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Christmas by oneself

  • 15-11-2022 5:39pm
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    Registered Users Posts: 1,252 ✭✭✭ fun loving criminal


    Is there any point in decorating the place for Christmas if you're spending it on your own?

    My family are narcissistic and abusive. My boyfriend is spending it with his own family.

    I'm ok with Christmas on my own, it's a day to do nothing, watch what I want and I don't have any pressure or hassle of cooking for loads of people.

    I'm just a bit meh about a Christmas tree.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 12,785 ✭✭✭✭ Mad_maxx


    Actually opting for no decorations etc sounds quite liberating, it’s a free country



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,591 ✭✭✭ nothing


    Gave my tree and remaining decorations to the local charity shop just today. I do most xmas days on my own and the decorating is just a hassle to put up and take back down.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,820 ✭✭✭ phormium


    I wouldn't bother with a tree but I do love fairy lights so would definitely have some of them just for myself!



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  • Registered Users Posts: 104 ✭✭ j2


    A cousin of mine had a friend he met in school who spent Christmas alone after a breakup and ended up having some kind of psychotic break. His dad ended up busting in the front door to check on him, fearing the worst. They found him lying on the sitting room floor wearing just a dressing gown and eating his own sh1t. Spent the best part of a year recovering from that episode.



  • Registered Users Posts: 6,353 ✭✭✭ pgj2015


    You should put up Halloween decorations for it. 😉



  • Registered Users Posts: 5,997 ✭✭✭ sporina


    gee sure do what ever you like eh?! and enjoy..

    OH likes a tree but if it wer not for him I wouldn't be bothered with it.. (cos the only place where we can put it, its still in the way imo).. I'm happy a lovely poinsettia, a few ornaments, cards and lots of candles.. hmm..



  • Registered Users Posts: 31,282 ✭✭✭✭ Graces7




  • Moderators, Entertainment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 13,569 Mod ✭✭✭✭ pc7


    I think do whatever you can to make yourself comfortable and happy FLC, you don't want to be maudlin or dwelling on the sh1tty family, don't let them in or win! Would you like to go with your boyfriend? is it an option? If not, then just decorate as you wish, have some lovely food and treats that you like in and make the most of the down time.

    To the poster above and getting locked into M&S that needs to be made into a movie, best christmas ever!! Reminds me of the twitter thread, this is such a lovely read always makes me smile! https://twitter.com/richycraven/status/1332095349176086536?lang=en



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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,013 ✭✭✭ corner of hells


    I work every Christmas day , Grace , in homeless residential services .

    In the places I work in we always make there are quiet spots with no Christmas tree or decorations because residents have experienced dysfunctional Christmas because of family issues and others have never experienced Christmas at all.

    However ,Marks and Spencers does seem a plan.



  • Registered Users Posts: 5,023 ✭✭✭ eviltimeban


    Can you have friends (or family you like) over on the days around Christmas? e.g. Eve, or Stephen's, maybe for drinks or even for a meal? In that case you could do decorations and then still have the feeling of a Christmas event taking place. Or the bf could come over one of the evenings and you do a Christmas dinner together.

    For me certainly Christmas is more the whole week; the day flies by (and it's hassle for the most part) but the really nice part of it is vegging on the couch for a week and eating and drinking loads. It's nice to have people over on the other days as it's less pressure.



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,642 ✭✭✭ mumo3


    Great idea..... I would normally spend the evening on twitter using the hash tag #joinin its such a lovely conversation with other people who find themselves alone on Christmas day either by choice or circumstances. If you haven't seen it, keep an eye out this year its just such a nice thread.



  • Registered Users Posts: 31,282 ✭✭✭✭ Graces7


    Ah that is so lovely! Thank you. I know that here there will be tears at some stage as the day is so emotive. But my faith is strong and it will support, and of course the Nine Lessons and Carols on Christmas Eve...which have been with me for??? Gee is it THAT many years!!!!! I am ancient!



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,159 ✭✭✭ thefallingman


    this will be my 17th xmas day on my own, i put up a little fake tree but more for any visitors over december than for me, you have a partner so it's only one day for you so enjoy the peace and quiet.



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,438 ✭✭✭ rolling boh


    Do whatever makes you feel like doing Personally I wouldn't bother with a tree but just chill out get in some food you like .I know I am being nosey but is your boyfriend alright with you being alone on the day ?



  • Registered Users Posts: 9,447 ✭✭✭ cj maxx


    I’ll be having Christmas by myself. And quite happy about it. Dinner will be a large steak , gravy, mash , sprouts . And since i live by myself its normal. Im not a Christmas fan since i was a child.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 73 ✭✭ Tippman24


    I used to go to my sister for my Christmas dinner, but due to Covid two years ago missed that annual treat. Last year was the same. Came to the conclusion that I prefer my own company on Christmas Day so hoping that no invitation is forthcoming. Steak with onions and spuds suits me better anyway. Then the old tradition of "The Blues Brothers" that night. (For the previous few years I formed the impression that my nieces did not want me in the house anyway.) Christmas Day to me is a day to be endured rather than enjoyed.



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