Is getting married the most stupid thing you could do?

pgj2015

I have yet to figure out why anyone would want to get married. I think a huge percentage of marriages are because its the done thing rather than something people really want. Chances of it lasting especially these days aren't great in my opinion. So out you go from the nice house into a small apartment. Plus you have to stick with the same person for the rest of your life. I meet women most days that I fancy, if I was married I couldn't go on a date with them or anything.

Jequ0n

I can see why marriage would be a convenient investment in some places. However, I also agree with you that in the majority of cases it is a done deal because of obligations and expectations. It wouldn’t be for me unless there was a huge benefit in it.

To me the whole “marriage for love” argument makes no sense, but each to their own. Let them be happy until reality hits.

I've been married 5 times and I'd recommend it every time.

Furze99

Get some more life experience. We lived as a couple for half a dozen years or so but once we decided that we'd have children, we got married. It makes things a whole lot simpler legally as regards many aspects of life going forward with children, if you are married. That'd be the principal reason to get married, doesn't have to be in a church - a registry office or similar suffices fine.

gameoverdude

Asking myself the very same question.

breezy1985

Can't be worse than sticking a light bulb your aras.

littlevillage

Is getting married the most stupid thing you could do?

As a man, Yes.

Close the thread.

Greyfox

Only if you marry the wrong person

Ubbquittious

It's just hassle. If your partner decides to become abusive/cheat you have a whole pile of legal wrangling to go through before you can shoe them out the door. You'll be there in a desperate situation probably suffering from depression and you'll have a bunch of fat cat solicitors swooping in to take your money

pgj2015

my rules are no marriage, no kids and separate houses. Then if and when we split, we can walk away without any hassle.

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119533725#Comment_119533725

Just before we close it I'll quote comedian Bill maher when he was asked by eight-times married Larry King why he had never taken a trip down the aisle:

"Larry, marriage suits a lot of people. They're called 'women'..."

Swaine

For a man? Yes.

Woman? No.

"Equality".

Ah, the stock thread for the woman haters. All of the men who have been married for decades are an inconvenience for them, so let's create this fantasy world where every man ever who gets married is screwed over.

https://youtu.be/Ul6UcvNX4o8

combat14

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119533924#Comment_119533924

that seems to be about the only safe way to do it now a days .. prenups arent worth the paper they are written on..

JayRoc

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058260769/is-getting-married-the-most-stupid-thing-you-could-do

Marriage = "From the nice house to the small apartment"?

Only if you are living with Mammy up to your wedding day, presumably.

Weird thread tbh

RobbieTheRobber

I'm 10 years married.

Looking forward to dancing the funky chicken at our 50th anniversary.

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534001#Comment_119534001

To me the whole “marriage for love” argument makes no sense

Think he means in the case of break-up...

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119533703#Comment_119533703

Me too, I made sure I had a child with each of my ex husbands too. So now I have FIVE houses! I'm going to retrain as a teacher so I can work for 2 months a year and spend the rest travelling around the country to each of my houses, life will be like a permanent holiday.

I'm currently on the look out for lucky number 6, a wealthy man with a nice house in either Galway or Sligo.

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534001#Comment_119534001

It's an obsession for some here. Seems like protesting too much tbh. I think part of them envies the life of contented married couples.

Not that there's anything wrong with the single life, but if that's the path you're happy with, you wouldn't keep going on about it, and about how those who get married are such chumps.

brokenangel

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058260769/is-getting-married-the-most-stupid-thing-you-could-do

The main question I have, you might meet women everyday you fancy, you might want to go on a date with them

Kind of falls apart when they tell you to get lost :-)

El_Duderino 09

Yeah it's the ones who can't get a girlfriend, let alone a life partner, who have the strongest opinions about marriage.

My partner and I were together for 12 years before we got married and a further 4 years until we had a baby. We plan to be together the rest of our lives so marriage was easy.

Wezz

So many bitter blokes on boards it’s actually quite sad. I know a fair few divorced couples and they both came out of it ok but with a few lessons learnt. In all cases the marriage ended because the bloke acted up but thought he’d get away with it. As for myself I’ve no interest in getting married and luckily in a relationship with someone who feels the same way. Not against it or afraid of it or think my girlfriend is out to fleece me, just don’t see the point anymore in it.

Some lads who have this view might be pretty young. Waiting until older might help. My brothers were nearly 35 and 39 when they met their now wives (31 and 35 at the time). 13 and 10 years on, they're so sweet and lovey dovey together.

My uncle started going out with his wife when he was 46 and she was 38. They're in their 60s now and hold hands. They also look younger than their ages.

Companionship is good.

Autosport

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534023#Comment_119534023

Let me know how you get on 👍

padd b1975

Definitely.

gmisk

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119533725#Comment_119533725

Im a man...married to another man...does that make me doubly stupid!? :)

Happily so btw, we plan on being together forever so made sense tbh.

