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Neighbour tampering with my car

  • 16-08-2022 11:55pm
    Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭

    My car is parked in an underground car park beneath the apartment building & for the last few weeks someone has moved the wing mirrors so that I have to adjust them every time I get into the car. Most times it’s the passenger side but today it was the drivers side & I didn’t notice til I was getting on the M50 & had to adjust it quickly to get a clear view. So a bit bloody dangerous!

    i think it’s the guy next door. One night my door banged closed by mistake & he came out of his apartment & shouted giving out to me. I thought this was awful cos I’m a woman living alone & he’s a 6 foot 5 heavy man & it was intimidating. But then one day I was walking past him & I looked right at him & he looked away sheepishly which surprised me. I have a dog & I bring her out about 5 times a day so this might piss him off. I wfh & my dog never barks but it’s hard to close the door quietly.

    so should I do anything or leave it be? Whoever is doing this must be quite sad & pathetic. It makes me uncomfortable but could be worse & I don’t want to aggravate the situation further. Any ideas pls?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 561 ✭✭✭Sonic the Shaghog

    Any chance the parking spots are right and they are putting in your mirrors to avoid hitting them? In saying that I'd put in my own in that scenario

    You could always rub a bit of Vaseline or deep heat on the underside of each mirror to give em a nice surprise

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,554 ✭✭✭ahnowbrowncow

    Are the parking spaces tight? Could someone be parking next to your car and bump into the wing mirrors when exiting/entering their car? It's easily done, especially for a larger person.

    The fact that you're working from home I'm presuming you wouldn't be driving everyday and there may be more coming and going in the spaces beside your car than you realise. Leading to a higher chance that the mirrors have been accidentally bumped into before you'd notice.

    I can't see why or how anyone would gain much excitement from moving a wing mirror so hopefully you're just over thinking it.

    I definitely wouldn't say anything to that man otherwise it could escalate things and he may break into your house in the middle of night and steal your dog.

  • Registered Users Posts: 107 ✭✭Moragle

    Your neighbour sounds like an arsehole but you're also supposed to make sure your mirrors are working before you start driving. Is there cctv in the car park

  • Registered Users Posts: 7,324 ✭✭✭YellowLead

    The reason wing mirrors are adjustable is so they can be moved in and out of the way when spaces are tight, which public/apartment spaces often are. I don’t think anybody else should be touching your car, it is wrong - but maybe just move them in yourself going forward?

    He sounds uptight - shouting because a door banged once? Why would he be annoyed you bring your dog out 5 times? It’s not in the middle of the night is it? A lot of noise carries in apartments for sure but opening and closing doors during day hours should be no bother to anyone. Barking dogs are extremely annoying but you said yours doesn’t do that.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 13,283 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard

    So your neighbour barked at you for letting your door bang once, and you've gone from staring him down to convincing yourself that he's messing with you by minutely adjusting your wing mirrors when you're not looking?

    I mean this in the nicest possible way, OP, but is there a chance your imagination might be getting the better of you here?

  • Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭MissyN

    Believe me I really would like to feel that I’m over thinking it. It’s hard to explain but my car is quite old so it’s not the whole wing mirror that has been moved but the mirror itself inside the plastic casing. No one parks either side of me so wouldn’t be someone walking by.

    the other reason I’m saying it could be this guy cos it only started happening when one day weeks ago he was getting into his car at the same time as me & he was looking over & he is a massive Eastern European guy & he’s intimidating big time.

    im only going in & out during day time hours but the latest could be 11pm some nights & the stupid door could be a bit noisey but then I’m silent all night & really all day.

    it’s just ridiculous that someone is doing this & ive to check before I start driving which I’ve never had to do before parking in all sorts of places & the car has been fine

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,024 ✭✭✭witchgirl26

    OP I think you're putting a lot on looks from your neighbour. My guess is that when he looked away sheepishly it might have been because he realised he had been out of line about having a goo about your door banging & felt a bit embarrassed. Your only other guess as to why it is him is because he was looking over when you were both getting into your cars. I used to live in an apartment with underground parking & it was so echoy in there that if anyone else was getting into their car at the same time as me, I'd end up automatically looking over at where the noise came from. Nothing malicious.

    Is it annoying that the mirror is being moved? Course it is, but based on what you've said, I don't think you've anything to suggest it's your neighbour doing it. Good practice is to check your mirrors before moving off anyway & while it can be a little annoying, it's not going to add mad times to your drive so I'd just get on with it if I was you.

  • Registered Users Posts: 224 ✭✭patmahe

    Could it just be someone with a big bum carelessly hitting off your mirror as they try and get into their own car. Not saying thats ok but maybe not as malicious as you think? Or popping the mirror in/out to get around it and knocking it out of adjustment in doing so?

    Other options if you believe it is malicious, ask about CCTV in the car park or if you really want to go all CSI about it put a hidden motion triggered camera in your car pointing at the mirrors, that way you'll at least know for sure whats happening.

