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Do you ever feel like getting rid of all your friends?

  • 04-11-2022 10:32pm
    Registered Users Posts: 8,443 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    It crosses my mind sometimes, reasons are I like my own company, them sometimes not replying to texts, they never have money to do anything. And other friends have drifted so I think they all will eventually as well. Are people really your friends or will there be any left in a few years? maybe just block them all now?



  • Registered Users Posts: 8,443 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    A few have drifted who are single. 😂 they don't even have a wife and kids to blame.

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,180 ✭✭✭gameoverdude

    Do what you wanna do.

    As I'm feeling in the mood,maybe not you, but I have a hankering to listen to Denis learys song. And yes I am.

  • Registered Users Posts: 9,092 ✭✭✭billyhead

    Your friend is your pocket.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,733 ✭✭✭Mr. teddywinkles

    Keep your friends close and your box sets closer.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭Dazler97

    Yes some friends alright, the smaller your circle the less drama, also the friends that keep in touch or something is true friends ya know, I've learned this and I'm 25

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,011 ✭✭✭Tork

    They think highly of you too...

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,800 ✭✭✭✭elperello

    I often thought of getting rid of both of them but never got around to it.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,443 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    The ones you think are friends for life now, half of them probably aren't.

  • Registered Users Posts: 636 ✭✭✭techman1

    You don't have to "dump" your friends but you can just gradually drift away a bit if they don't fulfill your requirements. I think "friendship" has become commoditised in the modern world what with facebook and social media, so there is alot of stuff like "Me doing this with my besties" etc , but at the end of the day its very superficial and not that real or fulfilling.

    Thats why pubs and that sort of setting is actually a good way of turning up or down the sort of acquaintance you want, you can gravitate to the type of people that chime with you. You are not doing any big commitment or anything just going to the pub for a drink. Thats why Irish pubs became famous because they were basically open forums that anyone could join in , exclusivity and cliques were frowned upon. Unfortunately we are losing alot of this now

  • Registered Users Posts: 56 ✭✭Sigyn

    No such thing as friends.

    Homo homini lupus est.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭Dazler97

    Yes that's true but as years go on I'll notice it even more

  • Registered Users Posts: 13,505 ✭✭✭✭Mad_maxx

    Haven’t made a new friend since I was nineteen , that’s just how it is so I better hold on to what I did make

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  • Registered Users Posts: 224 ✭✭Gamergurll

    Maybe that's their excuse for getting rid of you op? 😂

    Joking aside happens to everyone at some stage, life gets in the way but don't get rid of your friends, it's easy to drift apart but you never know when you might need them 😁

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,443 ✭✭✭pgj2015

    it is crazy though how some cant even meet you for a drink once a year. sad really. no one is that busy.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Count Dracula

    Anyone who won't meet you for a drink should never be trusted again. Ever. Just forget about them, trust me.

    1) They aren't going because they can't stand the thought of having to pretend you don't bore them to tears anymore, even for an hour, They would rather sit at home watching shight on TV then even have a natter with you.


    2) They more than likely have been telling their wives they are meeting you at the cinema, thus giving them the 3 hour window they instead need to spend doing whatever lurid activity they elected not to share with their marriage. In fact, they probably only talk to you at all to keep you on the safe side, just in case she ever got the opportunity to ask, she would ask as well, she has always found it slightly odd that her husband preferred dinner and a movie with an old college pal, to getting pegged senseless by a Brazilian sex worker in an apartment off the Grand Canal.


    3) They have rekindled their love of Airfix, Mechano or Hornby trainsets and are terrified at how sad this might be perceived by former friends and haters. They are spending €400 a month on a therapist to help find out why this bothers them and why they are also obsessed with the possibility of sniffing the new French intern's chair when locking up of a Monday evening.

    That's correct, your old pals now spend more time fantasizing about sniffing office chairs than they do even contemplating you,,, and probably always did. The young mind is so naive and facile really.

    There may be other reasons, please read the label for further details. Loneliness is a mindset, ask Alexander Selkirk.

  • Registered Users Posts: 8,443 ✭✭✭pgj2015

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,007 ✭✭✭Breezy_

  • Registered Users Posts: 4 Martin121

    If you ever think somthing is wrong with all your friends, then something is wrong with you!

  • Registered Users Posts: 4,392 ✭✭✭An Ri rua

    Probably best just to take a step back there. No point in going all Jeffrey Dahmer on it.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 2,434 ✭✭✭Shred

    I've talked to my wife several times about this - I have several groups of friends, a couple of those groups go back to my teens and when we get together we still all enjoy each other's company and maintain similar interests (music being the main one that unites almost all of my solid friend groups). I'm someone who'll often organise nights out and it can be difficult to get them out sometimes, but many of them would never suggest anything ever.

    I have one friend who I met over 15 years ago from a band I was in; we really were two peas from the same pod, agreed on so many things and had similar attitudes and outlook, we went to tonnes of gigs over the years and even travelled abroad for a few too. He doesn't live in Dublin but a few years back he just started to drift away (and not just from me), we still keep in touch but it's almost impossible get him out for a beer. It saddens me sometimes and especially because we keep in touch is via messaging apps which I know is the modern way but I hate it; life is short and while there's absolutely a functional aspect to this type to communication it's a terribly impersonal way to keep in touch with someone I feel and especially so the older I get.

    When I think about my brothers and other older males I know, many of them no longer have any friends at all. All of this together has led my wife and I to conclude that many men are simply crap at maintaining friendships once they "settle down" (we have kids. mortgage etc. too so that's no excuse as far as I'm concerned).