Neighbour tampering with my car

YellowLead

Not sure what the massive relevance is that he is a foot taller than you OP, and you are obsessed with being a ‘woman living alone’ - I’m a woman living alone but don’t see myself as feeble.

Is there a different spot you can park your car in, then whoever is moving your mirrors might be less inclined to do so?

Also, are you sure it’s not an automatic feature of your car? My friend had a car whereby the mirrors would automatically move back once the car was parked, until she turned the feature off - I think a number of modern cars have it!

Get Real

You think he might be doing it but haven't seen him do it?

And he deliberately adjusts the glass part of your mirror...ever so slightly so as not to be immediately noticeable, but enough that it's potentially dangerous.

As for him having a word with you, in what way did he? Neighbours have always said things or bickered. "jaysus will you go easy on your front door" or "keep the fcking music down" or "will you ever shut your bloody dog up". Were they words to this effect?

I had an old Cleo that the glass used to change on the mirrors if the mirrors themselves were moved. Or if door slammed too abruptly. Or going over a speed ramp.

Op. Take stock and reflect. Do not build this into some type of obsession to the point where you start seeking other signs. It'll be confirmation bias. It'll get to the point where you step in dog poo someday and you'll have convinced yourself it was him that knew you were going to take that route and placed it there.

ManOfMystery

Get a cheap dashcam, many of them have a stationary mode to record even when the car is off in case of parking incidents. That will capture anyone approaching your car and then you'll have your answer, esp if you angle it towards the driver or passenger side when you get out.

cj maxx

As Yellow Lead mentioned its often an automatic thing when you switch off the car. I turned that feature off in mine as it always left my mirrors slightly off

notAMember

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119487474#Comment_119487474

Of course it’s easy to be intimidated by an enormous heavy aggressive shouting and roaring stranger when you are much smaller physically. Why dismiss that? If it is him, she doesn’t know him at all, what’s to say this isn’t a pattern of aggression that escalates into violence? It’s not like no man has ever raped or murdered a woman over something completely trivial.

Also, the OP has stated it’s an older car and it’s not the housing like you’re talking about, it’s the glass inside only. It’s not automatic. She’s not imagining it.

OP, checking for cctv and contacting building management about the damage is the correct course of action. Do not engage with anyone to accuse them, you don’t know anyone in this building and it may not be this person who shouted at you. Get your facts first.

salmocab

Slightly moving mirrors just enough to not notice until you are in the m50 doesn’t sound like the work of a large aggressive man. This sounds like a case of deciding you don’t like someone and looking for something to blame him on.

Bipass

you would need cctv to prove it. mirrors might be old and degrading also

Jequ0n

@notAMember Do you want him to sit down next time he raises his voice? Would that be less intimidating?

Both the OP and you are dramatising a simple verbal encounter by creating hypothetical scenarios. I don’t think it’s helpful to make the OP even more agitated than she already is, considering that nothing bad has happened.

notAMember

I’d want him to not shout at neighbours full stop. Over a door closing?

Odd you’d think it isn’t prudent to be careful with her safety and avoid confrontation with large aggressive strangers.

walterking

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119485356#Comment_119485356

Try it

Very very easy to push the mirror out of synch.

Yes, I reckon it's the neighbor being a petty minded fucwit.

Put a small sign saying - "please smile for the CCTV"

DoctorEdgeWild

Jeez, how did this thread go to rape and murder? Crazy.

OP - Almost every situation can be diffused with talk, just basic chat, nothing accusing, nothing weird. Next time you are passing in the hall, ask for help lifting something, or ask if they know any nice restaurants, anything at all that cuts through the nonsense and helps both people see the other as a human, not a threat or an annoyance. It really can be as simple as that.

chicorytip

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058259151/neighbour-tampering-with-my-car

I'm not sure it's possible to move the glass portion of the mirror other than from within the vehicle unless the glass is loose and has become slightly detached from the housing. So, even if this neighbour intended doing so he may not be able to. Check both mirrors for faults or damage.

Is the parking in your block designated i.e a particular spot corresponding with each apartment number? If not and if there are any vacant or unused spaces available park in one for a while and see what transpires.

Graces7

OP I sympathise. Please take care. You are right to be alert and aware. And yes maybe a word with the Gardai.

John Mason

https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/119483933#Comment_119483933

So I have an old car and the mirror moves by itself all the time, i just make sure it is correct before I go anywhere.

Major over reaction from you

dontmindme

Keep an eye on your mirrors position wherever you park - overnight, when out during the day, etc. Have you confirmed that they've only moved after parking overnight in this underground car park?

Henry Ford III

Get evidence OP. Without that you can do nothing.

Hannibal_Smith

Mod note

Given the OP hasn't been back in over a month, I'll close this one off.