  • Registered Users Posts: 2,973 ✭✭✭skallywag

    You mention that the plastic housing is not moved, but rather the mirror inside it. Normally you would only make such a movement from controls within the car, and if were to try to physically push the mirror inside the housing from the outside it will probably require quite a bit of force. I would imagine he will have to wrap his hand around the housing, and push the mirror with his thumbs. If you clean the mirror you should then probably clearly be able to see his thumb print on it? It will let you know at least that someone is really moving them on purpose.

    By the way, if he is manipulating the mirror inside the housing (assuming he cannot actually get inside your car ...) then he could also damage them.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 453 ✭✭feelings

    Jaysus, can you not just ask the man politely? Your blaming him and you haven't a clue if it is him it could be anyone. Go and ask the chap.

    In relation to all the "intimidating" non sense - anyone bigger than you is intimidating? Sigh. [^^^$$$]

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  • Registered Users Posts: 6,407 ✭✭✭Allinall

    Your post is rambling nonsense.

    Where did the OP say they hit his car?

    What do you think they need to apologise for?

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,931 ✭✭✭Jequ0n

    Confusing thread

  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,048 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious

    Are there children living i the apartment block?

  • Registered Users Posts: 463 ✭✭Shutuplaura

    I move other people's mirrors if their car is parked badly and preventing me from accessing the car....or more usually, stopping me from putting my child in the child seat. Its up to the driver of a car to ensure the mirrors are present and correct each time they drive, so blaming a neighbour for your own failure to operate your car safely is quite irresponsible.

  • Registered Users Posts: 708 ✭✭✭dontmindme

    It's political correctness gone mad

  • Registered Users Posts: 6,407 ✭✭✭Allinall

    How did you come to the conclusion that the OP failed to operate their car properly?

    Did you miss the bit where she said "No one parks either side of me"?

    Does nobody read threads properly any more?

  • Registered Users Posts: 29 Cunw

    Electrify your door mirrors to blast him with piss

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    Aren't you great craic.

    Read the Forum Charter before posting again.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 5,864 ✭✭✭DoctorEdgeWild

    It would appear that nobody reads threads properly as that poster was probably referring to not knowing a mirror was adjusted correctly until getting on to a motorway.

    OP - I think it's worth having a chat with the person, in a really friendly way, maybe even ask him if his door bangs closed by mistakes sometimes, and what does he do to avoid it? That way it diffuses the situation right away and gets people talking over common ground. Could very well be a total mix-up where both person is wondering why the other person doesn't like them! Best of luck.

  • Registered Users Posts: 1,965 ✭✭✭beachhead

    Old car - wind shear moves the glass,can happen at speed.Internal mountings decayed/loose/missing

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  • Registered Users Posts: 8,078 ✭✭✭Quantum Erasure

    Internal mountings decayed/loose/missing

    maybe broken from someone trying to move the mirror physically

  • Registered Users Posts: 463 ✭✭Shutuplaura

    Because they didn't notice the mirror was moved until they were on the M50. They clearly didn't check their mirrors. Otherwise they would have noticed before driving to the busiest road in the country.

  • Registered Users Posts: 3,101 ✭✭✭KaneToad

    "I wfh & my dog never barks but it’s hard to close the door quietly."

    Hard, but not impossible?

  • Registered Users Posts: 12,891 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx

    Parking spaces are ridiculously narrow for todays cars so I use to fold my mirrors in to prevent damage. . When you switch them back I always had to reset the mirrors as they're always slightly off.

  • Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭MissyN

    The mirror is actually quite stiff so I’m hoping it won’t break now with all the moving around. I’ll def give it a good clean so that I’ll see the finger prints when touched.

    in response to feelings, you better believe this guy intimidated me. He shouted loudly through my door cursing at me late at night & I'm a woman living alone (except for my little dog). He’s a foot taller than me & about 4 foot wider than me. I’d only moved in 2 weeks prior & I shook big time.

  • Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭MissyN

    I would say impossible when going out yeah. But I tip toe when going back in & close the door ridiculously gingerly.

  • Registered Users Posts: 5,931 ✭✭✭Jequ0n

    Close the door quietly and you won’t have a problem so. Since he didn’t have reservations addressing you directly there and then it is unlikely that he’d be subtly moving mirrors around.

    You don’t even know if he moved your mirrors (if anyone did) so stop baseless accusations unless you have some evidence.

  • Registered Users Posts: 453 ✭✭feelings

  • Registered Users Posts: 239 ✭✭MissyN

    Just went to get something from my car & there’s a big scratch on the wing mirror that wasn’t there before.

    I’ll need to see if there are cameras in the car park cos that’s fcked up.

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  • Registered Users Posts: 3,051 ✭✭✭Sarn

    It sounds more like someone is parking badly beside you, or moving something past your car that is causing the mirrors to be moved and scratched.

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