can. I’ve accepted but said I need time to process everything.

she has said she feels responsible for me being angry with our mother. I’ve said she should-she instigated the situation.

my mother has still not contacted me. She has rang my aunties to cry-but she hasn’t tried to talk to me.

It has nothing to do with her taking sides or now. It’s about her not stepping in and stopping my sister abusing me.

it’s also about her spending the entire weekend with my sister, helping her cope and not once checking in on me.

HildaOgdenx

Mod Note - As you appear to have reached some conclusions on the situation for which the thread was originally opened, OP, I will close it off at this point, in order that it doesn't become a blog.

Thanks to all who offered advice.

Hilda