Pissy Missy

Shallow hal wants a gal

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534097#Comment_119534097

Only to people who hate women or men (women mostly).

Jequ0n

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534015#Comment_119534015

Since you quoted me: I don’t see why “love” would be a reason for marriage. At the end of the day it’s nothing but a legal contract.

RobbieTheRobber

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534037#Comment_119534037

The cold hard reality of the dazed and confused high school girls meme.

If those high school girls didn't like you in school why would they like you when you are still you and now their dads age and older.

Larbre34

With the way personal taxes and State pensions are assessed in this Country, staying single is the stupidest thing you could so.

And I say that with all due respect to those too ugly to bag a spouse.

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534092#Comment_119534092

Companionship is good.

As good as raw animal passion?

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534232#Comment_119534232

The ideal would be the two, but sadly one fades, and it's a matter of choosing which one means more to you in the long run.

byrnem31

For a male, if you are/we're married with kids and you separate, you have stronger rights if there are custody/access issues etc.

I'm married 9 years. Got married in a registry office with guns n roses patience playing as we walked down the aisle. Still together with 3 kids.

MakersMark

It is if you're a long term layabout dole scrounger pumping out multi-fathered criminals in the making while holding your hand out for free EVERYTHING .

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534303#Comment_119534303

Or is that a combination of inertia and social pressure means a lot of men 'choose' the former by default rather than following their heart & groin?

KilOit

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058260769/is-getting-married-the-most-stupid-thing-you-could-do

The thoughts of going out and doing the whole courtship thing again doesn't appeal to me, i'd imagine you are young but after your 30's (mostly) you just cba pretending to be someone you are not so someone will like you. Was 10 years with my partner before we married so wasn't on a whim

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534366#Comment_119534366

Well they could just stay single and have flings - but that fizzles out eventually. An auld fella in his 70s won't be getting those opportunities much. So what then?

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534054#Comment_119534054

Yeah well its just that, a plan. Doesn't mean it will happen.

Leg End Reject

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534383#Comment_119534383

You can say that about everything though. If people want to get married they're free to do so, there are many happy marriages that can survive tough times.

Loafing Oaf

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534382#Comment_119534382

Depends on the aul fella

https://www.thatsmags.com/china/post/19717/sven-why-can-i-not-have-more-than-one-woman-at-the-same-time

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534436#Comment_119534436

Ah Sven. Along with John Gormley, a real life Mr Burns.

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534382#Comment_119534382

Yeah but say you have flings from 30 to 60. That to me is far better than being stuck with one woman for 30 years. even if you never were with a woman again I doubt you would care. Just get escorts after that if you want.

Great I hope it works out for you.

Meanwhile in the real world outside of the internet.

pgj2015

See you forget about some of the guys who use boards, a lot of them couldn't pull in a brothel so they get 1 woman and hold on to her for dear life lol. And then hate anyone who can get more than one woman.

One eyed Jack

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534535#Comment_119534535

Said in your opening post you couldn’t figure out why anyone would want to get married. I’m guessing you’re referring to anyone that’s not you. So people who are not you gave you reasons why they got married, and you come back with “yeah well that’s just a plan, doesn’t mean it’ll happen”, your alternative plan being to have flings till you’re 60, and hire hookers after that… or something…

Aye, you’re definitely better off single man 👍

pgj2015

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534576#Comment_119534576

Yeah I know I am. Just because that doesn't seem fun to you doesn't mean its like that for everyone else.

Ubbquittious

If you meet someone you like enough surely you will stay together regardless of whether you have an expensive bit of paper from Mehole Martin making it official

One eyed Jack

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534592#Comment_119534592

Hang on a minute, couldn’t anyone say the same to you about marriage?

So what if you can’t figure out why anyone would want to get married, maybe it’s just not for you. Maybe the having flings til you’re in your 60’s and hookers thereafter IS for you. Maybe that IS the plan.

Don’t know, don’t care. I was just pointing out that you can’t claim you don’t know why anyone would want to get married any more, when people gave you the reasons they got married. Has nothing to do with your plans.

El_Duderino 09

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534383#Comment_119534383

Of course it's just a plan. It's a good plan and we're building our lives around the plan.

What should we do? Not have children and break up in case it doesn't work out? Not everyone is bitter about relationships.

gmisk

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119534602#Comment_119534602

If you think 200 odd euro is a lot of money I suppose....in my case it was made up for in taxes I would say. Neither of us into flashy huge weddings literally had a nice stay in a posh hotel, cracking suits, registry office, posh meal with witnesses, a few cocktails, a gig, and a cracking holiday after.

To be entirely honest I love my husband and I was happy to marry him. But it has the added benefit of meaning he is my next of kin (handy when I was rushed to hospital recently), it means my pension, house etc would go to him if anything happened to me.

We would stay together regardless of the paper :)